Are cancers self destructive?

I was with many cancers and they seem to be self destructive.
One cancer ignored me for 4 days until I HAD TO come to him and tell him "if youre going to ignore me at least tell me so and not have me worrying about you"
He told me that he is ignoring me because he thought i was mad at him!!!!!
WTF?!?!?!
I heard stories of cancer males ignoring the women they love and planned to marry for months or a year because they are upset.
I believe that these are unhealthy learned behaviours from childhood.
Ignoring or the "Silent Treatment"/coldshoulder/disappearing act is a form of psychological manipulation that is used to gain power and control. A person who ignores you repeatedly when you reach out in kindness is someone who...
Does not respect you.
Is trying to manipulate you.
Wants to control you.
Is exploiting you.
Does not care about your feelings.
Is pulling a power play.
Doesn't want to be vulnerable.
Wants to keep the upper hand.
Is selfish.
Does not feel the same way about you as you do about them.
Does not care about your relationship.
Would eventually throw you away if you didn't step-up to communicate again.
Is sending a powerful message about your worth directly to your self esteem (unconsciously).
Wants to keep you one-down while they stay one-up.
Wants you to be their fawn.
Wants to keep you like a pet, or a puppet on a string.
I noticed that many Cancers try to look for issues or fights.
I remember a Cancer was arguing with me about a certain topic,when he caught himself looking dumb. HE CHANGED THE TOPIC. He said, "you also are not confident" that bothers me.

Thats a very feminine type thing to do. Women usually jump around in topics and bring in other issues with you that you buried ages ago.
Do you feel that Cancers are a hazard in relationships?

YUP, in fact the Anti-Christ will be a Cancer >:-)

lol!

My mom is like this.

She'll get mad at something/someone and won't talk to them and then a week later she'll go back to normal and act like nothing happened.

Funny how everyone likes to bitch about Cancers, but never try to understand. But then again, how could they? We can just barely understand ourselves sometimes 😛 The point is, just let us be because unless you are a Cancer you will never understand.