Are cancers known to cheat when they are mad

he is away on a biz trip to washington dc but is staying 10 days and the biz meeting is only 4 days long. lots of buddies from work are there, mostly single.

he forgot his phone charger so there is no phone, he left his computer at home, i have not had contact with him in 4 days.
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we were fighting and have not had sex for two weeks. he said he was too upset to be with me intimately

Why are you worried about him cheating?

Cancers are known to crawl into their shells - maybe view it as a need for him to do that alone or you'll go insane - really!!! Leaving computer and fone charger at home indicates he wants to be alone. The more they think you'll dig, the more withdrawn they become.

My friend's Cancer husband does similar - they are very unpredictable!

so you guys think that he is taking this trip as a way to unwind. we have had tension from unresolved issues that i have brought up on other threads.

i just fear he may cheat because we keep breaking up and getting back and he left on bad terms. i just keep thinking what is he going to do for 10 days?? the seminar is only two days monday thru thursday and he left on a saturday morning to meet a bunch of guys at work.

if he went to a strip bar or was with anyone i would never forgive him. it would be the breaking point for me.

I agree with LK.

i have been obsessing because he talks to women on line. sends them poems ( he likes to write poetry but these poems are seductive) etc...i feel like he is emotionally cheating on me.

he is into photography as well, and as i mentioned in another thread, he networks with models and is viewing lots of porno pics and comments on the lightng, their looks, whatever. it is all making me soooooooo insecure.

i have never felt this insecure in my life, but i have never been in love either.

he says its all innocent when he is on personal sites because he just wants to drum up business. i just think their HAS to be another way to network than this.

I am devastated. I am really sick over thinking he will cheat on me. he knows how i feel about strip bars. i was molested by a guy that ran a strip bar.

i just wonder if this is going beyond typical cancer behaviour. I mean, he gives no way of contact. he is a computer nerd and didn't bring his laptop. didnt tell me where he was staying. don't know if he made it ok. don't know when hes coming back.

He gave me a shoulder rub before he left but then suddenly just left me hanging and said, gotta go. i didn't even know he was leaving because i knew that the biz seminar was on mon-thurs and he jumped into his car sat morning to get there early.

i don't know if he wants to site see washington dc (he has been there 4 times) or if he networked and found someone he wants to go out with up there.

My mind is absolutely racing. I love him but he is so elusive and doesn't tell me everything. he said, secrets and mysteries are good sometimes.

just need to know.is this behaviour mean he is leaving me or teaching me a lesson to leave his personal biz alone and let him talk to women on line or trying to get me so mad that i walk away? or is this just a cancers way to sort things out in his head?

i have been wanting to know where our relationship sits because we have dated for 2 years I travel far to see him and spend lots of money on tolls and gas. it is becoming difficult. I have been asking him if he wants to take it to the next level because i don't want to feel i am getting used. then since i said that he stopped having sex with me.

i just can't win..........i don't understand......i just want respect, communication, i put him first and though i have been controlling lately it is because he is driving me nuts. i say to him please just talk to me, what do you want from me./ he just says NO stress.

this man is terrible,i'm so sorry girl just try your best let him go.his probably not the right cancer for you.i know it's hard but wow this guy did you wrong....i mean it's hard when you've put your all in a relationship then it turns out to be something else....

I have gone through all your opinions and advice and i appreciate everyone who has taken the time, because time is really precious and it is the most valuable thing we have besides our health.... but I just want to say thanks,

I have been going through a lot of soul searching and this experience has really made me think in ways i have not thought of before.

I think, though I am still crushed by his thoughtlessness, that this is good for me in a spiritual way to step outside the bubble of this relationship and try to see it all from an outside perspective.

I am not worried that he didnt' make the trip ok, i mean, only the good die young and i don't think he has been very good to me as of late.

not very understanding of my feelings, not appreciative of my love, he is younger than me and he has not dated many people so i give him some slack.

He is a cancer and i know they hide so i give him slack for that as well, he is a sag moon though, people say that contradicts the nature of a cancer but i am not totally sure if this is true or not.

the gamut of emotions has been so extreme. i feel rage, then sadness and confusion, then a feeling like i don't care, then panic because i still do care. i feel like a boat on an ocean in a storm and i don't know where it will I nd just yet.

but i guess time is the only answer right now. i just need time to see where all my feelings will end up. I will see him at some point whenever he gets home and i havent' quite figured out how to react. I have things at his place that i will need to get whether this relationship is over or not.

one this for sure is, that i want respect. as deeply as i am hurt right now, i will not subject myself to a lifetime of disrespect. that would be more painful than what i am going thru now.

one this for sure is, that i want respect. as deeply as i am hurt right now, i will not subject myself to a lifetime of disrespect. that would be more painful than what i am going thru now.

Sinder, in my opinion I still believe that you are putting out masculine energy. Respect is mostly for men. Men crave for respect and women crave more for men to love us. Yes, we don't want to be disrespected but mostly we want to be cherished, adore and loved by men.

Stepping back and away would be a good idea. Just to get your thoughts together and see where you are at with "you" yourself. I know I get the most hate on these boards because I constantly will say you cannot "GIVE" to much to a man in order to get love back from him. If you give, give out of the goodness of your heart and don't EXPECT him to give you love just because you did this or that for him. Um, it just doesn't work that way and that is why your man is distancing himself. He can sense your neediness.

When you give and put your all into someone who clearly is not doing the same for you, you are acting out of desperation, not really love but being co-dependent on "false" love which is hiding the beauty of what love can really offer you.

If I were in your situation I would just stand still. I wouldn't do anything. What do you have to prove to any man that you love him besides just being yourself. Using mainly "all" your energy to focus on "you" and center your universe around you. The more you take care of you and stop worrying about recieving love from another person who is simply not a part of "you", you will get your needs met on your own.

Truthfully, it is not a man's responsibility to meet your needs. He can if he is inspired to meet your needs but he doesn't "have" to met any of your needs. You should be married to yourself until death. No other person can provide for you or take care of you the way you can do for yourself. With men you have to be selfish, less is more, the less you do to take care of him the more you will get.

sinder what's your sign?

i know there's two types of cancers ... or ive heard ... anyone know of this?

thanks again all you guys.
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krobe you said a lot. I do have lots of energy coming out emotionally because I just want him to treat me as i do him. i want equality. are you saying that we can't have equality in every way? can you please explain? what you write is interesting....

star my sun and moon are pisces. my asc is libra. venus is taurus, mercury in pisces

thanks iamcancer for giving me a guy point of view for cheating. I am getting sick over the thought that he could have picked somebody up while partying and god knows what else he could pick up and bring home with him.

cancer/cancer combos never last tho

sinder i thought you were a pisces

if i made a typo, sorry😢 i am a pisces sun/moon with a libra asc. You can see me on my blues band site www. angel blueband.com


His ex was a cancer sun and he is a cancer sun sag moon cancer asc.

do you know astrology well?