Can a Cancer be a loyal flirter? (Page 3)

I LOVE YOU TIKKI, you are such an inspiration. You know we are a CLAN!

men are attracted to women who are a challenge, who are elusive, who give them the opportunity to wonder about what the woman behind the image is like. When you learn to master the "give a little, then lean back" tactic, you will create in the man's mind a sense of wanting more. That's right ... wanting more of you! The fastest way to become uninteresting and boring is to keep giving the man in your life loads and load of attention and conceding to everything he wants. Take some time out; spend a few days doing your own thing. Let him think about you while you're apart. When you get a man to miss you, you create a powerful effect.

Let me put it simply: when a woman understands how to make a man feel ATTRACTION, then she doesn't do things that are PREDICTABLE, she doesn't have to give him anything, his love for her is because of who she is and not what she gives and men will tend to think about you ALL THE TIME when you step back allow his attraction to build naturally.

Things that are predictable don't require much thought. They're uninteresting and boring.

You're going to have to work at this. Being unpredictable, spontaenous, and interesting will take some thought. You'll have to break old habits and take new risks. If you do, you'll discover that men will be FASCINATED and INTRIGUED by you. Think about it. What makes a bad movie? Predictability. What makes a great movie? You have no clue what happens next, and the drama keeps you on the edge of your seat. Predictability and BORING-NESS go hand-in-hand with TURNING A MAN OFF and are the opposite of attraction.

When you focus too much time and energy on a man, it may creep him out and make him run, even if you hit it off like a bang at the outset.

Don't focus too much energy on the relationship until you decide that you definitely want it to last long term. Don't stop dating other men until you two are officially going out.

if your busy giving, appeasing and loving unendingly it becomes boring and doesn't create a sense of urgency in a man

The Keys to Keep a Man Wanting You

* Become a challenge.

* Give a little, then lean back.

* Give him the gift of missing you.

* Be unpredictable.

When you become a challenge, you gain the attention of a man's thoughts and feelings?

Men are not attracted to pushovers


if your going after a fire sign these rules apply.........if not u might end up sitting by yourself wondering what u did wrong

"if your going after a fire sign these rules apply.........if not u might end up sitting by yourself wondering what u did wrong"

This information is coming from men....men are teaching one another this SAME method to use on women...it works, I was one of the women at one point in time in my life it worked on.

only way to know is to try it and I don't care what anyone says, no one wants to be with a a wussy ie pushover, no one wants to be with a person thats transparent.

Krobe: ?I LOVE YOU TIKKI, you are such an inspiration. You know we are a CLAN!?

Well then you should take her advice when she says not to make a man your whole life.

Tiki: ?Take some time out; spend a few days doing your own thing. Let him think about you while you're apart. When you get a man to miss you, you create a powerful effect.?

But noooo ?. Krobe has to continue to bicker like she is any better than I am. And to rub insult to injury, she applauds someone giving me advice when she in fact should be taking it. Ah?. Yeah.

Krobe: ?My CAP man works and comes straight home to me WHEN I am not working in the other state I live in. MY MAN spends ALL his free time with me, when I am available for him to spend time with me. I KNOW where my man is at ALL times, who his money is issued out to and who he LOVES AND he SPENDS ALL HIS time with ME!? And I have control issues?

Tiki, let me get this right. You want me to take your advice and play games with the person I love just to have his favour? You're telling me that pulling away and playing hard to get should definitely have him running to me all the time. Is this not a way of trying to control a man as well, the same thing you were scolding me for when saying ?I have control issues?.

I do not intend to follow your ?tips?. I tried those games when I first started talking to the Cancer. Because women are taught that men should do the chasing right? Well this behaviour almost cost me. He backed off from me for a whole month, because he said that we were both grown and he hated being played. I almost lost him because of ?The Keys to Keep a Man Wanting You?. Either you want someone or you don't. I work full time, go to school part-time and so does he. I see him whenever I want and those ?keys? wouldn't make him want me any more than he does now. If I played the game of back and forth with him I could lose him because he is not certain that I actually want him. Cancers are sensitive, clingy and possessive people. Do you think that pulling away and being unpredictable is going to make him love me more? Please!

Now let me break it down for you guys!

