Can a Cancer be a loyal flirter? (Page 2)

I am glad LeoKitten that you are actually grown... you could have fooled me! There is nothing to talk my way out and what I initially posted was not asking what to do it was asking for ensight.

If you actually read.... I plainly stated.

"But from an astrological perspective I would like to know if any Cancer men could shine any light on this behaviour for me. Because Cancers are so complex, maybe I'm reading him wrong and probably have no reason to worry."

You on the hand should learn to stop pointing fingers.

"i just don't post threads asking people what i should do about it. i generally can figure it out on my own."

Well I wonder what catagory of questions does asking what to do for your one year anniversary fall into? At least I have enough love for my guy to figure this out on my own... I guess it's because I have so much practice... being his mother and all.

Krobe I realise you have nothing better to do with your life so I'll excuse you. And the Rap shit... wat the hell is that supposed to mean?

Anyway Ladies! Thanks for your efforts all the same... but smarter women stepped up to the plate and gave much better answers. But your answers were not in vain because now I see how naive some women can be... even if they are 30 and should be experienced.

Krobe I realise you have nothing better to do with your life so I'll excuse you. And the Rap butter... wat the hell is that supposed to mean?

Um, any one on these boards who is aware of the name krobe will clearly let you know, I have it going on, big time. That is the reason why I don't ask for advice, my man does not flirt and I am not buying his sex!

You figure it out!

No but instead he is buying you! How is your car, your house and that v-day ring? I got my own funds Ms. Lady... I can afford to get all that for myself. A man does not define me. What's gonna happen to you when he walks out on your arse. Where you gonna sleep? So you figure it out!

And don't play the Ms. Perfect game with me... remember this?

"......hey Kroebe, he doesn't return lent money.....wants booty calls.....ignores you on a whim.....doesn't call back.......STOP RIGHT THERE....actions speak louder than words......how many more "non-actions" do you need from him before you look him in the eye and say "Get lost! and before you do...return my money!!!"

Go doodle with someone else Krobe... I am not one to play with. I have a mind and I'm very good at using it.

"......hey Kroebe, he doesn't return lent money.....wants booty calls.....ignores you on a whim.....doesn't call back.......STOP RIGHT THERE....actions speak louder than words......how many more "non-actions" do you need from him before you look him in the eye and say "Get lost! and before you do...return my money!!!"

Um, you are talking about the WRONG man man my dear. Get your facts straight. Go and read ALL of the posts I ever posted here and you will see what type of man I have.

I don't know nothing about you, I don't care to know nothing about you, I haven't read any of your PREVIOUS posts and I don't care to read any of your previous or past posts.

No do yourself a favor, quick sleeping and dreaming krobe, like you have been doing for the past two days. And be the so called mature "real" woman you claim to be and ignore me!

Yeah, that is what I thought. You ignore me and Leokitten but you steadily post. I don't live in a hut, so I will do you a favor. YOU ARE IGNORED! I don't associate myself with trash!

Wrong man or not... you're not as tough as you try to make people think. You are a distructive force who plays games with men and it's women like you that turn good guys bad and women like me who have to pick them up and fix them after they are broken. Since you're giving advice why don't you take your own and ignore MY thread! Happy to say bye bye to ya!

My age is right there by my screen name... no need to lie about it. Wonder why you hid yours? I don't dress him like a Barbie doll... he just happens to be a man who is also into his looks (some men are like that) and yes if I cross a store and see a nice shirt I will buy it for him. I am a very confident woman, so therefore, I have no problem with him looking good. That has nothing to do with you now does it? You're the one that stated me buying him clothes was troubling. Sorry to break it to you love... but wives usually go out and buy their husbands clothes and other things. You're just not getting it... there are some women that are wife material. How can you be with someone in the long run if you're gonna be saving face. I ain't ashamed!

And you know what... it has been confirmed on here that he is just friendly,confident and is in a happier state of mind now that he is with me, just like it's been confirmed that there is nothing wrong with buying your guy things especially if he does the same for you and that came from a Cancer man! So get off your high horse and hit me with another card... cuz that one is just over played now!

Yep that's right! I got him the flat screen for Christmas!!! And you know what he got me? A platinum, diamond encrusted Cartier watch... sweety don't worry your little head over me. I didn't have to come and brag that on here. I just do what I gotta do and get what I gotta get and if you have a problem with that... well then continue doing your thing by making homemade cards for your man. Nobody's knocking it! I can hold mine down... do yourself a favour and do the same!

