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Ugh, another of you fucking morally corrupt degenerates that come on here with these bullshit ass stories. Oh golly-gee, how did I find myself in this awkward conundrum!? How did I fall for this guy with a live in girlfriend? Gosh! Someone please post and validate that I am not a terrible person. And the sad part is, there will be at least a few idiots on here that will give you a nod of approval.
How do you proceed with life? For once in your miserable ass life, stop opening your damn legs for people in relationships or while you are in a relationship.
Congratulations, and here is your trophy for being #2.
Posted by wanderingaries
Let me first say, I'm an aries woman in my early 20's. I can admit I've had an "affair" while in a relationship before, so in this situation I feel more stuck than ever.To make a long story short, my cancer coworker and I hit it off very soon after I joined the company. We have a very playful, power struggle type of relationship, and are both very attracted to one another. I knew from before he approached me and started talking that he had a girlfriend.. but I was curious to see where it would go.
A few weeks ago, we were about to go on a company trip out of the country (with several other coworkers) and for the month leading up to it (I've only been with the company two months) we would talk every day non stop on skype. When we were out of the country for work, he had said basically "new country new me" and on the first night we were away he ended up kissing me. Over the 4 days we were there, the sexual tension became so thick, and on the last day, we ended up having sex. He admitted to me he had cheated before, but nothing more than a hook up. We were both very adverse to having sex, but after getting intoxicated on the last night it happened.
When we returned, I expected him to feel awkward with me, but he went right back into our normal rhythm, talking all day via skype and taking every opportunity to see each other during work. He then invited me out on a date two weeks after our trip. He picked me up, we had dinner, went to the movies ( but the movie was way too packed so we tried 5 other movies) and when we were leaving one of the theatres, he kissed me (for the first time since our trip)
Obviously from there we both didnt/couldnt hold back and ended up having really heated sex in the back of his porsche. He then actually invited me to meet his friends, and we all hung out.
Now.. the point where the story gets convoluted, is that before any of this happened, we made plans for me to stay in his guest room while I wait for my apartment to be ready to move in (one month)... so now I am typing this, my first night staying in his place that he shares with his girlfriend.....
how in gods name do i proceed with life lol.
First thing you need to do is block that chick that commented above me
First thing you need to do is block that chick that commented above me
Snowflake.
First thing you need to do is block that chick that commented above me
Snowflake.
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You even know what that means?
First thing you need to do is block that chick that commented above me
Snowflake.
You even know what that means?
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How do I get a job where I get to go on trips out of the country?
First thing you need to do is block that chick that commented above me
Snowflake.
You even know what that means?
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So, how am I a snowflake then? Looks like you're the hypersensitive one.
First thing you need to do is block that chick that commented above me
Snowflake.
You even know what that means?
So, how am I a snowflake then? Looks like you're the hypersensitive one.
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Karmas a bitch and he'll do it do you, next hot thing that comes along. Then you're just yesterdays trash. Hopefully the good sex will be worth it. You can respect yourself after?
Posted by kissmygrits
How do I get a job where I get to go on trips out of the country?or drive a porsche
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Yes that too.
First thing you need to do is block that chick that commented above me
Snowflake.
You even know what that means?
So, how am I a snowflake then? Looks like you're the hypersensitive one.
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So, let me see if I'm getting this straight.
1. I tell someone they should block you
2. You got offended even though I said nothing derogatory to or about you
3. You try to counter punch by slinging an insult that doesn't apply to me
4. You're still posting for absolutely no reason
5. I'm gonna call YOU a snowflake. It definitely pertains to you.
First thing you need to do is block that chick that commented above me
Snowflake.
You even know what that means?
So, how am I a snowflake then? Looks like you're the hypersensitive one.
So, let me see if I'm getting this straight.
1. I tell someone they should block you
2. You got offended even though I said nothing derogatory to or about you
3. You try to counter punch by slinging an insult that doesn't apply to me
4. You're still posting for absolutely no reason
5. I'm gonna call YOU a snowflake. It definitely pertains to you.
Bruh just shut your retarded mouth. You're a self proclaimed idiot, but just the fact that you sided with the cheating cunt told us the same story anyways.
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Bruh.......why don't you go deepthroat a billy goat. Learn how to fucking read. I didn't side with anyone you idiot. Smh. Now you look like the retarded Capt Saveahoe
So, let me see if I'm getting this straight.
