TaurusGirl63
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Cancer men...what is he thinking...insight please
Have you had sex with him during this wooing process? If so well this is typical male behavior, Cancers also pull this mess a lot with women, he could be overwhelmed with his emotions or he could just be pulling the typical Cancer asshole move on you.
If you had sex with him without confirming with him if the relationship is a REAL relationship he may not feel obligated to continue to pursue, the deal has been sealed, his reaction is to give you less to minimize your desire to form a real relationship with him, he's minimizing your expectations
I suggest to you when the next guy comes in your face talking sweet, inserting himself in your daily life through chasing you and giving you gives is to NOT FALL it, don't fall for the attention and gifts because a lot of the times that kind of behavior from a man is disingenuous, that's a player move on his part.
Whatever you do, DO NOT CHASE HIM, let him go, Cancer males (the player types) will only dig deeper in the proverbial shell and you'll be even more miserable because of his blatant stonewalling behavior, the hardest thing you'll do is not chase him, don't do it, you'll regret sending him long text messages etc b/c he'll only continue to ignore you for being way too clingy.
Stop asking him questions, stop behaving as if you're ALL IN, the rules have change thus you must change your behavior as well to align itself with what's CURRENTLY happening between the both of you, do not keep giving him MORE when he's clearly giving you LESS, less attention, less feedback, less of everything, when you realize he's ignoring and giving less of himself well it's not the time to CONTINUE on doing the same behavior with him, giving him more won't make him FEEL anything for you.
He's changed. You change. Do not continue putting yourself in what I call relationship debt, meaning do not keep giving when you are not receiving anything in return, let him go and see if he'll show back up, if you're still available then of course you can decide to pick up again or leave him alone for good. Whatever you do DO NOT continue giving him your precious time and attention b/c the more you give and the less you receive, you'll begin to FEEL NEEDY--OFF BALANCE--DESPERATE--CLINGY of him and then you've given all of your power over to him and he'll basically treat you with a lack of respect.
If you had sex with him without confirming with him if the relationship is a REAL relationship he may not feel obligated to continue to pursue, the deal has been sealed, his reaction is to give you less to minimize your desire to form a real relationship with him, he's minimizing your expectations
I suggest to you when the next guy comes in your face talking sweet, inserting himself in your daily life through chasing you and giving you gives is to NOT FALL it, don't fall for the attention and gifts because a lot of the times that kind of behavior from a man is disingenuous, that's a player move on his part.
Whatever you do, DO NOT CHASE HIM, let him go, Cancer males (the player types) will only dig deeper in the proverbial shell and you'll be even more miserable because of his blatant stonewalling behavior, the hardest thing you'll do is not chase him, don't do it, you'll regret sending him long text messages etc b/c he'll only continue to ignore you for being way too clingy.
Stop asking him questions, stop behaving as if you're ALL IN, the rules have change thus you must change your behavior as well to align itself with what's CURRENTLY happening between the both of you, do not keep giving him MORE when he's clearly giving you LESS, less attention, less feedback, less of everything, when you realize he's ignoring and giving less of himself well it's not the time to CONTINUE on doing the same behavior with him, giving him more won't make him FEEL anything for you.
He's changed. You change. Do not continue putting yourself in what I call relationship debt, meaning do not keep giving when you are not receiving anything in return, let him go and see if he'll show back up, if you're still available then of course you can decide to pick up again or leave him alone for good. Whatever you do DO NOT continue giving him your precious time and attention b/c the more you give and the less you receive, you'll begin to FEEL NEEDY--OFF BALANCE--DESPERATE--CLINGY of him and then you've given all of your power over to him and he'll basically treat you with a lack of respect.
To keep things balanced do nothing, don't give him another OUNCE of your love, time, thoughts, attention which includes your body, just b/c he got sex once (that's if you had sex with him) doesn't mean he'll continue on getting you.
And to be clear about my statement regarding cancer males, the immature less evolved males pull this kind of crap, save yourself and let it go, he'll be back and if he doesn't come back then he's a total douche bag, learn from it and don't allow it to happen again.
And to be clear about my statement regarding cancer males, the immature less evolved males pull this kind of crap, save yourself and let it go, he'll be back and if he doesn't come back then he's a total douche bag, learn from it and don't allow it to happen again.
^ I 100% agree. he's not thinking bout you so don't think about him, move on with your life.
you will encounter a shit ton of assholes b4 finding the right guy so chalk it up to experience, learn from it, n bounce.
you will encounter a shit ton of assholes b4 finding the right guy so chalk it up to experience, learn from it, n bounce.
That's the best advice I've ever received, trust.
Thank you for all your replies!
1: he has been assertive in asking for us to be "exclusive"
2: sigh... Yes, we ended up having sex... I am 49... Lol... It is not like we are teenagers.... But .. Ugh... It still feels like it at times.
I am the type of personality that NEEDS the continual communication and togetherness. He started out they way.... I was just so confuse by the about face in his texting and calling suddenly.
