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Cancer Man Behavior
Sounds like he really digs you. You have nothing to worry about.
What are his placements?
Cancers can fall inlove pretty quickly and if you've already met his friends (which they consider family) that is a good start. Cancers do like to stay home but depending on his charts, he may be more outgoing or restrictive to the home base. We move in patterns and cycles, so you'll get a clearer understanding of his habits as time moves on. The best thing about Cancer men is they soak up expressionism, so tell him your fears, tell him your insecurities but do so in a gentle manner (they get defensive rather quickly) and his response will tell you everything you need to know.
Posted by MoonbutterSun: Cancer Me: Libra
What are his placements?
Moon: Sag Me: Virgo
Merc: Leo Me: Libra
Ven: Virgo Me: Scorp
Mars: Cancer Me: Scorp
Jup: Sag Me: Leo
Sat: Libra Me: Virgo
Uranus: Sag Me: Scorp
Nept: Sag Me: Sag
Pluto: Libra Me: Libra
Asc: Libra Me: Aries
Posted by KoniuchaaTrue, it is but it's been a pretty intense month. He has told me the best part of his week is when he sees me and he told me early on that I would meet his mom, who lives in Arizona.
A month is a very short amount of time. It's hard to start making judgments.
Have you mentioned you wanted to hang outside of his place?
He's actually made plans to do things. We were going to a baseball game but he was asleep after working 15 hours the day before, we were going to go out to an expensive dinner (his idea) but he ended up cooking for me and his two friends instead. It was actually amazing, lol, so I was actually happier with that.
Posted by IlluminatiI certainly hope so. I really dig him and have been giving more of myself emotionally to him that I have to other guys. It's scary, lol
Sounds like he really digs you. You have nothing to worry about.
Posted by KoniuchaaWhat is your mom and how did she deal with it?
My dad is a Cancer and for him, it is literally work and home, that's it. And the store of course.
Deja vu
Didn't you post something like this a month or two ago?
Didn't you post something like this a month or two ago?
Posted by MotherMoon808Thanks for the advice. It's very helpful! I've been much more open and honest with my feelings with him than I have any other man.
Cancers can fall inlove pretty quickly and if you've already met his friends (which they consider family) that is a good start. Cancers do like to stay home but depending on his charts, he may be more outgoing or restrictive to the home base. We move in patterns and cycles, so you'll get a clearer understanding of his habits as time moves on. The best thing about Cancer men is they soak up expressionism, so tell him your fears, tell him your insecurities but do so in a gentle manner (they get defensive rather quickly) and his response will tell you everything you need to know.
I did gently mention to him that it sucked that he works so much and that I do the same thing and wonder if it's worth it. He said that it paid the bills. Later he said he was going to start taking more time off. Also, when I first went to his place it was a disaster. A total bachelor pad. He lives with another guy. I never made a comment about it at all. Fast forward a few weeks and he's bought new furniture and made a comment about wanting his place to look more like a home. Due to a miscommunication, he expected me to come over this past Tues, but I was actually coming over Weds. When I got there, the house was clean and he had decorated with things he had had sitting around for weeks. He asked if I liked it and that he had done it in anticipation of me coming over Tues. He even had lit a candle, lol. It was so sweet and subtle. Makes me smile to think about him doing that for me.
Is that something Cancers do when they are feeling close to someone or am I reading into his actions.
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspNope. I've never dated a Cancer. I had some problems with a Scorpio who never left his house but he was a total player and a really bad guy.
Deja vu
Didn't you post something like this a month or two ago?
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspActually, yes, I posted a couple weeks ago because I was frustrated with the whole sleeping all day thing. I've come to know him a lot better and accept it to a degree because he's changed a bit. I'm actually more interested in the communication aspect.
Deja vu
Didn't you post something like this a month or two ago?
I'm a cancer and I enjoy being at home. I also enjoy going out, but I need someone to invite me to do things sometimes or make the plans for me especially because I have low energy, low blood pressure, and I'm tired a lot.
