Cancer/Pisces frustration (Page 2)

ok i found my answer to the sex. she claims they are not having sex

((raising eyebrow)) u sure about this Peixe? LMOA! They say Scorps have very good intuition. And Cancer men usually don't do the just friendship thing but the way. It is all or nothing. If U R not giving up soon, U will B dumped.

Thats so true Krobe...when I was younger I dealt with a guy in a similar situation. Can you believe that in a year that loser never took me on a date once? I wasn't having sex with him though, but still, they don't respect you if you are always hanging out at their house and you don't demand that they court you.

lol krobe, I am just not buying that there is no sexual stuff going on. give me a break.

hmmm... Peixe has been quiet for 20 mins now....she's on her way to Cancer's house

((sigh)) she blew it, and it has nothing to do with him being a cancer

lol krobe, I am just not buying that there is no sexual stuff going on. give me a break.

LMOA! They say Scorps have good intuition. LOL! U can smell lhmmm...


Peixe has been quiet for 20 mins now....she's on her way to Cancer's house

((sigh)) she blew it, and it has nothing to do with him being a canceries from miles away.

Pisces R ran by emotions my dear. It will B nothing U or me can tell her. She has 2 find out for herself. But, I am glad U spoke up 2 the fact that Cancer men don't respect U if U don't make them court U. I guess, my rejections R just 2 rough for the old timid crab.

//out of curiosity, did she say "oh we should get together and have drinks sometime" or did she say "do u want to have drinks with me on such and such day"//

Yes, we were supposed to have drinks on Saturday night.. she even said where we'd go.

//SRG, be careful with the no response to the text messages. Remember u two have been out of touch for 4 yrs. Scorpios are determined, but there has to be a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel in order for them to continue.//

Or else what? She'll come down here and try to kick my ass? I see nothing wrong with laying low for a few weeks. If she wants to talk, she has my number..

"Or else what? She'll come down here and try to kick my ass? I see nothing wrong with laying low for a few weeks. If she wants to talk, she has my number.."

lol, no silly, she may give up and another 4 yrs may pass

oh yeah i forgot, she's the text freak and u don't understand why she texts instead of calls.

//lol, no silly, she may give up and another 4 yrs may pass//

Thats up to her.. if she wants to pursue me, she can, if she doesn't, she doesn't.. i'm not going out of my way any more than I already have.

//oh yeah i forgot, she's the text freak and u don't understand why she texts instead of calls.//

I don't care if it's a trend or not.. it's too impersonal.

I don't know SRG, I think you are taking it too personal. What was your relationship like 4 yrs ago with her?

//I don't know SRG, I think you are taking it too personal. What was your relationship like 4 yrs ago with her?//

We pretty much went to school together from grade school thru high school. But I don't think any of that matters now. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be. My birthday is on friday.. i'll see what she does if anything.

"think she blew it?"

Yup....and she also blew her chances of him ever respecting her

peixe77, sorry I turned your thread into one of my agenda.

lol SRG, she should have stayed instead of running over to his house

//lol SRG, she should have stayed instead of running over to his house//

She knows what she's doing.. better than any of us.

SRG, ur right, I think she does know she's setting herself up for failure

//SRG, ur right, I think she does know she's setting herself up for failure//

No, I meant I think she knows whats best for her better than any of us. Gotta admire a person thats not afraid to take actions though.

Jeezus guys, I'm a performer. I had rehearsals tonight and that's why I wasn't on here. Even if I decided to go over there, it wouldn't have been for long but I didn't. I told him I had to go do that and he asked me to call him when I was done. I did and we were on the phone for over an hour before he had to go do something. He told me he'd call me back and he did so 15 minutes later.

No, we are NOT having sex. We haven't even kissed. We barely even hug. I would've mentioned that if it were true. One of the things I like most about him is that he hasn't tried to get into my pants or pressure me in any way. I'm so used to a man making his intentions known rather quickly, if not right away, and that's what was puzzling me about this situation. Simply put, I can't tell whether he likes me romantically or he just sees me as a friend.

