@Ohhhlex
6 Years
CANCER MAN WONT LET GO—?
"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
Change the locks on his ass so he can learn hiss lesson and cry on the outside of the door lol
Whose name is on the lease?
Dating barely over a year and your having all these issues. Why do people move in too early with their SO and do this to themselves? I'll never understand...
LMAO! Silent treatment from a grown man!
The weirdos women date nowadays.
I laughed out loud at this! Good read.
P.S Aquas don’t mix with Cancers past friendship. Leave romance out of it.
Posted by jaymens933Posted by OhhhlexI had been dating my cancer man since August of 2018.
Typical shit an Aquarius + Cancer combo would go through, but we had an amazing relationship. He is my best friend.
However, everything I’ve read about Cancer men is true. Very emotional, whiny, sneaky, work a holics, etc.
2 weeks ago, we got into an argument because I told him I needed some space because we continuously argued. We live together, so he packed all his stuff up & went home to his mom’s(YES HE’S A MOMMA’S BOY TOO). We made up 3 days later.
The following week, we got into it again because we both were saying hurtful things to each other. I tried to call to apologize, he kept saying he has nothing to say to me & blocked my #. & he has not been back home since. I asked him to give me back all of the house keys if we’re done & he refuses.
He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”.
I guess my question is... is this a cancer thing? Should I change the locks? Is he done for good?
He also continuously makes indirect snaps about me.
Cancer knows how to make people feel bad for them, its hard to be rude to them.
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Yes! It’s called their infamous emotional manipulation. And, no, it’s not hard to be rude to them. It’s actually quite simple if you’re level headed and a sane individual who can see right through what they are doing. Just treat them how you would a spoiled tantrum throwing child.
Typical Cancer behaviour. Its not over, he's just trying to get his way. And in meantime, have you walking on eggshells. Dont respond to it. Just let him know thru your own behaviour that you arent putting up with his behaviour. Indeed treat him like you'd treat a tantrum throwing kid. When he says, leave him alone, just do so. When he is ignoring you, dont try to get him to respond, just ignore the behaviour. He'll soon realise that his behaviour has no hold over you.
This is the main reason why I refuse to date Cancer men.
Posted by Ohhhlex2 weeks ago, we got into an argument because I told him I needed some space because we continuously argued. We live together, so he packed all his stuff up & went home to his mom’s(YES HE’S A MOMMA’S BOY TOO). We made up 3 days later.
He gave you what you wanted tho. He's giving you space.
Maybe this time around he's the one who needs space.
So give it to him.
Changing the locks seems petty af when your 1/2 of the equation here.
Posted by LadyNeptuneDating barely over a year and your having all these issues. Why do people move in too early with their SO and do this to themselves? I'll never understand...
Say it!
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
I laughed at that, I think he is making sure she's not fuking anybody, that's something i would do
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I know, that's probably exactly what his ass was doing, but then had the nerve to say "Leave me alone" 😆 GTFOH. She needs to quietly change the locks on his ass so he can get an attitude adjustment and either come back home and lose the attitude, or continue to stay at his moms.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Ohhhlex2 weeks ago, we got into an argument because I told him I needed some space because we continuously argued. We live together, so he packed all his stuff up & went home to his mom’s(YES HE’S A MOMMA’S BOY TOO). We made up 3 days later.
He gave you what you wanted tho. He's giving you space.
Maybe this time around he's the one who needs space.
So give it to him.
Changing the locks seems petty af when your 1/2 of the equation here.
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My thoughts exactly!
Posted by ErinI am a Cancer myself and if some bastard came to my house and told me to leave him alone I would want to choke him out. He wouldn't be coming over ever again. I would put his crap outside he can go be left alone at his mother's house.
Imagine, being feeling ghosted by the guy while he is in your house eating your food. Lol no bitch.
They live together. So presumably its as much his house (and food!) as it is hers.
Posted by sweetpea2977Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Ohhhlex2 weeks ago, we got into an argument because I told him I needed some space because we continuously argued. We live together, so he packed all his stuff up & went home to his mom’s(YES HE’S A MOMMA’S BOY TOO). We made up 3 days later.
He gave you what you wanted tho. He's giving you space.
Maybe this time around he's the one who needs space.
So give it to him.
Changing the locks seems petty af when your 1/2 of the equation here.
My thoughts exactly!
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This whole story is confusing to me.
Op is all, is he done?
