@Libralove813
7 Years
Help! My Scorpio Man has iced me out
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You are both silly and not meant to be. Fighting over food and ride 😅
Imagine being married to someone like that. It screams drama 🎭
@ImperfectStorm called it. And YOU have the balls to expect HIM to apologize? Haha! YOU done fk’d up. Best you can do is try crawling back with apologies and offers of BJ’s. 🍆🍆🍆
Pretended not to be home.
I laughed out loud.
He will be alright.
Libra, you’re the ice queen
Get a grip !
Next time get a pizza.
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonimaiIf he keeps his promise in the end...you can consider yourself lucky.
As well him calling you.
He didn't iced you out,he drove 50 minutes to you ...
It was you who iced him out not him...if he ever did something that made you really angry way before the dinner drama and you expecting an apology for something BIGGER than dinner Drama then i could understand but with this story just lol
I admit I responded this morning before having my coffee so I responded a little passionately 😅😂 but seriously? I was pissed off just by reading this lmao
He’s trying to bring her food, then trying to take her to the airport. He’s literally trying to take care of her and do his part even in the midst of an argument. Yes I understand he was in a pissy mood which is always annoying for anyone, but she could have easily asked if he’s having a bad day instead of turning it into a power game of who can be the bigger asshole.
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hell I got pissed off just reading this shit too, it was like reading about my ex libra girlfriends from the past they did the same shit lol
✨ wonders if OP got the advice she was looking for ✨
Posted by MutyaLibra, you are playing along his mind games. You should know this by now that Scorpios will say shit in the heat of the moment. Drop off the face of the earth and he'll reach out to you in a few weeks but are you sure you even want him back? Getting all pissy about dining in or take out before your flight?
This is my first time dating a Scorpio. What should I do at this point? I think I do
Posted by MonimaiI don't understand what exactly got him so angry now? Because you didn't decide where to eat? Or because you didn't wake him up? And why you pretend to not being home?
All of it. I told him not to come after he hung up in my face and not apologize
Posted by Librasetting777Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonimaiIf he keeps his promise in the end...you can consider yourself lucky.
As well him calling you.
He didn't iced you out,he drove 50 minutes to you ...
It was you who iced him out not him...if he ever did something that made you really angry way before the dinner drama and you expecting an apology for something BIGGER than dinner Drama then i could understand but with this story just lol
I admit I responded this morning before having my coffee so I responded a little passionately 😅😂 but seriously? I was pissed off just by reading this lmao
He’s trying to bring her food, then trying to take her to the airport. He’s literally trying to take care of her and do his part even in the midst of an argument. Yes I understand he was in a pissy mood which is always annoying for anyone, but she could have easily asked if he’s having a bad day instead of turning it into a power game of who can be the bigger asshole.
hell I got pissed off just reading this shit too, it was like reading about my ex libra girlfriends from the past they did the same shit lolclick to expand
He hung up on me for no reason. And I called and he did not answer.I told him not to come over
Posted by Librasetting777Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonimaiIf he keeps his promise in the end...you can consider yourself lucky.
As well him calling you.
He didn't iced you out,he drove 50 minutes to you ...
It was you who iced him out not him...if he ever did something that made you really angry way before the dinner drama and you expecting an apology for something BIGGER than dinner Drama then i could understand but with this story just lol
I admit I responded this morning before having my coffee so I responded a little passionately 😅😂 but seriously? I was pissed off just by reading this lmao
He’s trying to bring her food, then trying to take her to the airport. He’s literally trying to take care of her and do his part even in the midst of an argument. Yes I understand he was in a pissy mood which is always annoying for anyone, but she could have easily asked if he’s having a bad day instead of turning it into a power game of who can be the bigger asshole.
hell I got pissed off just reading this shit too, it was like reading about my ex libra girlfriends from the past they did the same shit lolclick to expand
I did not ice him out. He hung up and declined my call three times so I told him not to come. I did not want things to continue to escalate as he was already in a pissy mood and taking it out on me.
