Saturn in 7th house should I give up on romance :(

I feel so sick you guys 😢

I'm pretty new to synastry and birth chart readings but managed to dig up the dirt on having Saturn in your 7th house and well it makes me furious and ready to cry at the same damn time!

I have a Mars, Venus, and SATURN in my 7th house all on Aquarius

I have no clue what that entire combination means but I have heard that having Saturn in your 7th house is bad news for the hopeless romantic like me 😭 I know astrology is something to be taken with a grain of salt, but at 22 years old love and friendships have been hard for me. I am very outgoing as I am a Pisces with an Aries moon and a ASC in Leo, I love being around people, I love helping people, and I love to have fun but most importantly I LOVE LOVE, but I'm not naive to the feelings of love either. So its very frustrating to hear that I have bad news bears in my chart because I have Saturn in my 7th house and even more infuriating when I read that people with this chart placement, are hesitant to commit and like their freedom.

WELL I actually like the idea of marriage, DO NOT want to marry an older man, or marry late as I want a big family--so I can't even relate/understand the explanation of my chart's positioning. All I can seem to understand that Saturn hates me and wants to impede on any love I wish to come into my life and that's just a bunch of bullshit.

To make things worse... my composite with my guy shows that saturn is in our 7th house, but I don't understand because there's nothing in his 7th house in his birth chart.

We have a Grand Trine, sextiles, and plenty of conjunctions which I heard were good for a synastry but now I'm hearing all this awful talk about Saturn and its placement that I just feel like I have potentially no control over what I want in my life.

I know it sounds crazy to get so worked up over astrology, but when you keep running into brick walls with love you start to wonder why you can't be like all the other 22 year old girls, always in love. For goodness sake, my roommate and her ex bf broke up and in one month she had found another guy totally infatuated with her as much as she was with him! I want serious relationships and I don't want to have to wait til I'm damn near 30 or 40 to get them...perhaps--no no I am venting--so forgive me for all of those that think I'm allowing my sensitive Pisces side and fiery Aries rage cloud logic but from a pure astrology stand point, is all hope lost—

Posted by Denver34
Relax, astrology DESCRIBES.....your life, it shouldn't influence it. Of course you're in love with love, you have Saturn, Venus and Mars in the 7th, there's A LOT going on there...although said combo of planets is hard to describe and interpret, it's an unusual combo...
But most likely everything you do revolves around others, you live and cooperate with others, in a big way, there's no going off on your own tooting your own horn....(although, with Leo rising you have a healthy ego, so it's a balanced chart).

Saturn restricts, and takes control but that doesnt mean you can't be happy. like I have Saturn in the 2nd, and finances, possessions, have always seemed out of my control, but it has forced me to fight harder and learn to believe in myself, it's not a bad thing. It's like playing sport against a strong team, you might not beat them at first, but with a lot of hard work, eventually you'll come through. That's Saturn, it's tough, it restricts, there's no negotiation, but with time, especially in your 30's, you will be so powerful and capable, your "revenge" or overcoming will be spectacular.
Especially with Venus and Mars there, that makes it much easier and more fun. You have nothing to worry about. And if you're in love with love, wel stay that way, enjoy your life !

I met my wife in 2005, our Saturns are squared, we got engaged 2 WEEKS after meeting one another, and got married 2 years later....we're still together and going strong, 9 years later !
That's Saturn, it's severe, but it's not necessarily a bad thing, it's just more powerful than the other planets.

Thanks for responding...your words are certainly encouraging. As to my Leo rising hahaha well it hasn't translated that way for me, I can be rather insecure. Being single the majority of your life tends to do that to you, not to mention I have some childhood traumas so I actually need a good deal of healthy relationships to help me find some value...horrible to say I know but I think its kinda logical, I mean if your childhood was voided of healthy, loving relationships and then you spend a great deal of time being single you can't help to internalize it as an issue with you--ESPECIALLY--when you do try to be as outgoing and friendly as your Leo rising aspect influences you to be.

It's like doing all the right things to attract loving relationships to you (MARS/VENUS in

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But given my MARS/VENUS aspects and my Ascendant, you'd think forming relationships would be easy for me, it feels like I'm doing all the right things or have all the right things to attract loving relationships to me but I never quite get them.

