So I was high af last night and...

I decided we need a new twin flames discussion. There hasn't been a scorpio man dating post in like forever, nobody complaining about a whiny ass cancer...it's boring.

So but seriously I think this is totally a worthy theory to explore. I still don't know that I subscribe to the split soul theory, but I do believe there's something very real about tfs.

So here's my high ass thought. I believe in reincarnation. What if all the birds/animals that mate for life are twins getting a chance at a lifetime together without all the complications of being human? Or if you hate the twin flame thing, substitute soul mates for twin flames.

I believe that. I truly think everyone you know in your personal life, is an energy that will follow you though every life. They just all play different roles every time. Like when I die and come back into this world, the people I know will still exist in it. Except they will all play different roles in the new timeline. I believe that 100% . The people whose energy you developed a bond with were with you an infinite amount of times before, and an infinite amount of times to come.

Posted by Stardustmopped
So you mean if I want a man to love me for a whole lifetime I gotta come back as a fockin beaver and build dams and shit

😭😭😭

That sounds like a very fulfilling life style . Imagine slapping the water with your big ole tail.

i once read somewhere that humans can only come back as humans. and animals can only come back as animals. dunno if it’s true. i don’t believe in reincarnation though cuz i haven’t seen any solid proof.

i think the concept of soulmates is wonderful and inspires hope for many people though. i’m a huge sucker for romance and those corny ass hallmark movies 😂

but yeah as far as twinflames/soulmates go,

i’ve never really liked going down these types of spiritual rabbit holes too much. mainly cuz i’ve known people who’ve wasted years and years believing someone is a soulmate/a twinflame only to come away with nothing but shattered illusions in the end.

i think it’s dangerous to over-romanticize things before you have solid proof that the other person is actually into you/serious about you.

a rule of thumb is: if someone is continuously showing up for you and you are also showing up for them, then *that* might be a soulmate connection worth getting excited over.

but i can’t possibly imagine obsessing over someone whom i haven’t even dealt with that closely or someone who is inconsistent in my life. (like, here one day, gone the next) 🤷‍♂️

even the dude i’m married to right now, i didn’t start caring too much about him until i had enough proof that he was here to stay.

don’t get me wrong. outwardly, i acted like i was in love from the get go 😂(showering him with compliments, swooping into his life like aladdin coming to pick up jasmine on the magic carpet ready to show him a whole new world and shit like that lmaoo 😂) because i knew that would stroke his ego and make him feel good.

but inwardly, i was like “yo, let me not get too carried away. this mf might be gone this time next year 😂”

he’s still here after 10 years but you get my point.

don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

If you know, you know.

maybe. its hard to grasp that a soul's purpose would be to dedicate its lifetime to serve or be in partnership with a twin flame. it could be for some people but I strongly believe that the soul's journey is mostly alone

Posted by serenidad


don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

Meh, it's not romantic. It's highly frustrating actually, and not in a why can't I just be with person x kind of way either.

I know. As warangel said, if you know, you know. That's the simple truth, that things happen that are beyond the standard human experience and explanations. No matter what anyone else believes or experiences it's something

It's not an attempt at being hopeful or wishful either. Whatever is meant to be, will be, no matter what I think of it.

For me there has been a couple of deep connections like that. Like you meet them and go what the f is going on and it's kind of mutual and magical. As if it was meant to be.

And you teach each other some big lessons.

So I believe in these magical connections that teach you a lesson and help you transform.

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maybe. its hard to grasp that a soul's purpose would be to dedicate its lifetime to serve or be in partnership with a twin flame. it could be for some people but I strongly believe that the soul's journey is mostly alone

Life isn't fun or enjoyable for me alone. I wish it was codependency, cuz I could fix that and be fine. But it's not. Whenever I get in the vibe or just happy in general, I have the desire to share it.

So many things I'd like to do with company.

I've gotten to the point were I said fuck it do it alone and be use to being alone....felt like I was give up a part of myself.

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Posted by MidAtBest
maybe. its hard to grasp that a soul's purpose would be to dedicate its lifetime to serve or be in partnership with a twin flame. it could be for some people but I strongly believe that the soul's journey is mostly alone

Life isn't fun or enjoyable for me alone. I wish it was codependency, cuz I could fix that and be fine. But it's not. Whenever I get in the vibe or just happy in general, I have the desire to share it.

