Aquarius Woman/ Cancer man. Idk what to do!

I'm an sun in Aquarius, moon in Pisces woman and I'm HIGHLY intrested in a sun in Cancer, moon in Pisces man. He seems to be intrested (when he's around anyway), calls every so often, and seems great with my two sons. Problem is he doesn't show up that often and when he calls there's always an akward silence on his end even when I try to start up a converstation (I mentioned this to him and he said he was better at listening -__-). He says he can't come over much because I live about 30min away and he works plus helps his mom out when he's off work (I know the cancer deal about moms) so I told him I was cool with it and to not go out of his way for me and he said he would make time (this was yesterday so, still waiting). What bothers me is the lack of communication and when we have any it's usually about sex. We haven't had sex yet but he has made his point clear that he is into it, then when I said I was too he started saying how he doesn't think about sex all the time like most men. I'm so confused, I don't mind jumping into bed (not that I'm slutty, it just doesn't matter that much and I'm SO VERY attracted to him) and I know cancers view sex in a whole "loving" way so I don't want him to get the impression that I'm using him. But then again, with the conversations always leading to that, I'm not sure if he's just trying to use me or not. Also, we haven't had any "alone time" yet, he always sees me with his buddies around. When I suggest for him to come over by himself he tells me he'll ask so and so if they want to join or he tells me he's too busy but says he'll try. Basically, it's just back and forth and if it keeps up I may have to just forget it but I'm wondering if this is normal or if he's just not wanting me that much? It must be the aquarius in me but I need someone who can at least hold a conversation with me. I like to have a FRIEND in my boyfriends lol. Thanks.

Also, I know aquarius/cancer isn't a good match according to everything I read but I'm tryng anyway if I could just figure out if he likes me or not cause he's great with my kids and so sweet. I would ask but I heard cancers may lie just to spare feelings...

No it's not a good match. In spite of how you feel, run now!

im aqua and my gf is cancer. our relationship is passionate. dont compare sun/moon signs. compare each others venus placement

My venus is in Capricorn, his is in Cancer.... I'm more worried about if his behavior is a normal cancer trait or not cause I thought they were supposed to pay more attention to someone they're intrested in (or maybe he's not intrested or just shy). Trying to get some ideas on what he's doing from other cancers.

First of all, it doesn't really matter how compatible you are with someone on the basis of astrology.
If someone is being an asshole to you, then astrological compatibility isn't going to matter.

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Also, we haven't had any "alone time" yet, he always sees me with his buddies around. When I suggest for him to come over by himself he tells me he'll ask so and so if they want to join or he tells me he's too busy but says he'll try. Basically, it's just back and forth and if it keeps up I may have to just forget it but I'm wondering if this is normal or if he's just not wanting me that much? It must be the aquarius in me but I need someone who can at least hold a conversation with me.

I personally don't think that this guy is worth the stress. He seems incredibly indecisive and I personally wouldn't put up with it.
The fact that he has to wander if his friends are interested in coming over with him obviously signifies that he's not mature enough to be in a relationship.

Why do you need your friends to spend quality with someone? I'm not ENTIRELY sure if he's using you, but the guy definitely isn't good for you.

It's normal for Cancer men to seem very unpredictable when it comes to pursuing women that they like, but this guy is extremely skiddish and he seems like a complete and utter child. Find a Cancer guy that actually acts like an adult.

You're too easy... ready, willing and able.
Cancers don't all view sex in a loving way, some can separate sex and love but there has to be something else there that gets them to take that step...

Aquas can mess with anyone and anything they are attracted to, very open minded that way. Sex is just sex... as long as there is conversation before it. But Cancers are picky as hell and if there is something off, or not right about you that puts them off you as a person.. it's hard to turn a blind eye.

I think he's just hanging around waiting to make a decision on whether or not he wants to 'go there' with you.
Don't look for anything long lasting from it.. but that's ok with you right, you're an Aqua!

^^^^ I'm sorry... I just had a conversation with my Aqua friend who was recently dumped by her abusive boyfriend after she caught HIM cheating on her with 3 other women. Since the breakup, she keeps bragging about how many guys she's banging... including attached men... like a payback to her man. And she is still sleeping with her ex whenever he comes around for it, because she says it's sooooo good and that's the only reason she stayed with him for this long.

Then she starts crying about how she's praying and looking for spirituality. Are you kidding me? She ain't gonna find it on the end of a dick...

I do love my Aqua gals but I really have to separate myself from what they say and what they do. They can preach a good game but that has absolutely nothing to do with how they act. I'm a bit shocked, cause I've known her for a couple years and just realized I don't know her much at all. Good thing I never let her get too close...

So, ya... my opinion may be bias.

MoonMan, if they're not mama's boys aren't they the polar opposite? That's what I've been told. They either hate or love them. Scary...

Life and people are full of shades of grey, it aint just black n white, ya.

the Magic 8 Ball is black and white and it has all the answers

I am an Aquarius woman dating a Cancer man, so I feel your pain. They are a bit confusing. My advice would be to use your natural Aquarian instincts and think about what you believe the truth to be. My guy has friends/family around a lot when we're together, but he moved almost 2 hours away (from us all) and I think he's just making the most of his visit. And I really like hanging out with them too. 🙂 When I go and stay with him we've spent some time with a friend once, but other than that we've had some alone time. I'm not sure if you find that as an Aquarius you have a knack for solving problems. I know I do, and as a result I found that I had this urgency to figure him out. You have to let go of that. Cancers move slow and sideways. What my Cancer doesn't say to me I feel when he touches me or in his glances. He's written me a letter to say that he appreciated a time when I made it very clear that I believe in him. He painted me something for Valentine's Day. They aren't as direct as we Aquarians can be. However, they are supposed to open up once they trust in your love for them and feel secure. I'm waiting for that day and offering him everything I can to let him know I do care about him and that he's the one in my heart and on my mind. Also, you should read up on the Aquarius/Cancer compatibility some more. There are some that say it can be a GREAT match. It's less of a we-are-just-alike match, and more of a we-can-learn-from-each-other-and-obtain-something-sweeter kind of match. Aquarians get a bad wrap for being unemotional. That is NOT true for me, but I protect it well. There are only a few people who really see all of my heart and they are very precious to me. The Aquarius/Cancer relationship is supposed to be the one that sets us supposedly cold & disconnected Aquarians free to experience a deeper, sweeter love. 🙂