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Hey, I just recently had a fight with the aries man that I'm dating. We've been dating for a year now. He's a good guy, but we have a big problem. The problem is that he lies to me. The lies has been about another woman. I know we're not in a relationship but I can't be with a man that is going to lie to me. I've been accusing him of talking to her for a whole year. Not only has he talked to her, he's has sex with her, but he will never admit it. He told me that he has never talked to her. So, recently I told him that I'm done with the drama and told him if he doesn't want to contact me anymore after what I just said, then cool. He told me not to contact him. I said ok, but something else happened( I didn't say that I accused him of going to her about me), there was drama between me and her so i went to him and he got mad and said think what I want to. I didn't reply back. I just left it like that. Can I say that I will never here from him again?
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i know of 3 aries men like that. They kept all their relationships secret, dating multiple women at one time. there's actually nothing wrong with that, dating is dating.

I almost became one of those women in their harem. Best thing is to keep the no contact going. He hasnt seen anything in a year that would make him stop. He just now feels embarrassed that he got caught and his precious image is a bit damaged and up for debate. he WILL go to another women for an ego stroke so he can feel like the man again.

i saw hints of that after about a week and i brought it up. My feelings werent that involved but geez after a year and nothing more than dating...you must be feeling conflicted.
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Depends, if he does really like you and has feelings for you, you will here from him. He's an Aries, is suit of armour/wargod is always on guard, he'll only come out and of it if he feels he cant live without you. But Aries can also cut a person off and never speak to them again in a heartbeat if they feel they were right.

Thats a tough one.....



I agree. It is tough. I think he feels that he is right. This is the longest that we have gone without speaking to each other. So, I guess I accused him for the last time. I also feel like he called it off because he got caught.. He didn't even try to defend himself like he always does. *shrugs* I don't know.
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i know of 3 aries men like that. They kept all their relationships secret, dating multiple women at one time. there's actually nothing wrong with that, dating is dating.

I almost became one of those women in their harem. Best thing is to keep the no contact going. He hasnt seen anything in a year that would make him stop. He just now feels embarrassed that he got caught and his precious image is a bit damaged and up for debate. he WILL go to another women for an ego stroke so he can feel like the man again.

i saw hints of that after about a week and i brought it up. My feelings werent that involved but geez after a year and nothing more than dating...you must be feeling conflicted.



No, I don't feel conflicted. I never really thought about being anymore because of the way things are. He asked me if we can get a place together. I hope he doesn't think that we would live together without being in a relationship. He knows better than that, besides I never really contact him. He has to hit me up to make sure that I'm still breathing, but if it's that easy for him to leave. Then I wish him the best.
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Depends, if he does really like you and has feelings for you, you will here from him. He's an Aries, is suit of armour/wargod is always on guard, he'll only come out and of it if he feels he cant live without you. But Aries can also cut a person off and never speak to them again in a heartbeat if they feel they were right.

Thats a tough one.....



I agree. It is tough. I think he feels that he is right. This is the longest that we have gone without speaking to each other. So, I guess I accused him for the last time. I also feel like he called it off because he got caught.. He didn't even try to defend himself like he always does. *shrugs* I don't know.
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Us Aries can be tough, but I think the men are more prone to be that way. I dated an Aries man once for a few months and found out "his quote un-quote best friend (female)" he was sleeping with towards the end and he chose her over me and we walked away from each other without a word spoken again between the two of us. 4 years later we ended up having a conversation, where he told me everything. She ended up cheating on him with her male roomate and left him. He told me that was his payback for chosing her and not me. He said karma is tough. He also explained in the end he chose her cause he had known her for a long time and thought she would never hurt him and he was scared I would "because I'm very independent and out going" he knew I didnt really need anyone and Aries like to feel needed.

He atleast came clean and apologized, he also said he learned a very hard lesson and that he would never do it again to another female.

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i know of 3 aries men like that. They kept all their relationships secret, dating multiple women at one time. there's actually nothing wrong with that, dating is dating.

I almost became one of those women in their harem. Best thing is to keep the no contact going. He hasnt seen anything in a year that would make him stop. He just now feels embarrassed that he got caught and his precious image is a bit damaged and up for debate. he WILL go to another women for an ego stroke so he can feel like the man again.

i saw hints of that after about a week and i brought it up. My feelings werent that involved but geez after a year and nothing more than dating...you must be feeling conflicted.