I don't have low self-esteem and he knows that. He doesn't really like to leave his house but we have left the house on many occasions to go shopping or go out to eat. Just not dating type stuff. Why would he stop respecting me for coming to his house?

He lives alone but some guy is moving into his house soon. I told him tonight that now he doesn't need me to hook him up with any one because this guy will probably have lots of girls coming to the house. Cancer mumbled something about not being thrilled about this guy bringing strange girls to the house. I mentioned something about me not coming around anymore and he kept cutting me off and changing the subject.

I dunno...maybe I did blow things. All I know is that he calls me when he says he will. When he says he'll call me when he gets out of work, he calls me as he is leaving his office. Every single day. No other friend of mine does this for me, nor has any boyfriend.

I dunno about Cancers...I know that if I manage to crack open this crab's shell, the meat inside will be tender and delicious but I may just move onto something that's a little easier for me to chew on.

I dunno about Cancers...I know that if I manage to crack open this crab's shell, the meat inside will be tender and delicious but I may just move onto something that's a little easier for me to chew on.

It is, but, it will take a while. U have 2 have some enduring patience or U can forget it.

Thats up to her.. if she wants to pursue me, she can, if she doesn't, she doesn't.. i'm not going out of my way any more than I already have.

SRG! If U R waiting 4 ANY woman 2 pursue U, then U R going 2 simply miss out on some of the best opportunities with women in your whole life. REAL women love confident men. Men who R confident within themselves will pursue women. They R not afraid of rejetion. They LEARN from rejection. Most secure men feel good about themselves. U have 2 learn how 2 feel good about yourself. And plus it is a MAN'S job 2 pursue a woman. If U don't think it is, then she will probably consider U lazy and pass U on.

Krobe, I second your comment. REAL women do love confident men or atleast love to be pursued by a man, especially if she is interested in him too.

Some of my close female friends are European and we disagree on who should be pursuing who. I was born in America and was raised to believe that it's the man's job to pursue. Apparently it is different in Europe, or atleast all of my European girl friends think it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to pursue a man and not out of the ordinary at all. When I told them I would NEVER EVER ask a man out, they told me I was silly and that Americans play too many games when it comes to love.

I'll stick to being old-fashioned. And by the way, no I am still not sleeping with the Cancer. I don't believe in sleeping with a man until we have gotten to know each other well and are in a relationship.

I'll stick to being old-fashioned. And by the way, no I am still not sleeping with the Cancer. I don't believe in sleeping with a man until we have gotten to know each other well and are in a relationship.

Pix,
I did not say U were sleeping with him. LOL! Yeah, I think men should do the pursuing. It just helps the relationship last longer and is more healthier in my own opinion. Now, once U get him, it is up 2 the woman 2 lead him into a secure loving relationship. But, she has 2 B up on the female tactics!

No you didn't say it, Lady Scorp did I think and was disbelieving when I said that we never have. I have no reason to lie about that.

I'm a bit nervous because it seems like my Cancer man cooled off a bit when I didn't come over yesterday and when I made the innocent comment to test him about his new roommate bringing single girls to the house for him. His reaction was unenthusiastic and he did later ask me to call him back when I got out of my rehearsals. We spoke for 2 hours on the phone after that and everything seemed ok.

Today he seemed a bit distant and didn't make his usual after work phone call. I asked him what was wrong and he acted nonchalant and it was "oh nothing, everything's ok". I made the bold move of asking him if he wanted to hang out or go and do something and he said he couldn't because he had things to do around the house but that he would call me back in 2 hours.

Did I blow it and how? Is he just being a moody Cancer and needing alone time? Is he now thinking I don't have feelings for him because of my comment? My Pisces intuition tells me something is wrong. How do I fix it?

Did I blow it and how? No, it is what U will get during the whole relationship with him. Take it now, or leave it.

Is he just being a moody Cancer and needing alone time? Is he now thinking I don't have feelings for him because of my comment? My Pisces intuition tells me something is wrong. How do I fix it?