Should I change the locks?
Well if you do he probably will be done lol
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by sweetpea2977Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Ohhhlex2 weeks ago, we got into an argument because I told him I needed some space because we continuously argued. We live together, so he packed all his stuff up & went home to his mom’s(YES HE’S A MOMMA’S BOY TOO). We made up 3 days later.
He gave you what you wanted tho. He's giving you space.
Maybe this time around he's the one who needs space.
So give it to him.
Changing the locks seems petty af when your 1/2 of the equation here.
My thoughts exactly!
This whole story is confusing to me.
Op is all, is he done?
Should I change the locks?
Well if you do he probably will be done lol
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I think OP likes the drama frankly 🤦
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
I laughed at that, I think he is making sure she's not fuking anybody, that's something i would do
I know, that's probably exactly what his ass was doing, but then had the nerve to say "Leave me alone" 😆 GTFOH. She needs to quietly change the locks on his ass so he can get an attitude adjustment and either come back home and lose the attitude, or continue to stay at his moms.
No that's the last thing she should do. It just causes more issues. He's just pouting
why aren't women okay with men's moodiness? Men can be moody too
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In my opinion he should’ve never left. I honestly would’ve never told someone I was living with that I needed space from them.
But him coming and going and doing petty stuff, would have made me do the same thing.
I’m fine with moods but it needs to be settled under the same roof.
If my spouse is mad, he can climb in bed and turn his back to me for a few days.
I don’t do the moving out thing and running away.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
I laughed at that, I think he is making sure she's not fuking anybody, that's something i would do
I know, that's probably exactly what his ass was doing, but then had the nerve to say "Leave me alone" 😆 GTFOH. She needs to quietly change the locks on his ass so he can get an attitude adjustment and either come back home and lose the attitude, or continue to stay at his moms.
No that's the last thing she should do. It just causes more issues. He's just pouting
why aren't women okay with men's moodiness? Men can be moody too
In my opinion he should’ve never left. I honestly would’ve never told someone I was living with that I needed space from them.
But him coming and going and doing petty stuff, would have made me do the same thing.
I’m fine with moods but it needs to be settled under the same roof.
If my spouse is mad, he can climb in bed and turn his back to me for a few days.
I don’t do the moving out thing and running away.
I guess I am more flexible.
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Wonder if you’re more flexible because of your moods.
I don’t tolerate being disrespected. I don’t care if they’re in a bad mood or not.
But everyone’s relationships are different and people put up with all types of stuff.
Changing locks would cause more petty energy.
Can you move?
Please dont doubt these men and the lengths they will go. Protect yourself. Get an alarm system if you can.
Posted by PiscesGal76Typical Cancer behaviour. Its not over, he's just trying to get his way. And in meantime, have you walking on eggshells. Dont respond to it. Just let him know thru your own behaviour that you arent putting up with his behaviour. Indeed treat him like you'd treat a tantrum throwing kid. When he says, leave him alone, just do so. When he is ignoring you, dont try to get him to respond, just ignore the behaviour. He'll soon realise that his behaviour has no hold over you.
This is the main reason why I refuse to date Cancer men.
I find Cancers who behave this way quite interesting for several reasons. The first one being that no one can have a bigger attitude or meltdown than me, so all attempt to have an attitude are “cute” at best. Secondly, I think that to deal with Cancer you just treat them like the children they are. If you completely ignore them or remain unaffected and treat him like normal, they’ll give up soon rather than later. Basically treat them the way you’d treat overly dramatic angst teens. It actually works on a bunch of different signs, and not just Cancer. Ignore them, and don’t give them what they want and they’ll quickly have to change tactics or make amends.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
I laughed at that, I think he is making sure she's not fuking anybody, that's something i would do
I know, that's probably exactly what his ass was doing, but then had the nerve to say "Leave me alone" 😆 GTFOH. She needs to quietly change the locks on his ass so he can get an attitude adjustment and either come back home and lose the attitude, or continue to stay at his moms.
No that's the last thing she should do. It just causes more issues. He's just pouting
why aren't women okay with men's moodiness? Men can be moody too
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I agree. Many people tend to give attitude without being able to handle it. If you give attitude then I think you should 100% be prepared to receive attitude back. They act like other person is in the wrong like they have the NERVE to give attitude. When in reality they’re both wrong. Although in this case I have no clue since I don’t know either individual. I do hope they work it out though...