1. I tell someone they should block you
2. You got offended even though I said nothing derogatory to or about you
3. You try to counter punch by slinging an insult that doesn't apply to me
4. You're still posting for absolutely no reason
5. I'm gonna call YOU a snowflake. It definitely pertains to you.
Did you not do the same thing? Sorry if I am mistaken.
No. lol. Never.
Posted by kissmygrits
How do I get a job where I get to go on trips out of the country?
you just have to keep your mouth and butthole open for business ...
Tell me, does it make you feel powerful to write these kind of comments?
Frustrated woman:
*opens dxpnet*
Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice. No comments yet? Ho ho ho! Let me just write some girl-power comment throwing shade at all directions so I can feel better about myself. The 11 likes that will follow will make me feel even more powerful even if people didn't actually read the story.
Lol
Posted by kissmygrits
How do I get a job where I get to go on trips out of the country?you just have to keep your mouth and butthole open for business ...
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No wonder! I'm going about it all wrong. Oh well.
Posted by wanderingaries
I knew from before he approached me and started talking that he had a girlfriend.. but I was curious to see where it would go.
No morals.
Posted by kissmygrits
How do I get a job where I get to go on trips out of the country?you just have to keep your mouth and butthole open for business ...
No wonder! I'm going about it all wrong. Oh well.
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IKR - good knees and a jar of vaseline will get you everywhere you want to be - just like mastercard!
Posted by nikkistar
Ugh, another of you fucking morally corrupt degenerates that come on here with these bullshit ass stories. Oh golly-gee, how did I find myself in this awkward conundrum!? How did I fall for this guy with a live in girlfriend? Gosh! Someone please post and validate that I am not a terrible person. And the sad part is, there will be at least a few idiots on here that will give you a nod of approval.How do you proceed with life? For once in your miserable ass life, stop opening your damn legs for people in relationships or while you are in a relationship.
Congratulations, and here is your trophy for being #2.
Tell me, does it make you feel powerful to write these kind of comments?
Frustrated woman:
*opens dxpnet*
Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice. No comments yet? Ho ho ho! Let me just write some girl-power comment throwing shade at all directions so I can feel better about myself. The 11 likes that will follow will make me feel even more powerful even if people didn't actually read the story.
Lol
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apparently you have not read any of her historical threads ...
Posted by nikkistar
Ugh, another of you fucking morally corrupt degenerates that come on here with these bullshit ass stories. Oh golly-gee, how did I find myself in this awkward conundrum!? How did I fall for this guy with a live in girlfriend? Gosh! Someone please post and validate that I am not a terrible person. And the sad part is, there will be at least a few idiots on here that will give you a nod of approval.How do you proceed with life? For once in your miserable ass life, stop opening your damn legs for people in relationships or while you are in a relationship.
Congratulations, and here is your trophy for being #2.
Tell me, does it make you feel powerful to write these kind of comments?
Frustrated woman:
*opens dxpnet*
Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice. No comments yet? Ho ho ho! Let me just write some girl-power comment throwing shade at all directions so I can feel better about myself. The 11 likes that will follow will make me feel even more powerful even if people didn't actually read the story.
Lol
apparently you have not read any of her historical threads ...
Yeh it's a trend I've noticed. Goes to demonstrate that frustrated people took over dxpnet, intimidating others to speak their minds.
Hypocrisy all over the place. Let's leave that to real life please.
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I was talking about the @OP, not @Nikkistar ...
Posted by palehooves
That Nikki chick is funny but also a bit scary lmao
I don't bite, I promise 🙂
Yeh it's a trend I've noticed. Goes to demonstrate that frustrated people took over dxpnet, intimidating others to speak their minds.
Hypocrisy all over the place. Let's leave that to real life please.
LOL. Are you really this dumb?
Yeh it's a trend I've noticed. Goes to demonstrate that frustrated people took over dxpnet, intimidating others to speak their minds.
Hypocrisy all over the place. Let's leave that to real life please.
LOL. Are you really this dumb?
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most likely just "uninformed" ...
Yeh it's a trend I've noticed. Goes to demonstrate that frustrated people took over dxpnet, intimidating others to speak their minds.
Hypocrisy all over the place. Let's leave that to real life please.
LOL. Are you really this dumb?
most likely just "uninformed" ...