Don't do anything. U can NEVER FIX a relationship. Let nature take its course. Let him come 2 U.

Pix,
I suggest the best thing I can tell U or ANY other woman 2 do is simply ask him what he wants from U. Don't assume U both want the same thing. If he wants something serious. He will TELL U. Cancer men R honest, I can say that. But, I would not take a step further until U find out what does he want from U. I did not have 2 ask mines, he eventually finally told me. He wanted a relationship. If U wait long enough, he will also, tell U.

Thanks Krobe, that is good advice.

He never called me back last night but I'm trying not to take it personally. It appears that he needs his space and I will give it to him. I have not called him at all and I have never been pushy about spending time with him. I've already done what I needed to do...expressed interest in subtle ways, spent time with him and was there for him when he wasn't feeling well or needed to talk to me. He has done the same for me. If he comes back to me, then it was meant to be. If not, I will be sad and it will be a shame but it's his loss.

Yeah,

Those Cancer men go threw their moments. LOL! 4 Sure!

You're right Krobe.

He finally did call me today. A few times. Apparently he wasn't feeling too well and fell asleep. Today he sound alot better and we spoke a few times.

I'm still learning about keeping that "availability" thing in check but I'm afraid I might go completely the opposite way and be afraid to spend time with him. With my last ex (Capricorn), he expressed his need for space in the very beginning but when we became serious, he wanted me with him ALL THE TIME. Years later, he ended up cheating on me when I started working longer hours. He blamed it on me not being around as much to spend time with him. MEN!!! ARGGHH!! lol

Yeah, Pix,
I know how U feel. I am with a Cap. And he is the same way. Now, I need space and he hangs around and up under me like it is NO tommorrow. But, if he cheats and I find out, I don't forgive on that note. Bye, C U. It won't B another chance.

Patience.. just have patience.

I have a Sagittarius moon. Could that be the impatience in me? My last two relationships were whirlwind romances that moved very quickly into something serious (they each lasted 4 years). There were no guessing games, no game playing at all and they chased me and I wasn't afraid to express my feelings to them when they did. They were Aries and Capricorn. I felt comfortable with them instantly.

I expected Cancers to be easy to deal with because we Pisces are supposed to be very compatible. I thought this would be a piece of cake...lol...speaking of which, he still has that damn b-day cake I made him in his fridge for 2 weeks now. He won't eat it but he won't throw it away. Is that one of those weird Cancerian traits?

Anyway, I'm following all of your advice. Now I know that I have to be patient with him. So far, we're still speaking..and btw, I haven't seen him in 3 days and soon we are both travelling and we won't see each other for 2 weeks. Talk about giving each other space! lol

//I expected Cancers to be easy to deal with because we Pisces are supposed to be very compatible. I thought this would be a piece of cake...lol...speaking of which, he still has that damn b-day cake I made him in his fridge for 2 weeks now. He won't eat it but he won't throw it away. Is that one of those weird Cancerian traits?//

Yep, sounds like us.. don't know if i'd keep a keep un-eaten for over 2 weeks though..

Lemme correct that statement. We did eat some of it on his b-day but the rest of it has been in the fridge ever since and he always has to move it out of the way to get something out of there now. I heard that Cancers hold onto stuff but that's ridiculous.

Also he went that one day where he barely wanted to talk and didn't want to hang out. The next day, he called me several times and that night spent 5 hours on the phone with me talking and playing songs on his piano for me. Is this what you mean by Cancer's mood swings? I'm starting to think that Pisces are the least crazy of the water signs. lmao

I went to his house for the first time in 3 days today. It's still in there and I just noticed the bowl I used to make it in the back of the fridge as well with the little bit of cake batter on the sides. He tossed the candles from the cake in the bowl. We are talking about a man that keeps his home meticulously clean and goes grocery shopping all the time. He's very aware of what's going on in his fridge, so WTF?!!

My mom's a Cancer and she does weird stuff like that too. She kept a diary of my little sister's..um...calls of nature from when she was a baby and has a picture of me with one of my exes even though I keep begging her to get rid of it or cut him out of it. She didn't even like him. Nothing beats that Cancer sentimentality!

