cancer and aquarius... (Page 2)

Hey moonchild at first sorry for the delay, I'm all like apply-eat-sleep-interviews-sleep etc these days. When I said "try sthg different" I didn't mean cheat her or sthg but explore different things. Which means that maybe putting her unintentionally in a second position temporarily. As soon as I realize that I'm back to her. Well apart from these nthg really new. Only that today its her bday 😄 and arranged for roses to arrive at her place, trying to call her but no reply till now (10pm at her place). We talk approx once a week but as soon as I have the job I'm sure things will change.

o_0 what is your sign ? FYI scoprio is evil, not aqua, everyone has sthg good to say for aqua apart from their unconventionality 😉 Even moirah77 expects him to come back even she ended it.

tas...just wanted to tell you that my aqua paid an unexpected visit to me at my work last friday. he said he wanted to see me and say hello. so we talked for about 10 minutes b/c i was busy. i told him i know about his girlfriend and not to lie to me about it anymore. he said she is not his girlfriend...yet (whatever that means). i think he said that to get a reaction out of me in some way. i asked him if she will be his girlfriend and he said he is not sure.
anyway, after our discussion he gave me a hug goodbye and it was like he did not want to let go. he then texted me 2 minutes later telling me how beautiful i looked. i have not heard from him since monday , besides a few simple text messages here and there throughout the week.
so, explain that one to me, please!

😉 I think its as good as it seems. It's up to you now to if and on what terms to accept his turning back. I think I can picture myself doing that! Maybe if you play hard to get, like my cancer is doing.

Oh god seems exactly what's happening now with me. So tell me how do you intend to handle this? I need to know for my cancer too. It's obvious you want him back so how will you react? How do you think you would react if you were not interested?

well, first of all i am NOT a game player but at this point i think i have to play the game if i want him back. in other words, yes, i have to play hard to get. it is the only way he is going to learn. he has always taken me for granted and he has always thought that i am going to be here for him no matter what...he still believes that. he needs to fel what it is like to lose me for good. he has no idea what that feels like b/c i have always been there for him through the good, the bad and the ugly. and all he has done is taken advantage of it rather than appreciate me for it. i think if he feels what it is like to lose me (even if only for a little while) he is going to freak out and maybe finally come to his senses.

you have to remember that he left me to be with another girl and probably has cheated on me considering he has been hanging out with this girl for the last 6-8 months...while we were still together. that is not cool at all. he has now put my life at risk. and besides he has been so selfish about everything the whole time. he has not taken anyone elses feelings into consideration. once again , not right.

i definitely think i have the upper hand now, as does your cancer. i am sure she still loves you but how does she know things are going to be different if she goes back? if i go back to my aqua, how do i know he is not going to cheat on me again and leave me again? he has already done it twice...why wouldn't he do it again. if he wants me back he is really going to have to do some serious self-evaluating and he is going to have to fight hard for me. if he doesn't put up a fight, well then he doesn't really love me. i have already proven my love to him by being strong and being a fighter through everything...now it's his turn!

if i was not interested i would ignore him completely. wouldn't answer his phone calls. wouldn't have talked to him when he came to my work, etc. i don't know if your cancer is like me but i would cut the person off completely. i would not lead them on in any way. if i saw him out i would be civil with him, but i certainly wouldn't go out of my way to talk to him.

Well it's good you still want him cause now you can control the relationship and I'm sure you know what to do as a cancer 🙂 I dunno if he's like me, so sure about her that learnt my lesson, but it's your way or the highway now to finally see how much he wants you. If only my cancer is thinking like you because just when it seemed so, suddenly I couldn't reach her at the phone for the last 2 sundays. Is she aware of the time I usually call her and avoiding me? It could also be that she's out because she works 9-7 weekdays but she's kinda housekitty. And she doesnt hurry to hang up when I call her at her office (though she says she'd busy but I can still talk for 5-6 min). And the worst is still dunno if she received the flowers and only wished her over the answer machine !!! Is all these her hard to get or you think she's avoiding me ?

