aries woman struggling with personality

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Joanne_P
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9 Years

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Hello,

I am an Aries 27 yo woman. I have a big problem with men. I am very hard working, easy going, outgoing. I am sometimes considered as a party girl.Not like easy girl but party girl.

My personality is very colorful, sometimes i try to hide it in front of the world, society to fit in.

But I understand maybe i see world in different colors.

The problem is that I am nonchalant, fast and some men even tell me i am intimidating.

I do not know what is wrong with me. I am not harsh but i see boys/men are afraid of me. I do not know- my mimic, my face or sth i have no idea.

The problem is that i am a very good student, i am a hard worker but in the same time i can be a very easy going person with a light attidute- and i do not worry a lot. But usually my friends worry a lot so i worry like them even when i must lie.

Because they think I lie. and the world is full of dark and bad things. For me its not like this.

Maybe its my face, maybe its my personality. I know i have my own world. Maybe i am an artist - no idea.

I see even colorful boys/men with cool personalities choose 'grey' and timid women. I want to have a boyfriend like me. But boys like me dont want to be intimidated(?) and they usually choose shy, timid, non personality girls.

I of course do not consider myself as a superwoman, someone who is the best. But i see the difference. I do not know what to do. I live in Poland which is very 21 c country but even now, old habits like choosing a partner or sth is very old fashioned....And i know sometimes i can be 'talked about, gossiped about' because i am 'too artistic, colorful'.



What should i do?

If you want i can give you my picture to see - maybe i am very weird.
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kissmygrits
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You sound like a friend of mine. I absolutely adore her. Don't hide who you are. Stop lying about worries to fit in. Weak people are intimidated by strength. Honesty is a pill some can't swallow but do it anyway. I get that you're lonely but being true to yourself does that. And if the location is stale for your taste consider moving to somewhere with like minds? Maybe after you graduate look for a career beyond your town.

Good luck
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AriesRottie
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8 Years

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So, I'm a 40 something Aries woman who has a similar personality to you. You're young...and the guys who are your age are also young. They have no idea how to handle a vibrant, strong Aries woman. My advice is don't change who you are and just be who you are.

Don't worry about finding a guy...the right guy who can handle all of you will show up when you least expect it. And that usually happens when you stop actively looking for him.
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tcta
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Posted by AriesRottie
So, I'm a 40 something Aries woman who has a similar personality to you. You're young...and the guys who are your age are also young. They have no idea how to handle a vibrant, strong Aries woman. My advice is don't change who you are and just be who you are.

Don't worry about finding a guy...the right guy who can handle all of you will show up when you least expect it. And that usually happens when you stop actively looking for him.
I totally agree with this ...