Back at it again

Aries woman, in love with this cancer man. We've been seeing each other for 4 months. Things are great, moving along beautifully. He has a very stressful job. There was a tragedy, not from his doing, but he is the manager of that dept. BUt nothing he could have done. . Anyway, he started being a little distant that week. He even commented to me that he was not talking to anyone, staying to himself.. Even his family. The next week came and a little more distance. . The next week was a little better, felt like things were getting back to normal. My guy spent Valentines with me, He seemed fine. Last week was horrible. He talked to me only a couple times and said he was busy and so stressed me couldn't even think. I just gave him his space. Texted him something sweet everyday. But he really didn't budge. On Saturday I sent him a message, saying i was unsure what was going on, that i love how things are between us, but, feeling like something is up and to just tell me if something is wrong. No response. But he did send me a message sat and sunday, but really couldnt get him to engage in any conversation. I text him yesterday I wanted to see his handsome face and he responds.. lol. I just said, I am not that funny am I LOL. that is it, I have not heard from him or nothing. However, I find out that he asked to be demoted from his manager position, to just a counseling role. He has not been taking care of himself and has been overwhelmed with his work. So, I understand the stress and him retreating into his Cancer shell. I am sure he feels a entire array of emotions. I want to text him and just say I am here from you, but, then I don't want to push. I don't want to let him know that I heard it through the grapevine, ( we work at the same program),

Of course, I care deeply for him and I don't want to make anything worse, and I feel bad that here I am, all in my feelings while he has a lot going on and I am oblivious to it(Symptom of being an Aries). But am I being let go? IS this the ghosting and the end of it all? I mean, the last few weeks has been titrating down, with us, the amount of time we spend together and our conversations. He is always asking me if I love him. Always asking questions, trying to gage what I feel for him. I am honest. I care about him, I love him. I do, and when I ask him, he would say, maybe, or hes thinking about it. On valentines day, i said if you love me, just say it. He said ya. lol.. But now all this.. help., whats going on, what do i do? We never really had any talk or labeled our relationship. Just taking it slow. Now we are way to damn slow, we so slow we stopped. LOl. I do love him.

Heres a thought, what if he somewhat blames me for distracting him and getting off track with his job? errrrrrr.... help. and be nice!!