Pisces Man and Cancer Women

Im a 36 year old Pisces male and I was recently dating a cancer women. Im from Ny and she was from Georgia we had talked for a couple of weeks and decided we would soon meet. However my dad was involved in a bad car accident in Alabama so I called her and said im thinking of flying into Georgia and renting a car and driving to see my dad in alabama because flights were much cheaper to fly into Georgia and she said you can just use my car i said your more then welcome to come if you feel comfortable with meeting my family so soon and she said no id love to. So needless to say things moved fast but everything was great we hung out and it was like I knew her forever, instant connection like we were dating for years we both felt it. So when we went to go see my dad in alabama she met my family and before we went into house she had to have a drink she would keep tequila in a water bottle and take some sips throughout the day to deal with her anxiety and stress because she didnt have insurance and couldnt afford therapy so that is how she dealt with it. I said to her if i find you therapy that is reasonably priced and you can afford it will you go to get help for the anxiety instead of drinking because that only makes it worse and she said yes. So now fast forward couple weeks later and she is out with her friends and I happened to ask is it necessary for you to get drunk everytime you go out, because when she does the next day she complains she doesnt feel good and her whole attitude is weird she said your controlling and telling me not to drink I told her I dont care if you drink I just dont want to date someone who every time they go out they have to drink to get drunk. So we get passed this and she comes to visit me in NY i pick her up at the airport and everything is great we spend the day in the city and around 330 or so she says I need a drink so she goes to liquor store and gets bottle of tequila and pours it in a cup and starts drinking it. I dont say anything and now the following day she has a sales appointment so we are on way to appointment and she says im nervous and stressed i need a drink and starts drinking tequila right from the bottle in my car. So I finally got fed up and said I cant do this anymore I dont want to date someone that uses alcohol to deal with an underlying issue which in her case in a bad anxiety disorder and possibly alcohlism because she said he mom is an alcoholic. I was supposed to move to Georgia and go to school there. In any event Ive cried my eyes out because I really love her and she said if i found her a place to get help that was cheap she would go and now she is saying she never said that. So I was very polite and I ended things nice being calm and she is flipping out cursing me out telling me what a horrible person I am. She did our birth chart and said if we ever broke up we would get back together again. We are the closest signs and relate to each other so much. Will we recover from this? Thanks!

Arielle thats exactly what I thought. She blames it on her anxiety which I know is an issue for her but she said she would get help if I found a reasonably priced place which I did in her town. She thought I was telling her to stop drinking and I would never control anyone or tell them what or what they can and cannot do. She told me when we had deep personal discussion that she would be willing to see someone to help with the anxiety i offered to pay for the first couple sessions and now her whole attitude changed. She was staying at my house and when I broke up with her I told her I loved her so much and I was crying because I honestly though she would be the one id marry, I was totally in love never met anyone like her and then I started to see more signs of the drinking. So when I went to go drop her off at her dads she was screaming at me the whole way telling me how I ruined her trip and just screaming at me like a lunatic. As we were on the way to her dads she says to me stop at the liquor store I was thinking she is joking just trying to piss me off so i stopped at store not thinking she would get out and she did get out went into store got a bottle and came right back out. Now today she just keep cursing at me telling me what a horrible person I am etc etc etc. My other question was I know pisces and cancer are very close and when she did our birth chart she said we will always be very close and continue to talk even if we ever split up. I would like to keep her in my life if possible. I guess right now the best thing to do would be to leave her alone and let her see that her actions have consequences. Do you think she will keep in contact or should i just write her off and forget about it. I know cancer women are very controlling and unforgiving etc this is what she told me. The things Ive read about cancers some just isnt her alot is but some isnt I guess that due to the alcohol? Just curious what I should expect from a break up with a cancer? Will I never hear from her again or is she the type to eventually realize she had a great guy and I just want her to get help because I care not because Im trying to control her

Thanks infinite. She was telling me after I broke up with her how I dont care about her and I started crying in the car because I care for her more then she could even imagine and I just think that like a typical alcoholic she is playing the victim card and trying to put it all back on me. She means the world to me and if she called me right now id drop everything to help her but I guess thats not the right thing. It just sucks

Addicts never take blame. It's always someone else's fault. That's not her though it's her disease. I've learned a lot being an ex whatever we were's sponsor. He still has a long way to go.

