why would virgo make slow steps after 3 years—?

Hello, so i have been writing here about my past experiences with Virgo who actually turned out to be an a--sshole and a Leo - that actually faded away from my life ( he made me a favour but was very fast and didntw ant to wait started ignoring me later and our even friendship just faded away- so i ignored him as well).

Virgo haunts very slowly. I remember about 3-3.5 year ago that Virgo started to 'see'me on social media, liked my pics very slowly, he builded the ground very slowly.He changes gfs very often being with one and delicately 'pokes' other girls on social medial. He sees who comments on his pics, he sees who is available and so one.

With him it didnt work out because he just wanted to sleep with me haunting on me more than 6 months. But then didnt want to do anything, ignored me , didnt respond on my messages, didnt say hi in a company and so one.

I finally ignored him after 1 year of chasing him and i let it go. I started doing my own thing and he came back silently asked me for come back but i ignored him and he started to be proud, started to make bad comments about me. When saw me with other men he gossiped about our life, he made a bad PR to me.

So i went abroad, let him go. I did my thing and i deleted him from every social media excluding fb.



So when i was abroad he was liking my pics, made a company instagram account and started following me plus liking my pics. He has usually gfs for 5-6 months.

When i came back in august i saw him twice - i didnt care, i let it go in my mind. Didnt worry, i cut the contact.

When i saw him twice he was scared, like he would remember, like he would analyse or was curious about me. Started spying me from other accounts on social media, was chesking me ( i know because iknow who rules some company instagram and so one- only him , he has only access).

I didnt care. I was analysing Leo myself. As you know. It didnt work out with him. I started doing my other things, people let me into some cool projects next year . We are woking hard on that.

So things were going smoothly until last week. When I saw that Virgo has a new gf, older a bit, his style . also parties with him, known in his environment and so one.

I didnt care , just saw pics on fb.

So i let it go, i started analysing and adding myself to the events that Leo was going to, so my mind was full of Leo and my work. I didnt care about anyone else.

Last week virgo started adding me on other social media that i deleted him more than 1 year ago.

and I am curious if he wants to have a contact with me because in the future he wants me or its just a friendzone and he actually doesnt want to burn bridges.



I must say that i burnt bridges with him very quickly, i didnt care- he didnt want me i was chasing him so he will never have me. And i made a silence between us.

Its more than 2,5 years after our romance.



And i am curious, why would he like my pics, why would he add me again to social media? after so long?

He wants to remain friends? or it is just his tactics to TEST me and see if i am changed or not?

Thanks,

Joanne

Posted by Earthgoddess
issa Test

issa?

Posted by Earthgoddess
issa Test

ok now i get it.

sorry i didnt know the phase 'issa' 😛

so how i should react? let him into my life or not

ok thank you.

Posted by TomSawyer
Lol

This dude is the definition of a go-getter

"I let him/it go", " I didn't care" ..."whatever"

Yet here you are.



- No, I doubt he wants to be friends.

Guys don't work like that.

o so how should i react?

i mean , how would you know if he doesnt want to be friends?

i know he has someoe now.

he never gets rejected. he always gets what he wants.

and i was only one who rejected him.

but it was complicated. i was too immature as well.

it didnt work. bad communication.

really bad with him.

if he starts testing me how would i work it out?

i do not respond on anything. i do not do nothing.

but i still think somewherein the corner of my mind.

ok what do you suggest on doing with other guy Leo?

i think he is immature or he just like things fast and he just played with me.

i am not that fast even though i am aries. i always think then move when it comes to relationships. i dont wanna get hurt and dont wanna hurt anyone.

before i didnt think.

so with leo things were more simple. we flirted before even when i was abroad. he helped me did a favour to me. was very nice and gentelman - then things turned out when i came back and i started showing the attention to him. he immediately turn back like i would propose to him or sth.

like hewould bscared. i was just being nice!!!! andnormal.

so i started to ignore him. and when i did he wanted my attention.

finally nothing was between us but i wonder why.

If I was you, I wouldn't open a window for him.

He's not ready for it...yet.

yea but how can i know he is ready—

im 27 they are 28 😛

i know, sounds childish

Posted by TomSawyer

Posted by joanne_p
im 27 they are 28 😛

i know, sounds childish

Hmm okay.

So if the Virgo dude is a combo of being handsome, having money etc.

He won't probably change that easy.

/fast.

He simply wouldn't have a reason to.

If on the other hand he tries and tries to get with you and understands that none of his tactics are working, then maybe it'll humble him enough for him to slow down and cut the manipulations/games.

Then again, this might include an ulterior motive in which case it'll be just another facade.

Be careful tho.

Just a few signs he's "calmed down".

-disappears for a while and comes back more relaxed

-doesn't obsess over you so much

-"acts" understanding

Basically you should be able to see the signs for your self.



Regarding the Leo.



From what you've explained, basically this dude's only crime was that he went about it too fast.

If he did you a favor, think about it, he might have a good heart.

Perhaps he was just eager to get with you

and when you pulled back, it hurt his ego(remember what I said about mens egos?)

So he went kinda cold.



Tbh, I won't suggest anything, it's your call.

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ok thank you again.

virgo is not famous or rich or sth. he comes from a traditional family and his dad was a popular person in a city council.

so because of that Virgo thinks he 'CAN' and 'CAN DO MORE'.

so other people when hearing his name are like 'wow', and i am not like that because i also come from a traditional family and i just do not see the difference with the perciving the 'social levels'.

really my dad was in the high school with his mum and our parents have some old friends in common. so i just do not understand the 'drama around him' all th etime.

so actually i have never made a drama or ask him to date me.

i dont know how people treat him like that.

only-child that family put him in the centreof attention.

and now people do the same.

he must be more humble.

because the world doesnt revolve around him. lol.

for me actions and words are most important.



but anyway.

maybe with leo it would be better.

no idea.

before helikes when i waschasing him.

but now i am a bit bored?

i get bored very easily.

with this leo the problem is that he doesnt innitiate. i need to push him.



with virgo - he was the go-getter as you said. and he was making moves. decisions.

like -no virgo 😛 maybe because of his other social placements.

leo had virgo mars and venus- maybe thats why he is shy.

i dont know.

but i am just fed up.



thanks again