...... so lost?

HELLO! first off happy vday to everyone! Hope it was good & if not it will be better next yr i'm sure =). Of course i have a situation that i'm pretty confused about lol & i was hoping you aries men could help me out.. other peoples opinions are welcome (good or bad ...doesn't matter just honest) To make a long story a little bit short lol....


I was seeing an aries male for about a month in a half...I met him through my uncle (he went to this lounge knowing the boss) So one day i decided to go with him & loved it. So i kept going, Which is where i met the aries male on my second visit there. We spoke, hit it off right away ..everyone saw the chemistry..He was very shy but firm bc he works there, he's the manager of the vip section.. I had left that night without saying goodbye bc as a gemini you know - we act nervous & i didn't know what to do. I had givin' him my number he texted within minuties later & i had a very busy schedule at that time so we planned to get together a few days later.. We went to lovely places to eat, he introduced me to all of his friends.. Something new everyday ( we weren't boring people) Though both trying to hold back you could just tell..it was all in the eyes 😉 LOL I let him make most of the inviting, and planning at first for about 3 weeks.. He had cooked for me at his place, as i did for him and like i had said we got along amazingly good. No problems, no complaints... & it was still going strong UNTIL this night. Let me paint a picture for you first... I never asked him for not one thing at work or anything for many reasons but 1 he is an' ok looking guy. Looks wise he even said i don't know why you are with me. (not trying to make myself look any better) just saying didn't want him thinking he was being used & he never asked or should i say demanded anything of me either LOL. Plus we are highly independant. When i went there though his doing..which would be about 10 times including the last i didn't have to pay, He had told everyone we were dating and i was treated like royalty, the SAME way i treated him. so it was an equal beautiful pairing. Now the last time i had went there..It was for my mothers birthday she wanted to go out & i figured to go there. It was extremely important to me that she had a good night, it is after all my mother, Which she has also met him. Ok...My uncle said he would be comming also & if i could ask the aries man to do something as long as he wouldn't get caught up or introuble...

Aries man was more then happy to do it..Ok everything done beautiful. I was highly appreciated of it (meant alot) that was the night before when we were suppost to be going. The next day... I'm running around trying to make everything perfect helping people what they are going to wear all that girlie stuff =) Cute but exhausting. I was a little but on the stressed side & haven't spoken to him all day. I had texted him in the afternoon & figured when he was awake (bc he works nights) he'd get back to me. Which he did. He had said "Beautiful i'm so sick, I want to take a day off but i can't find coverage" Now at this point i was freaking out i'm not going to lie, But i was not mean to him at all..Just rather telling him babe i'm sorry your sick, hope you feel better but i do need to know if you can get anyone else to help us & just that kind of tone. He got back to me ONE HR later saying he passed out again & he's there tonight. Now at this point i was pretty much having heart failure lol all he told me was he was sick and i didn't hear from him so basically thought he died lol & didn't know what to do for my mother. Ok he replies back "I'm there tonight" So ok i guess from being nervous i couldn't understand at that point if he was there tonight & trying to take off or whatever & i was just trying to find out what he meant...so i was texting him quite a bit... about 3 times.He calls me up about 30 mins later and gives me an attidue saying "I DONT KNOW IF YOU DIDN'T UNDERSTAND ME..." i did not appreciate that AT ALL, so i lost my cool and was talking in a forceful tone but not yelling. Ok he hangs up on me about 15 seconds into the phone call... I tried to call back & be mature but he didn't answer , so i wrote him a text message calmly which said.. Do me a favor & forget it all, When i come there act like you don't know me. Not exactly the best ways to handle something but i could have rang his neck at this point. Didn't feel i deserved that. Anyway we go there my uncle ends up taking care of it & he had told my uncle to go find him when he goes there, so he does just that and aries man says "Josephine & I are arguing i'd feel uncomfortable doing the party" OK that is still fine bc it was I who said just that. We end up getting a bottle blah blah and so on with someone else (which he lost out money wise) but thats his problem. Ok so now the whole night didn't get the service i had gotten when him & i were speaking & i figured it was not a big deal, didn't..

need it. I had seen him twice & i acted as if i didn't know him. (Not being spiteful) just true to what i said. Ok well there was a girl who was 20 yrs old with us (friend of the family) We had went there before with her & NOT ONE PROBLEM all of the times..she was able to drink & do whatever. Well this time she took the stamp off her hand (which means you can drink)just like all the other times and out of nowhere about 20 mins later a big bouncer guy comes over grabs her and says come with me. So she was scared & confused of course like what the hell is going on? it was okay before but now it's not?... They go out there nothing happens to her really just wanted to make sure she had a real ID and told her not to drink anymore until shes 21 there, they were also yelling at her to give up the names of the people who had let her drink etc. SHE DID NOT neither did i..Of course iw as with her the whole time. Ok fine they let it go. About this time it looked like a set up to me. I automatically assumed it was him (which still don't know if it is or isn't) but you could say IF you'd like..at this point its my fault for this ...I had texted him nasty messages such as "Your a low life for doing this to me, It's my Mothers birthday. & then another one saying I can not believe you i am in shock. He had replied back *Dont understand what you are trying to say to me, First you yell at me before & now this? Lets just leave it at this...." I was in no way leaving it at that..so i said ok you wanna keep playing dumb with me? Next time you try to get my gf kicked out of the club why dont you tell them it was YOU and your people who supplied her with the liquor & i could have mentioned your name but i didn't AT ALL" .... & i didn't say anything else. 20 mins later a bounce guy NOW comes for me... I was furious & lost. Now the whole party is upset & wondering whats going on..although people had a clue. I see him standing outside with everyone else as im being pulled out there..I was saying i did not do anything! The manager of the place is screaming in my face saying "You threanted my employee"? Now the cops are there (Not for me but i guess for the place) & i'm like you have got to be kidding me, you showed him your text messages— So now Aries BOY* is screaming at me saying are you serious you tried to get me fired? So i'm looking at them both dumb founded. I just got screamed at with my gf for NOT saying any names or ANYTHING we took the blame and now this. What i meant..