I just found her at her office and it happened as I told you. We talked for 6-7 min and I was like complimenting and making her laugh a bit about her getting older and she didnt hurry to hang up, it was rather me not to keep it. She thanked me for the flowers b4 I could could talk but generally she has a listen-n-dont-speak-n-say-as-few-as-possible attitude. Come on I mean it's her bday and I remembered. So according to you she should have cut me out totally but talking to me now is good I guess :-\

well, i am glad to hear you heard from her! i think that she is still considering the possibilites... as for me, yes i do think i have the upper hand in a way but i am not sure what to do. you aqua's are tricky! i am not calling him at all though b/c i am going to let him come around on his own terms. he needs his time and space right now to figure things out, i guess. good luck to you! keep me updated.

when my aqua came to see me at work he told me that i would get a birthday phone call from him if i was lucky...turns out he didn't call, but he did text message me "happy birthday" at 5:00 in the morning the day of my bday. it's like he wanted to be the first to give me my birthday wishes...he wanted me to think of him first thing on my bday. or maybe he was thinking of me first thing in the morning...hmmmm 😉

hey TAS...where are you—

Now I'm here 🙂 have been on the move cause it's 35C in the summer and I'm job hunting >😢 I think you responded well, after all yes he has to do the right moves back. That's more or less what I do, try to impress and try to communicate on first instance. And of course show I'm thinking of her. Btw in the weekend I will arrange her things into boxes to send on Monday 😢 Hope this will not mean the end. I'm going to keep a few small things that mean a lot to me and to both.

hey tas...

i still haven't heard anything from my aqua ex and i am not contacting him either. how are things going with you and your cancer? keep me updated...

Hmm for how long? He might be having usual aqua communication issues. Like what I did after she stopped talking to me, it took me stupidly 6 months to start chasing her again. I think just go on this way, not contacting him of course. You know how things worked for you two so just do what it takes.

I don't think I've told you but I broke another record, last Monday talked for 20min at her OFFICE line ! While at work. It started by asking details about sending the boxes but soon later we talked about us. She even asked for the first time how some things are since she last left! And I cought her about to smile but hold back not to show she enjoyed it 😉 In general that's what I do now till I get a job to tell her: I call her once a week for around 30min. Also send some emails inbetween and once in a while post some gifts. She's still accepting but not showing emotions. I think that's what she expects too since she said sthg like "I can't do or say anything for now".

Will be back after my phonecall today, at her office again 😉

tas...sounds like things are moving along for you...just very slowly. but i think she is being very cautious, as she should. you must really love her...

well, i haven't spoken to my aqua in 3 weeks now. no texts, no calls, nothing. i am not going to contact him anymore...if he wants to talk, he can call. i am sure that i will hear from him one day...but remember, he does have a girlfriend now.

good luck to you 😉

Yes I do and she must love me too since she still talks to me after all these and waiting for me to find a job so we can be together again. Rare girl you see? Guess has to go with the sign 😉 It's kinda funny: me wanting to call and talk to her all the time but I shouldn't so she often says "no need to call so often for minor things" or "enought for now" ! It's like she wants too but has to be cautious as you said and kinda making me feel the distance so I try harder :-\ But still it's tough cause you know how hard to get a job and I'm very positive as an aqua. At times I'm wandering why they say Aqua match best with Libra, it should be Cancer, I find Libras arrogant but maybe because I haven't met many.

hey tas...glad to hear you are doing well. you seem to be in better spirits!!!
i think aqua/ cancer is a good match b/c we compliment each other nicely. our differences are very accomodating...i think. one lacks what the other is strong in and vice versa.
anyway, my aqua text messaged me on monday saying that he is going to be moving to another state for a little while (for work i am assuming). i told him good luck... then i called him that night and i left him a message...and i still haven't heard from him. oh well...i think he just wanted to see what my reaction was going to be. is that something you would do?

Hmm I personally wouldn't leave for very long till I reply. Whenever it took me hours (or day) to reply was mainly because I was into my schedule/thoughts, didn't do it intentionally. But I think I wouldn't reply then because feels like I've replied years later :-\

Ok I may be repeating myself (or not) but I don't have a clear image and I need you. I called her at her office for the usual 20min talk. We got into some more details eg I told her my dad is having an operation and I was anxious. Actually there's a story with my dad, she met him and he doesn't approve, she felt it and seems as she said it may affect things with us because she expects to be accepted as family. However, we're both quite independent and I told her things can be worked out but she was saying "not the appropriate time to talk about this while I'm working". Ok in general my question is, for a cancer, would she be talking to me (you remember by story) without considering the positibilities (as you mendioned before) for us to be together? And what about my dad thing?