I could "feel" the shift and DISLIKE feeling like I am suddenly the chaser. NOT ME!
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1: he has been assertive in asking for us to be "exclusive"
2: sigh... Yes, we ended up having sex... I am 49... Lol... It is not like we are teenagers.... But .. Ugh... It still feels like it at times.
I am the type of personality that NEEDS the continual communication and togetherness. He started out they way.... I was just so confuse by the about face in his texting and calling suddenly.
I could "feel" the shift and DISLIKE feeling like I am suddenly the chaser. NOT ME!
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I agree with Tiki. But, have you done or said something that could have hurt him in some way. They are like mentioned above, but they are also sensitive. When hurt, they withdraw into their shells. Just a thought and not meant to send you analyzing every little detail.
Did you say yes to being exclusive with him? Did you give him some kind of reassurance that you are ready to be exclusive?
I only ask because if you didn't give him a DIRECT answer he's probably feeling rejected and then on the other hand if you said yes to being exclusive with him and he in turn disappears on you, goes cold, well that's a douche bag move IMHO and he wasn't being sincere in asking for exclusivity, he was asking for exclusivity to get your defenses down to get sex.
Age is just a number, but the shift is normal actually, during the wooing process, the woman is getting what she wants, a real relationship filled with admiration, attention, love, gifts and this is where she has a significant amount of power over the man because the man is wooing to GET something be it sex, love, attention but when the wooing process shifts into sex and intimacy, the man no longer feels compelled to continue on with his previous behavior, he's got the sex, he can now focus on his own life, he'll get back to you when he's ready to get back to you, he no longer has a purpose to woo you anymore, that part of the relationship is OVER, now of course he can pick back up again but it's not guaranteed he'll do that now that he's satisfied himself.
You will not receive continual communication with a Cancer, try a mutable sign or a fire sign, Cancers retreat a lot, you won't always know what's going on with a male Cancer, read the Cancer board and you'll see a pattern of the same thing you are experiencing with your Cancer, it's actually quite normal for a Cancer to retreat and not show up again for 6 months.
So at this point you have to sit back and observe his pattern with you, this shift could be the normal male shift so many men do after sex or this shift could be a cancer male retreat shift which means you could literally go weeks sometimes months without hearing from your Cancer again. NOTHING you can do about it but get back out there and date and tend to your own life, worrying about it won't change a thing but it will drive you bonkers and that's not necessary.
I only ask because if you didn't give him a DIRECT answer he's probably feeling rejected and then on the other hand if you said yes to being exclusive with him and he in turn disappears on you, goes cold, well that's a douche bag move IMHO and he wasn't being sincere in asking for exclusivity, he was asking for exclusivity to get your defenses down to get sex.
Age is just a number, but the shift is normal actually, during the wooing process, the woman is getting what she wants, a real relationship filled with admiration, attention, love, gifts and this is where she has a significant amount of power over the man because the man is wooing to GET something be it sex, love, attention but when the wooing process shifts into sex and intimacy, the man no longer feels compelled to continue on with his previous behavior, he's got the sex, he can now focus on his own life, he'll get back to you when he's ready to get back to you, he no longer has a purpose to woo you anymore, that part of the relationship is OVER, now of course he can pick back up again but it's not guaranteed he'll do that now that he's satisfied himself.
You will not receive continual communication with a Cancer, try a mutable sign or a fire sign, Cancers retreat a lot, you won't always know what's going on with a male Cancer, read the Cancer board and you'll see a pattern of the same thing you are experiencing with your Cancer, it's actually quite normal for a Cancer to retreat and not show up again for 6 months.
So at this point you have to sit back and observe his pattern with you, this shift could be the normal male shift so many men do after sex or this shift could be a cancer male retreat shift which means you could literally go weeks sometimes months without hearing from your Cancer again. NOTHING you can do about it but get back out there and date and tend to your own life, worrying about it won't change a thing but it will drive you bonkers and that's not necessary.
Posted by tiki33
You will not receive continual communication with a Cancer, try a mutable sign or a fire sign, Cancers retreat a lot, you won't always know what's going on with a male Cancer, read the Cancer board and you'll see a pattern of the same thing you are experiencing with your Cancer, it's actually quite normal for a Cancer to retreat and not show up again for 6 months.
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This is not necessarily true. I know of four married cancer males who are amazing partners. Yes, they do get in their moods and two of them will go silent for an hour or two, but none of them disappear or anything like that. And what is wrong with someone going silent for a few hours... Or even a day or two? People need their space to gather their thoughts and emotions and put them in check.
Posted by angelkiss11Posted by tiki33
You will not receive continual communication with a Cancer, try a mutable sign or a fire sign, Cancers retreat a lot, you won't always know what's going on with a male Cancer, read the Cancer board and you'll see a pattern of the same thing you are experiencing with your Cancer, it's actually quite normal for a Cancer to retreat and not show up again for 6 months.
