cancer and aquarius... (Page 5)

Hmm...
You're both right and wrong.
Taking myself as an example I might be an idealist and may be dreaming some times but I don't have issues growing up.
It's more like I prefer to solve problems in a positive way (why make life more difficult than it already is) that to others it seems immature.
This happens because others take things so seriously, not just responsibly, that makes them sensitive to every action around them.
I prefer to be responsible but keep my positiveness and yes make fun, doesn't mean I'm a child.
And I have to admit that was an issue with my cancer. Even now she complains about beuraucracy papers for sending the boxes to her. I mean everyone knows it's for security reasons and every company does the same so chill out !
Anyway, moonchild I'm a bit happy these days because of what I told you in the previous post.
Will call her by Friday and let you know of the outcome.

Btw unusualcancer I really love such kind of girls, really caring for their man while still having high standards for them and the guy (that's how my cancer won me and I can't get away from her). And I really dislike (some times dare I say hate) those having bossy attitude (I don't hint anything about you). If the later means "growing up" then I don't like grownup girls !!

ummm...yeah, tas...i am one of those cancer girls with the "attitude" according to my aqua bf!!! that is the one thing he hates about me, the attitutde i throw at him sometimes. and when i give him an attitude, he automatically gets on the defensive and then we usually end up fighting...and, i am not bossy...i can just be pretty bitchy at times. and unfortunately, my aqua seems to think the attitude is directed towards him...when it is not, but that is why he becomes defensive.
but, on the brighter side 🙂 i am probably one of the most caring, nurturing, genuine, loyal people you will ever meet!!! gotta take the bad with the good...

Moonchile I'm sure you're not one of them. I know my cancer used to seem to me like that but it's a different bossy attitude I'm talking about. I know girls acting like selfish witches, believing it's ok to "play" with men.

Anyway just today I received the first email sent by my cancer which is not a reply to another email of mine. She was asking me to tell her how how is it going with sending the boxes! May it mean that she got my ticket but doesn't intend to come so she tries to rush her stuff sent back or she wants to start communicating with me again because she may want to come ? It's the first time I get an email with fresh subject from her (I mean not a Re: to one of my emails). Moonchild ?

i don't know...i think you need to just ask her if she received the ticket you sent her, and find out if she is coming to see you.
just out of curiousity...why have you held onto her "stuff" for all of these months, when she has continued to ask for it from you— are you afraid that once you give it back to her, there will be closure between the two of you?
my aqua kept all of my stuff while we were broken up, and he never mentioned giving it back to me, which made me think it wasn't over between the two of us.

Yeah I don't get all the box references. Tas you should be thinking outside the box anyways 😉

Darn busy day at work despite it's Christmas, couldn't call her yet.
Well it did take me long with the boxes mainly because I was so much into job hunting I was literally sleep-eat-interviews-applying-sleep. And it was a good reason to talk to her (discussing on my experiences on interviews etc). Ok it was also because I wanted to keep in touch but I made clear to her if she wants them back then I will do it. I even showed her the documents that boxes are waiting for collection by the moving company. At some point I told her that despite that I will do keep 1-2 things that mean a lot to me (and she knows they do), she laughed really strong! Btw I'm on my break now...🙂

Merry Chistmas everybody and good luck with your Aquas, Cancers or whatever.
Moonchild my luck has turn bad as my Cancer won't come, and apparently it's over. I mean I tried both directly and sideways (the cancer way) but the more we spoke the more she repeated a firm "it's over". Still talkative though. Anyway I'm out of ideas, it's xmas, I need to work in 2 days and I must collect my pieces. Cu later (hibernation time).

tas...so sorry to hear that. maybe you two should just continue to be friends and stil communicate on a regular basis and see what happens from there. focus on your life and your new job, etc. and see if she comes around.
in a way i don't blame her b/c she doesn't want to get hurt again...maybe she is smarter than i am or maybe i am just more of a risk taker, but i understand where she is coming from. i love my aqua to death, but sometimes i have to wonder where i am going with him...meaning, do i have a future with him? can i feel secure knowing that he will be there for me, or will he run out on me again when the going gets tough? but, i am willing to take the risk to find out! maybe your cancer just feels that she doesn't want to risk getting hurt once again with you...

tas...are you around? i hope you are doing ok...