Also does it sound logical to you, a cancer, that she keeps on saying "at the moment I can't do anything" equals to "I'm expecting you to have a job first (equals ensure our future) before I can open up" ? I at some times have the feeling I'm thinking insane because people are either together or not. But because I know her this first sentence makes totally sense. I very little believe a cancer would cheat as they tend to stick to current lover especially in my case that we both adore each other (unless she pretends which hope not cause it's another big chapter).

well tas...my aqua called me back this morning and left a message b/c i was getting ready for work. i have not goten back to him yet though...i don't even know if i want to continue contacting him knowing he is with someone else. i mean i want to be his friend rather than not...but i don't know if i am ready for that yet.
i can't understand why he keeps contacting me...is it b/c he wants to be my friend or b/c his feelings may be coming back and things may not be working so well with this other girl— idk...

Hey moonchild any news ? Give me some update so I can tell you whether it's a friend or feelings thing. As for me the same, it's damn difficult to get a job, even for a positive and energetic aqua. But somehow I feel more I'm challenged rather than stressed. It's definitely because I do like my job but also because I feel she's waiting for me (not endlessly of course). I dunno if it's in cancer's personality, what do you say?

well, he called me last thurs morning and he left me a message. i didn't get back to him right away b/c i was at work, so then he text messaged a couple of hours later. he asked me about a concert that i went to (he also went but on a different night). it is "our" favorite band and i know they played "our" song, so i think it made him think of me, and that is probably why he texted me about it. also, i hadn't contacted him in 3-4 weeks, so i wonder if he freaked out b/c he had not heard from me in a while and so he called...anyway, we texted back and forth for a few minutes about the concert. then i asked him how his trip to vegas was (b/c he had told me a month ago that he was going there with some friends), and he said "it was great. i have so much to tell you about it. call me on your way home from work and i will tell you the whole story."
so i get home, and i call him... and he doesn't have much of a story to tell, which makes me think he just wanted me to call him so he knows he still "has me where he wants me" so to speak. and i felt like i was the one doing most of the talking and asking him questions in order to get him to talk. he also texted me a week and a half ago telling me that he may be moving for work, temporarily, possibly permanently. but he doesn't even know when he is moving...as soon as he found out the news from his work, he texted me about it...strange, huh— so, that also makes me think that he is telling me these things just to see what my response will be...like maybe he is expecting me to be like "no, you can't move away from me...blah, blah, blah". honestly, i don't know what he is doing, but it seems like he is stringing me along pretty good. he doesn't want to lose me for some reason. but i think next time he calls or texts, i am not going to return them...
so, what do you think is going on— let me know...

Hmm you may want to think of his personality together with my "zodiac explanation" to that. Me and all aquas I know wouldn't think that 'tricky' way. But they would cause someone to misinterpret their actions while they only want is to approach her keeping their (valuable as you know) freedom ie not pursuing her, calls/visits all the time, apologies etc. I think he's acting like many aquas I know, using their 'friendly nature' to flirt/approach. He may expect it an interactive thing, because he's avoiding to initiate this. But it's not how it should be. From your sayings maybe you do respond a bit more than needed eg don't ask questions or keep the conversation going if he's not taking the initiative. I know it's weird and annoying taking long for him to call and then maybe say nothing important. I've done that. But depending on his moon, other planets and character too responding to that can vary from just keep on being insensitive to that to really think of it and see how the game is played. What is your feeling as you know him, straightforward and somehow shy as a typical aqua or else ?

Also pleeeease make a comment on my last question, this job thing is getting really long and I'm putting extra efford to find it asap so then we can talk openly. I believe what she said "I can't say anything for now" should mean "I may say later" don't you think ?