by that message was i'm not speaking to you ever again. Now our whole party is asked to leave except my uncle, who is at this point dialing the owner he knows. I felt so low & so bad for my mom & everyone else, Also hurt & confused to someone thinking i'd do that to them when i would never unless i was hate to say it raped or something serious...Mind boggled i didn't want to make a bigger drama then it is i just wanted to go home... I apologized over & over. He had texted me later that night i don't know if it was by mistake or whatever but with a dot. So i had replied back... "Listen we don't ever need to speak again, just this one time can you do the right thing and bring back all the block buster movies & if i have anything at your house feel free to throw it out, thank you" he replied back "I will, No problem & i will bring the blockbuster card back too" Then i had to say this to finish it off..."Just for the record, me or my gf never ever brought you or anyone else's name into the situation you could ask your boss but thank you for almost getting me arrested & thrown out. He didn't say anything back...The next day i texted him ( now only for the reason bc i'm taking care of it tonight but i wanted to make sure he'd bring my movies back, But i said "Hi .. listen i need to ask you a question (nothing bad but i would like the truth, so when you get a chance, get back to me) He never responded back.. That was sent to him two days ago in the morning & the night before was when all this un-needed drama or big misunderstandings happened. My question finally is what the hell is going through this mans head?? & why not at least be HUMAN enough to bring back the movies or at least a reply back?? I know what was my fault & i know what wasn't. I don't think i was that bad of a person at all, if i'm not seeing something though please feel free to tell me bc i am completely lost.

I apologized over & over ** TO MY FAMILY & FRIENDS.. sorry.

Hello dearest! =) Thank you for the reply & actually reading that novel. LOL No i just assumed thats why i took complete fault for that & was willing to apologize for THAT. Which i guess you could say started everything, but i think showing you're boss the text was a bit over the top considering there was a nice chance of me getting arrested, for a couple of mean things said? Anyhoo He did return the movies yesterday & did pay the late fee on them. Which was nice & i said thank you for to him....

gem that is so so true....thats why I am really enjoying being single and one day my prince charming will appear...out of nowhere

It sounds to me as though this all started because he was sick and that wasn't acceptable. Certainly, him getting the party thrown out due to a text message was unreasonable ... however, this is the only retaliation in which seems unreasonable. Your role in this, once he told you he was sick .. was a constant shooting of nasty messages to him.

It appears to me that you got your panties wadded for a reason on his part which was valid .. he was sick.

And once those panties got properly wadded up your ass ... you were merciless in projecting a continuous barrage, to include guilt-tripping to him for being ill.

In reality ... he never retaliated in any fashion that was questionable to him being out-of-line until you accused him of something without any evidence to support it .. so, in reality, he was only defending himself, for with your display of intolerance for him being ill, would likely push anybody to fear that you might act upon this accusation, since you were clearly out-of-control of your emotions with the way you handled yourself.

My God, Gemini .. he was ill and you punished him for it !!!!!!!

Hello lovies!



Update..Him & I no longer speak. I caught him being a bad liar, ladies in the backround as i was going to bring him chicken soup according to him those were just his "Boys" Very lady like voices ..tehehe NOT lol(Bc he had been sick & i did feel bad) So i was going to be the bigger person. Anyhoo i should have poured it on his head =) & gemini fox he called call me mommy..just flattery should never win a woman over! & Roxi thank you darling yes i do + i'm sure you know you are too! (I will be on the hating aries team with roxi for a little while...) LOL!

He could have called me mommy* for all i care ..lol real men don't need to do those kind of chump things.

Lol gemini fox although i do thank you for trying to help out a situation.. you are mistaken on 3 counts.. I do not hate on that aries or any aries or anyone( I said it as a joke). Why i was insulted was because it was not serious at all, but my phone call was being avoided & ignored but not my friends... I didn't get into detail but obviously for me to end things must have been a reason, just bc i didn't mention it on here doesn't mean it didn't happen. I'm glad you have a good man and you stand by him! =) But i am a little different. I don't take certain things lightly especially when i am being sincere. Everyone is different. & about this written in stone, No i was actually telling HIM to slow down bc he was the one who screamed at me basically for asking a waiter is sign out of curiousity nothing more withtin 2 weeks of us hanging out, or whatever you'd like to call it. & you mention the word cheating? No way shape or form was i going anywhere with that. It all boiled down to something completely different, But thank you for your responses anyway =)

Live & let live is my motto... So trust me, him having other girlfriends did not bother me ( thats usually based on insecurity) I'd like to think i'm more mature then that =)

The only thing i actually found myself at fault was what P - angel pointed out. & i did my best to try & make that up. So i'm freeee of fault Lol

I like you,but I do have to
be honest with you about this. Be grateful he wasn't "in love"
or too possessive on the first date like some guys can be!!!
Enjoy yourself & your freedom!!!!



Lol like i said..i didn't mention every detail about the relationship, only in that one story. He was possessive to a fault. Tsk tsk gemini! I thought we analyze a problem before just speaking i like you also. Just being honest.

what I meant was,he must not have been trying to be mean
to you when he said he was sick because he was polite and
called you beautiful!!!


Okay i'm sorry i misunderstood you here..