I used to give and give to a man...it took me forever to stop doing that and it was best and most expensive lesson I could learn, giving be it a shirt or tv will make a man eventually feel indebted and neglect will follow, let him buy his own clothes,

I will say an exchange of gifts is cool as long as its equal but no babying a man, he doesn't need a mother and being a mother figure will not get a woman anything but neglect and unending questions and at some point dumped, a man can go home to mom if he needs that kind of nurturing.

If your sure of yourself there is no need to give to a man, most women give to look more appealing to a man in the relationship but in his mind he's probably feeling emasculated, too much giving even when its shirts, cooking food will end the romance and in some cases end the relationship and this is when women scamper to salvage the relationship by giving even more, there has to be a balance and if you have that balance then you know its not necessary to give a man anything because he's not loving you for what you can give or loving you because you remind him of mom, he's loving you for you. The thing about giving is it never seems wrong until the guy decides to leave.

I used to be like Lady_taurus giving nice little gifts and eventually it backfired, at some point his behavior will get worse because she's probably doing way too much.

The only thing a woman has to do (I had to learn this) she has to be a good RECEIVER, relax and allow a man to GIVE love to her, a man has to feel that the love he sends your way is GETTING INTO you. He wants to feel appreciated, feel manly - and know that he's making you happy.

Giving gifts makes a man feel unsure of himself because the woman is taking away his role, the woman hasn't allowed him to lead by trusting he will be actively present in loving her for her. Thats why some of the posters called you insecure lady taurus.

All a woman has to do during the duration of a relationship is be relaxed and
just be herself with a man all that extra stuff will deplete a man and make him lose attraction for the woman.

also there is a huge gap mentally and emotionally between women in there 20s and 30s, so when us 30something women talk to women in there 20s we are basically speaking Chinese, we speak 2 different languages, I know if someone would have told me to stop giving in my 20s I would have dismissed them completely and kept doing my thing, all it took was life kicking me in the ass and now I know better.

Giving without equal return will not make a man act right, will not make a man love you more, it doesn't do ANYTHING but make a woman look desperate and foolish.

Lady-taurus : ''LeoKitten: I was mainly speaking about Krobe.... but since you wanna start with me let's have it! You laugh at me?!! Laugh at yourself little girl, because you're the one coming up in here and posting your fantasy life. I have never heard so much duyum shiat in my life. Not even in the real world. You may think you have the best relationship in here... but anyone can make up a perfect relationship. ...''

I am glad I am not the only one who thinks leo kittens 'perfect' relationship is fake.

lol

She is only fooling the idiots on here. If she was really happy with her cancer man (assuming she has one) then why the need to advertise it to strangers online?

If one is truly happy - they would not come onto a website telling the world the details of the relationship.

Poor girl - she is living in her own little world called Dxp.net. lol

right...absolutely....leokitten is pathetic...as opposed to a selfish child who comes here asking advice on how to steal someone else's boyfriend?......

Still got that bitter aftertaste huh?

''right...absolutely....leokitten is pathetic...as opposed to a selfish child who comes here asking advice on how to steal someone else's boyfriend?......

Still got that bitter aftertaste huh?''

For your information fishy - I am currently WITH this Cancer man. I knew it would happen and that it was a matter of time. But, unlike some, I dont have to come on here giving details of how happy I am with him and what he does for me etc etc.

One who has real love does not need to prove it to online strangers.

LeoKitten - I am aiming to make this Cancer MINE properly (ie marriage) butI do not wish to rush.

Nearly all your posts consists of you bragging of what your cancer does for you, what he buys you etc etc (to every little detail too) - dont you think this is a little over board?

It is like you're overcompensating on here for what you really dont have...

''right...absolutely....leokitten is pathetic...as opposed to a selfish child who comes here asking advice on how to steal someone else's boyfriend?......

Still got that bitter aftertaste huh?''

For your information fishy - I am currently WITH this Cancer man. I knew it would happen and that it was a matter of time. But, unlike some, I dont have to come on here giving details of how happy I am with him and what he does for me etc etc.

One who has real love does not need to prove it to online strangers.

LeoKitten - I am aiming to make this Cancer MINE properly (ie marriage) butI do not wish to rush.

Nearly all your posts consists of you bragging of what your cancer does for you, what he buys you etc etc (to every little detail too) - dont you think this is a little over board?

It is like you're overcompensating on here for what you really dont have...

ladies, please, we should not interfear with each others qualities/faults, we are all different therefore we can see things differently. it doesn't make any difference to any of us that someone lives a "real" dream or not, or that they want/do something that is immoral to most of us. We are here to help the ones that come and ask for advice, so let's not get upset and hurt each other. Thank you

I really don't think the advice is to hurt anyone! I just some women have really sensitive feelings and internet users are not always sensitive. Some are blunt and it sometimes hurt others feelings to the point they want to stab with a knife because it actually hurt their egos instead of help them learn from some of the women who have already been in the same exact situations whether it is a Cancer man or a male from another sign.

