Firenwater
@tasnim2993
3 Years
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About me: im religious and follow some very modest principles and values when it comes to the romance stuff. I believe in commitment snd marraige and dont really like dating—but im ok with getting to know the person first.
About him: scared of commitment due to his family issues and his past relationships. Wants to date for long.
Issue: he found me on a dating site and pursued me but he doesn’t communicate much meaning we talked for 1-2 days in the first 2-3 weeks mostly because he gave me the vibe he dont wanna talk—he works alot and takes care of his family financially and lives with them. We spoke about our points of view on marraige and he told me that i should loosen up if i wanna find love. Whenever we talked i felt like i could relate to him alot as we had so many similar points of view on alot of topics as well as some mutual friends (coincidentally). So i gave it some thought and he asked to meet me( we live in diff states) so i said yes and we met but it turned out to be more than just a date( we have good sexual chemistry). But after i came back home he was silent and it started making me think he was not interested but he randomly communicated with me and we had another deep convo and he told me he didnt like committing because he was emotionally unavailable and it was a blow for me because had i known that i wouldnt have met him. I confronted him the next morning and i told him that sex is more emotional for me and its a way i form a bond with another person so when we spent time together it meant alot and that i like him. He told me that he was silent because he thought he jumped the gun and after that we were not talking for 3-4 weeks. He hit me
Up and asked to meet and i dont know why i went to meet him—its like i was falling for him through the silence—and then there was silence again—but whenever we met he opened up alot—and was very caring and romantic—in his own way…after the second meet I decided no more of this nonsense because i need something he cant give me but lo n behold he asked for a third meet and i found myself going to see him again but this meeting i told him that i would be talking to other guys for the purposes of marriage and if someone sticks id cut him off—he respected my wishes—-come the new year and he kept asking me out but i found someone (aries guy) ive been talking to and taking it to the commitment road—but cancer guy now gets pushy and wants to meet up—-i held him off for a month and one day i dont know what came over me and i went to meet him (cancer guy)—-his mindset was still the same as before so i told him about the new guy (not too much) but i didnt see mucb of a reaction from him and i came back home ready to work on moving on from him (cancer guy) but he hits me up again and i tell him we want different things and i cant keep giving myself to him emotionally and sexually when he can’t reciprocate. He accuses me of blaming him and blocks me.
In between all of this i always got the vibe this guy (cancer) likes me and he admitted a few times that he does. He always asks me to meet him more than a day—stay over—go on vacations—i told him i cant do that because it goes against my values and besides on what basis will i go on vacation or stay over with him if he wont even try to get to know me or allow me to get to know him. Im continuing on with my aries guy but the dilemma is i cant stop thinking about cancer guy. Its bad i know but i truly fel for him and his personality and ive confessed it all to him and i know deep down he has developed some feelings for me but he wont come clean so it wont work. Any advise whether im right?