Defense VS Offense

which signs fall under each when it comes to confrontation?

which approach is better in confrontations?

To me those
"la la la I'm not listening" methods seem very immature and selfish.
I thought only 6 year olds would do that...

Don't get me wrong though,
I do not like getting into arguments or confrontations...
but avoiding it doesn't solve the problem.
It actually worsens it...
It may not show at the moment but trust me
that method only works if you are a 6 year old
(but even that wouldn't work...)

I usually go for win-win method...
I give up some the other give up some
we're all happy, maybe not so perfectly as we imagine
but hey, no one is perfect
that's how we learn to live with others...

I am describe as being defensive because I believe defense is the best offense and a lot of people say it is because I am cancer. and wondered if different signs do fall under one style of attack. so I try to avoid conflicts but when I get it i get defensive and it usually works cause the other person backs off and I get the last word.