If the posts hurt ignore the advice and keep doing what makes you and your man happy.

'' We are here to help the ones that come and ask for advice, so let's not get upset and hurt each other. Thank you''

Well done for taking the higher road. Sincerely. Maybe leokitten will get the hint so that she doesnt turn around every post towards herself.

Hi Krobe - hope youre well. Youre right (when arent you? lol) - no one here is hurt, its the internet afterall. I am a blunt person - diplomacy doesnt come very natural to me. lol

Yes - I only take the advice I want to take and ignore everything else. But that is nobody elses business what I do and what I dont do.

Hi Krobe - hope youre well. Youre right (when arent you? lol) - no one here is hurt, its the internet afterall. I am a blunt person - diplomacy doesnt come very natural to me. lol

What's up Scorpion Sting, how the heck are you? Long time no hear from. Are you OK?

of course you knew it would end up that way - you were going to hound the man until it did.

So you pride yourself on stealing an emotionally unstable man in a stagnant relationship..... wow.... guess what? it won't last.

Everyone here has told you this already - yes he will eventually succumb, and then when the novelty wears off someone else will come along and steal him away from YOU. of course when that happens we won't hear that part of the story. You're too proud and think you can fool everyone by coming in here acting like you have it all together.

Please; you're completely transparent.

''What's up Scorpion Sting, how the heck are you? Long time no hear from. Are you OK?''

Hello there krobe. Im great thanks. Good to see youre still around. I only come on now and again.


Oh and angel fishy... why do you try so hard? That's what is transparent. lol Keep out of my business little girl.

stay out of your business? no problem - don't post it here to be dissected 🙂

virgogotme: I am giving her the benefit of the doubt......though she doesn't seem to warrant it 😢

Whats going on again??

lol

Scorpio sting- You are not the only one whom has agreed with me about Leo Kitten. So many people have PM me, giving me high fives for telling her like it is because she is so annoying. But yet has the nerve to come on here and tell other people that they are less of a woman than her.

Krobe- No two situations are the same. As a matter of fact it is very rare that you would find two people sharing the same exact experience. Personalities differ for each individual and different life experiences contribute to each relationship. So although you think you are helping you may be indeed hurting someone. Like SS said "Yes - I only take the advice I want to take and ignore everything else. But that is nobody elses business what I do and what I dont do."
Because everyone has that choice and no one is "completely" wiser than the other just because they share similar experiences and seem to think that they have been there and done that. Point of views are helpful when asking for advice but bashing someone is not useful and that is what you and Leo Kitten came on here and do.

and yet what she misconstrues as bashing is acceptable behaviour on her part.....invalidates your argument.

read tiki's posts again ?they reiterate what was said earlier. there seems to be a control issue here.

I think that most of the problem comes from people sometimes making it out as though because they are older they know better...... I for one don't believe that with age comes wisdom....some people can live through something and not learn a single thing from it....others, though they are younger, can watch someone else go through something and learn from it...or just plain have the common sense to know what's going on....

At any rate I'm not talking about anyone in specific or anything in particular that was said here...but it's just something I've seen a lot here... people pushing their idea of what a situation is and what the outcome will be on other people, saying things like "they'll learn" and "she's young...she doesn't see it yet..."

Bottom line is being older doesn't mean you've learned all there is to know, and being younger doesn't mean you haven't experienced anything.....

Angel: Absolutly! Age has nothing to do with one's decision. I appreciated Tiki telling me her own experience with "giving". She had a good point when she said that some men take advantage of women when the woman does things for them and unlike the bashers, she generalised it... she didn't exactly come out and say that I was like this. However, the whole purpose of the thread had nothing to do with buying my guy things.

If he were to walk out on me... i don't feel like it would take anything out of me just because I bought him things. I would feel worse if he did everything for me, my whole life depended on him, i had nothing for myself and he walked out. I would be heart broken for months. If another guy could'nt fill his shoes I would find myself constantly in regret, because i would always be looking for that guy to do everything for me to replace what i had. However, not every guy is like that. At least if he were to leave, at the end of the day, I know I did my part and I wouldn't have no room to doubt that I didn't do my best. There are alot of educated, grown, professional men out there and the last thing they want is a woman full of expectations. Life is about giving and taking.