Posted by pinkbird03That's good to know. I guess I'll just have to try initiating and see what happens. Ironically, I can be a home body, too. My ex was a Sag and I was the one who never did anything. The tables have turned, lol. I'm just used to being in a male-driven relationship, but I can try taking on that role. Thanks 🙂
I'm a cancer and I enjoy being at home. I also enjoy going out, but I need someone to invite me to do things sometimes or make the plans for me especially because I have low energy, low blood pressure, and I'm tired a lot.
Posted by confusedlibra78Posted by CancerOnTheCuspActually, yes, I posted a couple weeks ago because I was frustrated with the whole sleeping all day thing. I've come to know him a lot better and accept it to a degree because he's changed a bit. I'm actually more interested in the communication aspect.
Deja vu
Didn't you post something like this a month or two ago?click to expand
Ok. I knew it sounded similar..
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/give-it-up-or-give-it-a-go-6486605/
Posted by KoniuchaaHa! Good advice. I'm very cautious of guys who move fast. I've been burned by it but I've also been with guys who want to lock me down fast and then I freak out and break up with them, haha. It's funny, when I met my ex husband, I just knew. There were no doubts, no worry that we were spending too much time together. We wanted to be together all the time. We were together 18 years. I've been chasing that feeling since we split over 2 years ago. This is the closest I've felt to that, but I've been hurt and I'm jaded now. Plus, I have a kid and have to be extra cautious. I miss the days of not being jaded.
I would just be careful of guys moving too fast. Pretty soon he will be telling you it's moving too fast, when it was him the whole time
Posted by confusedlibra78Haha yes, that is a very Cancerian thing to do! You're not reading too much into it. When Cancers feel close to someone, they will accommodate you in many ways. And making his house into a home is his indirect way of telling you that he REALLY, REALLY sees something deep and lasting with you. And I see that his venus is in virgo, so you really have nothing to worry about. He's into you, just allow the union to grow.Posted by MotherMoon808Thanks for the advice. It's very helpful! I've been much more open and honest with my feelings with him than I have any other man.
Cancers can fall inlove pretty quickly and if you've already met his friends (which they consider family) that is a good start. Cancers do like to stay home but depending on his charts, he may be more outgoing or restrictive to the home base. We move in patterns and cycles, so you'll get a clearer understanding of his habits as time moves on. The best thing about Cancer men is they soak up expressionism, so tell him your fears, tell him your insecurities but do so in a gentle manner (they get defensive rather quickly) and his response will tell you everything you need to know.
I did gently mention to him that it sucked that he works so much and that I do the same thing and wonder if it's worth it. He said that it paid the bills. Later he said he was going to start taking more time off. Also, when I first went to his place it was a disaster. A total bachelor pad. He lives with another guy. I never made a comment about it at all. Fast forward a few weeks and he's bought new furniture and made a comment about wanting his place to look more like a home. Due to a miscommunication, he expected me to come over this past Tues, but I was actually coming over Weds. When I got there, the house was clean and he had decorated with things he had had sitting around for weeks. He asked if I liked it and that he had done it in anticipation of me coming over Tues. He even had lit a candle, lol. It was so sweet and subtle. Makes me smile to think about him doing that for me.
Is that something Cancers do when they are feeling close to someone or am I reading into his actions.
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Posted by MotherMoon808Wow! That's awesome and makes me happy, much like he does. I wonder why I get so insecure and overthink things. Is there something in my chart that points to that?Posted by confusedlibra78Haha yes, that is a very Cancerian thing to do! You're not reading too much into it. When Cancers feel close to someone, they will accommodate you in many ways. And making his house into a home is his indirect way of telling you that he REALLY, REALLY sees something deep and lasting with you. And I see that his venus is in virgo, so you really have nothing to worry about. He's into you, just allow the union to grow.Posted by MotherMoon808Thanks for the advice. It's very helpful! I've been much more open and honest with my feelings with him than I have any other man.
Cancers can fall inlove pretty quickly and if you've already met his friends (which they consider family) that is a good start. Cancers do like to stay home but depending on his charts, he may be more outgoing or restrictive to the home base. We move in patterns and cycles, so you'll get a clearer understanding of his habits as time moves on. The best thing about Cancer men is they soak up expressionism, so tell him your fears, tell him your insecurities but do so in a gentle manner (they get defensive rather quickly) and his response will tell you everything you need to know.
