Cancer man behaviour...HELP!

Hi guys, I was seeing a cancer guy for a few months things were great but he’d push me away and then pull me back in which made me insecure about things. He was planning a weekend away and talking about the future but I said I was afraid he’d leave again so I said it was better we didn’t see each other.

From that point he’s went stone cold and won’t reply to messages, says he doesn’t know if he’s done with this but needs space as he’s sick of all the back and forward (which he caused). It’s been 3 weeks and I can’t get through to him.

What do I do leave him alone or fight for this?

Typical Cancer trait. They do it to make you walk on eggshells and trying to ment things up. Dont fall for it. Do the oposite... let him know that his behaviour wont work on you.

Btw.... Cancer ignore game can last a few weeks if they want to ignore you. Just to get you in a place where they have a hold of you... dont text him... dont feed the ignore game...

You really think YOU should be *chasing* a MAN? 😒 Just stop.

He's treating you as being easily dispensable 🤦

F*** him. Move on and stop putting all your options in one place.

He’s interested, just not enough 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tell him to kick rocks. He's not worth the time, he's not worth the attention. He caused the whole back and forth, you can end whole back and forth just like that.

Examples of him pushing me away...we’d have a really great night and then the next morning I’d wake up to a message from him saying I don’t know if I can do this anymore and he’d go silent for a few days and then message me like normal a few days after as if nothing happened. This has happened maybe 3 times.

It’s like when we get close and thins are going great he then backs off. Then when he comes back he complains we aren’t like bf/gf but that’s because he keeps hurting me and pushing me away.

Is this how cancer men act??

Posted by km_cap

Examples of him pushing me away...we’d have a really great night and then the next morning I’d wake up to a message from him saying I don’t know if I can do this anymore and he’d go silent for a few days and then message me like normal a few days after as if nothing happened. This has happened maybe 3 times.

It’s like when we get close and thins are going great he then backs off. Then when he comes back he complains we aren’t like bf/gf but that’s because he keeps hurting me and pushing me away.

Is this how cancer men act??

Yes. Have you ever looked through the cancer forum? Lmao. They all do this bullshit. Don’t let him yo-yo you my dear. Don’t fall victim to another cancer male’s wishy-washy “talk to you on my time” behavior.

Cg2016

So what do I do just let him ignore me? For me I just don’t understand how he can just drop things like that without wanting to talk it’s like everything is on his terms and he’s calling all the shots when I did nothing wrong I was insecure because he made me feel that way about the relationship. It’s very frustrating!!

You’re not helping the problem because you’re pushing and pulling him too. Clearly u both have serious doubts. It’s not a forever relationship.

Posted by pinkbird03

You’re not helping the problem because you’re pushing and pulling him too. Clearly u both have serious doubts. It’s not a forever relationship.

I only did at the end day that I didn’t know how I felt after a good few months of his back and forward. I genuinely did have doubts because I was afraid of getting close again only to get hurt 😢

Posted by km_cap

Posted by pinkbird03

You’re not helping the problem because you’re pushing and pulling him too. Clearly u both have serious doubts. It’s not a forever relationship.

I only did at the end day that I didn’t know how I felt after a good few months of his back and forward. I genuinely did have doubts because I was afraid of getting close again only to get hurt 😢

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Did his push and pull help the relationship or make it harder?

Do you think your push and pull helped the relationship or made it harder?

You need to find a way to communicate and come up with a win-win solution for both of you. Or it won’t work.