So many things I'd like to do with company.

I've gotten to the point were I said fuck it do it alone and be use to being alone....felt like I was give up a part of myself.

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Awwww *hugs* I hope you find your partner in life to experience the highs and lows together and have that sense of home with one another🤗🤗🤗

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Posted by serenidad
a rule of thumb is: if someone is continuously showing up for you and you are also showing up for them, then *that* might be a soulmate connection worth getting excited over.

I like this. Simple.

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it’s simple and it actually prevents unnecessary heartache. also saves a lot of time and prevents sleepless nights tossing and turning in bed thinking about “how that person or this person feels”.

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Posted by serenidad

don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

Meh, it's not romantic. It's highly frustrating actually, and not in a why can't I just be with person x kind of way either.

I know. As warangel said, if you know, you know. That's the simple truth, that things happen that are beyond the standard human experience and explanations. No matter what anyone else believes or experiences it's something

It's not an attempt at being hopeful or wishful either. Whatever is meant to be, will be, no matter what I think of it.

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frustrating in what way specifically? i’m just trying to understand.

Posted by Stardustmopped
So you mean if I want a man to love me for a whole lifetime I gotta come back as a fockin beaver and build dams and shit

😭😭😭

I don't know man, beavers contributions to the ecosystem and prevention of wildfires are paramount! And that lush fur.... bellissima! 👌

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Posted by serenidad

don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

Meh, it's not romantic. It's highly frustrating actually, and not in a why can't I just be with person x kind of way either.
I know. As warangel said, if you know, you know. That's the simple truth, that things happen that are beyond the standard human experience and explanations. No matter what anyone else believes or experiences it's something
It's not an attempt at being hopeful or wishful either. Whatever is meant to be, will be, no matter what I think of it.

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frustrating in what way specifically? i’m just trying to understand.

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Without rehashing the posts under my old account about it...the simple version is:

Feeling emotions that aren't yours or physical things like being drunk when you're stone sober. Also a big one for me is one I need to work on, but trying to understand WHY and WTF is happening. How do I know things I have no earthly way or reason to know, how can I see what someone else is seeing, why is it happening, how do I make it stop...

In general I'm still glad for it. It kicked off learning and growth. I understand unconditional love much better now. I understand myself better now. But why am I still connected to this other person? Yeah, I love him. But I don't feel incapable of living without him. It was an absolute amazing thing going through it and experiencing it, but I'd like at least some control lol

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Posted by Stardustmopped
So you mean if I want a man to love me for a whole lifetime I gotta come back as a fockin beaver and build dams and shit
😭😭😭

I don't know man, beavers contributions to the ecosystem and prevention of wildfires are paramount! And that lush fur.... bellissima! 👌
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You’re right. Beaver has a dedicated life partner and legacy of environmental impact and I have 🤔 ….dxp 😅 and can’t even let my food cool down enough to not burn my mouth

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Lmao 🤣

See! Sometimes all one needs is a new perspective!

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Posted by serenidad

don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

Meh, it's not romantic. It's highly frustrating actually, and not in a why can't I just be with person x kind of way either.
I know. As warangel said, if you know, you know. That's the simple truth, that things happen that are beyond the standard human experience and explanations. No matter what anyone else believes or experiences it's something
It's not an attempt at being hopeful or wishful either. Whatever is meant to be, will be, no matter what I think of it.
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frustrating in what way specifically? i’m just trying to understand.
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Without rehashing the posts under my old account about it...the simple version is:

Feeling emotions that aren't yours or physical things like being drunk when you're stone sober. Also a big one for me is one I need to work on, but trying to understand WHY and WTF is happening. How do I know things I have no earthly way or reason to know, how can I see what someone else is seeing, why is it happening, how do I make it stop...

