My pisces man won't open up to me

Hello,

This is my first post..yay 🙂

ok, so here is the thing:

I am an Aries, and I'm very attracted to this Pisces guy. He is a typical Pisces: kind, warm, gentle, very attractive, and...you know how they are... extremely charming and easily lovable.

so, everything is going great between us...or at least that's what i thought...He always says the right things, he is always polite, and just adorable..but he never opens up to me. like, i tell him so much personal stuff, but he doesn't...and i feel that he is trying to open up, but very subtly...like, when we are talking online, he sometimes mentions something personal, but immediately changes the subject so we don't go too deep into it.

and lately he has been kind of avoiding me...like, we live far from each other, so we mostly talk online, and when he is online, i drop everything that im doing just to talk to him, and i want him to be the same way towards me..but he isn't..it's like he's always too busy to talk to me...even at 2 in the morning...and lately, whenever i try to talk to him, he tells me that he's gonna watch a movie (not like he's in the middle of watching a movie, but he is gonna chose to go, and start watching a movie instead of staying and talking to me)...and then i asked him...i was like "did i do something wrong?" and he was like "are you crazy? you have absolutely nothing to do with it, i'm just feeling weird lately and i'm in this angry mood...and i don't talk to you because i don't want me to start and argument with you"...so i was like, ok..i'll give him some time to sort things out...but...i feel kind of left out..because, if somehing is bothering him, he should be able to talk to me about it right? we should fix it TOGETHER..

anyway....i just want some opinions from Pisces men...oh and one more thing...we are just flirting with each other...we never declared that we were like a couple or anything like that...and i also feel like he means more to me than i do to him....and i have all these questions that i want to ask him..like, what are we? and are we just fooling around or is it real? am i going too fast? but i don't wanna do that, cuz i know he'll get scared and freaked out, and go distant agan (as if he already isn't)....i know it's just a flirt, and i shouldn't feel so obsessed with him so early in the relationship...but...OH! i don't know... as an aries, i'm happy when i know things...exactly what they are..where we are going, etc. .i hate being confused li

OMG, thank you soo much.. I totally understand now. If it's really not me, and if he just wants to be away from EVERYBODY, then it's cool. I can give him all the space he needs...

thanks again

Merry Christmas to you too 🙂

Not male, but, a Fish nevertheless ... and I would have to 3rd the motion that Pisces people require this space, and that we dont' share 100 % with our partners.


AriesGirlie, here's something to think about ... Pisces are fiercely independent, and in so being, we look to ourselves pretty much exclusively to make our decisions. We ask others for input at times, and usually eagerly listen .. but, when it comes to making a conclusion, we doso purely solo.

So, if your man is trying to come to terms with something in his life, then he probably isn't going to run it by you until after he's made a decision. I do that all the time .. I'll tell my husband what I've decided to do, not ask him what I should do, or how he would handle soemthing, or anything during the time of trying to decide.

He gets informed after the fact, after I've figured my issue out.


And another thing .. it is true that we distant everybody .. everybody. When we have to dive deep down into our waters to sort something out in our life ... we normally stop contact with all people .. friends, family.

So, don't freak out .. what he's doing is perfectly normal for our kind.

Thank you so much, everybody! Your advices have really helped me...and I kinda talked to him about this...like VEEERY subtly...I didn't wanna seem too weird...so i asked him in a matter-of-fact kinda way, if everything was all right with him...and we talked it over, and now we are cool as a cucumber...thanks again! I mean, he hasn't changed..he's still a little distant and stuff, but he does other good things that make up for that 🙂 and now that i know that the reason behind his such behavior has nothing to do with me, i'm not worried any more

Happy Holidays!

OMG Guys, you'll never guess what happened today....he showed me one of his personal writings...like he told me that when he's said, sometimes he like to write his feelings down..so i asked him if i could read one of his stuff..and he actually showed me one...i was like..WOW, finally he is opening up

If he doesn't open up to you...open up to him and scare him to death..ha!

Aries and Pisces....I always wondered how that would work out.
My bestfriend Pisces likes abuse, I swear. I always thought an Aries would be good for him. Someone to smack him around a little and talk to him like a baby at the same time. 🙂

MM, for real? I understand if HE doesn't wanna open up, but now I can't open up to him either? that's so weird. fish are weird...so they don't wanna talk about their problems and they don't wanna listen to other's problems either? never heard of that

Here's the problem that arises, AriesGirlie .....