Posted by nikkistar
And the sad part is, there will be at least a few idiots on here that will give you a nod of approval.click to expand
I just think he/she is one of these people I was talking about. lol
Posted by Hare
Ayyyy lmaoI heard there was hoes in this thread.
Have your take, I count at least 3. The op and two captain save a ho's. lol
So, let me see if I'm getting this straight.
1. I tell someone they should block you
2. You got offended even though I said nothing derogatory to or about you
3. You try to counter punch by slinging an insult that doesn't apply to me
4. You're still posting for absolutely no reason
5. I'm gonna call YOU a snowflake. It definitely pertains to you.
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I still don't get why you're commenting? I wasn't even talking to you. You're posting memes about being butthurt to yourself
Yeh it's a trend I've noticed. Goes to demonstrate that frustrated people took over dxpnet, intimidating others to speak their minds.
Hypocrisy all over the place. Let's leave that to real life please.
LOL. Are you really this dumb?
most likely just "uninformed" ...
Posted by nikkistar
And the sad part is, there will be at least a few idiots on here that will give you a nod of approval.I just think he/she is one of these people I was talking about. lol
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I don't think some people know the history and then don't understand ... and/or just don't care about the cheating thing ... the OP dropped out, then comes back with the same username - but she's always got the same story ... you can lead a horse to water ...
So, let me see if I'm getting this straight.
1. I tell someone they should block you
2. You got offended even though I said nothing derogatory to or about you
3. You try to counter punch by slinging an insult that doesn't apply to me
4. You're still posting for absolutely no reason
5. I'm gonna call YOU a snowflake. It definitely pertains to you.
I still don't get why you're commenting? I wasn't even talking to you. You're posting memes about being butthurt to yourself
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Posted by Hare
Ayyyy lmaoI heard there was hoes in this thread.
I don't think some people know the history and then don't understand ... and/or just don't care about the cheating thing ... the OP dropped out, then comes back with the same username - but she's always got the same story ... you can lead a horse to water ...
And then they expect me to be sympathetic to these people? LOL Let's just negate the history of this OP and look at the facts on this thread alone.
Posted by wanderingaries
. I can admit I've had an "affair" while in a relationship beforeI knew from before he approached me and started talking that he had a girlfriend.. but I was curious to see where it would go.
Over the 4 days we were there, the sexual tension became so thick, and on the last day, we ended up having sex.
stay in his guest room while I wait for my apartment to be ready to move in (one month)... so now I am typing this, my first night staying in his place that he shares with his girlfriend.....
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Yea, let me be real nice and hold her hand. lol
@tnmnt,"Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice", The OP knows she's unhealthy and knows the person she's with is unhealthy, so, whats the point of sharing? I think ppl really think they're cool for cheating. Would you answer a question about how to murder sb? Some questions are stupid, feeding humblebrag is pointless.
I agree with you that manners matter, and I wouldn't call her a hoe, as is sexist shit, but the point is: you are hurting people, stop. If you ask for opinions you'll get them.
Posted by Blackburn
@tcta,"Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice", The OP knows she's unhealthy and knows the person she's with is unhealthy, so, whats the point of sharing? I think ppl really think they're cool for cheating. Would you answer a question about how to murder sb? Some questions are stupid, feeding humblebrag is pointless.I agree with you that manners matter, and I wouldn't call her a hoe, as is sexist shit, but the point is: you are hurting people, stop. If you ask for opinions you'll get them.
You quoted the wrong person. @tcta didn't say that. The captain save a hoe did. lol
Posted by Blackburn
@tcta,"Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice", The OP knows she's unhealthy and knows the person she's with is unhealthy, so, whats the point of sharing? I think ppl really think they're cool for cheating. Would you answer a question about how to murder sb? Some questions are stupid, feeding humblebrag is pointless.I agree with you that manners matter, and I wouldn't call her a hoe, as is sexist shit, but the point is: you are hurting people, stop. If you ask for opinions you'll get them.
You quoted the wrong person. @tcta didn't say that. The captain save a hoe did. lol
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You are right, similar names!