In general I'm still glad for it. It kicked off learning and growth. I understand unconditional love much better now. I understand myself better now. But why am I still connected to this other person? Yeah, I love him. But I don't feel incapable of living without him. It was an absolute amazing thing going through it and experiencing it, but I'd like at least some control lol

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so you’re like…psychic? is that what you mean? i don’t know how one stops being a psychic. you might wanna ask another psychic that or try googling how to close your third eye chakra or something. i’m not too sure lol 😅

i wish i had the type of psychic ability that lets me see which horse is gonna win the next race lmaoo 😂

jokes aside,

the guy you love, where is he right now? what is he doing?

maybe he was a karmic soulmate?

a karmic soulmate is apparently someone who comes into your life temporarily to teach you important lessons usually through pain, helps you resolve past life karmas (if you believe in that type of stuff) and then just leaves. it’s apparently not the person you ultimately end up with.

you probably have a real soulmate walking around somewhere/chilling somewhere right now waiting for you to create enough space in your life for him to show up lol 😅 you’ll forget about the karmic gradually when you meet the real deal. you can still be thankful for the experiences you had with the karmic and keep those memories close to you but at the end of the day, if it was meant to be, it would have been. 🤷‍♂️

You can find my old post in metaphysical from years ago. That was at the height of of it and coming to terms with what was going on.

If you are in that "journey", it is very much about you and developing yourself. Your life's purpose.

What is not said....this is a very fluid concept as to what this is and how you express it. It is very much about self expression. Real guides will tell you, it is very much up to you. Free will and the act of creation and shaping your experience is very much part of it. For me, it's very much about others yet, neglecting myself as dragged me down which has had a negative effect on her as well.

Atm, Im getting the impression of being asked what do I want and want to do. Yet, I've already said my piece and what I need for her to keep me. I don't need much from others....Wasn't taken seriously by her. So I'm preparing to make room for and have the recourses for someone else who will show up for me. Who will have room in thier life for me.

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Posted by serenidad

don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

Meh, it's not romantic. It's highly frustrating actually, and not in a why can't I just be with person x kind of way either.
I know. As warangel said, if you know, you know. That's the simple truth, that things happen that are beyond the standard human experience and explanations. No matter what anyone else believes or experiences it's something
It's not an attempt at being hopeful or wishful either. Whatever is meant to be, will be, no matter what I think of it.
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frustrating in what way specifically? i’m just trying to understand.
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Without rehashing the posts under my old account about it...the simple version is:
Feeling emotions that aren't yours or physical things like being drunk when you're stone sober. Also a big one for me is one I need to work on, but trying to understand WHY and WTF is happening. How do I know things I have no earthly way or reason to know, how can I see what someone else is seeing, why is it happening, how do I make it stop...
In general I'm still glad for it. It kicked off learning and growth. I understand unconditional love much better now. I understand myself better now. But why am I still connected to this other person? Yeah, I love him. But I don't feel incapable of living without him. It was an absolute amazing thing going through it and experiencing it, but I'd like at least some control lol
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so you’re like…psychic? is that what you mean? i don’t know how one stops being a psychic. you might wanna ask another psychic that or try googling how to close your third eye chakra or something. i’m not too sure lol 😅

i wish i had the type of psychic ability that lets me see which horse is gonna win the next race lmaoo 😂

jokes aside,

the guy you love, where is he right now? what is he doing?

maybe he was a karmic soulmate?

a karmic soulmate is apparently someone who comes into your life temporarily to teach you important lessons usually through pain, helps you resolve past life karmas (if you believe in that type of stuff) and then just leaves. it’s apparently not the person you ultimately end up with.

you probably have a real soulmate walking around somewhere/chilling somewhere right now waiting for you to create enough space in your life for him to show up lol 😅 you’ll forget about the karmic gradually when you meet the real deal. you can still be thankful for the experiences you had with the karmic and keep those memories close to you but at the end of the day, if it was meant to be, it would have been. 🤷‍♂️

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Not exactly. It's specific to that one person. Ive never experienced any of it before, nor after.

I've had experiences before with things, been sensitive to energy. But nothing like this. I knew when he got high, drunk, broken up with. I literally felt it. Even when I was offline and had no way of knowing it. I've had dreams where we discussed very specific information from his past I learned was true, which I couldn't have known. I've seen a concert he was at, not even knowing he was there until the next day. I could go on.

He's living his life. We're not really close anymore, we used to be. (Not sexually before that come up lol.)

I think it's different than a soulmate. I have a significant other, who I was with before I met my "twin". I wasn't looking for this and hadn't heard of it until I was over a year when I first heard if twin flames.

I don't exactly obsess, I've kept living my life, I don't try to think of him. Things just continue to...happen. it's not as intense as it was though. I'll love him until the day I die, but I don't need to be involved with him.

Anyway, this wasn't really to debate the existence. I completely accept what is with it.