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This is not necessarily true. I know of four married cancer males who are amazing partners. Yes, they do get in their moods and two of them will go silent for an hour or two, but none of them disappear or anything like that. And what is wrong with someone going silent for a few hours... Or even a day or two? People need their space to gather their thoughts and emotions and put them in check.click to expand
The evolved Cancers are damn near perfect partners, the less evolved will not communicate directly, hide his true feelings, be passive aggressive or just disappear altogether, go through the Cancer threads and this is very common behavior. Go back and read how he was in the beginning with her verses how he's being now after sex, big difference. I agree people should have as much space as they want but the way he's back peddling is very common with men in general that was never serious.
You all are AWESOME... I really appreciate all your words of insight!
I gave it a day or so with the LESS texting and few words... He is now calling often and making New Year's Eve plans with me... Maybe he was just having a few "off days"?
I still feel like he is not as verbal in his texting and open about how his feeling. His text were reading at first how he missed my touch, how he wanted to kiss me etc.
that has slowed down but he does seem very into me when we got together last night.
He acts and talks of "us" so maybe my poor Crab man just doesn't know how to keep up communication with me?
I am a spicy girl... I crave attention, being treated like a lady and the man to do the imitating.
Important note: he did tell me yesterday that he thought I should ask him out more often and not just wait for him to.. Huh..? I am not used to THAT at all! Sigh...
I gave it a day or so with the LESS texting and few words... He is now calling often and making New Year's Eve plans with me... Maybe he was just having a few "off days"?
I still feel like he is not as verbal in his texting and open about how his feeling. His text were reading at first how he missed my touch, how he wanted to kiss me etc.
that has slowed down but he does seem very into me when we got together last night.
He acts and talks of "us" so maybe my poor Crab man just doesn't know how to keep up communication with me?
I am a spicy girl... I crave attention, being treated like a lady and the man to do the imitating.
Important note: he did tell me yesterday that he thought I should ask him out more often and not just wait for him to.. Huh..? I am not used to THAT at all! Sigh...
Posted by TaurusGirl63
Important note: he did tell me yesterday that he thought I should ask him out more often and not just wait for him to.. Huh..? I am not used to THAT at all! Sigh...
Nothing wrong with balance! 😉 Every now and then invite him to join you in things you both would enjoy.
Posted by TaurusGirl63
I crave attention
That's what this whole thing has always been about. The Cancer man tires quickly.
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by TaurusGirl63
I crave attention
That's what this whole thing has always been about. The Cancer man tires quickly.click to expand
Can u explain? Of the same person, of just communication in general?
I have been reading this cancer board... Wowzers... I had no idea cancer people were so moody / sensitive etc
Maybe a Taurus Girl is way to out going for him?
Posted by TaurusGirl63
Can u explain? Of the same person, of just communication in general?
It's difficult to explain to someone who can't see that actions are more important than text messages. Cancer man grows weary quickly of needy whingeing.
"chased and pursued"......Some more maturity at 49 would not be a bad thing.
Lol... Well good thing I have on my fire retardant panties on... Nice post there.
I will spend time defending myself or trying to explain.
I will spend time defending myself or trying to explain.
*not spend my time
Posted by TaurusGirl63
You all are AWESOME... I really appreciate all your words of insight!
I gave it a day or so with the LESS texting and few words... He is now calling often and making New Year's Eve plans with me... Maybe he was just having a few "off days"?
I still feel like he is not as verbal in his texting and open about how his feeling. His text were reading at first how he missed my touch, how he wanted to kiss me etc.
that has slowed down but he does seem very into me when we got together last night.
He acts and talks of "us" so maybe my poor Crab man just doesn't know how to keep up communication with me?
I am a spicy girl... I crave attention, being treated like a lady and the man to do the imitating.
Important note: he did tell me yesterday that he thought I should ask him out more often and not just wait for him to.. Huh..? I am not used to THAT at all! Sigh...
I would treat you like a lady. Because I am a gentlemen I treat almost everybody with respect regardless of sex tho lol Whenever I get into a relationship I like constant communication. Yeah take the leadership role. If he can't decide for himself...You go ahead and do it. Your a Taurus and as I remember Taurus gets what they desire. I don't think Cancer Men have anything against a woman who knows what she wants. If shes confident in herself thats Howt! Bonus. I have always admired a strong willed, passionate partner, who isn't afraid to speak their mind. If it "scares" him off he has some serious emotional hang-ups. He isn't able to handle a spicey girl like yourself. You wouldn't want to be with a Male who couldn't keep up with your emotional depth and passion. Cancers arn't supposed to be afraid of emotions. Sometimes we *Fall in love* Too fast...Like instant fated attraction. That can be a very scary emotion especially when you think you might be the only one feeling that way.