Posted by Princes_QajarMercury retrograde
Explain please
Posted by borednbeautifulYou are both silly and not meant to be. Fighting over food and ride 😅
Imagine being married to someone like that. It screams drama 🎭
Thank you
Posted by Libralove813Posted by Princes_QajarMercury retrograde
Explain please
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Oh I thought you knew
It’s a transit that could mean a lot of miscommunication
https://time.com/5207161/mercury-retrograde-astrology-history/
Posted by GenerousBalanceIt seems like you have done sth wrong you're not aware of, try to think of what might have led him to get angry in the first place, did he maybe want to come visit your family with you and you refused ? Or maybe sth else.
No. I was at work all day and he had the day off. Just slept mostly. I didn't woke him up an hour later than he asked but I lost track of time running errands I needed before I headed out of town which I told him I had to do
Posted by ImperfectStormArguments and pissy attitudes happen.. but he seems to keep up on his end of the bargain regardless of his mood swings.
If I drive 45 minutes to take YOU to the airport as originally planned, and you **pretend** to not be home just for the sake of playing games? Have you seen gas prices lately?! Lol 🤨 Then you turn around and “reach out a dozen times”….why reach out when you could have talked to him during the ride? Why you wanna talk now?? Make up your damn mind.
Yes he had a pissy attitude but he still came through for you. And you’re playing childish ass games.
What did you want him to apologize for?? Being in a pissy mood or not taking your calls? Maybe he needed a cool down period. You can’t force somebody to apologize. You didn’t get the apology that you wanted, so then you tell him it’s “none of his business” why you were **pretending** to not be home. 🥴🥴🥴
That’s manipulative and you’ll never win trying to manipulate a Scorpio.
In my initial comments I said that he hung up on me just bc I didn't come up with dinner plans and then I called back 3 times and he declined my calls. On the third call before he left his home I told him not to come. He called and I asked if he was going to apologize he said no I said I will drive myself to the airport. He came anyway but that's his power play.
Posted by MonimaiIf he keeps his promise in the end...you can consider yourself lucky.
As well him calling you.
He didn't iced you out,he drove 50 minutes to you ...
It was you who iced him out not him...if he ever did something that made you really angry way before the dinner drama and you expecting an apology for something BIGGER than dinner Drama then i could understand but with this story just lol
He hurt my feelings hanging up on me and then trying a power play by coming when I told him not to.
He is not responding to me at all for 5 days now.
Anything I can do is the question. He has had his moments trust me.
Posted by geminiflybyNext time get a pizza.
🤣🤣🤣 Ikr, Seriously 🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️. I'm so hurt and trying to make it right. No one has offered any helpful suggestions.
Posted by ElzxuYou both suck 🫥
Thank you
Posted by geminiflyby✨ wonders if OP got the advice she was looking for ✨
Nope. No helpful advice.
Posted by Princes_QajarPosted by Libralove813Posted by Princes_QajarMercury retrograde
Explain please
Oh I thought you knew
It’s a transit that could mean a lot of miscommunication
https://time.com/5207161/mercury-retrograde-astrology-history/
Thank you for this
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by Libralove813Posted by ImperfectStormArguments and pissy attitudes happen.. but he seems to keep up on his end of the bargain regardless of his mood swings.
If I drive 45 minutes to take YOU to the airport as originally planned, and you **pretend** to not be home just for the sake of playing games? Have you seen gas prices lately?! Lol 🤨 Then you turn around and “reach out a dozen times”….why reach out when you could have talked to him during the ride? Why you wanna talk now?? Make up your damn mind.
Yes he had a pissy attitude but he still came through for you. And you’re playing childish ass games.
What did you want him to apologize for?? Being in a pissy mood or not taking your calls? Maybe he needed a cool down period. You can’t force somebody to apologize. You didn’t get the apology that you wanted, so then you tell him it’s “none of his business” why you were **pretending** to not be home. 🥴🥴🥴
That’s manipulative and you’ll never win trying to manipulate a Scorpio.
In my initial comments I said that he hung up on me just bc I didn't come up with dinner plans and then I called back 3 times and he declined my calls. On the third call before he left his home I told him not to come. He called and I asked if he was going to apologize he said no I said I will drive myself to the airport. He came anyway but that's his power play.
