Cancer Men... enough said. :/

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by level7wizard on Thursday, March 2, 2017 and has 4 replies.

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@level7wizard
9 YearsAquarius

First and foremost, I told myself months ago that I would *not* get involved with this Cancer male. I tried fighting it, but... I have unfortunately fallen into his trap. I feel like I am going insane.

First, the relationship started as an innocent friendship full of lots of traveling to see each other, laughter, and getting deep into each other's minds. We really seemed to like each other, and I thoroughly enjoy him as a friend, but... eventually, he asked me on a date. So, I accepted, we went on a cute lil date, and then he asked to kiss me. Of course I did not decline, but he asked ME to kiss HIM and I am *WAY TOO AWKWARD* of a human to make the move, so he swallowed his pride and went through with the sweet gesture. About a week afterwards, when we would see each other, he would kiss me goodbye. I really liked it. THEN... out of fucking NOWHERE, he just stops kissing me goodbye. Of course I didn't say anything about it... THEN (oh yeah, it gets worse.) he invites me to spend the night at his place. I already knew what was going to happen, and of course I was excited to be laid down by him and rocked all night long, and that's exactly what happened- dare I say it, but, it was the best sex I have ever had in my life.

Now, it's been a few days since and he still won't kiss me goodbye when I depart. I want to ask him about it, but I do not want to appear too involved. I wish I could be involved, but I won't let myself become that person. It's not in my cards. We aren't making anything official because he is leaving the state soon to visit family in Utah and he said there's a slight possibility he may move up there. That's why he has not asked me to be his girl yet.

HELP. What is my Cancer man THINKING? I want him to kiss me, dammit. Am I going to have to make the first move?

*I dunno if it helps, but his moon is Libra and rising is Capricorn and Mercury is in Gemini.

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@MissLibra
13 Years

You don't want to appear too involved… Apparently neither does he. Kissing is such a very intimate act. Perhaps refraining from kissing you helps him keep his emotions intact since he will be leaving you.

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@Crabra
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Ohhh this crab has moves. Mmhmm. You are smack-dab right in the middle of what I call the Cancer trials. This is when you are being evaluated for something more serious. Crabs are quite manipulative during this phase. The moving away and all that jazz? Yup, he's trying to get a response out of you.

Crabs are indirect, and passive aggressive. On an emotional level, they place an insane amount of value on gestures that come to them without letting the person know that is what they want. They will hint at what these are by either showing you these gestures themselves in hopes that you reciprocate, or vocalize their appreciation of such gestures when the two of you encounter them elsewhere. For example, the two of you might see another couple showing PDA to each other, and he'll mention or show a fondness towards it.

In short, he wants you to kiss him. He can and will initiate kisses with you, but he needs you to as well or he can start to feel like you don't feel as strongly towards him as he does you, and will start to pull away at that point.

Dating a Cancer male is kind of like dating a chick. Putting yourself in that mindset will usually work in your favor far more than not.

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@VampScorp
9 Years

It took my husband 3 months to kiss me. I'm too stubborn to make the moves and I wanted affirmation that he really liked me.

I find crabs very patient, caring, respectful and intuitive. They're a great catch if you click - go for it!

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@level7wizard
9 YearsAquarius

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
shrug, you have a very quient and beautiful face.

what's your star sign, you seem like you have crab somewhere in your chart or gemini

// Yes, my rising position is in Cancer. :] thank you for your sweet compliments.