Cancer male capricorn woman... Do you think it wil

Hi everyone im new to tjis but i need the advice of strangers... thanks for your help.

Im currently datingthis guy who is a cancer male. We were friends for about 3 years i knew that he was interested some what but he never approached me. I would talk to him about everything he was/is my best friend. never judgemental alwalys listens just great... (as a friend) After my breakup I began hnging out more... clubs whatever and he became an active participant with me. NEway one thinglead to another and we slept together. that was 4 mnths ago. things were going ok. We still spoke to eachother everyday. hung out. I really felt a connection with him . He told me that he loves me. ( i dnt know if its as a friend or more) but bombshell. he starts talking about this girlfriend he has........ Now I said what you never told me you have a girl... but when i look back on it when i was in my relationship he actually did. but i didnt remeber. He never spoke about her and I never had any "restrictions" ie. dnt call aftr this time you know all the other woman rules. So thats dilema 1... this girlfriend thing. Now we see each other 1 or 2 a week we speak on the phne everyday but i can feel that things have changed. Its not the same as when we first got together. My nsty capricorn ways are coming out. He told me that I changed and ive become a bitch. But im just scared of things that have happened wit my past relationship. When I ask about his girlfriend he gives mebs answers. when i asked what she was like he says shes cool, and she knows and accepts that hes dealing wit other people, and that helikes thatshes nice they dontargue..blah blah blah.to me thats no fun... i like to bust his chops. So how do i handle this situatation... im trying to change somewhat for myself and him because i was mean but i really want him.... Do you think he just wants me as a friend wit benefits.. thats what we are rit now or could this actually turn into smthng...

I would seriously question whether his girtlfriend in fact knows he sees other women...I think he is telling you that to make you feel like it's okay to fool around with him. Personally I wouldn't do it even if she DID know and was okay with it - I wouldn't be okay with it.

merc...I am beyond disappointed.....

yeah...I don't think I would trust him on the open-relationship thing.... I think if they had an open relationship, and these two are such good friends, and have known each other for years, then she would have actually MET his girlfriend....the only reason he wouldn't introduce them would be if he didn't want her finding out.... at least that's what I think....

well, I meant if he didn't want the girlfriend finding out...which would mean that SHE isn't aware they have an "open-relationship"......

I went through this same thing with this Cancer guy I've been dealing with for 3 years. wehn we first met he had a girl and i didn't know...the he tells me and tells me that she is a good girl and that she knows about everything and it was a mess. He always wanted to be around me all the time, but i began to demand more attention and i wasn't having him seeig someone else so I told him to go fix his relationship or to leave her...but before he could decide I left instead...we are now very close friends and this was 3 years ago. He isn't with her anymore they broke up about a month after I left the picture and now he is trying to come back into my life full force but I'm keeping the friendship card and i'm not letting it down til i get good and ready.

When Cancers r in relationships we do not talk about our significant other to "out siders". We r very protective with our relationships. We don't want when talking about our significant other to someone says something about the relationship,our mind becomes altered because we r easily influenced. So we keep our relationship within the relationship. If we have other "people" on the side then that's were they will stay "on the side". But we rarely do that. We r loyal creatures🙂Most Cancers. If u keep people out of ur relationships u will have a much stronger and longer bond with on another.

thanks for reply to my message went from capricorn strenthe to cappy beauty.. thought it was cuter .
NEWAY. I thought alot about what u guys said... and Im wondering if I should brake it off with him... Or if I should just tell him how I feel. I feel like he wants a relationship wit me... Like I said we always talk to each other in the morning at nite he always returns my phone calls. "We still mess around" but i dont know if he sees me as a potential or if im just his best friend with benefits but like i said he still has this girlfriend. He says she cooks for him and is sweet bla blah blah. but i dnt think he loves her. Ive tried to distance myself from him but I cant. hes such a sweet person but hes a man whore... lol. Neway I just dont know where to take this relationship. he tells me im young and should experience alot of things(u know sow my oats) before I think about a relationship. Which is true but Im not the type of person that sleeps around...

Is it possible to change a cancers perception of you... I know that I am what he wants but he has to make me feel comfortable enough to release it. Like cancers capricorns are afraid of hurt and rejection. He tells me all the time that I changed. Im not nice like how I used to be and Im not understanding like how I use to be. But like I said Im afraid to fall for someone who has a girlfriend. Cause im possesive. And I want my man all to myself....

To Cappywife:
Or situationsounds so similar.. his name isnt daquan is it.... just kidding. I was thinking the same thing... that I should just fall back. Im not the naivee chick. but i really dont thing that he loves her or is in love with her. because i know that cancers are loyal to the ones they love or if they sleep around it would be with someone they really care about and not a bunch of people. but neway. I think im gnna follow suit and fall back. if u love something let it go rite.

Why are you worried about his girlfriend?

If he is not married to her, don't worry about it. I wouldn't compete with her either, just be yourself and YOU date other people. Don't be so attached to a man who is telling you he has a girlfriend.

true krobe03
Ive been avoiding him.. have seen him for 3 weeks. we still talk but im trying to distance myself from him. H wants to go out this saturday. And but i debating if i should go. If I do i think i should let him know how I feel. but he knows i like him more than a friend.. he just thinks a bitch...

i wasn't having him seeig someone else so I told him to go fix his relationship or to leave her...but before he could decide I left instead...we are now very close friends and this was 3 years ago.

*high-fives capywife*

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