I definitely feel Saturn intruding on my life at all times when it comes to my relationships--intimate and otherwise--and its just sickening and frustrating at the same time.

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Posted by malloryor
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But given my MARS/VENUS aspects and my Ascendant, you'd think forming relationships would be easy for me, it feels like I'm doing all the right things or have all the right things to attract loving relationships to me but I never quite get them.

I definitely feel Saturn intruding on my life at all times when it comes to my relationships--intimate and otherwise--and its just sickening and frustrating at the same time.

Ok, well the Saturn energy would technically inhibit your desire for social contact, like you'd rather take care of yourself, early in life.
Planets in the first house encourage personal initiative, self-mportance.
Planets in the 7th encourage cooperation, depending on others for decisions etc...like a Libra.

So there's a lot of energy there AND Saturn initially inhibits, you rebel against it. It's only at 30, or 58(the next Saturn return), that the task is accepted, and the challenge potentially met.

There's like a contradiction, on the one hand, your Venus and Mars (social sense, skills, desires) make you intensely and happily altruistic. You focus on others, and you're very appreciated for your care and skills.
On the other hand, Saturn inhibits this, it makes you reject others, or gives THEM a feeling of unease around you. This WILL go away at the Saturn return, don't worry. This is your life's challenge, don't worry about it. Deep down, you're a VERY social person, you live through others. There's something in the way at first, but as your life unfolds, so will your true colors 🙂

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Thank you for explaining this to me, when put like that I do feel a little more self assured that everything will work out and fall into place. I'm thinking I can use this tug of war that I feel in my social life as an advantage, focus a bit more of my energy on establishing myself in my career rather than focusing on socializing.

I just hope Saturn doesn't fuck me over in terms of work place relationships, do you think a suitable solution would be to tone down my own urge to be social--continue to be polite--but ultimately keep to myself a bit more, so that I don't appear off putting to others? I'm thinking that my issue may be the latter because Saturn certainly hasn't tamed my interest to be s

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Thank you for explaining this to me, when put like that I do feel a little more self assured that everything will work out and fall into place. I'm thinking I can use this tug of war that I feel in my social life as an advantage, focus a bit more of my energy on establishing myself in my career rather than focusing on socializing.

I just hope Saturn doesn't fuck me over in terms of work place relationships, do you think a suitable solution would be to tone down my own urge to be social--continue to be polite--but ultimately keep to myself a bit more, so that I don't appear off putting to others? I'm thinking that my issue may be the latter because Saturn certainly hasn't tamed my interest to be s

No probs..🙂 I hope his helped.I dont really know what to advise you though...with my Saturn in the 2nd, I havent had many possessions in my youth, or self-esteem, but from 29 on it got better...I'm waiting for my first Saturn square since the return, in 6 months...I hope that'll boost my finances. Remember, Saturn is still just a planet, it causes delays but eventually it bears fruit!
It's like being on a giant wave, you may be pushed forward very far, and feel like you're not on the wave anymore, but then it catches up to you, and you can ride it for a while and it's the best ride you ever had...

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Hmm that's a nice metaphor that I'll try to take with me. I'm starting to see a valuable lesson to be learned in my placement in 7th too so I'm going to try to focus on learning that lesson (i.e. being less dependent on others for my emotional well being), but I still must say I really hope I don't have to wait til 30 for marriage...hopefully my Saturn will return at 28, 28 I can do bahaha though I'm sure Saturn doesn't work that way.

Thanks 🙂

Posted by DarkFire
So does that mean my chances of love and marriage are 0% ? I always had a feeling I'd die alone lol.

Well don't think like that, our thoughts have a way of becoming a self-fulfilled prophecy. Feel free to read what the other posters have said about Saturn in the 7th, you'll have to Google the rest of your placements. I use astro.com and grupovenus.com

Best wishes 🙂

Posted by Denver34
Yeah that sounds good, just know that it's hard, so do what you can to suffer less.
I hope you can get married whenever you want, and that you'll keep me posted!
🙂

Aww thanks! Trust me if and when I get engaged the entire world will know bahahaha

I have Saturn in 7th and same age as you. I am the only one among my circle of friend that is in a stable long term relationship. But in my opinion, at 22 you should not be freaking out 😄 - at least non of my single friends are freaking out (and most of them are older than me). You just have to work your placement to your advantage in your relationship, as in I am pretty sure you have other placements that balances it out. You mentioned a lot of Aquarius in your placement so let that give you more freedom.

