Calling all cancers to help a Pisces girl (please)

Sorry but sounds like a typical Cancer giving you the ignore game. Cancereans are good like that. It can last long too. Dont feed it. Live your life, carry on as you did. If he cares, he'll turn around once he notices that the ignore game has no effect.

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Posted by PiscesGal76

Sorry but sounds like a typical Cancer giving you the ignore game. Cancereans are good like that. It can last long too. Dont feed it. Live your life, carry on as you did. If he cares, he'll turn around once he notices that the ignore game has no effect.

Thanks you for your answer. You're probably right!

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I know for us Piscereans its the most heartwrenching feeling ever to be ignored but please do yourself a favor and do not give in to the ignore game.

Its said that Cancereans are a favorable match for us but I highly disagree. I find it extremely difficult to deal with them. Always feel like am walking on eggshells with them.

I prefer Scorpio, Taurus, Virgo. At least with them you know what you get.

Scorpio can lit a fuse quick but it also dims very quick. Always helpful, avoiding conflicts...

Taurus, ask and you get an honest answer, laid back, hard outerlayer to break thru but soft on inside and can make you laugh for hours.

Virgo, hard workers, family people, sarcastic in a funny way, strong morals.

Thats what I experience with those 3 signs.

I would just say drop the guy and run. Why would you want another baggage carried upon your shoulders and then carry all the weight later on?

He did it the first time and stood you up?? Who knows if he will do it the next time. Actions prove things louder than words. If he hasn’t responded to your text message and left you on read, there is no point to this.

Basically wasting all your time and investment to someone not worth the trouble, tears, migraines and frustration.

You should ghost him. You drove 2 hours and and he wasn't even home!!! Girl! Have some self respect. Dude is not interested enough to care. There is no excuse for him doing this, in fact there is one, cause all he keeps giving you is excuses!

Leave this guy alone and date someone else for now. If he comes back, you need to have him work for you and make it up to you, maybe by driving to see you instead. You are going out of your way for him.

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Sorry but sounds like a typical Cancer giving you the ignore game. Cancereans are good like that. It can last long too. Dont feed it. Live your life, carry on as you did. If he cares, he'll turn around once he notices that the ignore game has no effect.

Thanks you for your answer. You're probably right!

I know for us Piscereans its the most heartwrenching feeling ever to be ignored but please do yourself a favor and do not give in to the ignore game.

Its said that Cancereans are a favorable match for us but I highly disagree. I find it extremely difficult to deal with them. Always feel like am walking on eggshells with them.

I prefer Scorpio, Taurus, Virgo. At least with them you know what you get.

Scorpio can lit a fuse quick but it also dims very quick. Always helpful, avoiding conflicts...

Taurus, ask and you get an honest answer, laid back, hard outerlayer to break thru but soft on inside and can make you laugh for hours.

Virgo, hard workers, family people, sarcastic in a funny way, strong morals.

Thats what I experience with those 3 signs.

Thanks for your answer. I appreciate it.

Usually I attract Geminis, which I do not understand. Lately a lot of cancers, but never dealt with them romantically so this is new.

I think the thing that bothers us is not knowing and leaving us without having any idea what is going on. At least, that counts for me. I can be very patient and understanding, but when I do not know what is going on, my head panics.

The thing about “walking around in eggshells” i agree. My dads a cancer and my sister as well, I do walk around in eggshells a lot of time around them..

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Yes same for me. I have patience till the end of time IF I know whats going on. Just be clear and I wont panic and show endless patience. With 2 Cancereans in the house, am sure you've experienced the silent/ignore treatment already.

Gemini I never been romantically involved with but I have a few Gemini friends tho. To me they are really like 🙂 one minute and ☹ the next. I cant deal with that

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You should ghost him. You drove 2 hours and and he wasn't even home!!! Girl! Have some self respect. Dude is not interested enough to care. There is no excuse for him doing this, in fact there is one, cause all he keeps giving you is excuses!

Leave this guy alone and date someone else for now. If he comes back, you need to have him work for you and make it up to you, maybe by driving to see you instead. You are going out of your way for him.

Thanks for knocking some senses into my brain. Needed that.