Hang out some more. Enjoy each others company even in silence. Just being around him you should pick up the vibe he puts off. The thing about Cancers is our moods change quite often, but like Taurus our core principles always remain stable. As Cancer is a security oriented sign. It doesn't seem like hes the type that likes to be in an imitating relationship. Do the Taurus thing... I tell you it works on Cancer. Indulge in the senses, play with the nipples...Show off your breast. Cancers like a bit of clea
but be classy about it. Go have a candlelit dinner. Play the role of the leader. Direct him and show him what you desire out of him. Capricorn is our opposite sign, we don't mind being bossed around from time to time, as long as we know that you are loyal and we can understand where we are coming from. Common ground is highly important.
I hate this...My post keep on getting split.
Hope you having a wonderful day Taurus Girl.
I hate this...My post keep on getting split.
Hope you having a wonderful day Taurus Girl.
Posted by Peanutbutter
^ I 100% agree. he's not thinking bout you so don't think about him, move on with your life.
you will encounter a shit ton of assholes b4 finding the right guy so chalk it up to experience, learn from it, n bounce.
How is it that you figure out somebody is an asshole because he hasn't responded back in a few days. SOMETIMES I RESPECT MY PRIVACY...NOBODY CALLS. I go and talk to nobody. Sometimes the feeling of a relationship moving too fast and the uncertainty of the other person feeling the same way causes an unknown fear. I don't understand, I'm going to join the He Man Woman Haters Club;. We feed girls to alligators. Our clubhouse burned down mighty low. But we've got a plan to make some dough! Is the chant of the club. Its better then being in the She Devil Man Hater Club. Who pissed you ladies off? How can you come up with such assurance off of little data? Not all Cancer men are players and pimps. Lots of us have big hearts that we guard and protect. Cancer isn't the most direct sign...AS A CRAB WALKS SIDEWAYS! You can never really predict what were going to do next. But in a messed up way, we are consistent in our inconsistencies. Pay close enough attention to ANY Cancer and you will find a pattern on how they act and how they behave. Maybe cause I got Venus in Taurus I don't have the need to have people chasing for me. I would rather pursue one partner. Sex is a very intimidate moment for a Cancerian. Because as much as I like to say I love sex, MEANINGLESS sex just has no thrill. If I can't feel like I'm pleasing my partner, being a nurturing crab as such I don't feel that I preformed the act right. Tho then again Sex has absolutely no control over my actions or how I perceive someone. I won't treat somebody like a foreigner and feel dirty after performing the act of sex. IM A MAN. That is a poor excuse of a Crab or any man at that. I feel bad for people who shame themselves. Cancers I think would be open to the idea of fuck buddies to start off with...But I don't think it would work out in the end. Taurus and Cancer are the two most physical signs in the bedroom also. So there's lots of sexual magnetism and attraction between these two signs. If she performed like a sex goddess she is, no Cancer is going to be denied that. We know when we have a good thing. Claws don't let grip off whatever they clinch on.
Pisces Men tend to withdraw
Work for a cause, not for an applause. Live life to express, not to impress. Don't strive to make your presence noticed, just make you absence felt.
I hate my post being split...Pisces Men tend to withdraw for weeks at a time. Do we call them whores or do we still love their escaping ways to cope with reality. lol Sometimes when things become uncertain and unknown its sometimes better to retreat and go to live on and fight for another day.
Damn Girls A Cancer can't even be moody. But turn the tables around, if it was you who didn't have direct contact for days it would be perfectly A O.K. Shes allowed to retreat and ask for some personal space as if its required. A male does that, BOOM hes a cheater. I find you woman very insecure and understand why A Cancer male wouldn't be interested in you. Were not looking to date a butch dike FACT (Cancer squares Aries LOL). There has to be some femininity in our woman. Even tho I'm Gay... I appreciate BIG BREAST over ass any day on a woman lol
I like people that know what they want. FACT* Can't play games, don't got time for it. Stop reading into my ways so deeply, the relationship just started not that long ago. Were not GEMINIS, we don't change our minds on the drop of the hat. Actually were very dependable mentally and can be quite shy on first interaction being Cancer is a muted sign and all. The cruse is tho, once you get us talking we don't know how to shut up from that point on.
We haven't even hit the honeymoon phase yet. Yes we had sex, and I appreciated it....*Quote* ~ I want you to ask me out more. Cancer is one of the most private signs its related to the IC, the most private thoughts. I think what makes a male a "Player" is if you allow yourself to be taken advantage of. I believe A Cancer always being pampered like a baby may take full advantage of the situation. But I tell you, Cancers admire strong figures (Come on were related to the Mother, shes the head of the household in my family). How are you going to predict failure when the relationship just bloomed. Cancer will lose interest if they suspect you don't like them anymore. Its a CLINGY Sign. We can hang out with one person all FUCKING day long. It doesn't bother us. LIKE Taurus (See Moon is exalted in Taurus these two signs do have a lot alike) the Cancer simply is satisfied in being in your presence. There isn't a need to exchange words, but to know that your in the company of somebody you admire and might even be interested in.
