unanswered questions : Aries/female + Leo/male

1st time posting so here's a slight recap on my situation...

I have been with a Sagitarrius for 11yrs and married 1yr., I recently started a new job about 1 yr ago where I was noticed by my new manager who threw tasks at me left and right.. I pride myself on my work ethic and my adaptability to new situations but I am very quiet and shy at the beginning, and this is why I was taken back by all of the work he threw at me...I started to open up with my fellow employees but still felt very intimidated by my manager for some reason.. more time went by and I was promoted and I felt like I was being noticed which gave me a second air at work. I started working more closely with my manager because of my new position, an eventhough I found him attractive I never thought there was anything there.. I always thought of all of the reasons why it would NEVER happen :He was married with kids, there were prettier girls at work, we were both way too busy, and I doubt he ever saw me that way.....

After staying late one afternoon we hit up happy hour and he had 1 drink...I had 0.. we both called it a night and to my surprise he went in for a kiss...(I cant even begin to describe all of the emotions that hit me!!!!).....The next day at work was SUPER WEIRD!!! Ofcourse....but mainly because I was really surprised at how BAD the kiss was!!!! 😢....I soon found out he was feeling exactly the same way..and to my surprise he was very open about how he was feeling which made me feel really comfortable..He invited me to lunch the next day and the second kiss was AMAZING!!!! Everything the 1st one wasn't....and he completely agreed...This was just the beginning of our affair...

A couple months later I left my husband , but made it very clear to my manager that I wasnt leaving my husband because of him but because of what I HOW he made me feel....Everything I thought I was, I wasn't..I would hear people in love describe how they felt and I never associated with it , so I automatically thought "what an exaggertion"......After time I felt exctly what people had described to me about being in Love,and soon after that while we were talking about each others situation he said "Well...I guess thats the difference between loving someone and being In Love with someone" which made me question what it was that I felt with my husband— I had never felt this way and everything I would tell my manager or vise versa, was crazy because it was as if we were reading each others mind!!! We

First time posting here—?

Make it your last.

Before we all get judgy on bxh2830::::

---- Leo kissed her 1st! I know it's an excuse but it is what it is. She actually was honest with her feelings and left her husband not because of Leo but because she didn't feel right about their marriage. Has Leo, who initiated the affair, leave his wife—

Interesting that this post is actually one of the very few posts on here where Aries female/Leo male have a positive experience. Let's forget about the affair part for a minute. @bxh2830: your full post didn't show up so what was at the end?

***Sometimes affairs do happen and people fall in love and leave their spouses and ended up together in a very happy marriage. It happened to my aunt and they lived very happily together for 25 years before he passed away. Both of them had an affair and left their spouses and had kids.

Posted by geminicandIe
I know Leo kissed her first. But we don't see him making thread, do we?

That's a funny statement lol Majority of ppl in the world do not make threads on dxpnet.com. Most likely he doesn't even know about it

Posted by geminicandIe
Like I said, she is not his first nor last affair.
He clearly has done this before...lunch, drink and a quickie.

And here we have delusional idiot talking about feelings of love. The man is married with kids!!
I doubt he is leaving them anytime soon.

They are both idiots risking their jobs and families over cheap sex. Smh!

Well??_how do you know it's not his 1st affair? Did i miss reading it in her post? Or is it your assumption?

"And here we have delusional idiot talking about feelings of love. The man is married with kids!!" - She actually did say that she did not leave her husband because of Leo. She's talking about feelings of love for Leo as it's the 1st time she's experiencing feelings like that. Yes, Leo is married but he's the one who initiated the affair. He's the one who doesn't care about his marriage and kids. None of us here know the whole story. I don't condone or support cheating but seems like this Leo took advantage of the Aries woman. We all know how charming Leos can get when they want someone. Does she even want him to leave his family?

The rest of my post actually didn't show....

I ended up returning to my husband on 1/26, but only after I sent him a "closure email" letting him know exactly how i felt on 1/22... because it was the easiest thing to do... I found out that he was going to leave his wife but it wasnt something he had done or let me know about...he found out i went back to my husband on 1/28....and he passed away on 1/31 in his sleep....I found out recently that he had told his wife about everything the night before he passed.....