I completely forgot to add that I have Saturn in Aquarius as well. You should be fine! Use the Aquarius to advantage. Yes I do feel that in my relationship I am always carving out more space for my freedom, but if you have a partner who respects your freedom, then you should be fine and if they don't then you don't need them. Plus you said you don't want older man, that's also good I believe. A younger guy would give you more opportunity to make your decisions/let you take the lead (sorry just generalizing here). My friend printed an astrology report on my birth chart and it said: Saturn in 7th usually means that you let your partner make the structure (because you don't want the responsibility of making the structure of your own life) and you will feel restricted.
My partner used to be very structured and felt like he had to look after me, but lucky for my cold Aquarius in Saturn placement I told my partner to stop butting in my affairs and I did not show any appreciation when he tried to look after me like a parent. Now he knows to leave me be and if I ever need his help I will go to him.

Why do you have to look at it so negatively?? Why can't you see Saturn in 7H as a committed stabilizer in relationships? Perhaps you will meet ONE man that you will stay with? Or perhaps the man you meet will be very Capricorn-like?

What is up with humans and their doom and gloom shit??

Fucking perky up and live life!

Posted by WolfMoon
Why do you have to look at it so negatively?? Why can't you see Saturn in 7H as a committed stabilizer in relationships? Perhaps you will meet ONE man that you will stay with? Or perhaps the man you meet will be very Capricorn-like?

What is up with humans and their doom and gloom shit??

Sorry. I can't help it sometimes but ya know it would help if more sites described it as a commitment stabilizer over the great emphasis that put on marrying late, never marrying, or divorcing multiple times, or just all the other horrible stuff they mention.

Posted by earthyscorpio
I completely forgot to add that I have Saturn in Aquarius as well. You should be fine! Use the Aquarius to advantage. Yes I do feel that in my relationship I am always carving out more space for my freedom, but if you have a partner who respects your freedom, then you should be fine and if they don't then you don't need them. Plus you said you don't want older man, that's also good I believe. A younger guy would give you more opportunity to make your decisions/let you take the lead (sorry just generalizing here). My friend printed an astrology report on my birth chart and it said: Saturn in 7th usually means that you let your partner make the structure (because you don't want the responsibility of making the structure of your own life) and you will feel restricted.
My partner used to be very structured and felt like he had to look after me, but lucky for my cold Aquarius in Saturn placement I told my partner to stop butting in my affairs and I did not show any appreciation when he tried to look after me like a parent. Now he knows to leave me be and if I ever need his help I will go to him.

I think that's probably more of my problem. I just don't identify with my Aquarius and Saturn placements. Idk if that's because I grew up in a very traditional and religious home that makes the concept of freewill, freethinking, and independence hard for me to follow or what, but I just can't identify with that gloomy feeling of feeling trapped when in a relationship. I'm never constantly looking for a space to carve out my own freedom. I guess I feel independent enough in other areas that I don't quite understand the need to need it in a relationship. I mean I'm not all for a controlling bf or husband that doesn't let me out of his sight for once (bleeping scary) but I guess I feel like if I want complete freedom then why bother with a relationship?

Idk I just feel disconnected from the placement a lot, but strangely enough I can definitely start sensing a self fulfilling prophecy here.

Posted by KittyKnitter
my Saturn is in 7th house. I read about karma and it told me that I need to take relationships seriously. so that means not just romantic relationships but all relationships. to find balance, to learn more about myself and what I wanted and needed, and to work within the restrictions to find fulfillment. I draw support from the people in my life but there have been many times I have felt alone. Well I am something of a loner, lol. and yes there have been many times I have felt disconnected from people in my life. I put myself in subordinate position to the men in my life for a long time, feeling I needed to adjust for being a strong woman. A lot of inner conflict. I am Leo Sun. Taurus Moon. strong placements. I didn't understand why I was doing what I was doing but it was easier not to try to fix it.

