Cancer and Leo Cheating

Hey everyone Im knew here, but I wanted to give you an insite on Me and my ex girlfriend Im Cuban/colombian and shes African American, we went out for 3 years back in
september 20 of 2006, She was born July 16 1991 and I August 15 1991. We came up to college this fall to FAMU, and shes told me before we came up here we were inseperable always together everyday talking on the phone, we been going out for a long time but we never had sex, but oh we wanted to so bad, we did everything else but that, and me and her were virgins.

when we came up we agreed that we should socialize more and meet new people and trying different things to grow and experience life, so I said ok. We were going out still but just experiencing things for ourself, eventually she only talks to me once a day and everytime I pass by her she just says hi and keeps going. We didnt want anybody to know that we go out because the people in this Marching band would try to break us up.. Eventually we try to avoid each other to make it seem like we dont know each other, but she stops talking to me and meets new friends, I trust her but I hate seeing her talk to guys while I look from afar everyday.. Eventually I start becoming nervous paranoid and Obsessing over her which i thought she would like, I tried calling her everyday but she would get annoyed, and I even tried seeing her in here dorm to se what was wrong, then she eventually planned for us to meet somewhere to finally talk, but she cancels... turns out she was going to break up with me because I was giving her too much stress while shes getting yelled at in marching band, doing homework, then having to make me happy, but she didnt break up with me. One day I was with these girls in my section in the band and we were at my dorm which was kinda co-ed, and eventually I started fooling around with this one girl, we didnt have sex im still a virgin.. but I felt so bad that I told My ex.. she got mad and told me that if i ever cheated on her that she would break up with me, and she did.. she said maybe in the future we can get back together.... but not any time soon, we were deeply in love...

Eventually I start apologizing for her, got her gifts during christmas, even tried to cheer her up when she was alone for thanksgiving and got her a valentines day gift, but nothing... she told me she love me deeply but she's not inlove with me anymore, but she doesnt care about any other guys, but for me she cares a little bit,

and shes glad that ill always be there for her....

so eventually after I started kidna stalking her and asking for her back she blocked my phone number because her friends convinced her, eventually during spring break 2 onths later she apologizes to me, tells me shes sorry and that she truly forgives me now, so we have been cool ever since...

Me and her share Facebook accounts, well we know each others password, and I feel that she checks me account every once in a while, so Yesterday when I went on her I saw her talking to MY frat Brother on the chat "Ashley

hey ___
1:08am my ex

Wassup!
1:08am the guy

i have a quick question
1:08am my ex

Yea?
1:08am the guy

are you alone or do you have any company right now?
1:09am my ex

no
1:09am the guy

alrighty
1:10am my ex

Why?
1:10am the guy

do anybody know about us.....(doing it)?
1:11am my ex

No
1:12am the guy

alrighty then
1:13am my ex

i was just being curious
1:14am my ex

then he told her " I guess" and she said "what is that supposed to mean?!" and got mad and turned off her chat...

is she cheating? I dont know anyother way to interpret "do anybody know about us.....(doing it)?" I dont know what to do, someone please help
I felt like killing myself after reading that, we been together for so long for you to sleep with another guy, I mean I only got to third base when I cheated, and she apparently hit homerun, and she was a virgin...

god help me

it's quite simple - no she is not cheating. You two are not together anymore so she can do whatever she wants with whomever she wants. You are the one that wants to get back together.

she just revealed that she cheated on me, and She tried lying to me but i caught her in a lie. then she started crying histerically and told me that it was true, and that people make mistakes.... the worst part is that when i cheated i told her the truth the day after it happened, she waited and then lied, but i know how ashamed she would feel to lose her virginity to a worthless guy, hes that guy who has sex with every girl in the band... its soo hard forgiving her, but now its not one sided, i have a reason to be hostile to her... but she waited, and then lied and told me she didnt know what she was thinking... i dont know what to do :C

How can you not see that this is an unhealthy relationship? Move on.