Ever Resist the Urge?

When you are dating someone do you resist the urge to ask them their birth date/sign or do you ask them right off the bat? I went on a date last week and it was going "okay". Everything inside of me is telling me this man is a Cancer, but I didn't ask. I didn't ask him his sign largely because I just wanted to enjoy his company and get to know him and his personality over time. Isn't that the point of building a relationship? An hour into the date he asks me what my sign is... okay here it comes. I tell him, but don't ask him his. That seem to bother him a bit .

The date comes to an end and I still have no idea what his sign is. Initially, as I stated because I simply didn't care. I won't lie, I WAS curious, but refuse to ask. Part of the reason I stated above, but the other reason was because when I saw that it bothered him and that he was "gently" trying to get me to ask him, it then became a bit of a game for me. I'm thinking since he's so into signs that he should know that little ploy wasn't going to work on a Scorpio right? .

So the question...

Have you ever resisted the urge to learn someone sign when you are dating until it become unavoidable (e.g you've dated long enough and their birthday is about to roll around) and if so, why?

If you are the type of person that likes/needs to know, why?

Posted by MzSag
I hate when I ask people when their birthday is and they say, "Oh, in August."... I didn't ask what month you were born in, I asked when is your BIRTH DAY!!...

Yup, that bothers the hell out of me too. I don't always ask though. Only if the person intrigues me in some way, then I "need" to know so I can figure them out and what buttons to push. I'm trying to stop that though.

Im always comfortable asking people what "month they were born in"....

I have yet to have someone tell me to mind my fucking business.
so im sticking with that technique.

Again I love astrology cause most females know about it or are curious....and thats all a man should need, is a little window to get to know a woman.

It never even crossed my mind to ask them. I haven't been on a date in awhile. I am very slow and cautious with relationships, and my last two relationships started as a flirtatious friendship (no sex.lol). So, I usually find out their sign pretty early on- especially with the advent of facebook and twitter nowadays. But meeting someone for the first time, it is fun to play a game of Guess Their Sign. I don't particularly care if people think I'm weird for liking astrology. I will mention it and take note of their reaction. Open minds are sexy.
Anyway I usually know their sign before an official "date".

I ask everyone cuz I want to know what kind of dipshit I am getting involved with. lol

Posted by PurrrrHissss
... most Earth sign people I know (especially Capricorns)

Ahhhh....I dated a guy for a millisecond a while back and I remember on our date the conversation of birthday came up. I brought it up, but innocent enough. He asked me my plans for the weekend and I said I was going to a (friend's) birthday party. His response was so over the top to the point I thought WTF is wrong with him? I didn't even ask him his sign. I believe (sorry, it was so long ago) my words were "Yeah he's such a momma's boy. Sort of typical for his sign" (said with love). His response: "So let me guess you're into horoscopes and you're gonna ask me my sign" ...uh....what? No actually I wasn't going to. I really don't know enough about signs to determine what traits belong to what someone's sign is, except for my own or the few I have had long relationships with (e.g friends, family, lovers). I just never knew what that was about. Bad break up with a chart reader? . Now I know. Found out later he's a Cap.

NO! I even try to find out what time they were born, love to read up on the rising sign, houses and all that malarky 🙂

Posted by CapricornSun
I ask everyone cuz I want to know what kind of dipshit I am getting involved with. lol

You are a handful aren't you.

I never ever never ever never ever never ever resist the urge. Ahem.

I ask everybody. And I tell them why. Then I describe them. Then they freak out. 😄

Because your right or you talk to much and look like a nutcase when you do it—

D) All of the above? 😉

lllooolll @ Art & Nefer

i always notice at souvenir shops... any astrology gifts they may carry are always out of or nearly out of cap stuff. I assume it's because the shop owners don't wanna bother with the inventory lol

😛 they're probably caps themselves haha!

I'm asking because if he says Cancer, I'm breakin wide. Neva, Eva Again. Off to take Anti-Cancer meds. Goodnight.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by CapricornSun
I ask everyone cuz I want to know what kind of dipshit I am getting involved with. lol

You are a handful aren't you.

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Why yes I am. 😄

I always figure out a way to ask someone their birthday. Its usually pretty easy because, see, mine is Jan 1 so bringing up my birthday being on a holiday and all, etc is a good conversation piece depending on the situation. OR start talking about a birthday party you have to go to and can easily get on the subject. Then its not hard to drift into that topic so asking becomes natural.

Try getting their time of birth! That's even harder! lol!!! I try by asking if they are a morning person or night owl? Typical get-to-know-you question, right? Then going on to say something like I have a theory about morning people versus night owls and the time of day they were born......

When I was younger I used to ask more often but these days I often don't I (especially if it is a male and/or an older person as they are usually more intolerant of astrology). Also I think it is regarded as a younger person's thing so I think a lot of people might think it a bit weird that a guy my age is still into it! Another thing is that here in England astrology is not such a big thing as it is in America, so it's probably less "normal" here to ask somebody's sign. Of course, though, if the conversation can be steered around to when their birthday is or something like that I like to do that, but I would tend to feel embarrassed about asking somebody's sign out of the blue. Even if I just asked their birthday (out of the blue) they might think that was a bit weird as well and probably want to know why I wanted to know.

With regard to what I have just said, I am sorry that I had not read the original question closely enough as it specifically asks about the context of dating rather than socialising in general. In terms of dates I would normally know in advance before I meet them, especially as the main dating website that I use mentions people's signs on it. If I fix a date in another way I will probably ask by phone first or something: not all women believe in astrology but on the other hand I don't think many would be offended by the question.

Sometimes.

Sometimes I'll ask them, and sometimes I just wait until someone mentions their birthday.

I'm not satisfied with sun sign alone though, so I'll google their chart at home... *ashamed* 😄