Virgo girl and Aries guy Relantionship ...ended?

Im a virgo that invested the past 4 years loving an un-attached Aries guy. I know him for about 6 years, and got to live with him for almost 3. I been into him for 4 years, and I found it very hard to feel attracted to anyone else since I started seeying him. I like his humour, his ideas and his ability to achieve his goals.

The first year living with him was great, very loving and caring. He taught me a lot of things and we got to experience new adventures together. We started having a rought time when I realised he was doing sneaky things behind my back, like message ex lovers and in drunken occasions even contact my friends with flirtatious messages. That’s when I started to be more aware that even tho I really liked him I couldn’t trust him.

I had to go out of town for almost half a year for some schooling, and I really wanted to have a long distance relationship where i would call him, text him. I even went out of my way to visit him whenever I had a free weekend to travel. He was not into it, that is when he started telling me that because I wasn’t there with him "we were not together" , he consisted he wanted to do his own thing.

Freedom is a big subject for him. Even tho I never felt like I was trying to trap him.I gave him space and supported his goals. But for some reason he always made it seem like I had him in a cage... i still dont understand his thought process.

When I came back, we managed to stay together and had more happy memories.

He went to work for the summer, something he usually does on his own. I was sad to let him go after being away for so long, but I totally supported it and tried my best to not be a drag.

He came back very exited, to the point he was overjoyed with love for himself. I know this because i felt it, and he mentioned it. He met someone there. He told me. I was heartbroken.

His drinking started getting worse, just like my ability to trust him. I left him. The past 3 months have been hell. He has been more aggressive with his words. He insulted me more often, he stopped having as much sex with me, and he even had conversations with me about all the flings he had when he was not around (and still dating me). I started feeling emotionally abused. He tells me about other woman and how he has a fantasy of being with multiple partners. He stopped caring about his sleep, his eating, his job. The house was always a mess and If i came over to help clean, the next day i find a mess again and empty alchol bottles everywhere. I had to stop trying to help him, I had to run away.

He obviously didn’t want to respect me. He wants freedom, he wants to do things without worrying about me. He thinks there’s better things in life out there and that I am chaining him with my unconditional love. I haven’t spoken to him for 4 days and I swear it feels like ETERNITY for me. I hate myself for wanting to contact him, but I talked to enough friends to know i should never go back.

My question is...Can someone as fiery as an Aries man, who is still immature and selfish, ever feel empathy for the people he hurt in the past? What is the though process of an Aries when someone loves

them and accepts them maybe TOO much?

I am doing the right thing by blocking him everywhere and not having contact?

It’s hard but move on, and you will feel better. Realise your end goal here, it’s to be with a loving guy and this guy isn’t one of those, don’t waste time with him when your true love is still out there waiting for you.