No, I don't feel conflicted. I never really thought about being anymore because of the way things are. He asked me if we can get a place together. I hope he doesn't think that we would live together without being in a relationship. He knows better than that, besides I never really contact him. He has to hit me up to make sure that I'm still breathing, but if it's that easy for him to leave. Then I wish him the best.
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i know of 3 aries men like that. They kept all their relationships secret, dating multiple women at one time. there's actually nothing wrong with that, dating is dating.

I almost became one of those women in their harem. Best thing is to keep the no contact going. He hasnt seen anything in a year that would make him stop. He just now feels embarrassed that he got caught and his precious image is a bit damaged and up for debate. he WILL go to another women for an ego stroke so he can feel like the man again.

i saw hints of that after about a week and i brought it up. My feelings werent that involved but geez after a year and nothing more than dating...you must be feeling conflicted.



No, I don't feel conflicted. I never really thought about being anymore because of the way things are. He asked me if we can get a place together. I hope he doesn't think that we would live together without being in a relationship. He knows better than that, besides I never really contact him. He has to hit me up to make sure that I'm still breathing, but if it's that easy for him to leave. Then I wish him the best.
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so you dont want to hear from him again? After a year, you have no feelings for him?
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He's a First Decan Aries and a Cusp I believe, I would try reading up on his chart. You know what year he was born?


1986



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Whats his venus?


Thats one heck of a chart Aries Sun/Leo Moon Wow POWER HOUSE EGO TRIP... With a Cancer rising, how conflicting. lol
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i know of 3 aries men like that. They kept all their relationships secret, dating multiple women at one time. there's actually nothing wrong with that, dating is dating.

I almost became one of those women in their harem. Best thing is to keep the no contact going. He hasnt seen anything in a year that would make him stop. He just now feels embarrassed that he got caught and his precious image is a bit damaged and up for debate. he WILL go to another women for an ego stroke so he can feel like the man again.

i saw hints of that after about a week and i brought it up. My feelings werent that involved but geez after a year and nothing more than dating...you must be feeling conflicted.



No, I don't feel conflicted. I never really thought about being anymore because of the way things are. He asked me if we can get a place together. I hope he doesn't think that we would live together without being in a relationship. He knows better than that, besides I never really contact him. He has to hit me up to make sure that I'm still breathing, but if it's that easy for him to leave. Then I wish him the best.
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so you dont want to hear from him again? After a year, you have no feelings for him?

I do, but i don't want him around if he doesn't want to be. Plus there's too much going on.
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He's a First Decan Aries and a Cusp I believe, I would try reading up on his chart. You know what year he was born?


1986



If you want the two of you to work, check out http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/natal<BR>
and look up his chart.



Whats his venus?


Thats one heck of a chart Aries Sun/Leo Moon Wow POWER HOUSE EGO TRIP... With a Cancer rising, how conflicting. lol
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Lol!! His venus is aries
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Aries women tend to put all into one person with an Aries Venus, I have heard the men tend to like options? But being he has a Leo Moon and Cancer rising, he may be fighting his own inner conflicts when it comes to getting close. IDK



i think it means that he just gets emotionally involved with alot of women.
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He seems emotionless at times. She is right when she said venus in aries has a lot of options. No one ever really stuck it out with him. He told me some things. I think it depends on how they're too. It's like... He can sleep around and be a slut, but his women can't. It's like he's looking for a trophy... But no, he doesn't get emotionally involved with a lot of woman. I think it's inner conflict because he has a lot of fire and water in his chart. Mostly fire. You have to push him to get his emotions to come out. I just found out how he acts when he has a temper. That was 3 months ago. He has put on this image for so long. He would act a certain way around other people, but would be different with me. I would hear things about him, but I never believed it because I never saw that side of him. He was just all smiles or when I looked around he was there. Just seeing him smile, made me smile( aries men smiles always looks so innocent)the man that they knew, wasn't the same man that I was dating.
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Aries women tend to put all into one person with an Aries Venus, I have heard the men tend to like options? But being he has a Leo Moon and Cancer rising, he may be fighting his own inner conflicts when it comes to getting close. IDK



i think it means that he just gets emotionally involved with alot of women.
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It generally means that he sleeps around with a lot of women. If he gets bored with one, he jumps to the next.
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Aries women tend to put all into one person with an Aries Venus, I have heard the men tend to like options? But being he has a Leo Moon and Cancer rising, he may be fighting his own inner conflicts when it comes to getting close. IDK



i think it means that he just gets emotionally involved with alot of women.