I agree... some guys take advantage and use women but some guys appreciate being appreciated and are mature enough to know that a woman doesn't give him things because she is weak or is doing it to make him love her... but to show that she actually cares.

As a woman I do not want a man to walk out on me to be with another woman and throw in my face that I didn't treat him the way he deserved. That is what causes some women to go crazy... this other girl comes along and fulfils his every need. Men are always looking to upgrade and some women give them all the room to do it. Sentimental or material... giving is a way to show you care.

We have female friends that we buy gifts for and sometimes they don't turn out to be the best of a friend... but what do we say "at least I treated her like a friend and i can walk away because she used me and I didn't use her." So why is it different because it is a man. I would never... over do myself with anyone much less a man. If I am not getting anything from him... he would most definitly not be getting anything from me and I think that is what is not understood. I am not one of those girls that throws gifts at him for no reason. I have no reason for that.

Krobe- No two situations are the same. As a matter of fact it is very rare that you would find two people sharing the same exact experience.

Lady_Taurus get over me already.

Buy your man gifts! I really could care less. If buying your man gifts make you feel like a woman, do it. I know alot of women who buy men gifts. The man will build up his confidence and get this certain "glow about him" and go off being flirty with other women.

I see this situation on the regular. The woman who wants "control over the man and the situation" will get upset because she feels she owns him. You truly have issues with control. That is what me and Leokitten try to tell you women, buying men clothes is controlling. You buy him clothes and you get mad because he flirts. He is his own individual. You are not married to this man and he is a flirt because he CAN flirt.

I know a Cancer man and we go through spurts but I let him know up front I am not into mothering him or buying into him. That simply is not a trait I care to possess.

No, I am not selfish, I am just self centered. I am self-centered and into myself because deep down I know I am the only one who can truly make me happy. I don't go out of my way trying to make other people happy. I don't want to be responsible for no one else's happiness but my own. Way to much pressure for me but I will attempt to try to keep things going smoothly with whomever I chose to spend my time with. I just don't have anything to prove to anyone.

You don't have to mention my name anymore. I could care less. Do what you do! I thought you were a women of your words and ignoring me and my posts.


I will not say I have NEVER tried to please a man but through experience, it backfires. It is boring, non challenging whether it be a Cancer man or any man. Matter of fact, the Cancer man I know HATES for you to mother him. It is a turn off and it appears to him like you are being desperate. Blame it on the moon, stars whomever!

I haven't finished reading Leokittens advice but what I have read is that you were looking for validation and seeking advice to justify that you man has is flirting. I don't care what kind of glow your man has, flirting is disrespecting you. However, my man doesn't "friendly" flirt.

Krobe: ?I thought you were a women of your words and ignoring me and my posts.?

Silly Girl, When you post please post the truth instead of your constant lies. This is what you said:

Krobe: 6/19/2008 10:45:36 AM

?And be the so called mature "real" woman you claim to be and ignore me!
I don't live in a hut, so I will do you a favor. YOU ARE IGNORED! I don't associate myself with trash!?


In which I replied:

Lady_ Taurus 6/19/2008 10:52:46 AM

?Since you're giving advice why don't you take your own and ignore MY thread! Happy to say bye bye to ya!?

The thread has been going on and nobody could have cared less about you. But when someone actually speaks sense and says:

?ladies, please, we should not interfear with each others qualities/faults, we are all different therefore we can see things differently. it doesn't make any difference to any of us that someone lives a "real" dream or not, or that they want/do something that is immoral to most of us. We are here to help the ones that come and ask for advice, so let's not get upset and hurt each other. Thank you?

You feel so inclined to answer back:

Krobe 7/1/2008 6:34:44 AM

?I really don't think the advice is to hurt anyone! I just some women have really sensitive feelings and internet users are not always sensitive. Some are blunt and it sometimes hurt others feelings to the point they want to stab with a knife because it actually hurt their egos instead of help them learn from some of the women who have already been in the same exact situations whether it is a Cancer man or a male from another sign. If the posts hurt ignore the advice and keep doing what makes you and your man happy.?

So I answered you back! Your answers are stupid! You annoy me and you feel like you are right all the time. You need to get over YOURSELF because you don't mean shiat to ME! Don't think that I give a flying eff about you! The less you are on here the better this thread is because other people with sense get to respond. If you are so good of a woman, then you should not have a problem keeping your man. No? instead of ?friendly flirting? your man runs from you. I have a MAN. Not a BOY. He is a human being. So if he wants to socialize? he can. I am grown.... I am not holding any gun to a man's head and I am not gonna be darting him with my beaming eyes. I know when the flirting is disrespectful and would therefore know when to put my foot down.