Hey is everybody all right? Seems no reason to keep this post live isn't it !
Well I'm totally into my own aqua world try not to realize what has happened.
But I'm actually susprised that she didn't react quite like a cancer and let it go. Also she hasn't send me back a document that I need in order to send her staff back although she knows I've packed them already and the driver is waiting !
Should I send a reminder or maybe she's giving me time first to digest this breakup ?
The feeling for me now is weird because although I love her I'm kind of apathetic because I realized she has no feelings for me so I dunno what to feel. I'm just going to work, which goes fine and try to be optimistic (weird for an aqua to "try" to be his nature). Maybe she's the price I paid for my good job and everything comes after, like better finances etc

Also I didn't cancel her ticket yet, hoping...but I can see I will do it some time this week

hey tas...good to hear from you!!! hope you are doing well...
sounds like you are doing a good job of concentrating on your life and on YOU, which is what you should be doing. if something between you and the cancer is meant to be, it will happen.

This is an interesting piece of information about Aquarius and Cancer coupling.
I got it from this site

http://www.astrology.com.au/compatibility/compatibility.asp
Aquarius + Cancer

Air + Water = Rain

Your freedom-loving and independent ways mean that you are a very different kettle of fish from Cancer. Cancer will find this aspect of your character very difficult to get around.
Cancer's all about tying you down and bringing your wilful and independent nature into line. They'll be trying to pigeonhole you into a stable routine. No matter how intelligent their reasons for doing this are, it will be hard for them to achieve it.
As an Aquarian, you need to explore the highways and byways of life before you make any firm commitment. If the Cancer you are dealing with is a conservative or traditional one, they might have to wait an awfully long time for you to satisfy their personal needs. Be honest and let them know that there's still too much for you to explore?you're not ready to be tied down.
Aquarius and Cancer together bring lunar vibrations and the electric element of Uranus into play. This produces a very high-strung and unpredictable combination. Cancer can feel left up in the air about where you stand on most matters, particularly the emotional status quo between you.
They may have to be prepared to explore a few more of the colours of life and give up some of their preconceived ideas so that they can share some of your exhilarating spontaneity. And you may have to learn to settle down a little so that Cancer gets a chance to touch your inner being. This is their forte. Then you will feel yourselves drawing closer together.
There's a continuing difficulty for this match, though: Cancer's need for deep and abiding family relationships is completely opposed to your constant craving for freedom.
Cancer falls in the sexual zone for Aquarius, which hints at a very passionate?though possibly spasmodic?sexual connection between you. Your hippie approach to sex is probably a little too way out for Cancer, though, at least in the early stages. Even if this relationship doesn't work out in the long run, you will enjoy some fireworks together!
It's best to avoid Cancerians born between 22 June and 3 July, because the changeable and emotional Moon regulates their day-to-day conduct. They live their lives emotionally, and this is at odds with your intellectual and rational approach to things.

Cancerians born between 4 July and 13 July seem to be an unusual bunch; be a little wary of getting involved with them. This could be a hit and miss affair.
There are often good friendships between Aquarians and Cancers born between 14 July and 22 July. You'll feel comfortable just hanging out and doing things together. Your social lives will be a central feature of your relationship.

"They may have to be prepared to explore a few more of the colours of life and give up some of their preconceived ideas so that they can share some of your exhilarating spontaneity. And you may have to learn to settle down a little so that Cancer gets a chance to touch your inner being. This is their forte. Then you will feel yourselves drawing closer together."

-this is so true!!! and very much describes where my aqua and i are headed...but, remember it did take almost 3 years to get to this point!

"Cancerians born between 4 July and 13 July seem to be an unusual bunch; be a little wary of getting involved with them. This could be a hit and miss affair."

-LOL!!! i am a july 8 cancer! ...and yes, i am definitely unusual...but i love that about myself...i am far from average!!! and my aqua loves that about me too!

a hit and miss affair 😢

"Cancerians often have keen intuition...they are able to read the mysterious and private Aqua. They have an unspoken understanding. The Cancerian offers the Aqua the TLC he finds so elusive yet secretly craves".


IT IS DEFINITELY TRUE.

Moonchild - we are in the same birth chart born on July 8th. I'm wondering, if we have the same attitude—

The other cancer guy I kissed on the weekend is 8th July.

mellowdee...how were his kissing skills?

i actually casually dated (and i say that b/c he was quite the cassanova) a july 8 guy...it was quite interesting. we has GREAT sex...but that is as far as it went...he was such a player!!! ugh...

He was a starnge kind of kisser actually. He would only peck you gently and then back off like he'd received static electricity or something. I like kinda of conventional kissing I have to say. But he's definitely gentler and asks me how I am.