Posted by Blackburn
@tnmnt,"Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice", The OP knows she's unhealthy and knows the person she's with is unhealthy, so, whats the point of sharing? I think ppl really think they're cool for cheating. Would you answer a question about how to murder sb? Some questions are stupid, feeding humblebrag is pointless.I agree with you that manners matter, and I wouldn't call her a hoe, as is sexist shit, but the point is: you are hurting people, stop. If you ask for opinions you'll get them.
you are so uninformed
Posted by Blackburn
@tnmnt,"Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice", The OP knows she's unhealthy and knows the person she's with is unhealthy, so, whats the point of sharing? I think ppl really think they're cool for cheating. Would you answer a question about how to murder sb? Some questions are stupid, feeding humblebrag is pointless.I agree with you that manners matter, and I wouldn't call her a hoe, as is sexist shit, but the point is: you are hurting people, stop. If you ask for opinions you'll get them.
you are so uninformed
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In what sense?
Posted by Blackburn
@tcta,"Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice", The OP knows she's unhealthy and knows the person she's with is unhealthy, so, whats the point of sharing? I think ppl really think they're cool for cheating. Would you answer a question about how to murder sb? Some questions are stupid, feeding humblebrag is pointless.I agree with you that manners matter, and I wouldn't call her a hoe, as is sexist shit, but the point is: you are hurting people, stop. If you ask for opinions you'll get them.
You quoted the wrong person. @tcta didn't say that. The captain save a hoe did. lol
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wtf ?
Posted by Blackburn
@tcta,"Some girl actually took time to share a story and ask for advice", The OP knows she's unhealthy and knows the person she's with is unhealthy, so, whats the point of sharing? I think ppl really think they're cool for cheating. Would you answer a question about how to murder sb? Some questions are stupid, feeding humblebrag is pointless.I agree with you that manners matter, and I wouldn't call her a hoe, as is sexist shit, but the point is: you are hurting people, stop. If you ask for opinions you'll get them.
You quoted the wrong person. @tcta didn't say that. The captain save a hoe did. lol
wtf ?
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@Blackburn meant to tag tmnmt, not you.
Posted by palehooves
some people don't care how scandalous they are or who's lives they destroy. eventually they will have to deal with it in a more serious way. it's just a matter of time.i don't blame anyone on this thread for making fun of them or the ridiculous apologists that are making themselves look damn stupid. lol
I like you.
I have a serious girl crush on you....
I'm all for pretty girls. 🙂
I have a serious girl crush on you....
I'm all for pretty girls. 🙂
Lol Wheres EvaxxxScorpio when you need em for additional commentary...
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I can easily imitate him
@Evoxxxscorpio - "Sorry I was pooping" lol
I love that big ole Roo !
She needs some more water in her life
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yeah she way too thirsty !
ok so I guess I reached my gif posting limit for the day cause it won't load ...
this was it:
she need jesus!
And he pulled it off.
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it was a movie lol
@Hare - check out this buster bad azz ...
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Let me first say, I'm an aries woman in my early 20's. I can admit I've had an "affair" while in a relationship before, so in this situation I feel more stuck than ever.
To make a long story short, my cancer coworker and I hit it off very soon after I joined the company. We have a very playful, power struggle type of relationship, and are both very attracted to one another. I knew from before he approached me and started talking that he had a girlfriend.. but I was curious to see where it would go.
A few weeks ago, we were about to go on a company trip out of the country (with several other coworkers) and for the month leading up to it (I've only been with the company two months) we would talk every day non stop on skype. When we were out of the country for work, he had said basically "new country new me" and on the first night we were away he ended up kissing me. Over the 4 days we were there, the sexual tension became so thick, and on the last day, we ended up having sex. He admitted to me he had cheated before, but nothing more than a hook up. We were both very adverse to having sex, but after getting intoxicated on the last night it happened.
When we returned, I expected him to feel awkward with me, but he went right back into our normal rhythm, talking all day via skype and taking every opportunity to see each other during work. He then invited me out on a date two weeks after our trip. He picked me up, we had dinner, went to the movies ( but the movie was way too packed so we tried 5 other movies) and when we were leaving one of the theatres, he kissed me (for the first time since our trip)
Obviously from there we both didnt/couldnt hold back and ended up having really heated sex in the back of his porsche. He then actually invited me to meet his friends, and we all hung out.
Now.. the point where the story gets convoluted, is that before any of this happened, we made plans for me to stay in his guest room while I wait for my apartment to be ready to move in (one month)... so now I am typing this, my first night staying in his place that he shares with his girlfriend.....
how in gods name do i proceed with life lol.