When the Shell is better than the Real Wolrd

For you watery types, what happens when the shell, rock, or whatever you call your away space is better than the real world?

I'm currently one foot in and one foot out. The slightest thing can send me all the way in. Example I'm coping with my break up and I soo didn't want this to end. So I shut down and I don't answer calls or texts. My daughter is with her grandparents until school starts and I'm always home watching shows. Once I have a good snack and a great list of shows lined up... All the parties and gatherings don't even phase me. And that alone time is far more exciting than being out with friends.... It's safe too. I attempted to head out one day and although I'm not insecure I wasn't too comfy with what I had on and it was a bad hair day. I quickly felt depressed and wanted to go back to my shell... I wasn't prepared to step out but I tried to just to mingle and not sit home and mope.....

Posted by Ssasy
I'm currently one foot in and one foot out. The slightest thing can send me all the way in. Example I'm coping with my break up and I soo didn't want this to end. So I shut down and I don't answer calls or texts. My daughter is with her grandparents until school starts and I'm always home watching shows. Once I have a good snack and a great list of shows lined up... All the parties and gatherings don't even phase me. And that alone time is far more exciting than being out with friends.... It's safe too. I attempted to head out one day and although I'm not insecure I wasn't too comfy with what I had on and it was a bad hair day. I quickly felt depressed and wanted to go back to my shell... I wasn't prepared to step out but I tried to just to mingle and not sit home and mope.....

I am really identifying with what you wrote.

Posted by Curiousram
For me my "shell" always seems to be better than the real world..

all the time?

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Posted by Ssasy
I'm currently one foot in and one foot out. The slightest thing can send me all the way in. Example I'm coping with my break up and I soo didn't want this to end. So I shut down and I don't answer calls or texts. My daughter is with her grandparents until school starts and I'm always home watching shows. Once I have a good snack and a great list of shows lined up... All the parties and gatherings don't even phase me. And that alone time is far more exciting than being out with friends.... It's safe too. I attempted to head out one day and although I'm not insecure I wasn't too comfy with what I had on and it was a bad hair day. I quickly felt depressed and wanted to go back to my shell... I wasn't prepared to step out but I tried to just to mingle and not sit home and mope.....

I am really identifying with what you wrote.

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When you're hurt being alone isn't too bad.

It depends on the type of hurt it is... And I guess the person you are.

My wanting to be in my shell is simply because I know who I want and no one else will do. I also know anyone else will annoy be just because I'm not ready.
dealing with myself and thoughts are safe. Anyone on the outside interrupting how I feel will either make things worse or just not good for me at the moment.

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Posted by Curiousram
For me my "shell" always seems to be better than the real world..

all the time?

It seems like it, im pretty anti social for an Aries my cancer is pretty dominant. I'll go out every once in awhile on a date or something but typically home is a safer place for me. Don't get me wrong going out can be super fun but i just been in this bleh state for a very long time. Every once and awhile ill go hang out with my close friends

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I can relate. You only do things when you feel like it.

Posted by Impulsv
We disappear for a long time.

even when I told you thats its just nice 2 be around ppl. Right now, im scared I will just sit in a corner and look odd.

Posted by KVZZMIR11
...and I live inside a skull to be more specific.

So your skull is your shell?

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Posted by Impulsv
We disappear for a long time.

even when I told you thats its just nice 2 be around ppl. Right now, im scared I will just sit in a corner and look odd.

I can relate aswell.... i think its self esteem/self worth problems. I feel people are out to get me and honestly acting like that people will sense that you are and it will make you an easy target

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hmm.

Yeah, pretty much every day is a good day to shell myself.

I come back from work and just relax, work on one of my obsessions (wich are all music related).

Socially wise, it actually helps me a lot. Because the more time I get to be alone, the more I'll be 'eager' (but not really) to socialize when friday/saturday comes.