Top to bottom line. He was rude to people in the beginning, he walked off from women and ignored them when they spoke (whether it was a waitress, bartender or old friend) he was not in a good place in his life. Now he is more open, friendlier and approachable. I am a fixed sign? so when someone ?changes? I wonder. The post was not for anyon

...The post was not for anyone to evaluate my behaviour, as I was not sure if the changing on his behalf was good or bad, which is my reasoning for wanting another cancer male's advice. But instead I got the response of narrow-minded people who thought they were wise, turning this thread into something that is no longer useful to me.

I am an open-minded person; therefore I am aware that when some people are unhappy with their lives they take it out on other people. It seems that he was at this point in his life when I met him. Now he is happier, so it reflects in a positive way. Not every man is the same and just because other women experienced certain things with their men, does not mean my guy is the same way. You guys turn around what little information you have and then make it out to something it is not. The word ?flirting? has a broad definition and it is not so much his openness that bothers me, it is in his changing. I hate change. That's why I plainly stated in the OP that maybe I could be making something out of nothing. Hence seeking to get advice.

Thanks for your input all the same.

CJ is right. He is a Cancer and Cancer men do not like this behaviour. These rules will scare him away.

LT I have never been rude to you, my tips are suggestions and I don't require people use my suggestions and I'm sure thats true for everyone that post suggestions on the board.

whatever you chose to do with your relationship is your choice of course. Whatever happens with you and your cancer is your business and I wish you the best.

I will say this, if you had accepted him for him, refrained from giving him clothes etc and let him develop his own sense of style and self confidence you wouldn't have to come here asking why he's flirting, when a woman allows a man to naturally develop great qualities within himself by ACCEPTING him for him the man will respect his woman more and won't buck the boat by rebelling and pushing away from her, your getting what you created and you should be concerned.

krobe - I never tried to get advice about taking a man from another woman. I asked if his behavior had meant that he was interested BEFORE he started seeing that other girl, or whether I was imagining it...and I specifically said that as long as he has a girlfriend I would stay away from him. YOu want to tell lies? guess what? my story is there for anyone to read and I've never changed it. It's the "question for cansir" thread from May of last year...so go look it up.

And as far as your relationship with the cap and the cancer - what I've said here is based on YOUR posts. NOT my fantasy of your life... believe me I don't spend that much time thinking about your life. You put it out there and now you want to change your story...again....

krobe - I never tried to get advice about taking a man from another woman. I asked if his behavior had meant that he was interested BEFORE he started seeing that other girl, or whether I was imagining it...and I specifically said that as long as he has a girlfriend I would stay away from him. YOu want to tell lies? guess what? my story is there for anyone to read and I've never changed it. It's the "question for cansir" thread from May of last year...so go look it up.

YOUR NOTHING TO LOOK UP! I CAN LOOK AT YOU AND TELL, YOU ARE A NOTHING! MATTER of FACT I HAVE TWO other white women who have sat behind me and cracked up off of you and stated they know your kind- trailor, poor trash. I guess they know a classy woman of a kind and you are not one of them. YOU will NEVER catch me going over any of your posts, re posting anything you stated because YOU will NEVER be that "important" to me. It is very obvious I am not important to you but you constantly try to tell everyone my life story like you are my best friend and you personally KNOW me. A back and forth battle.

And as far as your relationship with the cap and the cancer - what I've said here is based on YOUR posts. NOT my fantasy of your life... believe me I don't spend that much time thinking about your life. You put it out there and now you want to change your story...again....

I don't have to change it. It took simply minded women like you to go and try to pull up old posts of mines because I gave honest advice and you couldn't handle the it. My life is my life and for me to be someone you could care less about YOU sure KNOW EACH and EVERY detail of myself I put on here. NO honey, I don't have to post my life or love affairs on line.

Write a book about me why don't you! YOU might make a fortune!

Krobe get an effing life! I am so sick of you belittling people when there is no cause for it. You do not know Angel, who the hell are you to call her trash. This really annoys me! Trailor trash must recognize their own kind because I can't look at Angel and see trash.

Tiki, like I said before, I appreciate you generalising at first, however, like the rest you have come along and made assumptions about my life. I broke it down for you but you still carry on about me buying him clothes. I SAW AN EFFING SHIRT THAT I WOULD HAVE LIKED HIM TO WEAR AND I COULD AFFORD IT, I LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES ME, SO I BOUGHT IT. BIG EFFING DEAL. I am in no way trying to change him or is not accepting him for who he is. Like I stated before, he could dress well and he had nice clothes before me. He buys me things, buying an effing shirt does not give a man reason to get bored and effing flirt or cheat for goodness sake! I don't financially support him! His confidence level has risen because I came along and assured him that he was all that in my eyes. So now he acts like it.

