Cancer Man - Libra Woman

I'm trying to figure out if my brother-in-law came on to me (I'm married to his brother). He's Cancer, I'm Libra.

The second to last time I saw him, he hugged me good bye (first time ever) and the last time he said good bye, I was making dinner and my back was to him. He said good bye and kissed me on the back of the neck.

Up until then I didn't think anything about our relationship but now I don't know what to do.

Your grace is likely to attract crabs very strongly. I don't think many of those relationships work though, you being so reserved and quiet. We need to know what the other is thinking.
But the attraction is there, i have no problem believing it.

Doesn't it seem out of character for Cancer to be attracted to a married woman - someone he basically can't have?

I was like that too, but she wasn't married yet. 80% of marriages are unhappy loveless ones anyway, so does it really mean that much?

Why couldn't he have you? Is he that bad?

I'm very attracted to him. His life is a mess though. Plus, I'm married to his brother - that's just asking for trouble.

"Why couldn't he have you? Is he that bad?"
You've to ask?
She's MARRIED to his brother.

libra36, im a male cancer attracted to a female Libra at the moment, and she has a boyfriend but that dosn't put me off, saying that ive not kissed her on the neck and would not get in the way of her relationship, but i would definately respond to any advances from her tomwards myself.

So what, marriages are mistakes and end eventually, sometimes, it just needs a push. Feelings are way more important and real than that crap. Marriage keeps you in bad relationships, it's not healthy, get real.

Mr crabby where u come from,lol. Dat is ur thinkin of marriage,point taken.But she is married now, she cannot jeopardise he r marriage even if da cancer made a pass at her. Unlessssss,she,da cancer and her hubby etc etc, swing. Now dat's queer mayne,lol.

Tag team matches are always fun.

I never thought of him that way until he kissed my neck, it was like electricity ran through my veins and I felt alive.

Nothing will happen though, but as a Libra I like to dream about it.

Okay,Mr.C, WE just have to agree to disagree.
Look at her situation,she didn't say her marriage was a mistake.She didn't say she's in love with this cancer guy. She said she was attracted to him. So you think it's okay
to hit on your brother's wife b/c you feel like it?

You know it's not ALWAYS about what you WANT or what you NEED, sometimes you've to think about other people's feelings/needs too, specially those close to you.

Well.

Married Woman means: "She is unavailable UNTIL she's married". If she want you then FIRST thing she should do is stop marriage. Then she's free to do whatever she wants. But a married woman is stil a married woman. Get real.

How do i know his brother is close to him? I don't know their life. Most people try to find excuses to stay in a bad situation. Maybe it's her case, maybe it's not, whatever i say doesn't matter, SHE WILL DECIDE WHAT SHE DOES ON HER OWN, don't worry about her.

All I want to know is if he was hitting on me, so I can nip it in the bud. Nothing will ever happen. But I don't want to say something and look like an ass if it was totally innocent.

I can't believe he would do something like that if he wasn't feeling invited. But it's possible.

So not true. I never did or said anything to lead him on. He mentioned to his brother how nice I was because I ask if he wants something to eat when he comes to our house. I don't know how that could be interpreted as being invited.

I thought Cancer's like faithful people.

The only faithful is being faithful to what you feel inside. Not a phony institution.

At the same time, you don't like him, your marriage is nice and all. What the are you asking for? Just tell him to not touch you again, that you don't feel comfortable with that. I know libras don't usually talk, but damn, it's not that difficult.

Whatever the reason he has Libra36, his brother is closer to him that you to him. Therefore I think he should respect his brother and his honour, since his honour and his wife's honour are same. When he tries to hit you, he places his brother's honour under his feet. This is very respectless behaviour.

"All I want to know is if he was hitting on me, so I can nip it in the bud."

Trust your instincts...if it feels like he was hitting on you,then he probably was.

And, yes, most Cancer's like faithful people but there are exceptions to every rule.

Even if you leave your husband for him and if your husband loves you, then you will make them lifelong enemies to each other. Brothers who are enemies. Do you want to cause that?

I agree. If he does it again I will definitely say something.

No kissssssing by da neck,lol. If he does dat put on something stinky there,lol. But on da real step to him if he does dat ...again.BUt u said it was electric meaning u liked it. But dat was for one moment,and only dat moment. He has to respect da hussy his brother and respect u.Simple.

Daemon - lol well said

Yeah I think he made a pass at you, he's 'one' of those male dogs- that's it. His life is a mess for a reason.

We can't help who we like. But, I doubt anyone (whether cancer or not) who's a NORMAL and DECENT human being would sleep with his brother's wife.

I mean I really like my best friend's girlfriend who's a scorpio, but I would never entertain the action of hitting on her.

If this guy is really hitting on you, then it doesn't matter whether he's a cancer, scorpio, pisces, or bunny, he's not the type of person you want to be with. Unless that's the type of guy you're looking...

Relax and enjoy the attention you received, it was maybe one off, its possible that if you had no interest you would not have even picked up on it, but its clearly left a mark on you, ive had women hit on me and thier married with kids n stuff and thier blatently showing you thier intentions and chatting you up and everything, if they want to then im not complaining. Enjoy life 😉

Thanks. It's a nice feeling when someone else thinks your attractive.