I just got kind of thinking after that 2nd gummy 😂 I think I'm going to believe it's possible that twins met as other animals in other lives. I like that, so why not. It'll be what it'll be either way, and I won't know if it is possible in this life anyway lol

Posted by Lostthoughts
You can find my old post in metaphysical from years ago. That was at the height of of it and coming to terms with what was going on.

If you are in that "journey", it is very much about you and developing yourself. Your life's purpose.

What is not said....this is a very fluid concept as to what this is and how you express it. It is very much about self expression. Real guides will tell you, it is very much up to you. Free will and the act of creation and shaping your experience is very much part of it. For me, it's very much about others yet, neglecting myself as dragged me down which has had a negative effect on her as well.

Atm, Im getting the impression of being asked what do I want and want to do. Yet, I've already said my piece and what I need for her to keep me. I don't need much from others....Wasn't taken seriously by her. So I'm preparing to make room for and have the recourses for someone else who will show up for me. Who will have room in thier life for me.

I think you have the right idea. You need to move forward, with or without them. Besides, what you do for yourself you do for her, so finding happiness for yourself will spread to her.

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Posted by serenidad

don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

Meh, it's not romantic. It's highly frustrating actually, and not in a why can't I just be with person x kind of way either.
I know. As warangel said, if you know, you know. That's the simple truth, that things happen that are beyond the standard human experience and explanations. No matter what anyone else believes or experiences it's something
It's not an attempt at being hopeful or wishful either. Whatever is meant to be, will be, no matter what I think of it.
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frustrating in what way specifically? i’m just trying to understand.
click to expand

Without rehashing the posts under my old account about it...the simple version is:
Feeling emotions that aren't yours or physical things like being drunk when you're stone sober. Also a big one for me is one I need to work on, but trying to understand WHY and WTF is happening. How do I know things I have no earthly way or reason to know, how can I see what someone else is seeing, why is it happening, how do I make it stop...
In general I'm still glad for it. It kicked off learning and growth. I understand unconditional love much better now. I understand myself better now. But why am I still connected to this other person? Yeah, I love him. But I don't feel incapable of living without him. It was an absolute amazing thing going through it and experiencing it, but I'd like at least some control lol
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so you’re like…psychic? is that what you mean? i don’t know how one stops being a psychic. you might wanna ask another psychic that or try googling how to close your third eye chakra or something. i’m not too sure lol 😅
i wish i had the type of psychic ability that lets me see which horse is gonna win the next race lmaoo 😂
jokes aside,
the guy you love, where is he right now? what is he doing?
maybe he was a karmic soulmate?
a karmic soulmate is apparently someone who comes into your life temporarily to teach you important lessons usually through pain, helps you resolve past life karmas (if you believe in that type of stuff) and then just leaves. it’s apparently not the person you ultimately end up with.
you probably have a real soulmate walking around somewhere/chilling somewhere right now waiting for you to create enough space in your life for him to show up lol 😅 you’ll forget about the karmic gradually when you meet the real deal. you can still be thankful for the experiences you had with the karmic and keep those memories close to you but at the end of the day, if it was meant to be, it would have been. 🤷‍♂️

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Not exactly. It's specific to that one person. Ive never experienced any of it before, nor after.

I've had experiences before with things, been sensitive to energy. But nothing like this. I knew when he got high, drunk, broken up with. I literally felt it. Even when I was offline and had no way of knowing it. I've had dreams where we discussed very specific information from his past I learned was true, which I couldn't have known. I've seen a concert he was at, not even knowing he was there until the next day. I could go on.

He's living his life. We're not really close anymore, we used to be. (Not sexually before that come up lol.)

I think it's different than a soulmate. I have a significant other, who I was with before I met my "twin". I wasn't looking for this and hadn't heard of it until I was over a year when I first heard if twin flames.

I don't exactly obsess, I've kept living my life, I don't try to think of him. Things just continue to...happen. it's not as intense as it was though. I'll love him until the day I die, but I don't need to be involved with him.

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oh you have a significant other? that’s great. i think it’ll be more healthier for you to focus on the person who is currently in your life rather than someone who is no longer in your life lol

being in love with two people at once sounds like too much emotional labor for me lol 😂 i don’t like needlessly complicating life lol but good luck nevertheless. certain people come into our lives to teach us something so maybe the encounter with your twin was also useful in some way too.