In my books self-centerness and selfishness are the same thing DUMB ARSE! If you love yourself so much then be with yourself and stop preaching to me. Obviously you are the one with control issues because you make your man believe that he HAS to do for you. I ain't making no man do for me. Independence is a word you should invest into learning, because in your case you are lacking it big time along with an education.

Looking so dayum stupid comin' up in here talking 'bout you need a man to do for you cause you're all up in yourself. Girl please! You need a wake up call... which century do you think you're living in?

No? instead of ?friendly flirting? your man runs from you. Biotch I have been with my man for 11.5 years now. He can run really fast. LOL! I must know the drill really well.

Yeah, I must be really, really stupid, dumb, illiterate but I can tell you one thing. I don't "buy" him.

Get a life you bore me. You are one boring TAURUS woman with no life. If you had a life, you would quit pulling up this YOUR stupid thread.

If you didn't notice I started the thread... that's why I come back to it! But I guess I am so boring that you have to pull it up all the time to entertain yourself. Nobody cares about your stories of your "man". I prefer to do the buying than to be bought. You are the one being bought which puts you in a position to be sold... and I am sure that your value is "cheap"!

and I am sure that your value is "cheap"! Yeah, I know that is why I am on the boards begging other people to give me advice on why my man is a "friendly flirter" and asking them what to do!

How much cheaper can you get than being cheap! I don't care to argue with you or hear your stories either. You actually are boring! BUY, BUY buy your man to death for all I care. A REAL man can only feel love when he is the man. I guess YOU are the MAN in your relationship with NO feminity about yourself.

You act like a man and you get treated like a man. Cheap.

Krobe what advice I come on here to ask for should be none of your concern. People come on here for different reasons and you are in no position to be the judge of what is a legitimate topic. People like you are always trying to put others down to make yourself feel better. I hope you don't think that you coming up in here trying to tell me that I buy my man is going to change how I feel about myself or my relationship. Nothing you can say will ever let me doubt myself. So you can give up now.

You are so set on putting people down that you completely ignored the real question in my original post and looked for something in the text to point fingers and shout out negativity. People do what they want! They buy... they sell or they get sold. I work for my dayum money and who the eff are you to get so worked up about what I do with it. You are very childish! I told you from the beginning that your advice was not needed... why can't you just move on from this thread now.

You are very childish! I told you from the beginning that your advice was not needed... why can't you just move on from this thread now.

Because it is immature, KIDDY naive women like you, who sit up and ask for advice and when the reality of the advice hits your nerve, everyone who doesn't agree with YOU are every name under the sun. You posts isn't necessarily wanted here either.

Women like you are CHIILDISH! You get defensive to the hard "reality" of a shattered dream.

I done disagreeing with you. YOU put YOURSELF down asking for ANYONE to give you advice about you man flirting. Talk about low self esteem. I am not going to feed your low self esteem you live with it. I have a good man who doesn't flirt.

YOU need to leave your own post. NO that is what is called childish a women who will take "honest" advice and try to do everthing in the world to defend reality.

Your advice was neither informative nor useful. You hit low blows and that is what is upsetting and of course people will get defensive. You insulted me by telling me I was acting like a mother, I was encouraging him, I was not a real woman and other kinds of mean things at the very beginning of the post before all this disagreeing came about. I was clarifying myself and you continued to twist it and turn it and make an argument of it.

Every man flirts. If yours doesn't then for sure he is fake. Even if he is blind, dumb or deaf, it is in a man's character to flirt. Woman do it all the time as well. My reason for asking for advice FROM A CANCER MALE, was because of my guy's change in character. All women feel threatened some time or the other because no one is 100% sure of their situation with a man.

The more you type the more I realise how much I am wasting my time because maybe I should be pitying you. Shattered dreams? You are troubled and it is obvious by your posts. My self- esteem is not low? I believe in love and I give with all I have and can still walk out of a bad relationship unaffected and able to love again. You are bitter and it's because you have been hurt before and your self- esteem is so low that you can't let go and let live. Always watchful of every little step? always playing before you get played? trying to be two steps before your man. It is called uncertainty not confidence or maturity. When you are uncertain you can't let go and you will always live life taking and taking to avoid giving what little you have. There is so much of me to give. I allow that! I give love to get it and if it doesn't work out... I move on. At least I won't be responsible for shattering someone else's dream by stumping on their reality. Have you ever heard the saying "what goes around comes around"? And I'll take you back to the Bible to the golden rule... "Treat thy neighbour as thee would want thy neighbor to treat thee." We all live in this hectic world, you think it makes it any better when we fight against eachother and live in hatred.