"I think he's acting like many aquas I know, using their 'friendly nature' to flirt/approach"

ok, so is he doing this to just be my friend or do you think he still has lingering feelings? why is he continuing to approach me— anyway, i have not heard from him in 2 weeks now, and i am not contacting him anymore. i think he told me that he is moving away just to get a reaction out of me, or to see what my reaction would be. what do you think— oh, and by the way he has moon in libra just like you, remember?

as for you and your cancer, i don't really understand your question. are you asking if she is waiting until you get a job that is secure? i think, like i have said before, she wants to see that you have worked on your issues or improved in a way. i don't think she would pursue anything again with you until she sees a change, perhaps.

tas...are you still around— what is your situation like now? are you still talking to your cancer girl once a week? my aqua texted me this morning saying he hopes i am doing well, and that he has been thinking about me and he misses me...— i have not spoken to him in a few weeks now, and i did not return the text. i just think it is easier if i don't respond... i don't know. what do you think he is doing? is he stringing me along or does he genuinely mean what he says— hope all is well with you!

Argh, a typical aqua, I think he means it, he just like an aqua may take ages before he goes for the target. I remember at the beginning if my cancer hadn't responded so directly to my half-hearted approach I would maybe still be acting like your aqua. Maybe he needs to do his inner-analysis like I did and now I'm quite different, still with typical aqua characteristics.

Well with my cancer and job, I don't wanna be over-enthusiastic but they want me for a 2nd interview for a job, like 80% I have it. I called her to tell her that and also that my job involves A LOT of similarities like her job. She laughed at that and asked a few things (but still not talk a lot). I'm now expecting to ensure the job and also have found my new place to move. So cross your fingers by the end of the month I may be calling her and do the "open-talk".

Also from time to time I send her staff like on her bday (last month) red flowers and last week she received a new pair of nice glasses (difficult to find now, she loved them) that were broken during one of our strong fights in the past. At the moment i really need a wish to get the job, as you see it may solve my problems instantly. Good luck to you too.

Well as I said I'm about to move to my new place and could not postpone anymore so I sent her an email with details for sending the boxes. In addition I expressed some more feelings to her, cought by the fact that she probably got a bit stressed from all paperwork of the moving company, she must have a lot of load at work too. Here's the beginning of her email:

"Hi Tasos,

Thanks for your information. I didn't swear, I was just unhappy. First of all, I have repeated myself many times. I think we are friends now. I think you should call me Rain and don't expect me to behave in a "girlfriend" way. Also...
...
Regards,
Rain"

I can't send you my email, its a bit long. I really need your opinion to this moonchild from your cancer/woman point of view.

first of all why is her name Rain? i don't really understand that...

well, it sounds like she is wanting to only be friends with you, and it seems that she is still holding onto whatever it is you did to her in the past. it must have been something pretty bad for her not to want to go back to what you two had together.
exactly what did you do to make her upset, besides the job issue...you never told me, and i am sure there is more to it than just not being financially stable or not able to keep a job. if that was the only issue, i highly doubt she would be so distant from you still.

if it is anything like what my aqua did, well then you are probably going to only have her as a friend and you should be lucky for that. why don't you just remain friends with her for now and maybe one day you will be with her again if it is meant to be. if not, then at least you have a friend in her...which should mean a lot to you.

Ok let me open up, I need to, unless I'm getting annoyed, she's my motive and I don't wanna agree you're right that she's over me.

As I know her as a cancer and a Chinese (Rain is her English name) she once was really into me, she even stayed in London 1 year after graduation hopeing that I will get a job and we will have plans for the future (maternity/wife cancer insticts). So now you see why she's so angry with the job thing.

I wouldn't insist still if I didn't believe we match greatly and if she was not talking/keeping presents from me or being aggresive to me not to call and just send her stuff etc She only gets negative when I press her when I still not have a secured job, which is reasonable. That's why I think she's taking to me to unofficially give me more time and we talk openly after I get the job. All these will have shown to her I really did sthg towards being with her again.

I dunno if my parent's dissaproval matters, I have convinced her everything can be worked out (I know parents' opinion matters for girls). I believe it's her cancer shell together with a habit chinese girls have that in no way go back to previous bf if have been dissapointed b4.