I’m not disagreeing that he sounds like an asshole but I guess my question is why do you want to work things out with someone like this if he starts arguments about dumb stuff? If he is really that petty then I would just let him go.
It’s better to see the signs early on that you guys are not a good fit for each other
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Thank you. I guess my heart is slow to accept it. I miss him. We've had a lot of great moments
Posted by Lionheart917Posted by ImperfectStormSee, this is where you fucked up…He came anyway! Like a 45-50 min drive. I pretended not to be home so he called ond asked where I was, I asked if he was going to apologize he said no so I said none of your business. He said ok bye.
I would have iced you out too. Good luck. Lol
After so many threads here about why Scorpios ice people out yet, I see another one like this pop out.
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Yep! I didn't find one similar to my situation
This was totally your fault and if I were him I would have blocked you and let you find a way to the airport.
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by Libralove813Posted by geminiflybyNext time get a pizza.
🤣🤣🤣 Ikr, Seriously 🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️. I'm so hurt and trying to make it right. No one has offered any helpful suggestions.
There’s nothing you can do at this point besides give him space and time.. as long as you’re texting him he is going to feel relaxed about the situation knowing that he still has your attention.
When it comes to Scorpios we have to come to the conclusion on our own when we make a mistake.. if he has a conscience, he will reflect on the situation during quiet time apart while he has a moment to think.. but if you’re continuing to text him or demand apologies you will never get it. When a Scorpio apologizes it will be honest, so we won’t apologize
Until we truly feel sorry. And he needs to come to that conviction on his own time and it will likely come when he starts missing you.
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Okay thank you. I guess I keep messaging him bc I didnt want him to think I didn't care. I miss him and want him to know I truly am sorry for turning him away. I will stop though. Thank you. This is my first time being with a Scorpio and I've not had anyone not speak to me this long
Posted by MysteriousHeartI’m sorry he was so rude to you and not taking your calls. How childish is that? This sounds almost exactly how things were between my Libra ex and I except he was the one icing me out! We both said things in the heat of the moment that we did not mean and played childish mind games so we both were at fault. You deserve better though. Do you really want someone who treats you this way? Scorpio men can be such assholes sometimes which is why I’d never date one. Not saying the females are much better…well can’t speak for all Scorp females, but I can definitely be petty and play mind games. It’s the one thing I wish I wouldn’t do. Anyway, hope things work out the way you want them to. You sound like a sweetheart. Still think you deserve better.
Thank you so much for understanding and sharing your experience. I know he's wrong and I miss him 🥴...I can't believe he would go this long without speaking to me. Things have never been here before
Posted by DonnaLibraThis was totally your fault and if I were him I would have blocked you and let you find a way to the airport.
Thanks but I disagree. And I did take myself to the airport as I told him I would do
Posted by twinkletwinklebishPretended not to be home?!
What would have been so hard about saying you were overwhelmed stressed and needed him to pick some food because of that?
I DID say that to him
The miscommunication is frustrating in the moment but you playing with him over it instead of trying to work it out and be 100 honest about where you were at erodes any trust you had in the relationship. I’d break it off for that kinda shit. If he doesn’t come back I wouldn’t blame him especially since I have the suspicion this isn’t the first time this has happened.
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This is the first time this has happened. Which is why I'm here. Thank you for your comment.
Posted by Lionheart917Posted by Libralove813Posted by Lionheart917Posted by ImperfectStormSee, this is where you fucked up…He came anyway! Like a 45-50 min drive. I pretended not to be home so he called ond asked where I was, I asked if he was going to apologize he said no so I said none of your business. He said ok bye.
I would have iced you out too. Good luck. Lol
After so many threads here about why Scorpios ice people out yet, I see another one like this pop out.
Yep! I didn't find one similar to my situation
I wish you the best of luck. If he cares enough, give him time, and he will comeback . But if the connection is not that good. It's game over.
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Okay thank you. Just trying to see if there's anything I can do but just sounds like wait and see.