I did gently mention to him that it sucked that he works so much and that I do the same thing and wonder if it's worth it. He said that it paid the bills. Later he said he was going to start taking more time off. Also, when I first went to his place it was a disaster. A total bachelor pad. He lives with another guy. I never made a comment about it at all. Fast forward a few weeks and he's bought new furniture and made a comment about wanting his place to look more like a home. Due to a miscommunication, he expected me to come over this past Tues, but I was actually coming over Weds. When I got there, the house was clean and he had decorated with things he had had sitting around for weeks. He asked if I liked it and that he had done it in anticipation of me coming over Tues. He even had lit a candle, lol. It was so sweet and subtle. Makes me smile to think about him doing that for me.
Is that something Cancers do when they are feeling close to someone or am I reading into his actions.
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My cancer ex took me out a lot. He worked frequently too but he did still like to eat out mostly, and at nice restaurants. We did a lot, trips, parks etc. He had a Scorp moon and Virgo ascend.
This behavior does sounds a little like a guy who im seeing, who is not a cancer but I almost exact scenario, and I felt like you did. He said he wasn't looking for anything serious, but I think that has changed now and is changing, and he's a lot more in touch even when busy.
This behavior does sounds a little like a guy who im seeing, who is not a cancer but I almost exact scenario, and I felt like you did. He said he wasn't looking for anything serious, but I think that has changed now and is changing, and he's a lot more in touch even when busy.
My twin daughters (teenagers) are cancer. The are attached to the hip with their phone. When I call or text they don't answer me right away. I'm like wtf. Why you even have a phone? I have to text them several times or continue callinf to get in touch with them.
Posted by PnmeeHahahaha!!
My twin daughters (teenagers) are cancer. The are attached to the hip with their phone. When I call or text they don't answer me right away. I'm like wtf. Why you even have a phone? I have to text them several times or continue callinf to get in touch with them.
Both of your concerns are red flags to me. The first is because he is not making an effort to be seen with you in public (his work doesn't count). The phone thing is also shady. Not because of the phone itself but because he said he would get a new one and hasn't done so. People who say they are going to do something and don't follow through are very sketchy, and more often than not, they eventually show that they cannot be trusted. Especially when communication is involved like in your situation.
I can't speak for everyone, but it is usually a REALLY good idea to arrange meetings/dates in a public location when getting to know someone. You need to remember that at his work, you are surrounded by people who are involved with him for a longer period of time than you are. It's akin to meeting someone's family. He is in complete control by you going to his work to see him, and his place to be with him.
The good news is it has only been a month, and I am unaware of your history with him prior to you dating him. What you've mentioned wouldn't make me run for the hills, but it will raise an eyebrow.
I can't speak for everyone, but it is usually a REALLY good idea to arrange meetings/dates in a public location when getting to know someone. You need to remember that at his work, you are surrounded by people who are involved with him for a longer period of time than you are. It's akin to meeting someone's family. He is in complete control by you going to his work to see him, and his place to be with him.
The good news is it has only been a month, and I am unaware of your history with him prior to you dating him. What you've mentioned wouldn't make me run for the hills, but it will raise an eyebrow.
Posted by CrabraI'm happy to report he got a phone today and has been texting me ever since. I had been subtly dropping hints that I wasn't really ok with not hearing from him.
Both of your concerns are red flags to me. The first is because he is not making an effort to be seen with you in public (his work doesn't count). The phone thing is also shady. Not because of the phone itself but because he said he would get a new one and hasn't done so. People who say they are going to do something and don't follow through are very sketchy, and more often than not, they eventually show that they cannot be trusted. Especially when communication is involved like in your situation.
I can't speak for everyone, but it is usually a REALLY good idea to arrange meetings/dates in a public location when getting to know someone. You need to remember that at his work, you are surrounded by people who are involved with him for a longer period of time than you are. It's akin to meeting someone's family. He is in complete control by you going to his work to see him, and his place to be with him.
The good news is it has only been a month, and I am unaware of your history with him prior to you dating him. What you've mentioned wouldn't make me run for the hills, but it will raise an eyebrow.