You guys are so thick!

sorry for the upset..take care d:

sorry for the upset..take care d:

High Five!

please....just because a couple of your trashy friends calls me trailor trash doesn't make it so.

And I don't need to go back and find your posts. I know everyone's story here because I have a good memory. My brain isn't fried from smoking crack like yours appears to be.

I notice though that you hid your other post bashing me...hmmm....could that possibly be because you were caught red handed lying?? isn't it nice to have that HIDE POST feature so that you can manipulate things to suit your arguments?

I did not even read all the trash talking .....just wanted to comment I am highly amused at the oxymoran question "Can a Cancer be a loyal flirter?" ........Say this out loud .....Can a cancer be a loyal flirter?

Definition of flirt:

ictionary:
flirt
(fl?rt) pronunciation


v., flirt?ed, flirt?ing, flirts.

v.intr.

1. To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
2. To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.
3. To move abruptly or jerkily.

v.tr.

1. To toss or flip suddenly.
2. To move quickly.

n.

1. One given to flirting.
2. An abrupt jerking movement.

[Origin unknown.]
flirty flirt'y adj.

SYNONYMS flirt, dally, play, toy, trifle. These verbs mean to deal lightly, casually, or flippantly with someone or something: flirted with the idea of getting a job; dallying with music; can't play with life; toyed with the problem; a person not to be trifled with.

Thesaurus: flirt

verb

1. To make amorous advances without serious intentions: coquet, dally, toy, trifle. See sex/asexual.
2. To treat lightly or flippantly: dally, play, toy, trifle. See work/play.

noun

A woman who is given to flirting: coquette. Informal vamp. See sex/asexual.

Antonyms: flirt

v

Definition: make advances toward someone
Antonyms: be faithful

Definition of loyal:

loy?al (loil)
adj.
1. Steadfast in allegiance to one's homeland, government, or sovereign.
2. Faithful to a person, ideal, custom, cause, or duty.
3. Of, relating to, or marked by loyalty. See Synonyms at faithful.
[French, from Old French leial, loial, from Latin lglis, legal, from lx, lg-, law; see leg- in Indo-European roots.]
loyal?ly adv.

oyal
Adjective
1. faithful to one's friends, country, or government
2. of or expressing loyalty: the loyal toast [Latin legalis legal]
loyally adv

. loyal - steadfast in allegiance or duty; "loyal subjects"; "loyal friends stood by him"
patriotic, loyal - inspired by love for your country
disloyal - deserting your allegiance or duty to leader or cause or principle; "disloyal aides revealed his indiscretions to the papers"
2. loyal - inspired by love for your country
patriotic
loyal - steadfast in allegiance or duty; "loyal subjects"; "loyal friends stood by him"
3. loyalloyal - unwavering in devotion to friend or vow or cause; "a firm ally"; "loyal supporters"; "the true-hearted soldier...of Tippecanoe"- Campaign song for William Henry Harrison; "fast friends"
truehearted, fast, firm
faithful - steadfast in affection or allegiance; "years of faithful service"; "faithful employees"; "we do not doubt that England has a faithful patriot in the Lord Chancellor"

I love the english language and playing with words......words have such meaning in them.

My thoughts on this subject regardless of his or her zodiac.

We often want our partners to plead a loyalty to us and hope that they would be true and always love us to the end. Unfortunately and fortunately no one has that kind of control. We are all free creatures of habit, up-bringing, and that is nothing we can change. When we plead to fall in love we must learn to love freely, and building on something of trust and respect and it not being one sided.

The bottom line sweetie if his flirting bothers you, don't for one second discount how it makes you feel. When we are in love (especially women) we tend to make excuses for unacceptable behavior or hurtful behavior. I am not saying his flirting is right or wrong ....you must decide if that is something that is acceptable to you and are willing to live with. We can all voice our opinions on this topic, bottom line .....it is how it makes you feel. For some it will not bother them, and for some it will. So I won't voice my opinion and generalize because this is all about you and how it makes you feel. Dive into the feeling roots of who you are and don't compromise for one second. Learn to live by your rules. 😉

Respectful wishes on your journey,

PD