That's why I asked you from your cancer and woman point of view, would you still talk to him like this and say to him that you kept his present or even remind him now what you used to like on him etc etc ?

no...i wouldn't...if i didn't want to have anything to do with someone i either would not talk to the person, or i would tell them him i feel. now, if years passed after dating someone and i was friends with that person still, i would probably talk to him like the way she is talking to you. i would be friendly and i would reminisce on past times that we shared together...

i really can't say what she is thinking b/c i am a different person. i think you should just remain friendly with her like you are now...and see where that takes you. if you say that you two are the perfect match, then things should work out naturally. if it is meant to be, it will be...

i still have not heard from mr. aqua. i called him on sunday even though i wasn't going to contact him. i left him a message and i still haven't heard anything. i really think he is playing games with me. i mean, if he really misses me why wouldn't he call me or plan on meeting me somewhere to say hello and talk— i don't get it...

When i'm friendly it doesnt always mean i'm flirting

Hmm ok but you missing a small but important detail, she accepts all the cherish I offer now without totally pushing me away (I told you why I think she's doing it). In other words she responds like we haven't broken up but like we're on a break or sthg, that's how I explain the 'friend' thing. She hasn't mentioned about any another guy, nor not answering when I'm calling, she's even supposed to give me some info for me sending her things this week but still not replied (around 2 days).

About your aqua I start to believe he hasn't done his inner-search (you menioned before remember?). How old is he? To be honest if some major things hasn't happened in my life, including risking to loose my cancer, I might be somehow like him. I guess if you two get along well together then he should call you when he's fed up with his unreasonably waiting attitude. Let me know any news.

ummm...aqua text messaged me today saying that he is sorry he hasn't called me but he has been real busy, and that he will TRY to give me a call tonight. i think it is a bunch of lies...and to say he will try to give me a call like he is doing me a favor...that's ridiculous. he is doing this because i didn't call him until 5 days after he text messaged me last week, so now he is mad at me. this is his way of getting back at me...very immature.

Just stay far away from each other Cancer and Aquarius...Cancers are too needy.

i am deserving of what i need... 🙂

Oh god, your words "bunch of lies", "that's ridiculous" etc, I can picture your attitude, it's like my cancer's, she said that words actually !! Well yes aquas tend to seem like busy or sthg but don't think he means it like you think. Anyway tell me more as soon as you have any. Please some comment on my details...And I think you must admit, LadyM said a big truth about needy cancers, not in a bad sense though, they're cute but they ask for high standards on lots (I like that) but tend to get stubborn even for not so important things some times 🙂

yes i have very high standards and a lot of times that pushes men away...prob what happened with my aqua. and yes i am needy, but i don't think my needs are that demanding...but that's just me. maybe to others they are!

well, mr. aqua and i have been text messaging each other all day. he is telling me about what is going on in his life and asking me about mine. telling me how beautiful he thinks i am again, etc. it seems that he is REALLY trying to catch my attention.
i am just going with the flow for now...

well, if she is like me then she may still have feelings for you. if a guy that recently broke up with me/or that i recently broke up with started calling me...i probably would only answer his calls and talk to him if i was still interested. but, if it had been years that had passed and he called i would talk to him as friends and nothing more.
it seems that she still has feelings for you and cares for you, but she is probably a bit hesitant still...she is still not sure that you can give her what she needs...LOL!!! there's that cancer neediness for ya! gotta love it!

I do love it, can't you tell ? :p Another detail came to mind, during our early long talk, I kinda pressed her directly to tell me whether she's seeing someone else and her reply wasn't straightaway. She started saying sthg like "of course, what do you think there're men here that they like me" and soon redirected the discussion to sthg else (if I remember well, she pretended to be in a hurry). 😉

Heeey moonchild can I have a comment on that ? Why do you break our tradition of giving each other comments on each one's posts 🙂 As for my news, I'm so motivated but it's darn difficult to see a hiring contract ! And even more important, I can't talk to her for long because unofficially until I get a job "we're just friends" grrr.

sorry tas...i have been busy hanging out with mr. aqua lately. things between us are going really well, so far!!! we are taking things really slow and getting to know each other, but having an amazing time...he is changing his ways and growing up right before my eyes. hopefully it will last and everything will turn out for the best...

how is your situation going? how much longer will you be living apart from your cancer? it is probably a good idea to stay friends with her for now and take it day by day...especially if it is long distance. work on YOU for now and eventually she will appreciate the outcome...well, if she is anything like me, she will!!!

i'm a cancer female and was involved with a male on the aquarius/pisces cusp. it's a long story, but basically he's been in a loveless relationship for many years, and they live together for financial reasons, but he gave me a clear timeline from the beginning of when they would be moving apart (soon).

