Can a 33 years old woman marry a 22 years old man

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by coumari on Sunday, June 24, 2012 and has 17 replies.

Can a 33-Year-Old Woman Marry a 22-Year-Old Man

Yes, age differences like this are possible for marriage if both partners are legally eligible and mutually committed. Compatibility depends on individual values, maturity, and shared goals rather than age alone. Consulting with a relationship counselor can help address potential challenges.

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@Nefer
17 Years1,000+ PostsPisces

No, it's illegal. You'll go to prison. :p

Seriously, that cannot be the real question.. so what is?

Are you really asking if it's a common occurrence, this 11 year gap in ages leading to a relationship/marriage? Are you asking for peoples' opinions on the subject? Are you wanting to hear personal stories about "age gaps".. preferably just the good ones too, eh? *wink wink nudge nudge*

And something else is missing from this, I can feel it. Is this a culture thing? Are these questions coming from a place of this relationship not being considered "proper" or "acceptable" according to the culture(s) involved? Are you seeking justification/hope for a relationship you know deep down cannot and will not work out?

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@coumari
15 Years

@ Iwin 32 Thank u so much 🙂

@ Nefer really, thats my question 😄

@ LeoVirgoGirl,nope that wasnt my question abt perfect ending instead is it possible thou he is so young :/

@ exoskeleton

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@MissAquarious
14 Years

I am also in love/ in a long term relationship with a younger crab (he's 21). I think it all depends on the man in this situation. Men are typically more immature than women when they're younger, so as the older woman we need to be realistic. My cancer man is very mature for his age- and has been my rock in serious situations. We both agree that sometimes he's more mature than me! (but I am a silly, crazy, lighthearted Aquarius 🙂. I guess my point is, although cancer men are naturally good husbands and fathers, your guy is younger and inexperienced compared to you. My guy has learned a lot about serious relationships from me, and I've been patient... Realistic... Knowing that he's young and more inexperienced with certain things. I say, if you love your crab like I do, and you're willing to be patient and take your time- go for it! But know that crabs take their time anyway, so with a younger crabs you'll have to be even more patient. That said, even though he's young if he hasn't mentioned a future with you after awhile then you may want to move on. My guy has been talking about our future for awhile now, but wants to wait to really take the next step when he can really provide for me (after he gets his bachelors degree and a job in his field). I think it's sweet and very responsible... Very cancer. Good luck!

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@coumari
15 Years

wooooooow !!! @ MissAquarious thank u so much for inspiring me

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@Cap4Life
14 YearsCapricorn

My FIRST wife was 30. I was 20. It is possible. In the end. She cheated on ME. I Was heart broken. I took her back and she did it again. They say older people are more mature. Not always. Certainly not in my case. I was WAY more mature than her. Of course. I have always been pretty mature to begin with. As long as they are 18 i suppose it is okay. I Would never be with anyone more or less than 5 years apart again! My woman is 29. I am 33. It works for me because we have a lot in common. It is really your call.

If your worried about what others think. Don't. As long as it is legal. AND your happy. Its none of their business. I always say; "Joke em if they cant take a fukk!" Ha ha

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@rockyroadicecream
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Depends on the individuals involved. Generally, guys at that age haven't fully psychologically matured yet, so you may come across various issues in that area. Another conflict could possibly be the different stages of life so it could create a little friction. ie, he realizes he doesn't want to be tied down so young, but you're ready to settle, etc. Just a hypothetical, not your situation per se.

But "can" you? Nobody's stopping you. :p Personally, I'd be a bit wary since guys can be all over the place at that age, but you can't help who you fall in love with. *shrugs*

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@coumari
15 Years

@ Cap4Life am sorry to know such.Isnt a rule to say older people are more mature at all 🙂And hope things work with the new relationship.Wish you Luck !! Cheers

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@coumari
15 Years

@ rockyroadicecream thank you 🙂 and @ ScorpioFish lol pic is so funny haha thank you

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@SnowAngelsBurial
14 YearsPisces

Posted by LeoVirgoGirl
i also experienced how immature a 24 year old man can be. And how much pain it is when it doesn't work out. The securities come out with vengeance.

If you asking for examples of perfect ending, don't know any. Sorry.

True. Much growth that needs to be done - on many fronts. Priorities need to be set and other issues 'fleshed-out' in the twenty-something years. At least, that's how I'd envision it to be like for me.

To OP: do whatever. Why ask the permission of random people who aren't really involved in your life? Personally... I'd blame the 'intensity' of the feeling. And as such, makes you want to do crazy shit (like marriage). Sure, you may think that he's the greatest guy you've ever met, but just wait and see how long that kind of perception of him lasts. Hell... he may not want marriage. Or even be thinking of it. Unless you've spoken with him about it, that is.

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@cbseawind
14 Years

Yes you can. As people say, age is in the mind. The biggest concern is the maturity of your 22 year old. Does he share your same goals in life?
Has he been in a long term relationship before? Probably not.
As others have stated, talk this out as you are in a different spot in your life that he is.

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@ecent
14 Years

Age is just a number if two people is grown + mature it can work. My grandmom and RIP grandfather was 11 yrs apart. My man is waaaaaay older then me great relationship