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by ClassyAquariusPosted by aquarius09LMAO! Silent treatment from a grown man!
The weirdos women date nowadays.
I laughed out loud at this! Good read.
P.S Aquas don’t mix with Cancers past friendship. Leave romance out of it.
They shouldn't do even that. Very toxic relation. I was friends with cancer guy for 21 years. Never ever again Cancer in my life. Exept my brother in law.
21 years is more than most friendships or marriages last
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How long do most marriages and friendships last?
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by VirgoReign331Posted by Black-MambaPosted by ClassyAquariusPosted by aquarius09LMAO! Silent treatment from a grown man!
The weirdos women date nowadays.
I laughed out loud at this! Good read.
P.S Aquas don’t mix with Cancers past friendship. Leave romance out of it.
They shouldn't do even that. Very toxic relation. I was friends with cancer guy for 21 years. Never ever again Cancer in my life. Exept my brother in law.
21 years is more than most friendships or marriages last
How long do most marriages and friendships last?
I can't give you a number, but how many friendships/marriages have you seen survive 21 years?
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Didn’t think of it that way. Good Point!
It’s kind of sad but people change, and their wants and needs tend to change as well. Or maybe people grow more into themselves? The things they thought they wanted and need aren’t things they ACTUALLY want and need.
Man I hope my friends and I don’t drift apart...
Posted by ClassyAquariusPosted by aquarius09LMAO! Silent treatment from a grown man!
The weirdos women date nowadays.
I laughed out loud at this! Good read.
P.S Aquas don’t mix with Cancers past friendship. Leave romance out of it.
They shouldn't do even that. Very toxic relation. I was friends with cancer guy for 21 years. Never ever again Cancer in my life. Exept my brother in law.
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Friends for 21 yrs!! He must have been a very different man as a friend than he is as a boyfriend? I highly doubt that because I have had long friendships with Cancer men as well and I never dated them no matter how deeply they were in love with me because I couldn’t deal with their maelstrom of emotions, childishness, silent treatments as friends, let alone a lover. I wasn’t even attracted to them for that very reason even though they were wonderful as friends in terms of loyalty and being there for you when you need them.
Posted by jaymens933Posted by aquarius09Posted by jaymens933Posted by OhhhlexI had been dating my cancer man since August of 2018.
Typical shit an Aquarius + Cancer combo would go through, but we had an amazing relationship. He is my best friend.
However, everything I’ve read about Cancer men is true. Very emotional, whiny, sneaky, work a holics, etc.
2 weeks ago, we got into an argument because I told him I needed some space because we continuously argued. We live together, so he packed all his stuff up & went home to his mom’s(YES HE’S A MOMMA’S BOY TOO). We made up 3 days later.
The following week, we got into it again because we both were saying hurtful things to each other. I tried to call to apologize, he kept saying he has nothing to say to me & blocked my #. & he has not been back home since. I asked him to give me back all of the house keys if we’re done & he refuses.
He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”.
I guess my question is... is this a cancer thing? Should I change the locks? Is he done for good?
He also continuously makes indirect snaps about me.
Cancer knows how to make people feel bad for them, its hard to be rude to them.
Yes! It’s called their infamous emotional manipulation. And, no, it’s not hard to be rude to them. It’s actually quite simple if you’re level headed and a sane individual who can see right through what they are doing. Just treat them how you would a spoiled tantrum throwing child.
nah its hard lol, I cant chase someone that runs away and acts like a kid, and surrenders when confronted.
Their manipulation overall is very weak tho, their weapon lies in making you feel bad for them even tho they deserve to get judged for their previous actions and put in their place.
I can handle them easily tho but its a tricky situation best suited for capricorn or libra to do it
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My cap bro dated a Cancer for three years then he gave up. I always laugh out loud when I think back to hearing one of his arguments with her on the phone, “stop holding me a prisoner!” LMAO.
Word around the block is that Cancer and Libra don’t blend well together even though, like you, I think they do. They are very similar to each other.
Posted by saggurl88"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
Change the locks on his ass so he can learn hiss lesson and cry on the outside of the door lol
Apparently he didn’t come from mommas house...
Have anyone thought of his 4am homecoming as after night of exhausting sex?
Is he a history yet?
Posted by GemitatiPosted by saggurl88"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
Change the locks on his ass so he can learn hiss lesson and cry on the outside of the door lol
Apparently he didn’t come from mommas house...
