Cancer man has rejected me, is this it?

Posted by LittleStar

I usually try to take people at face value. If he’s telling you he doesn’t see you in that way but is still acting that way, he knows he can take what he wants without any recourse.

Posted by Firesign21

I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

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Posted by LittleStar

I usually try to take people at face value. If he’s telling you he doesn’t see you in that way but is still acting that way, he knows he can take what he wants without any recourse.

I just don’t understand after so long, how you can’t develop any feelings..

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I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

I'm a cancer male. when's his birthdate? Year also. And, when's your birthday?

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Posted by LittleStar

I usually try to take people at face value. If he’s telling you he doesn’t see you in that way but is still acting that way, he knows he can take what he wants without any recourse.

I just don’t understand after so long, how you can’t develop any feelings..

He has developed feelings...sexual feelings, as well as feelings of comfort, trust and maybe appreciation and gratitude. Unfortunately, feelings of love are not easily triggered...if it was easy, we would all go for "relationships of convenience" knowing that falling in love is just a matter a time.

Whatever you were doing, it didn't trigger such feelings. You can try something different and be less accommodating, so he doesn't take you for granted. Don't blame yourself for being nice, and don't waste too much time on him though.... Maybe someone else will fall in love with you, for exactly how you are 😉!

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Posted by LittleStar

I usually try to take people at face value. If he’s telling you he doesn’t see you in that way but is still acting that way, he knows he can take what he wants without any recourse.

I just don’t understand after so long, how you can’t develop any feelings..

He has developed feelings...sexual feelings, as well as feelings of comfort, trust and maybe appreciation and gratitude. Unfortunately, feelings of love are not easily triggered...if it was easy, we would all go for "relationships of convenience" knowing that falling in love is just a matter a time.

Whatever you were doing, it didn't trigger such feelings. You can try something different and be less accommodating, so he doesn't take you for granted. Don't blame yourself for being nice, and don't waste too much time on him though.... Maybe someone else will fall in love with you, for exactly how you are 😉!

I just don’t understand how after 1 year of seeing each other, spending so much time together, jokes, personal things, sexual feelings, how can you not even have the slightest of feelings. I kind of feel like maybe I was a convenience, just someone to pass to time with. I am truly heartbroken

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I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

I'm a cancer male. when's his birthdate? Year also. And, when's your birthday?

His birthday is June 28 94, mine is March 21 93

It would be amazing to get a cancer mans perspective

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I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

I'm a cancer male. when's his birthdate? Year also. And, when's your birthday?

His birthday is June 28 94, mine is March 21 93

It would be amazing to get a cancer mans perspective

Ok. I can see where the attraction is coming from for you. You're sun sign is the Pisces Aries Cusp. (Look it up separately if you're not sure of what this means). Your sun sign is part pisces. His moon sign is Pisces. This is 1 of several soulmate connections two charts can make. On top of this, your moon sign is pisces also. You both understand and can read eachother's emotions easily. Your mercury (communication style ) is pisces, and his is cancer. Perfect harmony when communicating. Your sex style is aries; quick and fierce. his is Leo; the most playful; sex style of the zodiac. Two fire signs. Perfect harmony. Your Mars is cancer, which is connected to his sun sign. That's another soulmate connection. Your north and south nodes don't match eachothers at all. Your chinese zodiac is rooster and his is a dog. Not the best. But read up on the Dog and rooster compatibility to know what to expect from him. **I personally think you should pursue him. He will eventually come around if you keep treating him the way you do. Trust me. Even if it takes a few years. Keep him in your life and always be upfront with him. Confide in him. He's extremely sensitive. You're much stronger. Eventually, when he sees how tough people are in the real world, he's gonna say a prayer you ever came into his life. Unless he's really tall and attractive, he might have a hard time finding work because he's so damn sensitive. You might have to help him out in that area. You two are so young right now. Build lasting memories with him that he'll never forget.

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Posted by Firesign21

I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

I'm a cancer male. when's his birthdate? Year also. And, when's your birthday?

