should i bother with this cancer guy or not?

sometimes i hate being an aries because i am so impatient, and the pisces side of me (im a cusper) means that i think way too much 😢 and over analyse situations. 😢 😢

anyways, i like this cancer guy (started talkin to online because we have a good friend in common)

talked for a few months, then
i told him i liked him, he said he likes me, and was suprised that i liked him
we went on a date which went well and we said we'd go out again nxt month (after uni)
at the mo we just chat online occasionally.
iv text him once or twice but he doesnt have credit
i know hes had his student loan this week so i dont see why he hasnt put credit on his phone.
usually when i like someone and they like me, we txt loads, and i think i would make an extra effort to make sure i have credit

i think if i didnt know his sun sign (and read up on cancers) i would have thought hes not interested and id moved on to someone else.

i mean, i like a bit of a chase and challenge, but at the mo i am constantly askin myself 'does he like me, and would it work?' (so much doubt going on my head, because im not getting this assurance that he's into me?!?)
iv heard that cancers are clingy, but he doesnt seem that interested
and im used to guys constantly wantin my attention.

iv had other date offers this wk, one off a guy i would praps like to go out with. but i like and really want this cancer. and if he found out that i went out with this other guy, instead of uping his attention on me, he may be even more distant.


bleurgh

😢

any advice peeps?

Cancers can be really clingy, but don't forget there are other signs that influence one's personality. For example he could be a Cancer but has a Virgo rising and Aquarius moon (yikes!), that would explain his distancing, Virgo tend to do the whole push and pull thing (plus they love their alone time) and Aquarius moon tend to draw back emotionally. If you found out his time of birth you could figure out his natal chart, best place for that is cafeastrology.com. It would give you a better understanding of his actions, better than just the superficial sun sign.

Are you guys official yet?

I know you feel really impatient, but all you can do is wait. Bothering him about it will only push him away further. If you guys aren't official yet than don't worry too much about him not putting in the credit towards his phone. In this situation when guys kind of pull away most girls get clingy and start texting/calling more. It only pushes the guy away more.

Plus, slow down. I'm an Aries too so I completely understand the anxiety you must be feeling (the overwhelming flood of impatience). But most likely his deal is that he's living his life and you should probably too. If it's meant to be it will happen, don't push it too much. He's already told you he likes you, what more assurance do you need?

Your fixation on this guy is probably due to the fact that he doesn't give you the attention that most other guys have given you, he's a challenge and you like that. But what I've learned in this past year or so is that you can never change the fact that you're can not do the chasing, because than you're not a challenge for the guy. Love is so complicated I wish you a lot of luck.

The only advice I can give you is live your life, and if he really likes you he'll come to you. It's hard, I know. God, do I know. But you need to live your own life.

I'm just curious about the rest of your chart... do you by chance have a Venus in Pisces or a Libra moon?

Oh btw I had a very similar experience with a Virguy, and I liked him soooo much. It was a LOT like your situation actually, he didn't give me the attention I was use to. He was so different from all the guys I've dated. My first real heartbreak :/.

Cancer guys move extremely slow and I believe that if they like someone it takes them time(sometimes quite a bit) to decide how they feel about their own feelings as well as the feelings of the other person. This may a hard concept to understand if you really like someone. Instead of dwelling on why his phone is off take this time to let go and let things work for themselves.

The best advice I was ever given was to give your problems over to the universe. I give mine over to god and let him do his magic...

I know it's hard to take advice when you have frustration about a man...and I have been there as well. I am also an aries cusper. I was on again off again with a cancer. I've know him for almost two years now, and although I can't say it has been easy dealing with the results of both of our actions over the times...I can tell you that the less I stopped thinking about him and his feelings...the easier it was to realize my own. Not to say I didn't care...it's just that when I would focus my worries and energy on him the angrier I would be. Stressed out and less likely to realize what my true underlying motives were...which was nothing more than to be happy and enjoy the good about him. It's hard to enjoy someone when you can't figure things out. When two people really care for one another and understand and appreciate them the last thing they want to do is upset the other person. Recently, him and I have been better off friends. I don't think we will ever date again. I'm not biased to anyone that dates a cancer male because, like I said...everyone's experience is different. We are, after all human. I would say make peace, meaning let him have his own time...if a man wants a woman he will let her know.

It's a tough place to be in. The odds are against you, astrologically speaking, but as long as you stay yourself(which he already likes)the more he will feel comfortable around you. Waite for him to call you.

I don't think you should give up before you even have a chance to start, but when things do end(in general)and you get over someone you once care about the easier it can be for them to surprise you. Hold on to your strengths in tough times. Lead your heart with your head and get to the bottom of what your motives are...they keep you in check. Good luck!

xtina....

me:
sun -aries/pisces cusp (21st march)
moon -sagg
rising/ascendant -leo
venus -aquarius

him: (although this is going on birthtime unknown)
sun -cancer
moon -leo
rising/ as -aries
venus -gemini

so he's got some fire signs in there, and aquarius and gemini are sposed to be good, but maybe gemini in a cancer makes him indecisive i dont know.

i know i should keep living my life n going out and enjoyin but im also aware that most of my mates are guys, and i dont want this to go against me if people dont understand my r/ship with guymates (cant think of them as more than friends!) if you get me, he may give up on me rather than fight for my attention if he thinks i mite be interested in other people :/

flrttilithurt247....

thats good advice about leading my heart with my head, i need to try and do this, because when i think logically about the situation, theres nothing really wrong if hes taking it slow, its just my impatient nature thats the problem, and my high expectations from past experiences

*deep breathe* i jus need to focus on something else at the mo, this is probably down to me doing my uni finals and daydreaming too much

Wow, your charts look like a good match a side from the Cancer/Aries opposition. Lets just hope, you're more of a Pisces and it kind of sounds like you are. But it's best to get a natal chart for the exact time because times from one hour to the next gives you a totally different chart. If his chart was accurate (which I don't think it is) than his Leo moon would make him move faster in relationships, meaning if he's not moving fast with you than he's just no that into you. But we don't know if his chart is accurate. He could have a Taurus moon and they move as slow as slugs when it comes to initiating a relationship. Also, though, there are other factors (that we don't know about) that might influence his actions. Stuff from past relationships might have him scarred. I notice Cancers usually tend to let their past affect the way they act in the future.

I don't think you should give up hope either, but it is a good idea that you're stepping back and letting it happen. If he likes you he'll call you. Nothing would keep a Cancer from the person they liked, even a bunch of guys drooling all over her. Trust me, those guys would only make him feel more competitive. Just concentrate on your uni finals, and of course you can daydream about him, he just doesn't have to know about it 😉.

Good luck Chicka.