Admitted the feelings...

to a friend that I really liked them/girl, but that I was trying to be philosophical about it. But yeah, not everyone wants to be philosophical like that...so now I just feel awkward.

Stupid admitting things and then feeling anxious/ out of control/ regretful...any other crabs feel me?

Posted by HearttofTopazz

My congratulations

lol, for feeling awkward...or because of courage...cuz now I feel like I wished I would have kept it in.

Thank you though 🙂

In a weird way, I was hoping that being open about it would have somehow let it ease, or dissipate.

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My congratulations

lol, for feeling awkward...or because of courage...cuz now I feel like I wished I would have kept it in.

Thank you though 🙂

In a weird way, I was hoping that being open about it would have somehow let it ease, or dissipate.

Both I guess. I think it’s normal to feel awkward after something like that tho.

Also think it’s awkward to hold something in like that forever. If it doesn’t work out in your favor, at least you won’t have to wonder.

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Yeah, I think that she kind of liked flirting with me a little, and we had some unique things in common. I don't typically vibe with many so I think I was a little overexcited internally.

I was kind of hoping she would just brush it off with a thanks and a pat on the back.

So a cancer admitted to me that he loved me, after knowing me for around a year. And he did it twice. Is he going to go back and forget or shall I trust him that he would maintain that? I am a piscean female.

how do you philosophically tell someone you like them?

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how do you philosophically tell someone you like them?

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how do you philosophically tell someone you like them?

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very tongue in cheek lol

People are trolling but really you do deserve congratulations. You were brave enough to put yourself out there.

Not many do.

So even if this doesn't pan out the way you hope... just don't loose that bravery. No risk, no reward.

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So a cancer admitted to me that he loved me, after knowing me for around a year. And he did it twice. Is he going to go back and forget or shall I trust him that he would maintain that? I am a piscean female.

Trust his actions.

Love encompasses a wide range. He could have mad love for you as a friend/sister.

Or he could be madly romantically in love with you.

As far as maintaining that... nothing lasts forever. Nothing.

Worry less about the future and enjoy the now.

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So a cancer admitted to me that he loved me, after knowing me for around a year. And he did it twice. Is he going to go back and forget or shall I trust him that he would maintain that? I am a piscean female.

Trust his actions.

Love encompasses a wide range. He could have mad love for you as a friend/sister.

Or he could be madly romantically in love with you.

As far as maintaining that... nothing lasts forever. Nothing.

Worry less about the future and enjoy the now.

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Thank you! I gave him a surprise on his birthday last week. And I have never ever seen him so happy ever! I was seeing a new him. But the next morning it was all cold, aloof, distant. Dont know which one to trust. And we met after 8 months, during which he had cancelled 9 times without any reason.

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So a cancer admitted to me that he loved me, after knowing me for around a year. And he did it twice. Is he going to go back and forget or shall I trust him that he would maintain that? I am a piscean female.

Need more info though.

What's your situation like? How long have you been seeing/dating?

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Met him in Oct 2018, met him a handful of more times in the next six months. All started sexual, instant chemistry. Only after he lost his job in mid 2019, the real conversations started happening, all on phone, long late nights. Deep meaningful conversations. All secrets, fears, plans, ambitions revealed to me. A man being clingy, which I never minded at all. I went to see him, and my gut feel wasnt good. I felt he didnt want me there. So I didnt meet him for the next 8 months from Nov 2019 to until last week when it was his birthday.

The confession happened in April and then in early June, on the phone on a video call. And I had to slightly coax him to say what he wanted to say. It was all on his face.

He is still looking for a job, been almost an year. But he is financially well off, no stress there.

He gets hot and cold all the time.

I am a pisces female 43, he is cancer male 42.

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So a cancer admitted to me that he loved me, after knowing me for around a year. And he did it twice. Is he going to go back and forget or shall I trust him that he would maintain that? I am a piscean female.

Need more info though.

What's your situation like? How long have you been seeing/dating?

Met him in Oct 2018, met him a handful of more times in the next six months. All started sexual, instant chemistry. Only after he lost his job in mid 2019, the real conversations started happening, all on phone, long late nights. Deep meaningful conversations. All secrets, fears, plans, ambitions revealed to me. A man being clingy, which I never minded at all. I went to see him, and my gut feel wasnt good. I felt he didnt want me there. So I didnt meet him for the next 8 months from Nov 2019 to until last week when it was his birthday.

The confession happened in April and then in early June, on the phone on a video call. And I had to slightly coax him to say what he wanted to say. It was all on his face.

He is still looking for a job, been almost an year. But he is financially well off, no stress there.

He gets hot and cold all the time.

I am a pisces female 43, he is cancer male 42.

If he's trusting you with his deepest secrets in a vulnerable time, you're probably good. I think he just needs his space to have his life back in order. Losing a job can make someone a bit insecure whether you're financially well off or not. Maybe be his best friend first and see how he's acting around you.

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OK, let me then really try and not overthink and create situations in my head. He has in past talked about going forward with me and how much it is going to hurt in the long run. He tried to convince me that he wanted it casual but I straightway refused as I cannot do one night stands. It is either FWB with regular touch or nothing at all. And after 10 long months he tells me that he cant do ONS either. I have time and again clarified that his boundary is what I am going to respect as I know he broke up with someone who was being pushy, and calls that his biggest mistake.

Earlier conversations, I always assured him that he has nothing to be scared of, as I am not in love with him. He can go whenever he wants to. So, he opened up a bit more. He had created a lot of boundaries and conditions for both of us, which he himself crossed time and again (confused me earlier this year) - now that he has confessed, (which means a lot to me) I am trying so hard to go with the flow and not expect. But how can one not expect?

He has tested himself by going to other women and I know he does (Pisces instinct) and told me that I am the only one he actually loves being with. But that was in Nov 2019 again. I am very sure, he hasnt been to other women off late.

There is loads more, but I am sure I will be pouring all my insecurities on to you. Sorry about that 😢

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So a cancer admitted to me that he loved me, after knowing me for around a year. And he did it twice. Is he going to go back and forget or shall I trust him that he would maintain that? I am a piscean female.

Trust his actions.

Love encompasses a wide range. He could have mad love for you as a friend/sister.

Or he could be madly romantically in love with you.

As far as maintaining that... nothing lasts forever. Nothing.

Worry less about the future and enjoy the now.

Thank you! I gave him a surprise on his birthday last week. And I have never ever seen him so happy ever! I was seeing a new him. But the next morning it was all cold, aloof, distant. Dont know which one to trust. And we met after 8 months, during which he had cancelled 9 times without any reason.

Same thing happened to me with my ex cancer, I celebrated his birthday he was happy but the next days pulled away, i let him be for a week than asked to see him, when I did I just made it clear that this kind of behavior is not acceptable and if he was willing to act like this wih me then he'd better find someone new to screw with, he apologized and opened up about what was really bothering him. His behavior changed completely, he would still get distant sometimes but who wouldn't people always need their space.

It did not work between us for other reasons but shutting down feelings was never an issue again.

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OK, thank you Libra! I find cancerians are similar now that I have started researching on this zodiac. So it is been only 2 days and no contact from him. I will leave it until 7 more days to be sure!

Back of my mind, this sign thinks that we all will live upto a 1000 years and they take so much time in doing things that they should do earlier on. Telling me he loves me was totally unexpected based on the numerous boundaries he had clearly made and he crossed each one of them!

I will definitely post here if he contacts me this week. That is such a relief, you all have really helped me out to be at ease.