Damn Girls A Cancer can't even be moody. But turn the tables around, if it was you who didn't have direct contact for days it would be perfectly A O.K. Shes allowed to retreat and ask for some personal space as if its required. A male does that, BOOM hes a cheater. I find you woman very insecure and understand why A Cancer male wouldn't be interested in you. Were not looking to date a butch dike FACT (Cancer squares Aries LOL). There has to be some femininity in our woman. Even tho I'm Gay... I appreciate BIG BREAST over ass any day on a woman lol
I like people that know what they want. FACT* Can't play games, don't got time for it. Stop reading into my ways so deeply, the relationship just started not that long ago. Were not GEMINIS, we don't change our minds on the drop of the hat. Actually were very dependable mentally and can be quite shy on first interaction being Cancer is a muted sign and all. The cruse is tho, once you get us talking we don't know how to shut up from that point on.
We haven't even hit the honeymoon phase yet. Yes we had sex, and I appreciated it....*Quote* ~ I want you to ask me out more. Cancer is one of the most private signs its related to the IC, the most private thoughts. I think what makes a male a "Player" is if you allow yourself to be taken advantage of. I believe A Cancer always being pampered like a baby may take full advantage of the situation. But I tell you, Cancers admire strong figures (Come on were related to the Mother, shes the head of the household in my family). How are you going to predict failure when the relationship just bloomed. Cancer will lose interest if they suspect you don't like them anymore. Its a CLINGY Sign. We can hang out with one person all FUCKING day long. It doesn't bother us. LIKE Taurus (See Moon is exalted in Taurus these two signs do have a lot alike) the Cancer simply is satisfied in being in your presence. There isn't a need to exchange words, but to know that your in the company of somebody you admire and might even be interested in.
AllenBeau... You are incredible!!! Huge hugs!!!
Yes, I think you understand what I was trying to say... And we are pretty sensual touch and a bit ... Ok.. A lot naughty in the bedroom!! 😉
I was afraid to be the one to text more, but I have not been this "into" a guy in a long time.
I don't chase guys... In fact I have a solid handful of just "guy friends" I am not desperate for male company. But I really want to date this gentleman and I don't want to hurt him in any way.
I pay attention to his likes and bought him gifts like favorite gum, and signed baseball of his favorite player, tuck little notes in things for him etc. bake for him.
I know that his family is important and I printed up a photo for him... That all comes natural for me.
I just didn't understand the dead air thing.texting,.. But I am learning the more I read this board.
Thank you for sharing about yourself!!
I guess you guys really like that "alone time" and I will have to adjust to that.
:-)
Yes, I think you understand what I was trying to say... And we are pretty sensual touch and a bit ... Ok.. A lot naughty in the bedroom!! 😉
I was afraid to be the one to text more, but I have not been this "into" a guy in a long time.
I don't chase guys... In fact I have a solid handful of just "guy friends" I am not desperate for male company. But I really want to date this gentleman and I don't want to hurt him in any way.
I pay attention to his likes and bought him gifts like favorite gum, and signed baseball of his favorite player, tuck little notes in things for him etc. bake for him.
I know that his family is important and I printed up a photo for him... That all comes natural for me.
I just didn't understand the dead air thing.texting,.. But I am learning the more I read this board.
Thank you for sharing about yourself!!
I guess you guys really like that "alone time" and I will have to adjust to that.
:-)
No problems Taurus Girl we only live once so make the best of the situation. I do have a feeling that things are going to work out for you. Just an intuitive gut feeling I have about you. Cancers and Virgos are both horrible at going for what they desire. BOTH of them tend to shy away and clam up pretty fast. Much alone time is needed at the beginning but when the relationship starts to mature and grow, its the exact opposite. You won't know how to get rid of your Cancer. Were CLINGY. Like lost puppies, thank god for me I've always been good at telling jokes and keep entertainment alive. But that shouldnt be a problem for Taurus since they enjoy sensory pleasures and just having the company pleases your simple needs. Both Cancer and Taurus don't mind just lounging around and communicating back and forth with each others. The little tokens of appreciation mean a lot. It really shows that you are really getting to know him personally. Him sharing his family with you shows that he accepts you as part of his clan. Writing notes is always sweet, you should encourage him to write you back. The written world is usually easier to express ones views and opinions towards the situation. Too bad he isn't really texting you alot. I LOVE TEXT. Sometimes I spend hours talking to
Remembering his favorite gum is a PLUS.