After I left a 14 year relationship with an abusive Aries, I knew I had lost my sense of self. I only knew afterwards that part of the problem was that I didn't make being happy a priority. I could expect restrictions. I was then a mother to a disabled child, now an adult. I also copped out asking for what I wanted and needed and challenging myself to seek real happiness.

I have known Taurus Sun for 6 years. Often my challenge has been to be a responsive and supportive partner even when I have felt hurt or confused. To be a true friend. To be open-minded. To trust. To share and maintain some independence. To stay clear in my focus and not be judgmental or act from fear.

Aww Kitty, thank you for sharing that with me. I'm happy you found someone after that awful experience, it's good that you were able to open yourself up to trusting someone again, because that can be the hardest part for sure, especially if you have a child and you're concerned for them. If you don't mind me asking do you think prior to your abusive relationship, did you not take your relationships seriously? And you feel like you had to experience that sort of relationship for a lesson?

Posted by malloryor
I feel so sick you guys 😢

I'm pretty new to synastry and birth chart readings but managed to dig up the dirt on having Saturn in your 7th house and well it makes me furious and ready to cry at the same damn time!

I have a Mars, Venus, and SATURN in my 7th house all on Aquarius

I have no clue what that entire combination means but I have heard that having Saturn in your 7th house is bad news for the hopeless romantic like me.

Saturn is not a love killer, it grounds it in reality. Meaning, you are better off dating someone who is serious and reliable. There is nothing in the 7th house or Saturn preventing him/her to be romantic too. He/she is not going to be the wild, up in the air, irresponsible, dreamy, disconnected from reality kind of partner (unless you pick the wrong one, but you will quickly notice he/she does not fit the bill unless your Lilith (obsessions) plays tricks on you). Your Mars and Venus in 7th is additional evidence suggesting successful marriage/cooperation is a big deal for you and something important in your life. I bet some of these items must be conjunct in this house, which is very supportive. No reason to be pessimistic. You are just setting the bar higher than others regarding your expectation in this matter. You are not doomed.

http://learn-astrology-concepts.blogspot.fr/2013/02/7th-house-partnerships-marriage.html

I have Saturn in 7th house. In fact I have the worst possible planets- Saturn Uranus and Neptune in my 7th. It is not doom and gloom though. It is only doom and gloom if u make out to be. Unlike other people we are actually fortunate imo because it helps us mature and understand relationship better by the time the Saturn returns. After that, since we learned the value of relationship, commitment and marriage Saturn will enable us to have a very long lasting relationship. Is it better to marry early and break up later or get matured marry later and have a long lasting relationship?
Having said that, my uncle has the same placement and he married twice before 30 and divorced both times. Also, people have got around this placement by living together without making the marriage official until 28.

Posted by Denver34
Relax, astrology DESCRIBES.....your life, it shouldn't influence it. Of course you're in love with love, you have Saturn, Venus and Mars in the 7th, there's A LOT going on there...although said combo of planets is hard to describe and interpret, it's an unusual combo...
But most likely everything you do revolves around others, you live and cooperate with others, in a big way, there's no going off on your own tooting your own horn....(although, with Leo rising you have a healthy ego, so it's a balanced chart).

Saturn restricts, and takes control but that doesnt mean you can't be happy. like I have Saturn in the 2nd, and finances, possessions, have always seemed out of my control, but it has forced me to fight harder and learn to believe in myself, it's not a bad thing. It's like playing sport against a strong team, you might not beat them at first, but with a lot of hard work, eventually you'll come through. That's Saturn, it's tough, it restricts, there's no negotiation, but with time, especially in your 30's, you will be so powerful and capable, your "revenge" or overcoming will be spectacular.
Especially with Venus and Mars there, that makes it much easier and more fun. You have nothing to worry about. And if you're in love with love, wel stay that way, enjoy your life !

I met my wife in 2005, our Saturns are squared, we got engaged 2 WEEKS after meeting one another, and got married 2 years later....we're still together and going strong, 9 years later !
That's Saturn, it's severe, but it's not necessarily a bad thing, it's just more powerful than the other planets.

Love this!! Truly brilliant way to describe how hard placements can be almost a blessing in disguise.