How to Break Up with Cancer Man

The time has come. Going to break up with my bf. He made insulting, passive aggressive comments to me for no reason that I'm aware of and I'm not getting anything out of the relationship. How do I do it so:

A) I don't get sucked back in

B) He doesn't throw a tantrum or become nasty

C) Explain why in a kind way

Posted by WarAngel1
Hate to break it to ya, but I don't think there is an easy way. That's the problem with Cancer people. They have claws to cling or pinch...

Which type you get depends on how you word your sentences. All my Cancer exs have repeatedly reached back to my heartstrings.

When you've broken up with them, how did you do it? Appeal to their emotions or just be cruel?

Posted by WarAngel1
Amputation, pure and simple. Anything less and they cling.

I can time my watch to the exact number of months they reappear. If you let a little light in, they will wiggle their way back in.

If they become a pain in the ass, you cannot flinch. You must be emotionally stronger than they are. Most times, they love you more once you treat them like shit. It's confusing as fuck, lol!

I love crab meat, but sometimes....jeez.

Haha, yeah, after he insulted me in his passive agressive way I turned ice cold on him and that made him super nice and sweet. Maybe I should have just treated him like shit this whole time. I didn't because he complained bitterly about how awful his other exes are.

It's hard. I don't hate him despite him purposely trying to hurt me. I'd actually like to be friends. Don't know if that's possible. I just can't figure out which of his transgressions to use as the reason. The fact that he's never once complimented me or told me what he feels about me? The fact that he insulted me? The fact that we don't have sex enough? The fact that he's a drug addict and alcoholic?

I say let it all out , all of what has been bothering u.. no yelling if u can help it .. after that, tell him you tried to save the relationship but you're just not happy due to all the things u stated before u voiced u wanted to break up

Posted by WarAngel1
Amputation, pure and simple. Anything less and they cling.

I can time my watch to the exact number of months they reappear. If you let a little light in, they will wiggle their way back in.

If they become a pain in the ass, you cannot flinch. You must be emotionally stronger than they are. Most times, they love you more once you treat them like shit. It's confusing as fuck, lol!

I love crab meat, but sometimes....jeez.

sooo fucking true.

i HAD to burn the bridge, slam the door and nail the fooker shut.

Posted by WarAngel1

Posted by confusedlibra78
It's hard. I don't hate him despite him purposely trying to hurt me. I'd actually like to be friends. Don't know if that's possible. I just can't figure out which of his transgressions to use as the reason. The fact that he's never once complimented me or told me what he feels about me? The fact that he insulted me? The fact that we don't have sex enough? The fact that he's a drug addict and alcoholic?

The last one should be a deal breaker to any woman with children. The rest, you'll probably forgive over time.

You will not hate, you will not love, you will simply amputate and be indifferent or suffer the consequences.

I'm making this simple because I already know you're trying to rationalize his behavior on a deeper level. You cannot fix what is irreparably broken. He's probably already to grown to change his ways.

If you can't tolerate him now, imagine how he will be once he's REALLY comfortable?

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I agree about the drug/alcohol thing. That's why he's never met my son and especially why I can't see a future.

I appreciate you making it simple for me. I do try too hard to rationalize things when some things just are and there's nothing one can do about them.

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Just let em down easy....

— I do worry about him flipping on me

Posted by justagirl

Posted by WarAngel1
Amputation, pure and simple. Anything less and they cling.

I can time my watch to the exact number of months they reappear. If you let a little light in, they will wiggle their way back in.

If they become a pain in the ass, you cannot flinch. You must be emotionally stronger than they are. Most times, they love you more once you treat them like shit. It's confusing as fuck, lol!

I love crab meat, but sometimes....jeez.

sooo fucking true.

i HAD to burn the bridge, slam the door and nail the fooker shut.

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How, though?

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Just let em down easy....

Deaddddd

Posted by Shadowcat

Posted by confusedlibra78
It's hard. I don't hate him despite him purposely trying to hurt me. I'd actually like to be friends. Don't know if that's possible. I just can't figure out which of his transgressions to use as the reason. The fact that he's never once complimented me or told me what he feels about me? The fact that he insulted me? The fact that we don't have sex enough? The fact that he's a drug addict and alcoholic?

You're incompatible. That should be the only reason you need.

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I know this probably seems like a dumb question, but when I broke up with a Leo I told him reasons why and he told me my reasons didn't make sense and were stupid. Trying to avoid that.

Posted by confusedlibra78

Posted by justagirl

Posted by WarAngel1
Amputation, pure and simple. Anything less and they cling.

I can time my watch to the exact number of months they reappear. If you let a little light in, they will wiggle their way back in.

If they become a pain in the ass, you cannot flinch. You must be emotionally stronger than they are. Most times, they love you more once you treat them like shit. It's confusing as fuck, lol!

I love crab meat, but sometimes....jeez.

sooo fucking true.

i HAD to burn the bridge, slam the door and nail the fooker shut.

How, though?

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It's a very long story and yes he came back years later, we tried again and then i had to cut it off completely. If he tries to come back again, it won't happen. Bascially i used my anger to become indifferent to his charms. There is more to it but rather not lay it all out. You have to stand strong and behind your choices.

Posted by confusedlibra78
The time has come. Going to break up with my bf. He made insulting, passive aggressive comments to me for no reason that I'm aware of and I'm not getting anything out of the relationship. How do I do it so:

A) I don't get sucked back in

B) He doesn't throw a tantrum or become nasty

C) Explain why in a kind way

A) Channel your Scorp Mars. It can be ruthless when you've made a decision. Then again...your a Leeb so...😛

B) You can't control that. You know it's coming, so it shouldn't have any power to break your resolve.

C) When you break up with someone, no amount of kindness softens the blow. Just don't stoop to his level if he gets nasty and keep it moving.