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Posted by serenidad

don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

Meh, it's not romantic. It's highly frustrating actually, and not in a why can't I just be with person x kind of way either.
I know. As warangel said, if you know, you know. That's the simple truth, that things happen that are beyond the standard human experience and explanations. No matter what anyone else believes or experiences it's something
It's not an attempt at being hopeful or wishful either. Whatever is meant to be, will be, no matter what I think of it.
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frustrating in what way specifically? i’m just trying to understand.
click to expand

Without rehashing the posts under my old account about it...the simple version is:
Feeling emotions that aren't yours or physical things like being drunk when you're stone sober. Also a big one for me is one I need to work on, but trying to understand WHY and WTF is happening. How do I know things I have no earthly way or reason to know, how can I see what someone else is seeing, why is it happening, how do I make it stop...
In general I'm still glad for it. It kicked off learning and growth. I understand unconditional love much better now. I understand myself better now. But why am I still connected to this other person? Yeah, I love him. But I don't feel incapable of living without him. It was an absolute amazing thing going through it and experiencing it, but I'd like at least some control lol
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so you’re like…psychic? is that what you mean? i don’t know how one stops being a psychic. you might wanna ask another psychic that or try googling how to close your third eye chakra or something. i’m not too sure lol 😅
i wish i had the type of psychic ability that lets me see which horse is gonna win the next race lmaoo 😂
jokes aside,
the guy you love, where is he right now? what is he doing?
maybe he was a karmic soulmate?
a karmic soulmate is apparently someone who comes into your life temporarily to teach you important lessons usually through pain, helps you resolve past life karmas (if you believe in that type of stuff) and then just leaves. it’s apparently not the person you ultimately end up with.
you probably have a real soulmate walking around somewhere/chilling somewhere right now waiting for you to create enough space in your life for him to show up lol 😅 you’ll forget about the karmic gradually when you meet the real deal. you can still be thankful for the experiences you had with the karmic and keep those memories close to you but at the end of the day, if it was meant to be, it would have been. 🤷‍♂️
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Not exactly. It's specific to that one person. Ive never experienced any of it before, nor after.
I've had experiences before with things, been sensitive to energy. But nothing like this. I knew when he got high, drunk, broken up with. I literally felt it. Even when I was offline and had no way of knowing it. I've had dreams where we discussed very specific information from his past I learned was true, which I couldn't have known. I've seen a concert he was at, not even knowing he was there until the next day. I could go on.
He's living his life. We're not really close anymore, we used to be. (Not sexually before that come up lol.)
I think it's different than a soulmate. I have a significant other, who I was with before I met my "twin". I wasn't looking for this and hadn't heard of it until I was over a year when I first heard if twin flames.
I don't exactly obsess, I've kept living my life, I don't try to think of him. Things just continue to...happen. it's not as intense as it was though. I'll love him until the day I die, but I don't need to be involved with him.
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oh you have a significant other? that’s great. i think it’ll be more healthier for you to focus on the person who is currently in your life rather than someone who is no longer in your life lol


being in love with two people at once sounds like too much emotional labor for me lol 😂 i don’t like needlessly complicating life lol but good luck nevertheless. certain people come into our lives to teach us something so maybe the encounter with your twin was also useful in some way too.

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Oh boy life went ahead and happened, but now I'm back.

Anyway, I agree. I don't really focus on him, it's more about the whole spiritual aspect at this point.

Its not draining. Like...you can love friends, family...it's just a deep, abiding love. It doesn't require physical contact, etc. It just exists.

Oh he was for sure. It's part of why I'm so fascinated by it.

I think every woman on this planet has her own cancer man somewhere on the globe at a certain point in time

I don’t believe in twin flames or soulmates, it’s just when the guy is masculine enough to be attractive to the girl, and raised by his mum enough, so he’s sensitive and has emotional intelligence, then sparks can fly… fireworks.

I give the thought of it a little space in my mind somewhere and I don't pay attention to it but its there.

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I think every woman on this planet has her own cancer man somewhere on the globe at a certain point in time

Oh god no, he is definitely NOT a cancer.

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I don’t believe in twin flames or soulmates, it’s just when the guy is masculine enough to be attractive to the girl, and raised by his mum enough, so he’s sensitive and has emotional intelligence, then sparks can fly… fireworks.

Lol, nah, he's not those things. I see the inside, but what he puts forth...he's a manwhore with a temper lol 😂. Definitely not dime store romance material. It's not a sparks and fireworks thing. It's I see things through his eyes, like literally sometimes. It's not basic attraction things.