His birthday is June 28 94, mine is March 21 93

It would be amazing to get a cancer mans perspective

Ok. I can see where the attraction is coming from for you. You're sun sign is the Pisces Aries Cusp. (Look it up separately if you're not sure of what this means). Your sun sign is part pisces. His moon sign is Pisces. This is 1 of several soulmate connections two charts can make. On top of this, your moon sign is pisces also. You both understand and can read eachother's emotions easily. Your mercury (communication style ) is pisces, and his is cancer. Perfect harmony when communicating. Your sex style is aries; quick and fierce. his is Leo; the most playful; sex style of the zodiac. Two fire signs. Perfect harmony. Your Mars is cancer, which is connected to his sun sign. That's another soulmate connection. Your north and south nodes don't match eachothers at all. Your chinese zodiac is rooster and his is a dog. Not the best. But read up on the Dog and rooster compatibility to know what to expect from him. **I personally think you should pursue him. He will eventually come around if you keep treating him the way you do. Trust me. Even if it takes a few years. Keep him in your life and always be upfront with him. Confide in him. He's extremely sensitive. You're much stronger. Eventually, when he sees how tough people are in the real world, he's gonna say a prayer you ever came into his life. Unless he's really tall and attractive, he might have a hard time finding work because he's so damn sensitive. You might have to help him out in that area. You two are so young right now. Build lasting memories with him that he'll never forget.

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Posted by Firesign21

I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

I'm a cancer male. when's his birthdate? Year also. And, when's your birthday?

His birthday is June 28 94, mine is March 21 93

It would be amazing to get a cancer mans perspective

Ok. I can see where the attraction is coming from for you. You're sun sign is the Pisces Aries Cusp. (Look it up separately if you're not sure of what this means). Your sun sign is part pisces. His moon sign is Pisces. This is 1 of several soulmate connections two charts can make. On top of this, your moon sign is pisces also. You both understand and can read eachother's emotions easily. Your mercury (communication style ) is pisces, and his is cancer. Perfect harmony when communicating. Your sex style is aries; quick and fierce. his is Leo; the most playful; sex style of the zodiac. Two fire signs. Perfect harmony. Your Mars is cancer, which is connected to his sun sign. That's another soulmate connection. Your north and south nodes don't match eachothers at all. Your chinese zodiac is rooster and his is a dog. Not the best. But read up on the Dog and rooster compatibility to know what to expect from him. **I personally think you should pursue him. He will eventually come around if you keep treating him the way you do. Trust me. Even if it takes a few years. Keep him in your life and always be upfront with him. Confide in him. He's extremely sensitive. You're much stronger. Eventually, when he sees how tough people are in the real world, he's gonna say a prayer you ever came into his life. Unless he's really tall and attractive, he might have a hard time finding work because he's so damn sensitive. You might have to help him out in that area. You two are so young right now. Build lasting memories with him that he'll never forget.

That’s really good insight, thank you for taking the time and sharing this, I guess I’m just confused as to what I should do, he wants to keep our friendship we share the same circle or friends and we’ve known each other since we were 11, so I don’t know if I should keep my distance, or give him space and time, if he doesn’t have feelings for me now does that mean that’s it? Do I move on, what do I do l? 😢 I’m so sad

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Posted by Firesign21

I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

I'm a cancer male. when's his birthdate? Year also. And, when's your birthday?

His birthday is June 28 94, mine is March 21 93

It would be amazing to get a cancer mans perspective

Ok. I can see where the attraction is coming from for you. You're sun sign is the Pisces Aries Cusp. (Look it up separately if you're not sure of what this means). Your sun sign is part pisces. His moon sign is Pisces. This is 1 of several soulmate connections two charts can make. On top of this, your moon sign is pisces also. You both understand and can read eachother's emotions easily. Your mercury (communication style ) is pisces, and his is cancer. Perfect harmony when communicating. Your sex style is aries; quick and fierce. his is Leo; the most playful; sex style of the zodiac. Two fire signs. Perfect harmony. Your Mars is cancer, which is connected to his sun sign. That's another soulmate connection. Your north and south nodes don't match eachothers at all. Your chinese zodiac is rooster and his is a dog. Not the best. But read up on the Dog and rooster compatibility to know what to expect from him. **I personally think you should pursue him. He will eventually come around if you keep treating him the way you do. Trust me. Even if it takes a few years. Keep him in your life and always be upfront with him. Confide in him. He's extremely sensitive. You're much stronger. Eventually, when he sees how tough people are in the real world, he's gonna say a prayer you ever came into his life. Unless he's really tall and attractive, he might have a hard time finding work because he's so damn sensitive. You might have to help him out in that area. You two are so young right now. Build lasting memories with him that he'll never forget.