Remembering his favorite gum is a PLUS.
texting only takes a few seconds.... Jussayin.
my cancer never n hasn't skipped a beat. even when we were just dating..
it's out there that when he's having any issues he can come to me w/o hesitation n vice versa n we can fix any issues as a team... if he's gonna b busy he lets me know instead of leaving me hanging n wondering.... it's just polite. common courtesy
it's out there that when he's having any issues he can come to me w/o hesitation n vice versa n we can fix any issues as a team... if he's gonna b busy he lets me know instead of leaving me hanging n wondering.... it's just polite. common courtesy
Idk about the losing interest in wooing you after sex..
my cancer still tries, is a gentleman, n is intimate/sweet with me still. we did hookup before becoming official, and I do keep him on his toes so... if a guy likes you, he likes you whether u have sex w/ him or not. you gotta find a dude that's on your wavelength aka gives you what u need naturally or else u won't b satisfied.
if u feel he doesn't communicate brought, there's a lot more to choose from where that (he) came from. Don't let a man make u think you have to change or that you're doin something wrong. maybe it's him that's wrong. women get attached way too soon n that's the issue. you can't change his habits but u can change (switch out) the guy you spend time with. So if he doesn't satisfy your emotional needs find someone who will.
my cancer still tries, is a gentleman, n is intimate/sweet with me still. we did hookup before becoming official, and I do keep him on his toes so... if a guy likes you, he likes you whether u have sex w/ him or not. you gotta find a dude that's on your wavelength aka gives you what u need naturally or else u won't b satisfied.
if u feel he doesn't communicate brought, there's a lot more to choose from where that (he) came from. Don't let a man make u think you have to change or that you're doin something wrong. maybe it's him that's wrong. women get attached way too soon n that's the issue. you can't change his habits but u can change (switch out) the guy you spend time with. So if he doesn't satisfy your emotional needs find someone who will.
brought = enough* my bad.
Posted by Peanutbutter
Idk about the losing interest in wooing you after sex..
my cancer still tries, is a gentleman, n is intimate/sweet with me still. we did hookup before becoming official, and I do keep him on his toes so... if a guy likes you, he likes you whether u have sex w/ him or not. you gotta find a dude that's on your wavelength aka gives you what u need naturally or else u won't b satisfied.
+1 billion. Withholding/giving sex will not get you love. thanks for saying that out aloud.
Posted by Peanutbutter
if u feel he doesn't communicate brought, there's a lot more to choose from where that (he) came from. Don't let a man make u think you have to change or that you're doin something wrong. maybe it's him that's wrong. women get attached way too soon n that's the issue. you can't change his habits but u can change (switch out) the guy you spend time with. So if he doesn't satisfy your emotional needs find someone who will.click to expand
+1 billion again, please don't expect men to change and appease blatant attention mongering either. If your needs are of a certain nature go find the guy who is willing to cater to that.
PB, I know why cancer boy likes you now 😛.
Posted by AllanBeau
tiki33, and Peanutbutter -
heaven forbid a dude have a life, have a reason to NOT BE A D BAG MOTHER FUCKER ON A COMPUTER ALL DAY or let alone A PHONE, you dumb ass twat nugget whore Baggies. Heaven forbid a dude not thinking with a dick in his hand but life in general in his mouth I give him promps. I dont expect you to hear what I say or understand what Im saying, all you can hear is num num num I need some dick num num num I need some dick. All and all when your a ragidy ass heaver that thinks all her milkshake brings all the boys to the yard I hardly expect you two to ever find anybody in this life that truly loves you...Especially when you post your ads on backpage because craigslist has blocked you, and there's a sign behind planed parenthood that states no more raddgy bitches are allowed to linger because free STD test aren't really that free bitch, and you have already max out half of the Continental united states opening your mother fucking legs. So fact I talk to "The one that didn't text back", and thank god he didnt respond because he escaped with his life and didn't get infested with the red pledge or the " Clappy Clapp "
Needless to say I hope and pray that he changes his number. You are worse then Neapolitan Dinomite mating with a linger producing the outbreak monkey, creating the aids virus were having today. Jenny Cragg dont want you, and the tooth fairy informed us that all you can smell is carp and dead fish within 100 miles of you two. I have no faith in febreeze or Lysol... Mr Clean has checked out, and pinesol will never be the same. Do me a favor and build a bridge, plant a tree...buy some rope and hang yourself as the sun sets and the wind blows maybe that will air out that canyon crotch that you carry between them thunder thighs. Sincerely noted, leaving the continental united states Ive been smelling carp for days... And I refuse to feel that I live in a cat litter box because you two raggdy bitches distorted what youth was left for the united states. Close your legs and get some vagisil, not that it will fix it but it will stop all the cats from gathering in and around your stank ass twat bucket cooters.... Check Please
This might have come across more poignant had you thought to utilize spellchecker.
Oh wait, I'm wrong.
It still would have sounded bitter and poorly written.
Oh come on Dynamite... Its about the sense of humor in it!
"Especially when you post your ads on backpage because craigslist has blocked you." As we all know about the sex ads placed on Craigslist
"I have no faith in febreeze or Lysol... Mr Clean has checked out, and pinesol will never be the same." All brands of cleaning solvents to air out the smell of rotted twat as they all failed.
It was meant to be witty with inventive verbal humor. You got to actually think on it. AND I did use spell check. It wasn't meant to be classy or well written but a play on words.
