DID I DO WELL?

Hello,

2 years ago i met a new group of friends.

there was a guy that liked me, i had a crush on him as well.



we have been meeting up at parties and so one. he was working as an artist.

i was just an art student but i wanted him to meet me up with other people. because i had an idea of my career and i wanted to pursue that direction.

actually i thought that he was a normal man, only an artist.

i was not very known in an industry because i was just a student.

we started flirting and we hooked up a few times.

he wanted me to be his 'fuck buddy' for a career and freelance. because i was noone and he knew a lot of people.

i didnt want it i irun away but i was crying so many times.

then things changed because he didnt want anything more. started ignoring me in a very bad way, started being rude.

but i didnt break. i started doing art things in this industry. he was looking at my actions on facebook, he was spying me on social media. observing my career but didnt want anything more.

i was totally confused because i wanted sth more but he didnt want. but then he appeared in my life again./



when i became more famous in the industry and people would recognise me as ME. he started to ask me out and so one. but when i wanted to talk to him he was pulling away.

i was so devastated because i didnt have any 'back' in this industry. i made so many mistakes. people didnt help me. noone helped me.

but then some man appeared. he started giving me advices and being ok.

i focused on him/

after 1 year when my ex saw that i am friends with more powerful people. that i did sth myself. that someone other helped me he started being rude and started telling people we were hooking up.

some people turned back because of the gossip some didnt.

this guy that helped me stayed -i think so-.



when he started claiming i am HIS OFFICIAL FRIEND. like sharing pics on facebook, asking people to help me officialy = my ex started gossiping about me and so one.



why?

my ex wanted to help me to get my career better unofficially. he didnt want anything official with me.



but after 1 year when he saw that i am ok and i am talented and other powerful people claim officialy that i am their friends- he started to being so rude to me, gossiping.



what is your advice to me? to this situation?

should i worry about my ex and his unofficial relationships?

or should i focus on things that are official and actually on people that officially claim i am their friends?



xxx

my ex is very popular. he not only work sin this industry but in others as well. i didnt know abut it. he is a multi task freelancer, he knows a lot of people..

his parents work at city council so he has a lot of money and possibilities to help his friends setting up new companies and so one.



deeply in my mind i think that he wanted to do the same with me.

that our 'relation' wouldnt be normal but business oriented.

i didnt want that.

he was testing me.

when his friends from industry focused on me he panicked and started gossiping about me doing black PR.



i dont know what to do.

i am abroad right now.

i am coming back in a few months.

:/

People are only as important as you make them.

Treat your ex like a nobody and he will become a nobody in your life.

All the money and friends in the world cannot give him power over you unless you let him.

i dont let him and never let him.

i deleted him from my instagram.

he has no possibility to spy on me.

he stopped liking my pics on fb. i stopped 6 months ago.

it was hard but yes. it is like it is.

i think he thinks he can do what he wants because his parents are rich . of course he works on his own. but he is very childish in mind and needs a mum not a girl.

i am not that type of a woman. i can not mother. im like- go to your mum not to me. im your gf not a mum.

and all of his friends like the way i am.

he didnt/.

So you want people to tell you what exactly?

i m just still having thoughts that i rejected him 1st.

but it was so complicated and so weird .

i felt like he rejected me first