I'm also learning that most Cancers (and not just my mom) have indestructible memories. Much to my chagrin at times. I have to be careful of what I say around them. They'll remember and haunt me with it FOREVER. Gosh, as if Cancers weren't weird enough! lmao. Luv ya guys!

I am a Cancerian guy who met a Piscean girl 3 years ago and I think she is amazing - add to that I am a snake and she is a rooster! We have always lived in different countries overseas so I have only actually seen here 4 times.

Time 1: We had a mutual friend who we both went to visit when he passed out from military academy - this was when I first met her and she was in a relationship with a guy from school age so I tried not to think about her in that way and just enjoyed her brilliant company.

Time 2: Went to see a concert in her home town with several friends and called her up to meet up with us - she did (with the same boyfriend) and again had a fantastic time in her company. At the end of that weekend, she split up with her boyfriend and I never got a chance to see her again that trip because we lost each other in the streets and I had to fly. (I am not suggesting she split up from him on my behalf) but after this we starting having a lot of talks on the phone.

Time 3: I had messed up a bit as she had invited me to visit her on holiday but a family commitment meant I couldn't, tho I desperately wanted to so I compromised and went back to her hometown to see what was happening when next available (2 months later). During this time, she had got together for a rebound relationship with the mutual friend who had passed out from military college. This mutual friend and I were not really good friends any more (hadn't been for some time) but I had gone to his passing out of a sense of duty - his longest friend etc etc. This situation put the kaibosh on our developing friendship so I regretfully had to let it lie and we fell out of contact.

Time 4: This last weekend just gone. She no longer has involvement with either of these two other guys and is now single. After chance emailing, she agreed to come spend time with me in my home and we went through a getting to know you again. Still no fireworks but I didn't expect any so fast - just pleased that the weekend went well.

This is all progress tho as we have now cemented that friendship element and have committed ourselves to spending regular time with each other from now on - still difficult with the overseas issue but with both parties looking to make effort consistently.

That is 3 years just to get where we are now and I still didn't make a move. Why - just like you said - it would have been wrong to pressurise and mermaids need their space - initially, far more important to develop that c

that communication and trust after being out of the picture for so long.

This girl is quite simply amazing and I assume you are aware that a Cancerian adult male is only ever looking for the one, though they will try many friendships and relationahips until they find it.

If, like me, you are in the position where you think there is a pretty good chance you have found her - the last thing you want to do is make a mistake and not get what you want - which is after all, the full nine yards, in this world, the next and for evermore. Cancerians also suffer sometimes with feeling they are not worthy of such a partner, so to make that move, you have to feel that you are on top of your own form, have had the reassurance of a developing friendship, a number of hints (don't worry, we can recognise them - we are almost as intuitive as you are and when a potential partner is important to us you can bet we analyze every situation in depth - added to our incredible memory you can trust we don't miss a trick!).

But for the Cancerian male, love can be very scary - the more we love someone, the more they can hurt us - you might say we are sickeningly genuine, and whilst we can do all the love, nurture, protect things that Pisces wants, Pisces can be fickle in relationships - they have to get all the wrong ones out of the way first! Making that move is the greatest torture in our lives as rejection can destroy us - remember there is no heart as felt as that in the breast of a Cancerian male. It can be the ultimate relationship for both parties, but Cancer has to take the lead, and they have to be convinced they will succeed or so damned desperate (the appearance of a rival suitor) that they must move now, now, now!

Even though it will take every ounce of courage I have and can find, I will make that move soon. I am desperate for that love, with or without the potential rival. If you want to quicken things up a bit, then you may need to make him think he is losing you - the hardest thing here is you can't fake that - we can sense insincerity from a mile away.

But I know from my own heart and from others I have seen that when the Mermaid and the Crabman do connect with all sincerity and conviction - there is no other union that can even come close to its pure intensity, love and attraction. Simply put, if it ever happens, you can stick a fork in it - you're cooked!

Good luck - I hope it works out for you