I find it humorous, it was a fun piece to write on. I bet YOU couldn't come up with something like that.
"Especially when you post your ads on backpage because craigslist has blocked you." As we all know about the sex ads placed on Craigslist
"I have no faith in febreeze or Lysol... Mr Clean has checked out, and pinesol will never be the same." All brands of cleaning solvents to air out the smell of rotted twat as they all failed.
It was meant to be witty with inventive verbal humor. You got to actually think on it. AND I did use spell check. It wasn't meant to be classy or well written but a play on words.
I find it humorous, it was a fun piece to write on. I bet YOU couldn't come up with something like that.
SEX - Lets examine it. Natally I got Saturn, Pluto, South Node and Part of Fourtine in Scorpio... Let me share some of my sex knowledge. Yes I am going on a rant. I have a fun time writing these. They help me understand myself better.
First off tell me this does "SEX" Matter that much to a person that its the determinate factor for a relationship? Some people have sex on their first date because there is SUCH a strong pull and magnetism that draws them together. Christ I was with a guy for 4 years and we fucked on our 2nd date. Oh and was the sex amazing. Sometimes two people just have strong sexual chemistry together. Being that I got Venus in Taurus sensuality and touch is very important to me. Sensuality is pleasure for both people, taking your time, and being in tune with the act of making love. There is a difference between making love opposed to just having MEANINGLESS empty sex.
A connection between ones Mars and Venus might be a indicator towards how much sexual chemistry they have towards one another. Some people are more sexual then others, some have to have it almost on a daily bases. Where does it become an issue when both people consent to their "Lower Vibrations".
Sex on a Spiritual note
Kundalini is the agent of self-transformation on the physical, mental, emotional, psychic and spiritual levels. The Kundalini force is said to be sleeping, coiled like a serpent, in the lowest chakra called the root chakra. When this force is awaken, it begins to rise up though the charkra's and out the crown chakra. bringing in experience of divine light within. Very intense light, usually pure white and incredibly beautiful. Known as the Radiation of the Lord.
Do you know what the root chakra relates to? Physical/Sensation energy. Remember if you have to have the root charka open before you can have any of the other ones functioning properly. Deficiency in the Root causes Lack of confidence, can't achieve goals, suicidal, low sexual energy, feel unlovable, little interest in sex, masochistic. Fear and insecurity. Blockage in this energy center of the body can result in a core sense of unworthiness and self-doubt and shame.Thought forms such as "I don't deserve love," "I'm ashamed of who I am," and "I'm always misunderstood,". Blockages in the first chakra cause sex to be treated primarily as a function of procreation.
First off tell me this does "SEX" Matter that much to a person that its the determinate factor for a relationship? Some people have sex on their first date because there is SUCH a strong pull and magnetism that draws them together. Christ I was with a guy for 4 years and we fucked on our 2nd date. Oh and was the sex amazing. Sometimes two people just have strong sexual chemistry together. Being that I got Venus in Taurus sensuality and touch is very important to me. Sensuality is pleasure for both people, taking your time, and being in tune with the act of making love. There is a difference between making love opposed to just having MEANINGLESS empty sex.
A connection between ones Mars and Venus might be a indicator towards how much sexual chemistry they have towards one another. Some people are more sexual then others, some have to have it almost on a daily bases. Where does it become an issue when both people consent to their "Lower Vibrations".
Sex on a Spiritual note
Kundalini is the agent of self-transformation on the physical, mental, emotional, psychic and spiritual levels. The Kundalini force is said to be sleeping, coiled like a serpent, in the lowest chakra called the root chakra. When this force is awaken, it begins to rise up though the charkra's and out the crown chakra. bringing in experience of divine light within. Very intense light, usually pure white and incredibly beautiful. Known as the Radiation of the Lord.
Do you know what the root chakra relates to? Physical/Sensation energy. Remember if you have to have the root charka open before you can have any of the other ones functioning properly. Deficiency in the Root causes Lack of confidence, can't achieve goals, suicidal, low sexual energy, feel unlovable, little interest in sex, masochistic. Fear and insecurity. Blockage in this energy center of the body can result in a core sense of unworthiness and self-doubt and shame.Thought forms such as "I don't deserve love," "I'm ashamed of who I am," and "I'm always misunderstood,". Blockages in the first chakra cause sex to be treated primarily as a function of procreation.
You can tap into this energy though much meditation, studying Kundalini Yoga -OR-
THOUGH SOME REALLY GOOD SEX SESSIONS (tantric sex) -
Bringing on the incredible feeling of love and desire for your partner (not ordinary lust, alcohol induced or otherwise). Usually comes upon you spontaneously, deep in the night. Sex feels like it's the first such experience and the intense feelings of attraction emanate from somewhere beyond yourself.