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Think of it as a game of who can hold out the longest. And remember that you want him cause he's not so available to you. You've given in too much with him and are too accommodating so he's taking you for granted.

Start being unavailable. If he did like you, he will notice you're gone because you've given him too much attention. If he didn't like you he will be glad you're gone. Either way it will work in your favor and you will know the next step to do. So cut contact and see what happens.

Your doing WAY way too much here. Thats the nail in the coffin really. This is early days. You need to match his enthusiasm and effort. LET HIM LEAD.

After 2 hangouts you send a gift, drive 2 hours to come to him, are the one to initiate everything. AND HE GHOSTED YOU cause he'd rather kick it with his friends. F that.

Stop giving your energy, time, and money to someone who doesn't see you as a priority.

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Your doing WAY way too much here. Thats the nail in the coffin really. This is early days. You need to match his enthusiasm and effort. LET HIM LEAD.

After 2 hangouts you send a gift, drive 2 hours to come to him, are the one to initiate everything. AND HE GHOSTED YOU cause he'd rather kick it with his friends. F that.

Stop giving your energy, time, and money to someone who doesn't see you as a priority.

Thank you! He used to initiate almost everything in the beginning. The first and second meet up, but after he has been in this mood it just completely changed. I must persist and go on with my life. If it comes, let it, if it goes, let it. It's difficult but everyone is right.

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In the past I've done to much and it fizzled out. So I'm a huge believer in letting the dude lead, at the beginning at least.

The relationships that worked out for me have followed that pattern.

My dude use to drive out to me 5 days a week, over 1hr one way. Now that we are almost 5 years deep its a bit more balanced.

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Your doing WAY way too much here. Thats the nail in the coffin really. This is early days. You need to match his enthusiasm and effort. LET HIM LEAD.

After 2 hangouts you send a gift, drive 2 hours to come to him, are the one to initiate everything. AND HE GHOSTED YOU cause he'd rather kick it with his friends. F that.

Stop giving your energy, time, and money to someone who doesn't see you as a priority.

Thank you! He used to initiate almost everything in the beginning. The first and second meet up, but after he has been in this mood it just completely changed. I must persist and go on with my life. If it comes, let it, if it goes, let it. It's difficult but everyone is right.

In the past I've done to much and it fizzled out. So I'm a huge believer in letting the dude lead, at the beginning at least.

The relationships that worked out for me have followed that pattern.

My dude use to drive out to me 5 days a week, over 1hr one way. Now that we are almost 5 years deep its a bit more balanced.

I want that. Haha. Must feel amazing!

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You'll get it. But good things don't come easy.

Approach dating from a different perspective. Don't be so eager for it to work out. Rather sit back and pre qualify someone. Know your worth. Wait for the right one.

never understood the pisces cancer connection.

cancer males seems to be all i attract.

*sigh*

I just think what he did was disrespectful tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I don’t understand what your problem is.

You act like he should be happy about you pitying him.

Do you want to be his mom?

Excuse me? Pitying him? I don't think you understand it. I don't pity him. I'm genuine. Also, I don't share my every thought and feeling with this man, because I am aware I feel strongly and can come off that way. I balance it out and I keep it neutral most of the time.

I'm only asking what I should do next as I am trying to understand his side too.

Leave him alone.

Let him make his “bad” decisions, because friends can last a lifetime, but you’ve only been around 2 months and think you can judge his whole life.

Saying you “care” etc doesn’t look genuine. It looks like he hurt your feelings because you aren’t priority. You’re going to tell him the “good” decision is to stop having fun and drop things for you.

Get a hobby. You waiting around for someone, you barely know, is just weird and clingy.

Lol! You make me laugh. “You’re going to tell him the “good” decision is to stop having fun and drop things for you.“ You are seeing and saying things I never even said.He can do whatever he wants, I don't care one bit. I don't control him. He has a life of his own and I do too thankfully. I don't like controlling people. You are making things up that are not even there and changing everything I said. Not even reality and not even what has happened. If he wants go, he can go. I would never stop him. I don't even know him that well.

He stood me up without any explanation, which is rude. I'm trying to learn and to understand some things. That's all.