Treat thy neighbour as thee would want thy neighbor to treat thee." We all live in this hectic world, you think it makes it any better when we fight against eachother and live in hatred.

I know God is going to "get me" because you are not seeking the advice you are looking for. I agree with Xangelfishx, your man has a glow to him and he is certain that you are the one so he feels confident and he flirts.

She gave you the best answer now good luck!

I do not mock God so there is no need to say "God is going to get you" and I did not quote that verse towards you. I quoted it because you said you were self- centered and looked out for yourself. I assume you would treat your man the way you would want him to treat you back. How would you feel if he reversed his thinking and treated you like you treated him. However, if you did your best and he takes advantage of you, that's on him, his time will come

Angel's advice was very good and it really made sense. There are people out there who look outside the box and Angel is one of those people, so her advice is always appreciated. I have no beef with you and you should have none with me. I respect that we are individuals and we have different thinking but that should leave no room to degrade and insult. Good luck to you as well!

really krobe...I did try to leave this alone because the fighting with you has gotten SOOOO old... but honestly, to begin with, she asked for advice and specifically said she would appreciate the input of cansir and myself... much the same way the first time I posted here I specifically asked for cansir's advice... I did not tell anyone they couldn't contribute, but I did specifically say who I wanted to ask. and at that time you came in calling me all kinds of names the same way you did to her - and neither of us asked for advice on OUR behavior... we both posed the question "what do you think HIS behavior means?" and you immediately start tearing into us and saying we're cheap, little girls, etc... If you want to bash someone for not taking advice when it's asked for then maybe you should stick to giving advice on the question that was actually asked. There is a difference between being honest and being rude: If I ask your opinion and you give it you're just being honest; if you just volunteer your negative opinion without being asked then you are being rude. She didn't ask anyone to analyze HER behavior. She asked if his meant he was flirting...which IT DOESN'T. End of story. Yet you want to keep perpetuating a fight, as always, until you get the last word in.

Second, don't go bringing your cap man into this because you do NOT like getting called out on your own behavior and everyone here knows you left him for the cancer man and the cancer man RAN AWAY from you. You posted that information on DXP for everyone to read. So stop trying to act like you're so damn high and mighty...you're as pathetic as you say everyone else is. So damn proud of yourself because some pathetic loser has latched onto you for the past 11.5 years...one who obviously has no respect for himself if he puts up with you and your flagrant behavior which you are so proud of....a grown ass woman chasing after an affair at work and playing games in clubs..... and you say it's not cheating because you aren't married...disgusting. There's no pride in using someone.

And don't start up your victim bullshit again about how I just go after you....you are wrong and you're a bitch. I don't give a damn about you, but that doesn't mean I have to sit here and watch you attack people like the bully you are and not speak up.

Now I'm done with you, so post all the crazy bullshit you want in response because you really have nothing better to do than pick fights with "little girls".... Your ju

Your just going to post the same "flies eating up my shit" crap that you always do because you have nothing useful or new to say. I'm bored with your same old bullshit.

Couldn't have said it any better Angel!!!!! ***high fives Angel***

Kids like you Krobe should know that bulls will trample you and just kick your arse off like a piece of meat.

LOL! Xangelfishx,- YOU are my best friend. I know you want my attention but you won't get it! The whole DXP bullies you and I don't even care to comment or defend you!

I do want to get you straight on one thing-There is not a CAP man on the face of the earth who portays himself as weak or low class. They are the finer men who provide and look way over anything of "lower class".

I should tell you I am sorry for your man though- He is walking around sporting "trailor trash" on the internet. You sit around talking about "black people" but I know better because you look like a Black pimps-meth head BIOTCH with HIV!! He is the one you should feel sorry for not my man.

first of all, my "pale" complexion is a result of severe ANEMIA; but it's nice to know you think HIV is a joke. Would you like to make fun of me for being blind too? I hear making fun of blind people is very entertaining for scum like you.

And I don't live in a trailer bitch - and I don't need a man to pay for my house either. I take of MYSELF.

I don't "talk about black people" I talk about black people who use their race as an excuse to be stupid and lazy and get anything they want - unless you are such a person [which I would have no problem believeing] then you shouldn't care.

Oh and I thought according to you sun signs have nothing to do with it? A man is a man and they are all the same regardless of sign? Of course as usual your opinion at the moment is based on whatever suits your argument at the time.....

you're predictable, redundant, and BORING. I have no further use for you.