Peanutbutter - I highly doubt you have had a sexual encounter that took you to another universe Or made you feel like a rejuvenated soul afterwards. So powerful that you felt as though you and your lovers souls had melted and mend together into a spiritual union of one. So passionate that both of you are drenched in each others sweat that poured from the body during intercourse. Its ok though not many people do encounter this kind of sexual chemistry. It takes alot of trust in a partner to experience this.
Why does one deny there pleasures to wait to be in an "official" relationship? Maybe because I got a lot of Virgo in my chart I don't see the prospects of marriage happening in my life anytime soon. We only live once. Oh yeah Im a total whore! Though I can count how many men I have slept with between my 10 fingers lol I believe Taurus Girl has a STRONG sexual connection with this guy. She isn't ashamed of it. Never herd her once say that his SEXUAL APPETITE bothered her or made her feel as though she was being USED. From what I gathered, she kinda giggled like a school girl on how amazing it was.
ALL she desired was some more contact with the fellow. Us Cancers are kind of shy when meeting new people. If I'm not in a relationship with somebody officially, don't have to report to them when I am going to be gone. Though it would be nice.
Ok Ok done with that Rant~
THOUGH SOME REALLY GOOD SEX SESSIONS (tantric sex) -
Bringing on the incredible feeling of love and desire for your partner (not ordinary lust, alcohol induced or otherwise). Usually comes upon you spontaneously, deep in the night. Sex feels like it's the first such experience and the intense feelings of attraction emanate from somewhere beyond yourself.
Peanutbutter - I highly doubt you have had a sexual encounter that took you to another universe Or made you feel like a rejuvenated soul afterwards. So powerful that you felt as though you and your lovers souls had melted and mend together into a spiritual union of one. So passionate that both of you are drenched in each others sweat that poured from the body during intercourse. Its ok though not many people do encounter this kind of sexual chemistry. It takes alot of trust in a partner to experience this.
Why does one deny there pleasures to wait to be in an "official" relationship? Maybe because I got a lot of Virgo in my chart I don't see the prospects of marriage happening in my life anytime soon. We only live once. Oh yeah Im a total whore! Though I can count how many men I have slept with between my 10 fingers lol I believe Taurus Girl has a STRONG sexual connection with this guy. She isn't ashamed of it. Never herd her once say that his SEXUAL APPETITE bothered her or made her feel as though she was being USED. From what I gathered, she kinda giggled like a school girl on how amazing it was.
ALL she desired was some more contact with the fellow. Us Cancers are kind of shy when meeting new people. If I'm not in a relationship with somebody officially, don't have to report to them when I am going to be gone. Though it would be nice.
Ok Ok done with that Rant~
Allan, my sex life & how fucking spectacular it is, is of no concern to you thank you very much.
"If I'm not in a relationship with somebody officially, don't have to report to them when I am going to be gone"
exactly. he's not prioritizing her. That's not the issue, the issue here is that she thinks she can squeeze that sort of attention from someone when in reality he's not already doing it. he's just not that into her. The issue is that as a female she has put her eggs in this one basket n instead of moving on she wants to play tug of war n milk it, driving herself cray in the process instead of moving on to possibly find someone who will give her what she craves...
do u get it?
"If I'm not in a relationship with somebody officially, don't have to report to them when I am going to be gone"
exactly. he's not prioritizing her. That's not the issue, the issue here is that she thinks she can squeeze that sort of attention from someone when in reality he's not already doing it. he's just not that into her. The issue is that as a female she has put her eggs in this one basket n instead of moving on she wants to play tug of war n milk it, driving herself cray in the process instead of moving on to possibly find someone who will give her what she craves...
do u get it?
if it we're purely sexual she wouldn't be craving all this attention from him, so obvs it's more than that to her! She's gotta realize he has no reason to b so accommodating if it's just sex.. if it's more than that, and it has been mutually agreed upon,then yeah she has a right to make her wants known. but by the looks of it, it's just casual.
Ok... Time to put this thread to rest...
My cancer man is into me, as the days have progressed we have spent more quality time together laughing, playing, serious and communicating.
It is all about getting to know each other and the style of communicating, showing affection and learning what makes each other feel fulfilled.
We have found our tempo and enjoying each other immensely.
He does have many cancer traits and I have many Taurus traits. We are both learning about each other.
He is all about wanting me as "his girl" and tells me that often and makes dates and plans with me ahead of time.
Let's end the thread and I appreciate all the input... Good, bad and indifferent.
Happy new year to all. 😉
My cancer man is into me, as the days have progressed we have spent more quality time together laughing, playing, serious and communicating.
It is all about getting to know each other and the style of communicating, showing affection and learning what makes each other feel fulfilled.
We have found our tempo and enjoying each other immensely.
He does have many cancer traits and I have many Taurus traits. We are both learning about each other.
He is all about wanting me as "his girl" and tells me that often and makes dates and plans with me ahead of time.
Let's end the thread and I appreciate all the input... Good, bad and indifferent.
Happy new year to all. 😉
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by TaurusGirl63
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