We are really good listeners because our empathy, our ability to FEEL very deeply of other peoples emotions is a natural talent ... so, a Piscean lives a life of being a dumping garden for other people. Most people are too busy or selfish or lack the ability to actually be able to feel others ...... so, people learn real quick that they can go to a Fish to dump their feelings on them, and the Fish WILL actually be able to relate .. not pretend to understand .. actually understand because we can "feel" it with you.

Over time, usually by the time we reach around 14 or 15, we become very exhausted in dealing with this .... because now people only come to us with problems.

It would be nice if people would come with joy, with elation ..... but, no ... people come with problems. People are extremely selfish in this department and pretty much don't realize it .... when they find a person who can relate to their problems and actually LISTENS no matter how much you cry ... this person then becomes your dumping garden and it's the ONLY time you contact this person >>> Pisceans.

So, like I said, over time, we learn to be protective about this, so we won't get sucked dry ... and have gained the ability through eons of evolution to have the ability to detach away from emotions if we choose to .... and we choose to if we feel like we are becoming a release mechanism for another persons bad energy.

And with this, we are leary of releasing our issues with another person because if we do that, if we tell you about our troubles, then this might give you a suggestion that it's ok for you to use us to vent out your troubles ... and if we allow you to vent out your troubles to us, then we are at risk for becoming your dumping garden of just darkness, without any light, as we've experienced with most relations.


So, this is why this problem of opening up is present in us. The way to reach us is by not just inflicting your darkness upon us ... also, share the light.

If alls you have to share is your problems ... then the Fish WILL disconnect any relevancy that you have importance >>> swim.

Hey Ariesgirl..I was just kinda throwing that out there..lol..I don't know how to deal with anyone that doesn't open up. Haven't the patience for those kind..Am an honest upfront kinda person. Those kind stupid ass games make me angry especially pisces men.

Good luck with him. haven't seen too many aries/pisces couples in all honesty...Aries and cancer yes but not pisces..Well never say never as they say...

With Aries and Pisces communication - in the pisces soaking up Aries opening up...

Aries doesn't dwell on the dark or see the pessimistic side of things like Pisces can tap into. I'm not sure if Pisces fully understands that Aries will never go to those depths emotionally...Aries will rationalize their emotions in the end and look towards the next ray of light.
The same way Aries may not realise how deeply whatever they dumped affects Pisces...

This causes a lot of the distancing action I notice with this combo.

If Pisces attempts to swim, Aries attempts to pursue, conquer causing fish to further go away...
If Aries attempts to move away from or ignore past hurts or errors, Pisces can view it as over childishness and attempt to correct Aries error >>> because they feel Aries error differently from Aries feels it --- Aries does not like correction >>> Aries get more distant...

They're both emotionally expressive signs, the risk of over-emoting is very high --- plus Aries lives for the here and now or future excitement so they know the bad times won't last EVER in their minds 🙂 Pisces the fish swimming into the past, present, future, fantasy can feel so many things...

So the bottom line to my rambling, AriesG, you two will have very 2 different definitions of 'opening up' - if he wants to swim, let him swim, you will probably have to tap into your cheerleader role a lot more with him to help him out of his moods i.e. less dumping emotionally on him - as you can regenerate quicker than him...

I absolutely agree that most Aries and Pisces don't realize this about each other .. but, I also know that with the awareness present, these two people are soulmates.

There's no question in my mind about this, and my mind questions nearly everything.

lol your mind sounds like my mind - no freaking boundaries !

Wait, so in very simple terms, let's say I tell him that I just had a fight with my best friend, and that my dad is having an affair (not true...just hypothetically speaking)..all these things will be on his mind too? even if they are NOT his problems? so by telling him about MY problems, i make those HIS problems too?

also, I really want this relationship to work...like he is perfect in every other way..and i don't care what they say about Aries and Pisces not being able to be together.. opening-up issue is the only problem we have...and i'm prepared to deal with that...i'll give him space if that's what he needs, and i'll try to balance the positive and negative information that i give him..oh, and he is SLOWLY starting to open up, so i'm happy so far.

Guys, I have another question regarding pisces.

So I've read that Pisces like to compliment people a lot. And you might THINK that they are flirting but in reality they might just be friendly. So how can you tell if the compliments are supposed to be flirty or just a friendly thing?

I do not want to get a wrong impression, that's why i'm asking. I mean, if it was any other guys (sign) i would assume it's flirting, but with this one i'm not sure because they say pisces always "flirt" without meaning anything with it.

