Venus square Neptune natal and synastry

can someone share their experience of dealing with venus square neptune either in their natal cart and synastry? I have heard/ read that it causes a lot of hardships in love relationships anyone have any experience with this aspect?

it does cause hardships. because neptune aspects involve illusion and disillusionment. it's slippery. you can't tell what you feel, or what they feel, and you each question yourselves a lot, and you jump to massive conclusions on the slightest thing. let's say someone seems totally in love with you, and you've fallen hard. then they don't call when they say they will, so you decide they are a filthy liar who's been stringing you along. and maybe they are, or maybe their phone died. but you'll never really know.

even the "good" aspects like sextile and trine seem to be bad when neptune gets involved.

for example, my mom (leo w gemini moon) and dad (taurus w cap moon)fell really hard for each other when they met...possibly also facilitated by conjuct leo ascendants, but especially because they had a ton of neptune aspects. it was all romance and horniness (i wish i didn't know about that part). they moved in together fast, got engaged fast, got married fast, got knocked up fast. and things fell apart so fucking fast. when she got pregnant, it changed her hormones and killed her libido, and all his cute romantic gestures fell away. no more writing her poems or cooking dinner and stuff. he felt like she lied to him. and in reality, he had lied to her because he had fully expected her to do the bulk of the housework once they were married, and had only done it to win her over. and he was a homebody, and he went out with her everywhere expecting her to settle down and be a homebody too once they married. oops. they split up when i was about 1. divorced when i was 3. it was fine for me, since i don't remember any of it, but you can see all of their problems in their chart.

Hey thanks CV; that example of your parents seems spot on.

I have a partner and we have this aspect: I found this to be true, I am working hard on this (I am Venus):

The square, quincunx, and opposition aspects of Venus and Neptune in synastry generally emphasize the vacillating and withdrawing theme of Venus-Neptune described above. Venus needs to be aware that if he or she falls in love with a romantic ideal instead of his or her real partner, Neptune will most likely retreat. Venus may go through periods of excessive trusting of the partner and swing to excessive fear that the partner cannot be trusted. The emotional rollercoaster can be unbearable if Venus rides on it for too long. Neptune must be extra careful not to promise more than he or she can deliver, in an attempt to make Venus feel better, remembering that "errors of omission" count as misleading. Neptune might have a hard time dealing with Venus directly, especially because it doesn't seem that Venus will listen to reason or even wants to see reality.

Lol at the seeing reality part!

Ugh, I hate when I answer a post that is 5 months old...

Lady, it was not a wasted effort, the same issue is back in my life. love and illusion, such sweet agony! thanks for your input!

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