Posted by MysteriousHeartI just don’t understand why people ice others out? It’s so mean and childish. I could never do that to someone. I’ve had it done to me and understand how it feels. Just have a conversation and work things out or don’t. Or if you really need some space then let the other know you’re not going to communicate for awhile and need some time to think/reflect. Don’t just ghost. 😔
Exactly. Just tell me. I asked that as well via text if he's done. No response. I leave message apologizing no response. I'm so hurt
Posted by Lionheart917Posted by Libralove813Posted by Lionheart917Posted by ImperfectStormSee, this is where you fucked up…He came anyway! Like a 45-50 min drive. I pretended not to be home, so he called and asked where I was, I asked if he was going to apologize he said no so I said none of your business. He said ok bye.
I would have iced you out too. Good luck. Lol
After so many threads here about why Scorpios ice people out yet, I see another one like this pop out.
Yep! I didn't find one similar to my situation
Only he would know if it was over. I ghosted a Capricorn for a year and returned because the connection was deep.
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Thanks. Ours was strong just hadn't gotten deep yet. I'm sad. I know I didn't respond best but I've been trying to reach out to no avail. At least respond it's over.
Posted by MysteriousHeartPosted by Libralove813Posted by MysteriousHeartI’m sorry he was so rude to you and not taking your calls. How childish is that? This sounds almost exactly how things were between my Libra ex and I except he was the one icing me out! We both said things in the heat of the moment that we did not mean and played childish mind games so we both were at fault. You deserve better though. Do you really want someone who treats you this way? Scorpio men can be such assholes sometimes which is why I’d never date one. Not saying the females are much better…well can’t speak for all Scorp females, but I can definitely be petty and play mind games. It’s the one thing I wish I wouldn’t do. Anyway, hope things work out the way you want them to. You sound like a sweetheart. Still think you deserve better.
Thank you so much for understanding and sharing your experience. I know he's wrong and I miss him 🥴...I can't believe he would go this long without speaking to me. Things have never been here before
Stay strong Libra! Do your own thing and live your life. I truly think he will be back once he’s had some time to think about what he’s done wrong. You may even get an apology. Just wait, if you meant anything to him he will be back.
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Thank you. I know I could have responded better in the heat of things. I'll wait. Its hard not hearing anything. Thank you again. I have to figure out how to not be sad in the meantime
Posted by Lionheart917Posted by Libralove813Posted by Lionheart917Posted by Libralove813Posted by Lionheart917Posted by ImperfectStormSee, this is where you fucked up…He came anyway! Like a 45-50 min drive. I pretended not to be home so he called ond asked where I was, I asked if he was going to apologize he said no so I said none of your business. He said ok bye.
I would have iced you out too. Good luck. Lol
After so many threads here about why Scorpios ice people out yet, I see another one like this pop out.
Yep! I didn't find one similar to my situation
I wish you the best of luck. If he cares enough, give him time, and he will comeback . But if the connection is not that good. It's game over.
Okay thank you. Just trying to see if there's anything I can do but just sounds like wait and see.
Things to remember don't lie. We take that shit seriously. The crime is not good enough for him to completely ice you out.
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Thank you.
You disrespected him. Simple.
Posted by Jan12girlPosted by Libralove813Posted by MysteriousHeartI just don’t understand why people ice others out? It’s so mean and childish. I could never do that to someone. I’ve had it done to me and understand how it feels. Just have a conversation and work things out or don’t. Or if you really need some space then let the other know you’re not going to communicate for awhile and need some time to think/reflect. Don’t just ghost. 😔
Exactly. Just tell me. I asked that as well via text if he's done. No response. I leave message apologizing no response. I'm so hurt
Drive for 45 mins to his place and talk. If still no response then leave him alone .
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Thanks. Will Scorpio be ok with me popping up when he doesn't want to talk to me? I know they like to be in control
Posted by Lionheart917Posted by Libralove813Posted by Lionheart917Posted by Libralove813Posted by Lionheart917Posted by ImperfectStormSee, this is where you fucked up…He came anyway! Like a 45-50 min drive. I pretended not to be home, so he called and asked where I was, I asked if he was going to apologize he said no so I said none of your business. He said ok bye.