You seem quite bitter. Chill. It's not that serious.

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Arielle is right. This is how you come across. Immature as well.

Get a hobby and stop spamming dxpnet just because you got a bruise on your overinflated ego.

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I just think what he did was disrespectful tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️

It truly is. Pff

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Right, so tell him you wish him the best and don’t respond. Watch his actions, see if he tries to make things right and if he doesn’t then you know where he stands.

First of all don't listen to this Arielle chick..clearly she's used to being a doormat or some shit. Worse advice I've ever heard.

When someone makes an arrangement with you with time and place then does not bother to cancel, show up etc then HE IS STANDING YOU UP! Plain and simple. That is the rudest thing you can do...especially to someone you just met. Even if he doesn't want to take you seriously...damn...even strangers can treat each ohter better than that shit. Even if his phone died, he could've noted your phone # or something when he knew it was goingto die so he could text you or contact you from a friends phone or from a pay phone, from a restaurant phone, from the hotel phone etccccccccccc

So you have to ask yourself do you want to be with someone so inconsiderate?

Second of all, why are you making excuses for his "bad decisions" or for what he's going through? As a lady-friend he should be more than happy to spend time with you to forget about his shitty situation rather than using his shitty situation as an excuse to ignore you.

Can you imagine being with someone who deals with stress or bad news by ignoring the people they care about? Not saying he should care about you but some decency such as "hey i have a lot going on so i need some space, will contact you when ready to talk".

You don't want to be that person he avoids when he's stressed... you want to be that person he communicates with through his stress... and the person he lets know when they need space.

So the whole situation is looking ugly... you should be pissed and your message was a little too nice for someone so rude. period.

Listen, I don't condone him not trying to contact you about canceling the plans prior to you leaving.

But you should have not gone if you didn't hear from him that day confirming plans. Nor should you have read a completely different context then what he wrote and made assumptions based on a single sentence.

I am just going to point out several things. One, you saying him going out with his friends and making bad decisions, really isn't your call to make given you don't know anything really about their relationship. Second, you guys had 2 dates prior, with text communication in between. You aren't prioritized above his friends that you even state he doesn't see a lot. He will choose them over you. As shitty as that makes you feel, you aren't even his girlfriend. So it is what it is.

Don't give someone spouse like treatment, when you don't hold a title. It will cause you less grief in the long run.

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First of all don't listen to this Arielle chick..clearly she's used to being a doormat or some shit. Worse advice I've ever heard.

When someone makes an arrangement with you with time and place then does not bother to cancel, show up etc then HE IS STANDING YOU UP! Plain and simple. That is the rudest thing you can do...especially to someone you just met. Even if he doesn't want to take you seriously...damn...even strangers can treat each ohter better than that shit. Even if his phone died, he could've noted your phone # or something when he knew it was goingto die so he could text you or contact you from a friends phone or from a pay phone, from a restaurant phone, from the hotel phone etccccccccccc

So you have to ask yourself do you want to be with someone so inconsiderate?

Second of all, why are you making excuses for his "bad decisions" or for what he's going through? As a lady-friend he should be more than happy to spend time with you to forget about his shitty situation rather than using his shitty situation as an excuse to ignore you.

Can you imagine being with someone who deals with stress or bad news by ignoring the people they care about? Not saying he should care about you but some decency such as "hey i have a lot going on so i need some space, will contact you when ready to talk".

You don't want to be that person he avoids when he's stressed... you want to be that person he communicates with through his stress... and the person he lets know when they need space.

So the whole situation is looking ugly... you should be pissed and your message was a little too nice for someone so rude. period.

I’m the last person to be considered a doormat. I’m not seeing this as some man versus woman thing.

I’m seeing it as a cancer thing.

Her actions are too intense and if he’s not a consistent person, then why the fuck would she drive 2 hours when he wasn’t responding?

She’s being a doormat.

If I were him and her actions were a person I’ve known for TWO MONTHS, I’d be not making them a priority either.

If I have personal shit going on, and I barely know this Pisces, why should I make her the most important thing in my life?

Sorry, cancer doesn’t like pushy and if someone’s going to show up when I’m not even being clear or forthcoming, I’ll see them as desperate or pushy.