I think about him everyday and I have alot of questions.....

I believe in karma and I know that what Im feeling now and whatvhas happened to me since his passing is nothing but the cause nd effect process of the decisions Ive made...So, yes I know the "Cookiemonster" it can be....but my questions are more of what happens now?

What are the opinions of after death?
I feel like I constantly feel him and I constantly dream about him..so is there a possibility that there are signs or things that I notice that he could be sending to me?


* I do realize that there are different opinions regarding cheating and I completely understand if I offended anyone , because that was not my intention and the history of my marriage wasn't disclosed. I don't condone it but it is what it is...*
I was just wanting insight on others opinions regarding this because everrything I have been told about aries and leos is exactly what this was...he was my best friend and my love and I know he felt the same way.

Well that ending was unexpected.

In regard to your actions shedding some light on your marriage, it clearly had you rethinking. But you just cannot compare the honeymoon/beginning stages of all those squishy emotions to a relationship that has been going for so long. They aren't on the same level. The fact that you ditched the marriage for some temporary feelings says you acted a bit irrationally, especially if you went back. You know what you did was kinda stupid.

I think you should focus on the dude who's still alive and whom you're still married to. This little temporary fantasy has no bearing on your life or your marriage any longer. His poor wife has to deal with the most shit because she learned of her husband's infidelity and follow up plans, and then he dies. So she's stuck with some fucked up situation that her husband made for her as her last impression of him.

All you did was kiss the guy and attempt to leave your marriage for puppy love.

Consider it a life experience that you won't be repeating and move on.

Firstly sorry, I skimmed your story and didn't actually see the bit where you left your husband; and we have to take your word for it that you didn't leave the marriage FOR the leo.

Rocky has some good points here

11 years married means you are way past the honeymoon period and this guy comes along - a charismatic leo of all people - who makes feel great. But love? Idk... this was an affair at the end of the day. You got all the good bits; his wife got all the bill sharing, the kids pick ups, the bill paying, the garbage run etc. You love your husband but you think you were IN love with leo?

It's a terribly sad situation, for his wife and children but you are now stuck with this "what might have been" feeling. I'm afraid that there is no "what might have been". And what "signs" do you think he is sending you??

Remember you have just said that you left your husband because of HOW your leo made you feel. So you could take some comfort from the fact that the leo stirred new/reawakened emotions in you. You can use this in a positively light to either work seriously on trying to make your marriage work or to pull the plug on it if you think you cannot fall back IN LOVE with your husband again. You have the chance to use this to shape your future because you only get one life.

What is your Venus sign? I hope you know. Just wandering.

The first stages of love are usually the best.

Just imagine day to day life with the Leo wearing down some of the butterflies overtime. It happens.

I stayed in the "honeymoon," "butterflies" stage with my husband for a long time; but, it does wear off. The tides rise and fall forever there on. What keeps you together during the low tide is the memory of high tide or the things you did for each other during the difficult times. You don't have that experience with the deceased one and you have to remember that - bonding in action; versus bonding in feeling alone.

I have a Leo boss with a Virgo Moon that I had a similar connection with. However, he is single and I was at the time. We did not act upon it at all. All cerebral... if you can relate to that... we talked "air talk" but, understood perfectly. I put the breaks on because he was my boss. I took control and forced, very gently, yet powerfully, those feelings we were experiencing into:

-friendship
-loyalty
-deep camaraderie
-teamwork
-trust

I made him turn it around as well. 'Cause he is still my boss and I am with my husband. I say this to say that I can control, re-interpret, and redesign my feelings. Give it a try. It's a real exercise in internal power, self-control.

I could not allow that much power over me: money, heart, soul, career? and imagined that if things did not go well, it would be way worse than whatever I could imagine if thing went extremely well.

Posted by AriesGirl74
Remember you have just said that you left your husband because of HOW your leo made you feel. So you could take some comfort from the fact that the leo stirred new/reawakened emotions in you. You can use this in a positively light to either work seriously on trying to make your marriage work or to pull the plug on it if you think you cannot fall back IN LOVE with your husband again. You have the chance to use this to shape your future because you only get one life.

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