That’s really good insight, thank you for taking the time and sharing this, I guess I’m just confused as to what I should do, he wants to keep our friendship we share the same circle or friends and we’ve known each other since we were 11, so I don’t know if I should keep my distance, or give him space and time, if he doesn’t have feelings for me now does that mean that’s it? Do I move on, what do I do l? 😢 I’m so sad

Always take a guy at his word. Anything less will set the wrong standard for a long term relationship, trust me. Stay friends, but, keep the options open; focus on making small memories for your group of friends; movies, the first ride after your driving test, baking for your friends, the beach, the boardwalk, etc. Date around. Even if you end up with him, you'll want dating experience under your belt. Date seriously. As in, other guys, really do have a chance for the top slotin your life. Don't go in with the perspective that that position is already filled and other guys are just entertaining you until. Guys know. Trust me. You'll wreck relationships left and right.

On the plus side, I know someone, ironically with a similar chart; Cancer (June 28) Pisces moon, cancer mercury and leo venus, since high school. This girl always struck me to be like "a falling feather". A simple blow will knock her off course. So much water in her chart and so fragile. Fast forward 20 yrs from high school, and she's now 41. Majored in fashion design, couldn't hold a job because she felt she doesn't fit in and is picked on by everyone. She finally had a breakdown last year, and ended up in a hospital. She lost all her friends because she can't handle any problems by herself (too sensitive) and still brings up things that happened to her four years ago, almost everyday. If he's gonna be like that, then your life will be miserable; he'll be unemployed and a scared little child who can't handle himself. Date around, your future self might just thank you for it later on in life....

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I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

I'm a cancer male. when's his birthdate? Year also. And, when's your birthday?

His birthday is June 28 94, mine is March 21 93

It would be amazing to get a cancer mans perspective

Ok. I can see where the attraction is coming from for you. You're sun sign is the Pisces Aries Cusp. (Look it up separately if you're not sure of what this means). Your sun sign is part pisces. His moon sign is Pisces. This is 1 of several soulmate connections two charts can make. On top of this, your moon sign is pisces also. You both understand and can read eachother's emotions easily. Your mercury (communication style ) is pisces, and his is cancer. Perfect harmony when communicating. Your sex style is aries; quick and fierce. his is Leo; the most playful; sex style of the zodiac. Two fire signs. Perfect harmony. Your Mars is cancer, which is connected to his sun sign. That's another soulmate connection. Your north and south nodes don't match eachothers at all. Your chinese zodiac is rooster and his is a dog. Not the best. But read up on the Dog and rooster compatibility to know what to expect from him. **I personally think you should pursue him. He will eventually come around if you keep treating him the way you do. Trust me. Even if it takes a few years. Keep him in your life and always be upfront with him. Confide in him. He's extremely sensitive. You're much stronger. Eventually, when he sees how tough people are in the real world, he's gonna say a prayer you ever came into his life. Unless he's really tall and attractive, he might have a hard time finding work because he's so damn sensitive. You might have to help him out in that area. You two are so young right now. Build lasting memories with him that he'll never forget.

That’s really good insight, thank you for taking the time and sharing this, I guess I’m just confused as to what I should do, he wants to keep our friendship we share the same circle or friends and we’ve known each other since we were 11, so I don’t know if I should keep my distance, or give him space and time, if he doesn’t have feelings for me now does that mean that’s it? Do I move on, what do I do l? 😢 I’m so sad

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I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

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I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

Users come in all forms dear. Mainly sweet and docile so they can keep using. A real person would have refused your kindness and stepped back from the go because they wouldn't want to mislead you. There are guys who take everything you offer then run away when you want to be with them. A user dear.