Have anyone thought of his 4am homecoming as after night of exhausting sex?
Is he a history yet?
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You saying he was washing his balls in the sink too, after a long night? 😆
Posted by saggurl88Posted by GemitatiPosted by saggurl88"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
Change the locks on his ass so he can learn hiss lesson and cry on the outside of the door lol
Apparently he didn’t come from mommas house...
Have anyone thought of his 4am homecoming as after night of exhausting sex?
Is he a history yet?
You saying he was washing his balls in the sink too, after a long night? 😆
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Yeah...because momma didn’t have ball wash at her house...😂😂😂
Posted by GemitatiPosted by saggurl88Posted by GemitatiPosted by saggurl88"He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”."
Just reading this is HILARIOUS!!! 😆
Change the locks on his ass so he can learn hiss lesson and cry on the outside of the door lol
Apparently he didn’t come from mommas house...
Have anyone thought of his 4am homecoming as after night of exhausting sex?
Is he a history yet?
You saying he was washing his balls in the sink too, after a long night? 😆
Yeah...because momma didn’t have ball wash at her house...😂😂😂
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LMAO
Posted by IAteMyGrandmaInMonkeyTownWhy change locks? Cancer man wont' hurt you.
Popped at 4am to brush his teeth? Sounds like criminalistic behavior to me.
Right...it’s not like he brought that chick he banged and asked if she can use her toothbrush because motel they’ve had sex had plumbing issue so they need to shut as well...🤷♀️🤦♀️
Posted by emeraldgemLOL - oh, HE let go alright. She didn't.
Bitch wrap it up lmfaoooo. Go to another thread, you’re under every negative post weirdo. BEAT IT
Posted by ClassyAquariusPosted by aquarius09Posted by ClassyAquariusPosted by aquarius09LMAO! Silent treatment from a grown man!
The weirdos women date nowadays.
I laughed out loud at this! Good read.
P.S Aquas don’t mix with Cancers past friendship. Leave romance out of it.
They shouldn't do even that. Very toxic relation. I was friends with cancer guy for 21 years. Never ever again Cancer in my life. Exept my brother in law.
Friends for 21 yrs!! He must have been a very different man as a friend than he is as a boyfriend? I highly doubt that because I have had long friendships with Cancer men as well and I never dated them no matter how deeply they were in love with me because I couldn’t deal with their maelstrom of emotions, childishness, silent treatments as friends, let alone a lover. I wasn’t even attracted to them for that very reason even though they were wonderful as friends in terms of loyalty and being there for you when you need them.
Boyfriend was diffrent men. And we were in relationship for maybe a year. Friendship was with other Cancer. I met him when I was kiddo. I was maybe 5-7, he was 7-9. We were always in conflict but at the same time I was the only person he was able to talk to freely. He never cried unless around me. He choose me for his mental punch bag I guess. It was very complicated. And extremely deep. Because at the same time he cared about me and care till now even though we don't have much contact for about 5 years. There was never sex and we were completed platonic. It was very toxic.
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Yeah, my cancer guy friends were the same with me. They would cry and open up to me. The fact that they were able to open up to me unrestrained made them fall in love but I’m not looking to be someone’s therapist. That’s not my idea of love, so they didn’t understand why I wasn’t into them despite the connection they felt.
Cancer and Aqua are no match. In fact the worst match of all zodiac signs.
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I had been dating my cancer man since August of 2018.
Typical shit an Aquarius + Cancer combo would go through, but we had an amazing relationship. He is my best friend.
However, everything I’ve read about Cancer men is true. Very emotional, whiny, sneaky, work a holics, etc.
2 weeks ago, we got into an argument because I told him I needed some space because we continuously argued. We live together, so he packed all his stuff up & went home to his mom’s(YES HE’S A MOMMA’S BOY TOO). We made up 3 days later.
The following week, we got into it again because we both were saying hurtful things to each other. I tried to call to apologize, he kept saying he has nothing to say to me & blocked my #. & he has not been back home since. I asked him to give me back all of the house keys if we’re done & he refuses.
He popped up at my house at 4:00 in the morning, didn’t say a word to me. He came in, brushed his teeth, ate, smoked, chilled & left. I tried to ask him wtf he was doing & he said “leave me alone”.
I guess my question is... is this a cancer thing? Should I change the locks? Is he done for good?
He also continuously makes indirect snaps about me.