He seems emotionless at times. She is right when she said venus in aries has a lot of options. No one ever really stuck it out with him. He told me some things. I think it depends on how they're too. It's like... He can sleep around and be a slut, but his women can't. It's like he's looking for a trophy... But no, he doesn't get emotionally involved with a lot of woman. I think it's inner conflict because he has a lot of fire and water in his chart. Mostly fire. You have to push him to get his emotions to come out. I just found out how he acts when he has a temper. That was 3 months ago. He has put on this image for so long. He would act a certain way around other people, but would be different with me. I would hear things about him, but I never believed it because I never saw that side of him. He was just all smiles or when I looked around he was there. Just seeing him smile, made me smile( aries men smiles always looks so innocent)the man that they knew, wasn't the same man that I was dating.
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If he tends to not show emotion, most women wouldnt want to stick around. We need to be shown you have feelings/emotions towards us. Sounds like he needs to grow up still. *shrugs*
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Aries women tend to put all into one person with an Aries Venus, I have heard the men tend to like options? But being he has a Leo Moon and Cancer rising, he may be fighting his own inner conflicts when it comes to getting close. IDK



i think it means that he just gets emotionally involved with alot of women.



It generally means that he sleeps around with a lot of women. If he gets bored with one, he jumps to the next.
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when did u figure this out about him?
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He's a few days older than me. We have different moon and rising.

When/if I stop fighting, I'm done. That's a bad sign. The first few days-week is the best time to talk to me. If you let me stew over something I'll start to detach and then you'll just be out of sight out of mind at that point until I eventually don't even think about you at all. If I do come back after a long period of time... It's probably not because I want to reconcile, it's bc I'm bored.

Being honest.
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I only said that because you said you had to force him to show emotions so I'm wondering what you did.



Not exactly force him, but just push him to say how he really feels. For example, if he looks like something is bothering him, I would ask him what's wrong. Then he would say nothing. I would ask him again and he would say I said nothing. I would back off and then he would eventually tell me. Like said I never even new he had a temper, because he would keep that side of him away from me. So, now I know how he is when he gets angry, happy, sad or whatever. It's like he wants me to think that he's perfect. We were just dating, but he would deny a lot of things. That's what I don't understand. I never hold anything back from him. I always speak mind.
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He's a few days older than me. We have different moon and rising.

When/if I stop fighting, I'm done. That's a bad sign. The first few days-week is the best time to talk to me. If you let me stew over something I'll start to detach and then you'll just be out of sight out of mind at that point until I eventually don't even think about you at all. If I do come back after a long period of time... It's probably not because I want to reconcile, it's bc I'm bored.

Being honest.



Why would you come back if you're bored? Can you just find someone else to entertain you instead of coming back?
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He's a First Decan Aries and a Cusp I believe, I would try reading up on his chart. You know what year he was born?


1986



If you want the two of you to work, check out http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/natal<BR>
and look up his chart.



Whats his venus?


Thats one heck of a chart Aries Sun/Leo Moon Wow POWER HOUSE EGO TRIP... With a Cancer rising, how conflicting. lol



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I only said that because you said you had to force him to show emotions so I'm wondering what you did.



Not exactly force him, but just push him to say how he really feels. For example, if he looks like something is bothering him, I would ask him what's wrong. Then he would say nothing. I would ask him again and he would say I said nothing. I would back off and then he would eventually tell me. Like said I never even new he had a temper, because he would keep that side of him away from me. So, now I know how he is when he gets angry, happy, sad or whatever. It's like he wants me to think that he's perfect. We were just dating, but he would deny a lot of things. That's what I don't understand. I never hold anything back from him. I always speak mind.



Usually the denial comes from guilt.

I'm an Aries with Leo Moon, Aries Venus, and Cancer Rising. I also grew up with Scorp and Libra parents. I remember when I was younger, my Scorp parent would always try to advise me on things, and I would pretend that I had disregarded the advice. I do still remember it though, but I would never at that time, admit that I paid attention to what I was been told.
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I figured it's out of guilt and that he doesn't want to admit it. You have a scorp parent so you know exactly how we are. His main thing was that he always felt like I was trying to tell him what to do. We fight a lot and say it's over and then we end up speaking to each other, but it feels a little different this time.
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Also, don't push him for answers. Pride/ego gets in the way. Just ask him once. If he cares, then his Mercury influence should kick in shortly after, and then after he thinks it through, I think he will give you a more honest answer. 🙂



Yes, it should kick in. I have a guy friend who's a pisces and he has always been honest with me. I don't expect to here from my aries friend for about a month or so. I feel like I basically called him out and that he has no choice but to tell the truth or continue to not speak to me.
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Your post got cut off.