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The thing is I knew he was closed off, I knew he didn’t want a relationship and I knew it was going to take time, which is why I just went along with his pace, I let him be, I never questioned him, or put him on the spot. I thought to myself, we’re spending so much time together surely I can’t be the only one feeling this way, surely when you hug and hold someone, you feel something for that person. I’m an Aries Pisces cusp so I’m super sensitive but I’m also very understanding. I told him last night over text because I didn’t want to put him on the spot I wanted him to have the space and time to respond how he needs so I messaged him and said I have feelings and I’m not saying it so things change but just so you know, and he said he loved spending time with me and would hate himself to see me hurt and wants to still be close but understands if it’s too hard. I played it off really cool and said of course, because we are close and I value him and his friendship and I told him I understood where he was coming from. I know it was probably difficult for him to tell about this so I wanted to be as gentle as possible. But I really don’t know what to do, I do love him, I have never felt this way about anyone and something in me deep inside made me feel like maybe he’s the one.

That was your problem right there. You didn't look at all the facts and the reality of the situation. You were acting upon your emotions, and because you liked him you didn't care about that reality in that time. You been naive and tried to convince yourself either he feels the same or he will develop feelings even tho you already knew how it would go. The moment you sent him a message and expressed yourself and he said he likes spending time with you, what he meant might have been true, who wouldn't like having sex with a person who likes/loves you/ takes care of you and makes you feel good, however that's what you provided him all that time without having a relationship, you never told him what you want before you did all those things, you never showed your standards and now he's just keeping your around to have good sex life and good self esteem, considering he not only get's sex but also gets validation from you that he's a desirable man and he doesn't even have to commit to get all those things from you. You know why he wants to remain friends right? He knows that if he needs you, you'll be there for attention, sex or validation and he wouldn't have to do a thing .. He might be doing this unconsciously , you'll never know. You should start developing some boundaries and set standards for people, communicate things clearly instead of basing real things as relationship as : beliefs. I mean loads of people keep their ex's as friends around, but you know what? In reality they havn't fully moved on, they still keep a person that was once their loved on in their life just because they can't part from these good memories they once had, but guess what, that's the memories, they aren't that person anymore, you broken up for a reason, and people make all kinds of excuses to keep that person in their life. I mean you can end relationship in good terms no hard feelings, doesn't mean you have to stay in each others life, unless there's kids, that might make things different. Either way the society makes people doubt shit and feel shitty about themselves if they might want to do something. A great example would be like a girl or so said bro code. When people say you can't date their ex even tho you're their friend and you have chemistry and feelings. Guess what, that's just plain stupid. People who feel like this are selfish and egoistic , They start thinking about their own ego instead of wanting these other 2 people 2 be happy. I mean if you have a good friend and want them to be happy but won't let them have your ex just because of your ego, that's just toxic, you're not with that person anymore and he doesn't belong to you...you could even call that emotional minipulation...You know those people who keep someone around just to boost their self esteem and validate them even tho they are giving false hope to the other person by not making it clear?These people are bad, but your boy, he made it clear and you still couldn't do right by you because you're all in your feelings, guess what.. feelings aren't everything, there has to be trust, respect, etc, by staying there you're just going to feel worse and validate him and provide him what he want's while you'll be emotionally draining yourself. You're young, beautiful woman, don't spend your prime years with some guy that made it clear he doesn't want you as you want him... He might try to get you back after you cut him out, but guess what, he would do exactly the same thing in time because he knows you and he knows he could get away with it. I didn't write this to be harsh or something, i just want you to think about your situation and realise what place you're in. My advice would be leave him and stop validating him and feeding him what he want's.. you're prob filling up hi's holes and he wil want to get you back once he feels these holes again, don't be the one to fill them up, find a guy who's healthy and cares for you as you would for him. That's just my point tho, do as you please and live with the consequences of your decisions. That's my 2cents , best of luck in your life overall, i hope you learn from this experience , whatever choise you make . 🙂

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Posted by Firesign21

I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?

Users come in all forms dear. Mainly sweet and docile so they can keep using. A real person would have refused your kindness and stepped back from the go because they wouldn't want to mislead you. There are guys who take everything you offer then run away when you want to be with them. A user dear.

I agree, I have been very silly and I was just a convenience for him I guess, who would refuse someone looking after them, treating them, massaging them, cooking for them, sleeping with them, all without the responsibility of a relationship. I am a silly woman..

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