I would have iced you out too. Good luck. Lol
After so many threads here about why Scorpios ice people out yet, I see another one like this pop out.
Yep! I didn't find one similar to my situation
Only he would know if it was over. I ghosted a Capricorn for a year and returned because the connection was deep.
Thanks. Ours was strong just hadn't gotten deep yet. I'm sad. I know I didn't respond best but I've been trying to reach out to no avail. At least respond it's over.
Just check in occasionally but give him all the space he needs. When we disappear, we think and reassess the situation.
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Ok will do. Thank you. Someone else suggested I drive to his place. Do you think that is wise? Seems obtrusive and I don't want to push him any further
Posted by FindingbalanceI'll second the yikes. But hey, we all gotta grow.
You want him? The BJ comment made me lol. I mean, yeah, but go deeper. That's surface level shit. Level up. I'm a Libra. I can do passive aggressive. I haaattteee confrontation and emotions can be uncomfy. But if you want to learn to be comfortable with your emotions Scorpio is the one to do it. But you all need better communication. First, apologize and explain yourself. You were tired and didn't want to chose (he probably can't understand that and thought you were rejecting his attempt at giving you what you wanted, not understanding for Libra, we don't care just please choose so we can focus elsewhere and doing THAT is actually what we want). You were hurt by his attitude. But your response was equally hurtful. You're getting the Scorpio view that he was still following through, whereas you felt pushed and like it was aggressive. It's a lot of miscommunication that you both need to be able to talk about without getting feelings hurt. Be completely open and honest with him. But he needs to reciprocate or it won't work. Scorpio has some serious deep emotions and is so easily hurt. But damn they are so sweet and loyal when you get that far.
Thank you. Yes to everything here. I've left voice messages and texts explaining and apologizing but he won't answer and he has not responded to any of my dozen attempts. So yeah I can't do much without reciprocation. But I'll give him space as well. Thank you for this. It's helping stop my tears and giving me calm waiting
Posted by Reincarnation5You disrespected him. Simple.
.so nothing I can do?
The fact that you see him driving 45 minutes to you as his power play 💁
Posted by MonimaiPosted by Libralove813Posted by MonimaiIf he keeps his promise in the end...you can consider yourself lucky.
As well him calling you.
He didn't iced you out,he drove 50 minutes to you ...
It was you who iced him out not him...if he ever did something that made you really angry way before the dinner drama and you expecting an apology for something BIGGER than dinner Drama then i could understand but with this story just lol
He hurt my feelings hanging up on me and then trying a power play by coming when I told him not to.
He is not responding to me at all for 5 days now.
Anything I can do is the question. He has had his moments trust me.
Look there's no magic answer that will make you get him back. Power-Play sounds toxic but you know better. Either hold on patiently and play the(his and your) game or move on. One of that it gonna be in the end so or so....How you do it is up to you. Do as geminiflyby suggested early on
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Are you a Scorpio? If so you know it's not that simple. But thanks.
Posted by MysteriousHeartPosted by Libralove813Posted by MysteriousHeartPosted by Libralove813Posted by MysteriousHeartI’m sorry he was so rude to you and not taking your calls. How childish is that? This sounds almost exactly how things were between my Libra ex and I except he was the one icing me out! We both said things in the heat of the moment that we did not mean and played childish mind games so we both were at fault. You deserve better though. Do you really want someone who treats you this way? Scorpio men can be such assholes sometimes which is why I’d never date one. Not saying the females are much better…well can’t speak for all Scorp females, but I can definitely be petty and play mind games. It’s the one thing I wish I wouldn’t do. Anyway, hope things work out the way you want them to. You sound like a sweetheart. Still think you deserve better.
Thank you so much for understanding and sharing your experience. I know he's wrong and I miss him 🥴...I can't believe he would go this long without speaking to me. Things have never been here before
Stay strong Libra! Do your own thing and live your life. I truly think he will be back once he’s had some time to think about what he’s done wrong. You may even get an apology. Just wait, if you meant anything to him he will be back.