He and I've crossed paths several times over the past few years, he would flirt a little, but I was unavailable (in a relationship) each time. Well a few months ago he asked if I was single, I was, and we started talking and emailing a lot. We talked a lot about his situation and finally decided it would be OK to hang out in person. Well, we started hanging out more often and really hit it off, and things seemed to start getting serious. I was more distant at first, but eventually opened up to him as he told me he'd had a crush on me dating back several years, and he assured me that the woman he lives with and he share no romantic feelings or commitment. He's been totally upfront with her about us, and she was OK with it at first, but understandably became upset by it as it got serious & took this out on him.

He started pulling back, presumably because of his home drama, and I became insecure about his feelings and foolishly acted like a textbook cancer, getting too emotional on him. Although he told me about a month ago that we shouldn't hang out anymore until he gets out of this living situation, I stupidly pressed too hard and he of course backed away. I HATE being a Cancer sometimes. For some reason I never end up dating water signs ... only fire and air signs (although I've had a Scorpio 'friend w/benefits' a long time ago, but I just don't connect with him aside f/the 'benefits.') Anyway, communication dwindled to almost nonexistence now. I told him I was sorry for being so demanding and childish, and I'd like to be his friend at least, and he seemed receptive to this. However, it's been over a week now since I've heard from him, and I don't know if this is an Aquarius "needing space" thing, or if I should just give up. I really like this guy, and we share many mutual ideals and interests and can talk for hours.

The funny thing is, one of the first times we talked seriously we talked about astrology and I suggested that he and I wouldn't get along since he was Aquarius and I Cancer - my most recent ex was an Aqua as well and that fizzled after 2 yrs though we're still friends. He said I shouldn't judge him by my ex. (cont.)

Also, when I jokingly suggested this was a fling, he made a big point of telling me he did not consider this a fling. Then he disappears with virtually no explanation. I did get bits and pieces from him - that he felt bad about making me feel bad due to his situation, and also that he felt he couldn't open up emotionally around me although he wanted to, but he felt this might be due to his previous/current tainted longterm relationship. After not getting much info from him, I asked a good mutual friend if he had any insight, and he said the guy actually had had a lengthy conversation about me with him, and he said about the same thing: although he likes me, after being in this crazy relationship for so many years, right now he has NO emotion to give.

So, I'm wondering if I should just continue not to contact him ... I'm just wondering if I will "fade away" if I don't contact him ... or if he (esp being Aqua) needs space and might come back after he works through things. I know in my heart only time will tell ... and I keep busy in my own life. But I can't get over him although others express interest. I wouldn't normally devote this much time or thought, but as I said I really, really like him.

Also, does the cusp thing make a difference? I've noticed that while he definitely had Aqua traits, he can definitely be sensitive and emotional at times, thus the Pisces.

Sorry so friggin long.

i think there is a magnetic attraction between a cancer and an aqua...even though we come from different worlds, it is like we are drawn to each other. it's almost like a love/hate relationship!!!

anyway, give him space and time. he probably will come back when he feels the time is right, and if he truly loves you. if he needs to work on other issues first, let him do that. and if you two were meant to be together, it will happen. if you mean a lot to him...then i highly doubt that you will just "fade away" from his life...

Thanks for your insight, moonchild. Yeah, all I can do is wait and see. My last relationship was an aqua as well, but closer to Capricorn. We got along well for a long time but always seemed more like friends, and we still are now.

yay there you go ! I can understand, now you will not go online so often 😉 But I really wanna know how it started, when you have some spare time tell me. But most important how he acts, I mean like typical aqua, needs space etc ?