He’s not calling because he doesn’t give a shit.

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Yeah I get THAT! But he invited her with a time and place... so the decent thing for him to do is to cancel or show up. She shouldn't blame herself for soemone else's poor manners..

Originally you were telling her to accept shit because he shouldn't HAVE to care for someone he doesn't know well.

There are people who get set up on blind dates, who don't even know each other, but the social decency is that they'd show up, right? So who the fuck is this retard to be made an exception to being a decent person.

So let's say someone gets stood up on a blind date...wtf are you gonna do? Blame them that they made the effort and invested in someone they do not know? That's called life...taking risks on people because you hope the world is going to be decent because the alternative sounds like a miserable life... just walking around all guarded and expecting the worse from people....

Which sounds like cancers lol ... just walking around all mistrusting and guarded waiting for the next person to screw them over while in fact they forgot decency and screw others over. You get what you give. (sorry generalizing Cancers but this is an astro forum so I' mgoing to go ahead and stereotype some Sun sign shit).

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Listen, I don't condone him not trying to contact you about canceling the plans prior to you leaving.

But you should have not gone if you didn't hear from him that day confirming plans. Nor should you have read a completely different context then what he wrote and made assumptions based on a single sentence.

I am just going to point out several things. One, you saying him going out with his friends and making bad decisions, really isn't your call to make given you don't know anything really about their relationship. Second, you guys had 2 dates prior, with text communication in between. You aren't prioritized above his friends that you even state he doesn't see a lot. He will choose them over you. As shitty as that makes you feel, you aren't even his girlfriend. So it is what it is.

Don't give someone spouse like treatment, when you don't hold a title. It will cause you less grief in the long run.

Thank you for your reply and your honesty. You make sense. And it is true about what you said, but since it was already planned and we both agreed upon it i thought that would be enough and because he was texting less also.. but I should confirm plans in the future.

Thanks your point of view helps me.

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I've been in your place in regards to plans and long drives. Granted mine was with a friend, not someone I was dating. I've learned that no matter what, to always confirm plans just prior to leaving because a good majority of people cancel last minute.

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Listen, I don't condone him not trying to contact you about canceling the plans prior to you leaving.

But you should have not gone if you didn't hear from him that day confirming plans. Nor should you have read a completely different context then what he wrote and made assumptions based on a single sentence.

I am just going to point out several things. One, you saying him going out with his friends and making bad decisions, really isn't your call to make given you don't know anything really about their relationship. Second, you guys had 2 dates prior, with text communication in between. You aren't prioritized above his friends that you even state he doesn't see a lot. He will choose them over you. As shitty as that makes you feel, you aren't even his girlfriend. So it is what it is.

Don't give someone spouse like treatment, when you don't hold a title. It will cause you less grief in the long run.

Thank you for your reply and your honesty. You make sense. And it is true about what you said, but since it was already planned and we both agreed upon it i thought that would be enough and because he was texting less also.. but I should confirm plans in the future.

Thanks your point of view helps me.

I've been in your place in regards to plans and long drives. Granted mine was with a friend, not someone I was dating. I've learned that no matter what, to always confirm plans just prior to leaving because a good majority of people cancel last minute.

Thank you. This made a lot of sense.

And also, I would be creeped out if he would put me above his friends. I would never be okay with that. We only just met.

Believe me, I'm not this needy / clingy person some may think / say I am.

He didn't let me know nor did he cancel our plans and that is what bothered me. He could've canceled it when he sent that text right before his phone died asking if I was on my way. If he said “sorry cant make it” i wouldnt be bothered.



Couldve, wouldve, shouldve... blah blah blah Anyway, it is what it is now. We shall see how this goes.

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Like I said, I don't condone him not canceling. That's bad behavior on his part.

He could have sent you a message canceling as well, but due to the lack of internet, it may not have sent. There are two many veritables in this whole mess. Regardless, he could have asked his friend to contact you. Found a way to cancel or postpone. He is not above reproach here.

I am simply stating how things appear as an outside perspective with what little information you have divulged. And additional advice about not going if no solid confirmation is given. And that you should not go above and beyond, if what you state is true, for someone you barely know.