Thank you. I know I could have responded better in the heat of things. I'll wait. Its hard not hearing anything. Thank you again. I have to figure out how to not be sad in the meantime
I get it, I really do. We all are guilty of saying things in the heat of the moment that we don’t mean. I’ve done it more times than I can count. I understand the being hurt and sad….try not to dwell on it though. It’s hard when you don’t know what’s going through the other persons mind because they aren’t communicating with you. It will all work out for the best….you’ll see. Sorry you’re hurting though. 😔
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Heartfelt communication always melts our hearts
Maybe something like I’m sorry I know we were both stress . I was stressed because… Dot dot.I’m sorry if I made you feel not appreciated I see all you do your willingness to come and pick me up and take me blah blah blah etc.
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He’s behaving this wayBecause maybe he actually feels taken for granted. Space scorpions give 110% of the relationship all we want to know is that you are not taking it for granted
Posted by Jan12girlPosted by Libralove813Posted by Jan12girlPosted by Libralove813Posted by MysteriousHeartI just don’t understand why people ice others out? It’s so mean and childish. I could never do that to someone. I’ve had it done to me and understand how it feels. Just have a conversation and work things out or don’t. Or if you really need some space then let the other know you’re not going to communicate for awhile and need some time to think/reflect. Don’t just ghost. 😔
Exactly. Just tell me. I asked that as well via text if he's done. No response. I leave message apologizing no response. I'm so hurt
Drive for 45 mins to his place and talk. If still no response then leave him alone .
Thanks. Will Scorpio be ok with me popping up when he doesn't want to talk to me? I know they like to be in control
I am not a Scorpio, guess only they can tell u that . Something similar happened in my past with a Scorpio . Almost similar. Where I asked not to come to pick me from a place . I said because I didn’t want to be a burden and I don’t know how it was understood because I got a reply that if I don’t want him to come he will not come. We ghosted each other in turns after that. First him and then me. But it was done and over in reality at that very moment . That’s why I say speak in person .
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Ah. Thank you
Posted by FindingbalancePosted by Libralove813Posted by FindingbalanceI'll second the yikes. But hey, we all gotta grow.
You want him? The BJ comment made me lol. I mean, yeah, but go deeper. That's surface level shit. Level up. I'm a Libra. I can do passive aggressive. I haaattteee confrontation and emotions can be uncomfy. But if you want to learn to be comfortable with your emotions Scorpio is the one to do it. But you all need better communication. First, apologize and explain yourself. You were tired and didn't want to chose (he probably can't understand that and thought you were rejecting his attempt at giving you what you wanted, not understanding for Libra, we don't care just please choose so we can focus elsewhere and doing THAT is actually what we want). You were hurt by his attitude. But your response was equally hurtful. You're getting the Scorpio view that he was still following through, whereas you felt pushed and like it was aggressive. It's a lot of miscommunication that you both need to be able to talk about without getting feelings hurt. Be completely open and honest with him. But he needs to reciprocate or it won't work. Scorpio has some serious deep emotions and is so easily hurt. But damn they are so sweet and loyal when you get that far.
Thank you. Yes to everything here. I've left voice messages and texts explaining and apologizing but he won't answer and he has not responded to any of my dozen attempts. So yeah I can't do much without reciprocation. But I'll give him space as well. Thank you for this. It's helping stop my tears and giving me calm waiting
One last message, explain honestly and truthfully. Then let him know that you've said your piece, you value the relationship but you're not groveling or chasing and if and when he'd like to talk you'll be there. Then go forward with your life.
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Indeed. Thank you
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by Libralove813Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by Libralove813Posted by geminiflybyNext time get a pizza.
🤣🤣🤣 Ikr, Seriously 🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️. I'm so hurt and trying to make it right. No one has offered any helpful suggestions.
There’s nothing you can do at this point besides give him space and time.. as long as you’re texting him he is going to feel relaxed about the situation knowing that he still has your attention.
When it comes to Scorpios we have to come to the conclusion on our own when we make a mistake.. if he has a conscience, he will reflect on the situation during quiet time apart while he has a moment to think.. but if you’re continuing to text him or demand apologies you will never get it. When a Scorpio apologizes it will be honest, so we won’t apologize
Until we truly feel sorry. And he needs to come to that conviction on his own time and it will likely come when he starts missing you.