So the sex was great with your 8th July former bf moonchild?? How so—?!!

oh, we just got crazy together!!! we are both a little weird, although he was into some stranger things than me...but i went along with it b/c it was fun at the time!
and he wasn't my bf...we just had sex for about 6 months...and we were friends before that for about 6 months.
my aqua that i am with now is quite the opposite...i am much more aggressive than he is in bed...and i have definitely calmed down over the years!!!

but, my aqua had never even been to a sex store until we dated...and he has never used toys or been tied up, etc...he doesn't even talk dirty to me...even when i talk dirty to him. i think he just feels uncomfortable doing all that kind of stuff...

hey miserable AquaTas is back :/ sigh what have you just reminded me !! I wasn't into toys and dirty stuff too, though wanted to have sex w-h-e-n-e-v-e-r I felt like (my cancer was the same !! sometimes even more) with a longlasting variety.
moonchild any idea why she dissapeared suddenly? She knows her boxes are waiting to be sent, I just need a document from her and it's done. Is there a chance that she's rethinking of it ?? I don't know if I should contact her again after her last rejection.

TAS!!! i miss you...

i don't know what to say about your cancer...? i am not her, so i cannot tell what her motives are. have you tried contacting her at all— i am sorry that things didn't work out for you...you seem like such a nice guy.
what have you been doing lately...keeping busy?

Well mainly work but can't complain, good salary which helps to my hobby of food ! yesterday tried an Australian restaurant 🙂 Only time to practice my exploring aqua nature is w/e, looking for a good concert this month. U?

i have been doing well!!! just busy working and going out once in a while...
i am still with my aqua bf and things have been going really well, so far!!! but, he may be moving across country within the next couple of months...so, i don't know what will happen with us... we'll see.

And my awkward luck goes on...today I've been given with my first performance appraisals since I started and it's better than I thought...I'm within the top 5 of my team...however I was also contacted by my cancer who gave me the green light to send her boxes...so as of next week I will not be having her stuff but also due to my good performance I will have a pay rise...that's the price to pay 😢

hey mr. tas...

well, that is how life works! some things happen for good and some for bad...but, everything happens for a reason...don't forget that.
maybe ms. cancer wasn't meant for you...but i am sure you will eventually find someone who is right for you when the time is right...apparently right now is your time to focus on your work.
who knows if i will be with my aqua for a long time...maybe we aren't meant to be either...i don't know. only time will tell...but until then i will keep you informed 😉

unusualcancer...well, i guess that didn't last very long, huh—
yeah, cancer men are strange...definitely! i have dated a couple of them and it just never worked out for me...so, i think i am done with them. plus, they are all major players.
i would take my aqua over any of the cancer men i dated any day... 😉

oh jeez...i have dated a couple of aries guys in my time...one was far too into himself and th other one i am still friends with, and he is much different. he is actually really quiet for an aries!!! which is probably why i am still friends with him! aries men are just too much for me...they are too loud, too arrogant, etc.
i like the shy, quiet types...

Ok. I have been reading the posts and I really love you guys. Lol. Like totally!
Am a Cancer female seeing an Aqua since 5 months. Thing is its an LDR. Now we were in the same class in college, but kinda "met" again via a social networking site. Oh and he told me (a lil later after we started chatting) that he had a crush on me since the 2nd yr of college but was so scared to come up and talk. Well we have been chatting/phoning since past 5 months now though we started "dating" maybe some 3 months back. He is expected to visit by this yr end.
That was for the intro. Now the real bug. Everything was great. He is one of the Sweetest things I have ever met. Sweet, Gentle man kinds. So, in the beginning 3 months he was too into me, like stayed up long nights to chat, talk to me etc. Call more often. But since last 2 months he is high and dry. Its also cz he has been travelling for work, but still he gives me the impression that i need to take an INITIATIVE to keep communication on. Oh, yeah well all the long hrs are gone btw. He did tell me its gonna happen till he is thru his travel. But c'on i mean is it such a BIG deal to just e-mail or whatever? I mean he took me up there and now he's acting like this. Though when I do initiate, he replies back sweetly. He's having a rough time too. His visa approval has issues so he is low. But isn't it natural that when he is stressed out I would like to be the one who he shared his things with? Darn! And he disappears! Like anything! He hasnt really chatted/e-mailed in 2 days now. I mailed him yesterday night (my night) asking him to take things easy and gave some updates from my end and asked him to come online if he gets the time (his night) so we can chat or something. Guess what? He did come online for 10 min or so, didnt buzz me! And logged off!
What do I do...? My aqua, is he acting like he should be being one? Arrgghhh.... 😢