You know I've started thinking how can an experimental aqua join with a stable and settled (family) cancer. Just yesterday, and because of a job that I came across, I was thinking when we were together there were times I needed to try things with her but she prefered home/cooking etc. Well this job, if I succeed, there will be an initial 6 months training in London then sent to Dubai with $ 56000 salary. For someone who knows, this is a huge opportunity. And it means chance for an aqua to experience. How can she follow me in these things ?

I think 2 things kept us together, we both work depending on our mood (moody people) and also aqua giving different things to a cancer that she likes to accept but also aqua does it in a careless way so cancer will "mother" him somehow. But what when aqua likes to keep on trying new things but the cancer likes staying home waiting for him?

PS sundaygirl do you know about capricorn? most of my planets are there, only moon in libra.

thanks unreal 🙂...how are you and your aqua doing—

tas said "I think 2 things kept us together, we both work depending on our mood (moody people) and also aqua giving different things to a cancer that she likes to accept but also aqua does it in a careless way so cancer will "mother" him somehow. But what when aqua likes to keep on trying new things but the cancer likes staying home waiting for him?"

Yeah I sort of had the same question, hoping that you can answer moonchild 🙂 🙂 But it applies more to when you are still in the friendship, just-met-you stage. So I meet a nice cancer guy, and I've got a busy social life and he's mostly a homebody. I'm busy 5 evenings a week *because* I'm not involved with anyone and I don't want to sit home and mope. So I'm talking about all the things I'm doing, and my intuition is telling me I'm just turning him off cuz he's thinking "she's not enough of a cuddle-at-home person for me and I'll be constantly jealous or lonely by myself if we had a relationship."

As long as I'm not seeing anyone, I'm not going to lie and say I'm not doing anything to attract a homebody; I'm not going to stop doing my thing and sit at home so I seem more 'stable, nurturing, sensitive' or whatever, because I'm already all of those things.

I am not a typical aqua. what do I do? I'm stumped. I really like this guy but I know he's got the wrong impression of me.

melody...

when my aqua and i were broken up for 4 months, i was hanging out with a sag guy...and it was the same scenario as what you are describing. he was a total homebody...and i am always on the go, always hanging out with my friends, family, going out, having fun, etc. so, he could not understand why i would go out all the time...he said that people who go out all the time are just "looking for something". i told him that i enjoy being with my friends and having a good time, going out dancing, drinking, etc. i was not going out to look for something from anyone. anyway, i came to the conclusion that mr. sag and i were never going to make it b/c we are too different in that sense. but, i completely understand where you are coming from b/c he had the wrong idea about me, just b/c i like to go out.
personally, i could not sit at home all the time. i would go crazy if i did. so, if you think you can adjust a little for this guy (which as an aqua i am sure it will be hard for you to adjust!!!) and become more of a homebody...than go for it! i just know that i could not do it.
now, i am back together with my aqua...and it is awesome. we are both busy all the time, yet we also hang out with each other and do fun things together...so it works out. and he is very understanding (as an aqua) of me going out with my friends and having my "me" time. he would never suggest that i am looking for something, or even question my motives for going out...and that is one thing i love about him.
by the way, i have a lot of leo in my chart...so even though i am a cancer, i am not at all a homebody...and never will be!!!
hope to hear from you soon...keep me updated on your situation...

Thank you moonchild, your advice is, as usual, very helpful and thorough. I mean, I know all this, but sometimes sexycancerguy is so freakin' frustratingly strange (he's almost as unpredictable as I am!), I end up doubting/second guessing myself.

I will not stop being myself. I refuse. In fact, I might meet the person I was meant to be with. Maybe.

I'll keep you updated, but I'm not sure when/where (what party, event, etc.) I'll see him at, since he's now dating someone else: a scorpio who's got a *lock* on him. She was so..insecure? possessive? that she tried to fix me up with someone else the next day. He was already with her when I chatted with him a couple of weeks ago and thought I'd scared him by talking about how busy I was.

I think it's now all about just staying friends in case we are ever free again at the same time...or, I may find out that not being with him was the best thing that ever could have happened.

Hey moonchild seems you don't check your PM 🙂