I really don't need you to justify how you are or aren't clingy. As I didn't say that.

Frankly, you have too much time on your hands and you come across eager, to waste it. You literally wrote a book about this no-show, flaky dude 🤦 Stop chasing this unstable prune. He stood you up. Actions *always*, *always*, speaks louder than words. SMH

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Hey guys,

I’m new here. I'd like to have your opinion (cancerians) about the situation I'm currently dealing with.

I met this cancer man 2 months ago. We have seen each other twice (I know it's not a lot but I went on a holiday twice during those 2 months). We had good chemistry and we talked nearly everyday. I know he needs his space sometimes, and I do to. When we met it was very lovely. He gave me lots of compliments, I gave him compliments too of course. I noticed that he looked a bit shy when he gave me compliments. He also hugged me a lot of times and wanted to hold me (sometimes it seemed that he wanted to hold me, but was holding back). It clicked and it felt just natural. We had a nice flow.

He is going through some personal things, and lately has been distant. The first time he was silent he didn't tell me anything, I didn't pressure him even though I was making up all kinds of scenarios and was ready to move on (this is my first time dealing with a cancer, so please bare with me). He messaged and apologised to me for being silent after 2 days and explained that someone of his family has fallen ill. I told him I was there for him and he went back silent, which I understood so I gave him his space and sent him a nice gif once during this silence. After 4 days he contacted me again right before I went on a holiday. Everything was all good and he seemed to be doing better. We met up after I landed and had coffee (this was so thoughtful of him).

Fast forward, we were supposed to meet up. We made plans even though he was going through some issues again and was a bit distant. He has some issues at work so I didn't push him, but he still wanted to meet me. He seemed excited. He was home alone and we decided to do some cooking together. He lives in another city so I told him I will come to his. He again apologised for being a bit distant and that he would tell me what has been going on when we would meet (the next day). We even agreed on a time. The next day I texted him I was on my way, but no response. I was like whatever he will respond later. I know that the night before he was going out with a friend (I saw posts of them two). He even asked to reschedule our time to a bit later the next day which was okay for me. When I got there he didn't show up. My messages didn't come through as he didn't have internet in another country (we live close to the border). He messaged me once” hey did you leave your home yet because I don’t have any signal here and phone is dying”. I interpret that as “just so you know my phone doesn't work but ill be there”. His friend then posted a pic on IG later that day that they were super hungover and eating pizza. At the same time that we were actually supposed to meet.

I was gutted because I drove nearly 2 hours to see him. We agreed on the date and time. He was not there. His phone wasn't on, I do believe him when he said he didn't have a signal. I sent him a couple of texts with “where are you?” After waiting for an hour I went back home. I was upset to say the least.

When I got back home I sent him “thanks a lot”. And went back to bed. I needed to calm down and didn't want to go all crazy on him so i thought it was best to sleep on it. Later that day my messages came through but didn't reply.

I noticed he tends to make “poor” decisions when he is with his mates and likes to be with them since they don't see each other that often. Which I can somehow understand since he has been in a mood lately. He probably “needs” this.

I gave it some thought and texted him the next day. Not even angry but I said “ I want to be honest with you, what happened last night kind of hurt me. I hope you can look at it and understand me from my point of view and see that it wasn't a nice experience for me. I'm not saying this because I want a fight with you.m nor am I even angry with you. It just hurt my feelings because I do think you are sweet and nice. And I have been a bit worried about you lately as well”.

4 days has passed and no apologise which I don't even expect, no nothing. He has been in his shell a lot lately and I bet he still is, but this is a bit crap to be honest.

What do you reckon I should do next?

Thanks a lot

Umm.. just leave him alone..

You already said what you had to say. If he really likes you he'll contact you when he's ready. The longer he takes should give you an idea of how much he actually care.. only because he's in the wrong.

Next time if there is a next time.. be raw about how you feel. You played it too nice when you have every right to be upset. Why Wtf do you care about his feelings when he hurt yours?

Anywooo.. I'm pro cussing men out 😂😅 you gotta let him know what you will tolerate and what you won't.. especially if he's not even technically your man.