Posted by piscespoppyIt's just so hard to believe someone would genuinely like me and want/enjoy to spend time with me. It just feels like time isn't ever enough and we were always seeing each other one day in the end of the week and recently it just feels like forever, I don't know if he feels the same but yeah. I'm still trying to take it slow and be cool cos I really want this to work out
If he has feelings for you and you enjoy being together, I'm sure he would love to spend lots of time with you, my cancer hubby misses me when I'm not here for a day lol!
I'm sure he will tell you if he needed some space for any reason, just try not to rush things and get bored of the sight of each other, make sure you arrange time to miss each other now and again.
Posted by Lovely20Why do you feel that way? What makes you think your not worthy.Posted by piscespoppyIt's just so hard to believe someone would genuinely like me and want/enjoy to spend time with me. It just feels like time isn't ever enough and we were always seeing each other one day in the end of the week and recently it just feels like forever, I don't know if he feels the same but yeah. I'm still trying to take it slow and be cool cos I really want this to work out
If he has feelings for you and you enjoy being together, I'm sure he would love to spend lots of time with you, my cancer hubby misses me when I'm not here for a day lol!
I'm sure he will tell you if he needed some space for any reason, just try not to rush things and get bored of the sight of each other, make sure you arrange time to miss each other now and again.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Lovely20I don't know, I've never been a relationship kind of person, never had a very good self-esteem and like my mental health has been fucked up for years and I don't know what I'm doing with my life right now. I'm so stupid and awkwardly/weird, why would anyone want to date me I just dont get it. I feel like I'm a mess and he deserves and could find someone so much better.Why do you feel that way? What makes you think your not worthy.
It's just so hard to believe someone would genuinely like me and want/enjoy to spend time with me. It just feels like time isn't ever enough and we were always seeing each other one day in the end of the week and recently it just feels like forever, I don't know if he feels the same but yeah. I'm still trying to take it slow and be cool cos I really want this to work out
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But yeah its also really hard for me to trust men. I've never had any guy be nice to me or just like and treat me as a person, I've had some bad experiences in the past and although I've accepted they happened and that it wasn't my fault they still clearly affect me. Even though he seems to be genuine and he's really nice and sweet part of me is terrified and constantly doubting everything he does/says. It doesn't matter what happens I'm always thinking "this is too good to be true", "this is temporary for him until he finds something better", "it's just sex to him", "he's not what he seems to be", "he's playing games" and "he doesnt like you, he never did"
Posted by Ram416I know, I'm trying my best but I can't help it must of the time. I wish I could just tell myself things are okay and that I'm doing great but I'm constantly paranoid and over thinking and I can't control it, it fucking sucks
You should try to stop overthinking and questioning yourself, and try to go with the flow with this guy.
The more you question yourself, the less likely things will move forward with him.
Posted by Lovely20Everytime you're with him, keep telling yourself that.
things are okay and that I'm doing great
Posted by Lovely20We all of us have baggage. But your going to kill this budding relationship if you keep thinking like this. You need to let go and allow yourself to trust him. If you can't...it's better to let him go and work on loving youself.
I don't know, I've never been a relationship kind of person, never had a very good self-esteem and like my mental health has been fucked up for years and I don't know what I'm doing with my life right now. I'm so stupid and awkwardly/weird, why would anyone want to date me I just dont get it. I feel like I'm a mess and he deserves and could find someone so much better.
But yeah its also really hard for me to trust men. I've never had any guy be nice to me or just like and treat me as a person, I've had some bad experiences in the past and although I've accepted they happened and that it wasn't my fault they still clearly affect me. Even though he seems to be genuine and he's really nice and sweet part of me is terrified and constantly doubting everything he does/says. It doesn't matter what happens I'm always thinking "this is too good to be true", "this is temporary for him until he finds something better", "it's just sex to him", "he's not what he seems to be", "he's playing games" and "he doesnt like you, he never did"
Posted by Ram416This was so nice 🙂 I'm actually glad I made this topic because it helped a lot and I'm not overthinking as much or being so negative. So yeah, thank you!Posted by Lovely20Everytime you're with him, keep telling yourself that.
things are okay and that I'm doing great
And remember to breathe in, breathe out! Rinse and repeat! Until you've calmed down your overthinking brain.click to expand
Posted by CancerRedheadI've tried to be cool and not worry so much after I read this and it definitely helped, he came over last night and we spent the whole night talking and watching movies and today I went to his place and we spent more time together. I feel like as soon as I stopped worrying and being paranoid about everything all the time, specially when I was with him as well I could just enjoy being with him and i could be myself and have more fun
Stop doubting yourself. He'll sense that and probably get irritated or wonder what he's doing wrong to make you think that way. Just holler at him and see what he's up to...ask if he still wants you to come over. If he didn't like you he wouldn't have shit to do with you. Have confidence in yourself and go with the flow.
-Hannah
Posted by pinkbird03a month
How long have you been with him?
Posted by kissmygritsWe do talk a lot but we also enjoy comfortable silence a lot as well
Do you talk a lot? Or do you guys just enjoy comfortable silence and each other's presence?
Posted by Lovely20Posted by kissmygritsWe do talk a lot but we also enjoy comfortable silence a lot as well
Do you talk a lot? Or do you guys just enjoy comfortable silence and each other's presence?click to expand
Posted by aquanibYeah I used to haha thank you!
Stop fucking doubting yourself. You're an aqua, that's 80% of awesome right there. 😄
But for reals.....stop doubting yourself. You sound like a lovely girl tbh (you had that cartoonish avatar right-blondie girl dreaming?) and i'm sure any cancer would love to have you.
I dunno about you mentioning mental health problems, but as far as i saw, your posts do not convey such impression. Mentals don't loose their crazy status on the internet, it intensifies it.
Posted by kissmygritsPosted by Lovely20Posted by kissmygritsWe do talk a lot but we also enjoy comfortable silence a lot as well
Do you talk a lot? Or do you guys just enjoy comfortable silence and each other's presence?
That's a great sign. When that negative voice pops in your head tell it to stfu. Voice in head is different from your inner gut. That's a feeling. 🙂
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Posted by pinkbird03Actually we've been seeing each other for 3 months but we've only been exclusive for 1 but yeah :/ I thought we were taking things slow like, we haven't even told people (put it on Facebook or anything)
A month? Yea that's clingy. Too much too soon. Honeymoon phase will pass and won't be so exciting anymore
Posted by Lovely20Everyone has their own definition of slow. Might be a good idea to ask him about his. Because to me, you are the one moving too fast and he's not giving you what u want I.e. Social media perks I guess! I worry that may be a red flag! Why is he hiding you?Posted by pinkbird03Actually we've been seeing each other for 3 months but we've only been exclusive for 1 but yeah :/ I thought we were taking things slow like, we haven't even told people (put it on Facebook or anything)
A month? Yea that's clingy. Too much too soon. Honeymoon phase will pass and won't be so exciting anymoreclick to expand
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