Okay thank you. I guess I keep messaging him bc I didnt want him to think I didn't care. I miss him and want him to know I truly am sorry for turning him away. I will stop though. Thank you. This is my first time being with a Scorpio and I've not had anyone not speak to me this long
I totally get it, but men are a special breed lol let them know that you care, but then the ball is in his court now. Based on the fact that he wanted to bring you food and take you to the airport, it does sound like he is really into you. So I don’t doubt that he will come back around. But your apology is enough, as long as it was sincere. You shouldn’t have to keep apologizing or beg him to talk to you. You’ve done what you can do and now the choice is up to him.. meanwhile just occupy your time with other things.
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Got it. Real words and sound advice. Thank you
Posted by TruemaraHeartfelt communication always melts our hearts
Thank you. I've witnessed this before when he is open to communication. We usually move on pretty quickly 😉, by the next call
Posted by ImperfectStormAlso one more bit of advice.. if and when he does reach out, just try to be receptive and not too reactive. Like if he tries to pick a fight again (hopefully he won’t… but if his ego is bruised he might) don’t give into it by becoming defensive. I have libra rising as stellium so I know how it is to want to become ice queen and show how quickly we can detach, but I would just be honest and tell him like “my feelings were hurt which is why I reacted the way that I did”. Scorpios are typically forgiving of emotional responses especially if we are given reassurance that there was some type of emotion behind it. It’s possible that he was feeling insecure about you traveling without him and that’s why it manifested in an ugly way, with him starting fights. Obviously I could be wrong, but we are extremely insecure but try to hide it most times.
Thank you for this. We libras do go on the defensive and detach. I had said I would be vulnerable with him and not do that and I had been up to this point.
Thank you @ImperfectStorm
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So 5 days ago me and my Scorpio guy got into a spat. It was the day before I was to fly out to travel to see family. He offered to come over after I got off work, stay over and take me to the airport the next Wed. morning so I accepted. Tues we spoke and he told me that we can go out to eat when I get off and to think about what I wanted. I asked if he wanted it to go or eat in (he usually prefers dining in,) but in a pissy way said I don't care you choose. I said no I want you to...he put it back on me and got off the phone. A few moments later I texted him telling him to just grab himself something and I'll pick up something on my way home that way I didn't have to figure out where to eat. I was getting off work and tired and had packing and errands on my brain so I just didn't have energy to think of the details. Well he got upset when he called ond was on his way and I mentioned to him to grab something to eat (he had not seen my txt 2.5hrs prior🥴). He goes off saying I should have just said that earlier. Then he added that I didn't call and wake him like I agreed to on time (I was an hour late bc I got off work and immediately began running errands and forgot the time).
Well this, what I thought small spat, ended in him hanging up on me. I called back 3 times. No answer.
I left a voicemail saying that he did not need to come and that I would take myself to the airport given his rude disrespectful behavior. He came anyway! Like a 45-50 min drive. I pretended not to be home so he called ond asked where I was, I asked if he was going to apologize he said no so I said none of your business. He said ok bye. That next morning I drove myself to the airport. I reached out 2 doz times via phone/txt and he has not responded except the first time to say can't talk, text me. That was 5 days ago. One of the text and vmail I apologized for turning him away and pretending not to be home. He has read my inbox message. I guess he's gotten my text and voicemails but I have gotten zero responses in 5 days and he's constantly on fb. He was checking my fb stories but stopped after two days.
Is my Scorpio done with me for good? I asked him but no response. Is he ghosting me? It feels awful bc while we debated more than we liked we enjoyed being together. He spoils me and ea just saying a day prior he was going to get me a promise ring. Now I can't even get a word.
I'm hurt as this is the first time he's ever not responded to me. We've been together 4 months.
Did I lose him? Why won't he tell me or respond? What should I do. I really don't want to lose him but I don't want to seem needy any longer just letting him know my feelings and that I'm still in it.
Thank you for the perspectives