I just don't understand him at times. I got fed up. So, I told him what I felt he was doing. We both ended it. He didn't defend himself, so I feel as if I was right. Then got emotional later. So, maybe we both just need to move on.



Moon Quincunx (Inconjunct) Mercury

You end up confused at times because you read more into communications than are there. It's good to be able to read between the lines - just make sure you are also reading what is on the lines. Your expectations and imagination are assets as soon as you are able to develop a method for expressing your true feelings. Since many of your feelings are hidden from you, self expression becomes a path of self discovery.

http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/quincunxinterpretations.html<BR>

Maybe he didn't know how to express himself to help understand and ultimately felt you could not understand him. It doesn't justify his cheating, but IMO, it would make sense of his guilt and why he looked elsewhere.
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We were dating. It wasn't committed. That's why I don't see why he would lie about it. I also felt like he betrayed me. He would come and talk to me and go back to someone and tell them what I said or just my personal business. So, to me that's a snake in the grass and this is the reason why I said I'm done. To me, that's being fake.
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When he's really mad at me it takes him four days to get over it. He didn't say anything yet so I guess it's over. I did shed some tears. I wish him the best.



😢 Thats an Aries thing, we get mad and can stop talking forever, bad trait!



Yea.... 😢 It's out of my hands..
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Sorry 😢 we can be total treetrunkers and forget about how other people feel, I think males are the worst like that from our sign...
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When he's really mad at me it takes him four days to get over it. He didn't say anything yet so I guess it's over. I did shed some tears. I wish him the best.



😢 Thats an Aries thing, we get mad and can stop talking forever, bad trait!



Yea.... 😢 It's out of my hands..




Sorry 😢 we can be total treetrunkers and forget about how other people feel, I think males are the worst like that from our sign...
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I don't think that he doesn't care about how I feel. I think he's fed up and I can't blame him for being like that. I will truly miss him. 😢
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I don't think that he doesn't care about how I feel. I think he's fed up and I can't blame him for being like that. I will truly miss him. 😢



I'm not sure about that 😢 because I think the selfishness (or lack of) in Aries is directly proportional to how much they care about the other person.
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Well, I guess that he doesn't care. *sighs* idk
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I decided that I should apologize. I do take some blame in this. As many have said, we were only dating. I can't tell who he can and cannot talk to. We're not in a relationship. I put him through hell for a year. I do believe that my behavior was immature. I wasn't acting of anger, but I was in my feelings. After getting to know someone for a short or long period of time, you get attached. Sometimes you can't help that. He's the dating type and I'm not. That's was the biggest problem. So I feel that I owe him an apology. Does anyone else agree?
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It is a great idea to apologise! I did this to my ex when we broke up, i said to him that i was sorry for anything i did to hurt him...he looked at me like he didn't understand what i meant, but i just wanted to part with some humility and kindness.

This is one thing i love about Scorps, they will admit if they have done anything wrong and say sorry. I remember my dad saying to me once * i admit your courage in being able to say sorry *. He found it difficult due to his ego

I don't think you *owe* the boy anything, but it would be mature and considerate to make that gesture

Good for you

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I understand what you're saying about not *owing* him anything, but hasn't done anything to me. Like I said, he use to keep up this image somehow. He was one way with other people and another way with me. It was like he was trying to act like the perfect guy. I kind of felt like somethings were done intentionally to make us argue and pull us apart. Not by him, but by other people, but I should've known better. He put me through it when he didn't get his way. I put him through it when I felt like people was getting in the way. We didn't really argue. So, yea I'm going to apologize. And thank you.
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No problem..if we can't help one another, what chance do we have?


I am interested to see how he reacts to your apology, not that it matters, but hopefully it will show him what you are made of and what he attracted :=)

I have found in the past, a sure sign of a mature person is one who can admit to their mistakes and failings...as well as knowing their good points

Good luck!



I don't think he will respond. It doesn't matter. I just want to say what I need to say and move on.