Well from being around a Pisces guy I find that they are kind of passive and possibly like a stronger woman. Patience is the key. Being easy going probably puts them at ease. Remember always respect him and his space he probably likes to daydream alot or get drunk/do drugs. If he likes to do something go along. I like this Pisces guy and he is so weird and I show my affection by coming by and hanging out w/ him once a week. Accept him don't criticize him. Others probably do this nonstop. He may tell some tall tales or believe strange things and have maybe outlandish dreams don't make fun of him. He thinks this stuff is serious. If he is ready he might flirt a little try to start something once he decides to have you in his life. However they can be indecisive. Also remember be sensitive towards him and how he feels. He can probably read your mind and knows what you are thinking! Their 6th sense is uncanny I have never seen anything like this! Return his warmth I read somewhere Pisces needs someone like Wendy from Peter Pan...she listens and she's kind. They like tranquility it seems. Don't be loud and obnoxious there is another girl that likes him that he avoids because she is bossy and treats him like a 2 yr old. But she too has got it bad. Did he invite you to play video games with him yet? lol

I notice Pisces doesn't want to get hurt so they are subtle w/ the flirting. 0You almost can't tell if they are really flirting. But if he tries to touch you in certain ways or by accident in some places or his eyes linger on your body or if his eyes sparkle/twinkle when he's talking to you. Or if he gets jealous when another guy is around or if he wants to come over to your house so you can adopt him or he takes your things and keeps them w/ him. Pisces is subtle you almost have to be on their wavelength to understand them almost get in touch w/ your spiritual side or something. I used to talk alot about myself to Pisces and now I don't talk as much because I am listening with all my senses. If you listen and have empathy like they do you might stand out compared to most people. Pisces being very caring probably try to solve other people's problems all day.

Briana about the smacking around is this a Pisces thing? This Pisces guy I've know for 7 months now asks me to hit him frequently and he seems so sweet I couldn't. I didn't want to do it but he got someone else to do it and he enjoyed it almost! And now he likes to play this game where he hits my hands really hard and then it is my turn to hit him. I also notice he is careless w/ his body. He seems very physical I hear his head smack the floor and am surprised that his head didn't crack open. The day we met he was on the floor and was twitching? I didn't know him well but a girl that worked there who looked bored told me 'He does that' as if this was all normal for him. So strange Pisces but so charming who can resist?

^Lol. I didn't mean literally. But maybe you're right.
My bestfriend was a Pisces (we are not talking at the moment) but he loves abuse - I swear.
I mean, he likes strong personalities and women with a little bit of an attitude but with a sweet side.

Posted by AriesGirlie
Guys, I have another question regarding pisces.

So I've read that Pisces like to compliment people a lot. And you might THINK that they are flirting but in reality they might just be friendly. So how can you tell if the compliments are supposed to be flirty or just a friendly thing?

I do not want to get a wrong impression, that's why i'm asking. I mean, if it was any other guys (sign) i would assume it's flirting, but with this one i'm not sure because they say pisces always "flirt" without meaning anything with it.

I don't know about the compliment part...from my experience, they tease you more when they like you.
But also, you'll get more attention from them, in general. They get really protective of you, for one (apparently they are the only ones allowed to tease you.)
And also, I've noticed, they will start doing really considerate things for you. Like bring you your favorite snack, burn you a CD with your favorite songs. They start showering you with gifts - but not stupid material things like candy and flowers - stuff that would mean something to you and make you smile. (My friend once wrote me this list of ten reasons why I was the coolest girl he knew and even drew little diagrams. It was so cute.)

Hi I've really enjoyed all your comments and suggestions about the pisces aries relationship. If it wasn't for you I would have written this guy off.
A pisces guy found me on FB and told me how is looking for love(and to live with a woman) he travels alot due to his work. The way he idealizes love....well I am in love with him, it was the 3rd letter and I'm falling for him. Well to make a long story short..I have invited him to come and live with me..I wrote him a kind of a love story about him. He really liked it. Thank you so much for reassuring me to give him space cuz it drives me wild not to hear from him. Also very intriguing, though instead of a guys I'm used to coming on so strong...I've always hated that. I love that depthness, and escapism from the world. It makes me high to hear him idealize love...it's so beautiful! I am protecting my heart so I don't get hurt...I just want the best for him. God what a dolly! I hope he comes to live with me.