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don’t over-romanticize things before you have proof.

Meh, it's not romantic. It's highly frustrating actually, and not in a why can't I just be with person x kind of way either.
I know. As warangel said, if you know, you know. That's the simple truth, that things happen that are beyond the standard human experience and explanations. No matter what anyone else believes or experiences it's something
It's not an attempt at being hopeful or wishful either. Whatever is meant to be, will be, no matter what I think of it.
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frustrating in what way specifically? i’m just trying to understand.
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Without rehashing the posts under my old account about it...the simple version is:
Feeling emotions that aren't yours or physical things like being drunk when you're stone sober. Also a big one for me is one I need to work on, but trying to understand WHY and WTF is happening. How do I know things I have no earthly way or reason to know, how can I see what someone else is seeing, why is it happening, how do I make it stop...
In general I'm still glad for it. It kicked off learning and growth. I understand unconditional love much better now. I understand myself better now. But why am I still connected to this other person? Yeah, I love him. But I don't feel incapable of living without him. It was an absolute amazing thing going through it and experiencing it, but I'd like at least some control lol
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so you’re like…psychic? is that what you mean? i don’t know how one stops being a psychic. you might wanna ask another psychic that or try googling how to close your third eye chakra or something. i’m not too sure lol 😅
i wish i had the type of psychic ability that lets me see which horse is gonna win the next race lmaoo 😂
jokes aside,
the guy you love, where is he right now? what is he doing?
maybe he was a karmic soulmate?
a karmic soulmate is apparently someone who comes into your life temporarily to teach you important lessons usually through pain, helps you resolve past life karmas (if you believe in that type of stuff) and then just leaves. it’s apparently not the person you ultimately end up with.
you probably have a real soulmate walking around somewhere/chilling somewhere right now waiting for you to create enough space in your life for him to show up lol 😅 you’ll forget about the karmic gradually when you meet the real deal. you can still be thankful for the experiences you had with the karmic and keep those memories close to you but at the end of the day, if it was meant to be, it would have been. 🤷‍♂️
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Not exactly. It's specific to that one person. Ive never experienced any of it before, nor after.
I've had experiences before with things, been sensitive to energy. But nothing like this. I knew when he got high, drunk, broken up with. I literally felt it. Even when I was offline and had no way of knowing it. I've had dreams where we discussed very specific information from his past I learned was true, which I couldn't have known. I've seen a concert he was at, not even knowing he was there until the next day. I could go on.
He's living his life. We're not really close anymore, we used to be. (Not sexually before that come up lol.)
I think it's different than a soulmate. I have a significant other, who I was with before I met my "twin". I wasn't looking for this and hadn't heard of it until I was over a year when I first heard if twin flames.
I don't exactly obsess, I've kept living my life, I don't try to think of him. Things just continue to...happen. it's not as intense as it was though. I'll love him until the day I die, but I don't need to be involved with him.
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oh you have a significant other? that’s great. i think it’ll be more healthier for you to focus on the person who is currently in your life rather than someone who is no longer in your life lol

being in love with two people at once sounds like too much emotional labor for me lol 😂 i don’t like needlessly complicating life lol but good luck nevertheless. certain people come into our lives to teach us something so maybe the encounter with your twin was also useful in some way too.
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Oh boy life went ahead and happened, but now I'm back.


Anyway, I agree. I don't really focus on him, it's more about the whole spiritual aspect at this point.


Its not draining. Like...you can love friends, family...it's just a deep, abiding love. It doesn't require physical contact, etc. It just exists.


Oh he was for sure. It's part of why I'm so fascinated by it.

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i actually know someone who went through this twin flame ordeal and she said it made her stronger and more independent in the end, even though things didn’t turn out the way she wanted with the dude. so before she met her twin flame, she said she was very needy and codependent and thought a soulmate would just magically “fix” everything that was wrong in her life. she said she avoided doing any inner work/soul-searching because she thought a soulmate would just fill that void. but the twin flame (whether consciously or subconsciously) showed her all the lessons she was avoiding and made her actually face herself. she said she doesn’t regret meeting the twin flame. and that in the end, it was all worth it even though it was painful at the time. when she told me the story, a few years had gone by already since the twin flame encounter and she was living happily with a different man (probably her soulmate).