As far as going out, I totally hear you. I dates a Scorp on and off for a year and a half and we went out maybe 10 times. The rest was all in his bedroom. I know, dumb that I put up with that but we had some crazy good sex.
He wanted me to come to a party with his former roommate and friends but I wasn't around. Honestly, he doesn't have time to do anything sketchy. He works about 80 hours a week and I'm with him when he's off or he plays golf. I'm definitely keeping my guard up but hopeful he's not a bad guy.
Posted by confusedlibra78Posted by Crabra
Both of your concerns are red flags to me. The first is because he is not making an effort to be seen with you in public (his work doesn't count). The phone thing is also shady. Not because of the phone itself but because he said he would get a new one and hasn't done so. People who say they are going to do something and don't follow through are very sketchy, and more often than not, they eventually show that they cannot be trusted. Especially when communication is involved like in your situation.
I can't speak for everyone, but it is usually a REALLY good idea to arrange meetings/dates in a public location when getting to know someone. You need to remember that at his work, you are surrounded by people who are involved with him for a longer period of time than you are. It's akin to meeting someone's family. He is in complete control by you going to his work to see him, and his place to be with him.
The good news is it has only been a month, and I am unaware of your history with him prior to you dating him. What you've mentioned wouldn't make me run for the hills, but it will raise an eyebrow.
Hooray for the phone! That would've been my biggest worry. The other isn't so bad since as you say, he works a lot of hours. But those hours are at a bar, hence a pretty sizeable social atmosphere, which means they get time you would like to have. So it is understandable, but also only a month in.
Time will tell. Hope it works out 🙂
I'm happy to report he got a phone today and has been texting me ever since. I had been subtly dropping hints that I wasn't really ok with not hearing from him.
As far as going out, I totally hear you. I dates a Scorp on and off for a year and a half and we went out maybe 10 times. The rest was all in his bedroom. I know, dumb that I put up with that but we had some crazy good sex.
He wanted me to come to a party with his former roommate and friends but I wasn't around. Honestly, he doesn't have time to do anything sketchy. He works about 80 hours a week and I'm with him when he's off or he plays golf. I'm definitely keeping my guard up but hopeful he's not a bad guy.
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Posted by CrabraThanks, me too! I agree I lose a lot of his attention to his work, but like you said, we're a month in and I don't expect him to give it all up for me. Maybe in the future things will change if we get closer.Posted by confusedlibra78Posted by Crabra
Both of your concerns are red flags to me. The first is because he is not making an effort to be seen with you in public (his work doesn't count). The phone thing is also shady. Not because of the phone itself but because he said he would get a new one and hasn't done so. People who say they are going to do something and don't follow through are very sketchy, and more often than not, they eventually show that they cannot be trusted. Especially when communication is involved like in your situation.
I can't speak for everyone, but it is usually a REALLY good idea to arrange meetings/dates in a public location when getting to know someone. You need to remember that at his work, you are surrounded by people who are involved with him for a longer period of time than you are. It's akin to meeting someone's family. He is in complete control by you going to his work to see him, and his place to be with him.
The good news is it has only been a month, and I am unaware of your history with him prior to you dating him. What you've mentioned wouldn't make me run for the hills, but it will raise an eyebrow.
Hooray for the phone! That would've been my biggest worry. The other isn't so bad since as you say, he works a lot of hours. But those hours are at a bar, hence a pretty sizeable social atmosphere, which means they get time you would like to have. So it is understandable, but also only a month in.
Time will tell. Hope it works out 🙂
I'm happy to report he got a phone today and has been texting me ever since. I had been subtly dropping hints that I wasn't really ok with not hearing from him.
As far as going out, I totally hear you. I dates a Scorp on and off for a year and a half and we went out maybe 10 times. The rest was all in his bedroom. I know, dumb that I put up with that but we had some crazy good sex.
He wanted me to come to a party with his former roommate and friends but I wasn't around. Honestly, he doesn't have time to do anything sketchy. He works about 80 hours a week and I'm with him when he's off or he plays golf. I'm definitely keeping my guard up but hopeful he's not a bad guy.
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