You're absolutely right infinite. When I dropped her off at her dads she had me pull down his block and didnt tell me which house was his because she said I dont want you coming here to drop stuff off for me or causing drama and I said I would never do anything like that and she started to take her stuff out and I said babe can you please get back in car and ill bring your luggage up to the door and drop you off like a gentleman i dont want your dad to think i just dropped you off in middle of street and she started to scream at me on a residential block all types of obscenities and told me to get back on the f'ing car so thats what did and I did try to talk to her and tell her I love her which I tell her all the time and she says if I loved her I wouldnt criticize her and control her and tell her to stop drinking. She wont answer my calls when I tried to call her and clear the air but when she calls me If i dont answer she gets pissed off. Its her way or no way. All I can do is pray for her and hope for the best but she went and told her dad I was controlling and god only knows what else. I know the truth and i guess thats all that matters. I just hope she gets the help she needs and sees how much I care for her.

Infinite when we first met I told her my dad was an alcoholic and I didnt want to deal with that in my life anymore and she said she didnt have a problem she just used alcohol to deal with her stress and anxiety which im finding out now appears to be a lie. She said she would see someone but she didnt have insurance so I said if I find you someone that is reasonably priced would you go and she said yes. I said when I come down there I will find someone. I was supposed to go down there in may after school ended and i was doing my next semester online and if all worked out when I was there I was going to stay, thats why I was taking online classes so if it didnt work out I could come home. I did research and found her 4 or 5 counselors and drs in her town that dealt with anxiety and alcohol issues among other things and they were fairly cheap and reasonable they had a sliding scale fee for people without insurance and I told her I would pay for the first couple visits. Now mind you she makes more then me at this point because im in school full time and cant work full time yet I was willing to pay for the first couple visits. I guess that the pisces. But in any event I gave her the information today and she said thanks and then proceeded to call me obnoxious and to worry about myself and stop trying to control her among all the other nasty things she had to say about me. I really held back and she kept jabbing at me over and over and over and i snuck a nasty remark in which made me feel horrible but she kept pushing and pushing trying to get me to explode and i did a little. But I did the research for her and everything and now the balls in her court. I can only hope she sees one day that i wasnt trying to control her just wanted her to get the help she needs to be a better person. I hope one day I can have her back in my life but if not I guess i can chalk it up to a learning experience. I just wonder sometimes why god put her in my life, what was the reason for it. But I have a tendency to over think and over analyze and I beat myself up questioning if I made the right choice, i know I did but I have to forget about it for now pray for her and if its ever meant to be it will be.

Can anyone here that commented tell me about Pisces thats my sign I was born Feb 19th. I read that Pisces keep their feelings in and dont really tell people how they feel. Is this a common thing for pisces because im the opposite and I tell everyone how I feel and I forgive easily and try to save everyone and usually forget about myself. I guess you can say im co dependent and maybe thats something I need to get help for. I went above and beyond to try to save her and thats my fault. I guess maybe I should of just ran away and left her alone and worried about myself. I tend to care to much and always want to be there for everyone. She text me this morning telling her thank you for ruining her trip and calling me more names and told me to stay out of her life. I told her I will stay out of her life and that I havent text you so why do you continue to text me. I told her im sorry if you feel like i ruined your trip that wasnt my intention and I said I wish you the best in all your endeavors goodbye and that was it. But she is the one texting me, is this what im going to deal with because she is a cancer? She told me when she did out birth chart to see our compatibility that we were 2 of the best signs to be together and we will always be in communication no matter what. Will she always be in my life somehow or do I need to block her?

Thank you Sensitive Blues, makes alot of sense and you're right.

Aw Jason. You cannot save this woman. Also, why have you accepted this unacceptable behavior from her. No person should ever be able to get away with verbal abuse like this. Set boundaries darling or you are going to find yourself a few years down the road feeling beat up and spent. It's very sweet that you understand her and want to help. But you have to set firm boundaries of what you will and will not accept. You deserve so much more.

Go find a lovely woman that lifts your spirits. Bring that into your life, not this toxic BS.

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Like a sucker that I am she needs a ride to the airport so I said ok. So she calls me this morning and says don't talk to me about what happened or try to change me I don't want to hear a f'ng thing. She said you ruined my whole trip. She chews me out doesn't let me get a word in edge wise and then says I'll text you where I want you to pick me up. I'm thinking about not even picking her up and letting her figure it out, but I feel bad. Should I just forget about it and go on with my day and let her worry about herself. I know the answer I just need reinforcement I guess