Krobe you are really a simple person. You shout out Angel's name and when she comes to her own defence you say she is looking your attention? You are really missing some screws. I was with a Cap man for many years and although they may portray themselves highly they can be some of the worst men to be with. Don't praise yourself too much... because a Cap man will cheat with anyone that bats an eye at him and still go home to the "wife". And best believe that with everything they provide they will take it back as soon as they have disposed of you, which is typical of any man.

You make me sick. You are always calling people trash but yet hide behind your computer. It would be interesting to see you Ms. High and mighty. People like you are cowards, you have no other use than trying to insult and call people names.

Well obviously Angel is the better person... because despite what you say about her, her relationship will still remain with CJ and as long as they are on here for you to see it will continue to eat your skin because you could only dream of actually having someone set eyes on you.

You got some real nerve... I can tell you that. But at the end of the day your negativity does not affect anyone. I laugh at you and I am sure Angel does too... because you have nothing useful to contribute, wonder who we should feel sorry for.

Angel this is how stupid this girl is... making fun of God, HIV and race. Should we really take her serious? It is obvious that she lives inside her computer, because nobody in their right mind would make mockery of real life.

DUMB ASS Xangelfishx-I am not going to even go back to bashing any of your old posts about when you were asking Cansir for advice on how to steal a Cancer man from his girl and make him notice YOU and then you bash Scorp Sting for the same thing. I am so sorry you have severe anemia.

And DUMB ASS Lady Taurus- I would never bash GOD! You two are two dumb ass biotch who see the world in black and white only. CAP men are very good man and I am so sorry the one YOU had didn't treat you properly. Since, I have been with my Cap man he doesn't flirt or cheat. I guess you attract flirters and cheaters because you sit up trying to mother a grown ass man instead of being his mate.

Xangelfishx while you think you know my life so much let me hand it too you. I MOVED from my city I lived in because I work TWO jobs in a different city than where I live in with my man. Me and my Cap man has NEVER broken up and we NEVER will as long as we live. The Cancer man has NEVER been over my house, never been invited to my house. NEVER!

I am very independent, I don't need ANY man to do for me. However, any decent male will provide for you IF you are the women of his choice.

And for your own good me and the Cancer man were NEVER in a relationship and we are still very good friends. And NO I don't mingle with him outside of my relationship with my Cap and I NEVER will. Now, instead of twisting my posts around and seeing them for what YOU want to see them for, there is your answer dear! I live far from poverty but I will live in the hood. I am not better than my own people.

Cap men are very good men. Like I said I was with one for many years. I chose to walk out on him for reasons other than cheating on me. I know he was a cheater because we were friends for a while and during that time he cheated on his girlfriend all the time with other women. Living in a fantasy world like you, she never had a clue and she still probably doesn't know after all this time... only people from the outside knew he was dogging her. But she thought she had him in the palm of her hands because he did so much for her. HA!

She sponged on him and took advantage of his providing ways. She put him in a position where he found himself doing everything for her. If she left him, her whole life would crash and she would have so much to lose. In fact when he left her, she went down to nothing. She didn't have a car... cuz he took his back... she didn't have anywhere to live cuz he threw her out... and she lost her job cuz she resorted to stealing to maintain what she was used to given by him. He actually broke up with her because she had the nerve to cheat. Even though he cheated on her... he still held her down and she repaid him by cheating. To this day that girl is not normal because he left. I don't give him right for cheating but it shows that your method of thinking in incorrect. Men don't always like to be doing for a woman and if they are doing for you it does not guarantee he is yours forever.

When he got with me, a year later. I was in college, had my own car, working towards my house and had a reputable job. I didn't have to mother him or do anything for him because he was a very good provider. Actually he was the one who instilled in me that an independent woman was a highly respected woman in his books. He did things for me but highly praised me for holding my own. We lived together, something he didn't do with his ex... everyone on the outside still reminds me how much he loved me. He respected me to the fullest and he made that known. He told me that the difference between his ex and me is that he felt loved and appreciated by me. He didn't feel obligated to me. He was constantly challenged because he knew if he messed up I could walk out on him anytime I wanted because I had nothing to lose. And he constantly reminded me that he would never want another man to get what he had with me.

We parted ways because we had different goals. My goals were to remain in my hometown and his were to go elsewhere. I chose to leave because I built

...my life on my own and although I loved him... I was not going to jeopardize my achievements for any man. It hurt him that we had different walks in life, but I was not selfish to tell him to drop his dreams for mine. Although he is not around he is still very close to my heart as I am to his.

According to your first posts your Cap man didn't have much respect for you. So I don't know why you point so many fingers. You say you have nothing with the Cancer but yet think you know so much about them by giving advice to others like you are with one. You are confusing. Furthermore, I don't have to stoop so low to call you names like what you are doing to Angel and I. It's just not my style . I have better uses for my words than to waste them on profanity. Nobody cares about you or any of you made up stories. This can go on forever cuz as long as you come on here and bash me I am going to hit you back. Nobody is any better than I am to disrespect me, especially if they have no clue as to who I am.

Living in a fantasy world like you, she never had a clue and she still probably doesn't know after all this time... only people from the outside knew he was dogging her. But she thought she had him in the palm of her hands because he did so much for her. HA!

First let me break you down step by step biotch. I DON'T WANT to have my man in the palm of my hands. ANY man who will sit up and let a woman make him into a "puppy" deserves to get played on.

Since you want to know so much about me. My CAP man works and comes straight home to me WHEN I am not working in the other state I live in. I don't have low self esteem, low confidence issues so I don't have to EVER worry about him even thinking about another woman. NOT AT ALL! I don't live in NO fantasy world as YOU! MY man is REAL and he is a very good provider. YOU have NEVER heard me say I don't take care of myself and I AM not independent.

MY MAN spends ALL his free time with me, when I am available for him to spend time with me. I KNOW where my man is at ALL times, who his money is issued out to and who he LOVES because he always walks around the house saying " I am his life, I am his universe, he can NEVER see himself with any OTHER women than ME! AND he SPENDS ALL HIS time with ME!

I guess someone like YOU with low self esteem issues would say that is a fantasy world because your man flirts with other women.

ALL that BS I posted on the boards was for entertainment purposes my dear! And only simply minded individuals like you and I can name a hosts of others made themselves look like dayum "fools" trying to analyze BS!

To get back on topic...

Men act differently to keep the woman focused on him, to keep her involved, so some men will act great for awhile and flip it up and act out of character which keeps a women under his spell, keeps her focused ONLY on him, keeps her intrigued and heightens the level of attraction she has for him, some guys learn this method, some naturally already understand, know it and use it. The flirting is of no difference, your Cancer flirts because he can, he does it because your emotionally plugged into him and no matter how much you don't like it, you will deal with it and he has a deep understanding of it. Men know once they have a woman emotionally, she's never going anywhere thus we have a lot of this FWB stuff going on, and women staying deeply involved with exes etc.

Your fear of him possibly cheating is a valid fear but you can't really blame anyone but you, building someone up sends out a huge emotional signal, its saying your okay but let me make you better well that better man that you created is what every other woman wants ...also I don't think this is a cancer issue, I believe this is a YOU issue. I am always looking for truth and I find truth, and what I see is a woman that took over a mans life and he's naturally reacting to that by misbehaving and doing what he wants to do, free is free so if a person is giving away things people will take but it doesn't mean that holds weight with the person thats taking from the giver.

A few things I have learned along the way through my own mistakes and through men that have made some of the same mistakes..so its not just a girl thing, its a life thing. His flirting is an indication that he's going to eventually upgrade because of the messages you are sending him through your behavior, mostly because he's bored of your behavior towards him. I am not saying this to insult you LT but I want you to take a deep look at you and not him, ask yourself what you can do differently to counteract his flirting.

The Keys to Keep a Man Wanting You

* Become a challenge.

* Give a little, then lean back.

* Give him the gift of missing you.

* Be unpredictable.

When you become a challenge, you gain the attention of a man's thoughts and feelings?

Men are not attracted to pushovers

According to your first posts your Cap man didn't have much respect for you. So I don't know why you point so many fingers. You say you have nothing with the Cancer but yet think you know so much about them by giving advice to others like you are with one. You are confusing. Furthermore, I don't have to stoop so low to call you names like what you are doing to Angel and I. It's just not my style . I have better uses for my words than to waste them on profanity. Nobody cares about you or any of you made up stories. This can go on forever cuz as long as you come on here and bash me I am going to hit you back. Nobody is any better than I am to disrespect me, especially if they have no clue as to who I am.

NO, YOU MEAN THE CANCER man did not have respect for me so get your stories straight. I cannot EXPECT a man to have respect for me if he is not my man. I have to EARN his respect and with a man I simply didn't feel like I had time to do give him what he wanted.

I really don't think nobody cares about you either and me and XANGELFISHX have been calling each other names for about a year now so that is nothing new.

I really don't care to hear about your story with your CAP man. I am sorry it didn't work out. MY CAP man has the same personality but I WILL not allow him to not let me follow my dreams. I would either follow my dreams or he can beat it and HE choose to stick it out.

If another woman can take my man from me, so can have him. I am perfectly capable of taking care of myself with or without ANY man.