@Wanoel
9 Years
Cancer said leave me alone
How Cancers React to Being Ignored or Hurt
Cancers are sensitive and need genuine communication. Ignoring them or dismissing their feelings can deepen their hurt. Giving space and showing sincerity can help rebuild trust. Patience and understanding are key when navigating conflicts with Cancer individuals.
Posted by TheCanBull
Don't ever use those kind of words on a Cancerian without meaning it, we pour everything into you through our hearts and for that we can be easily hurt.Whatever you have done has hurt her a lot, i would be surprised if she forgives you, but give her space.
I contacted her from messenger. I apologized.
She don't say anything she just send thumbs emoji then leave. I reply with " i don't hate you". But she don't even read it.
I don't mind with any choice i'm just afraid if i ignore her that will be wrong move.
Stay persistent, if the emoji is positive, she likes you still, you need to work yourself back into her good books, believe me though you have not lost her, you are very lucky.
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Thanks a lot dude, she is important to me. I want do anything to make her smile, but when the reason she sad is myself i have no idea what to do.
@smidge lol that's what I'm afraid of, I can't read her facial expressions from messenger.
Posted by Wanoel
@smidge lol that's what I'm afraid of, I can't read her facial expressions from messenger.from my experience, if you say something to somebody that usually requires a longer, more informative answer, and they send you the thumbs up... it's usually a negative thumbs up. :/
but maybe not in this case, either way i think giving space is the best reaction to that.
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hahahah even thats negative thumbs she still answering me.
When talking about giving space i don't know how long. Maybe 3 days enough?
Posted by Wanoel
@smidge lol that's what I'm afraid of, I can't read her facial expressions from messenger.from my experience, if you say something to somebody that usually requires a longer, more informative answer, and they send you the thumbs up... it's usually a negative thumbs up. :/
but maybe not in this case, either way i think giving space is the best reaction to that.
hahahah even thats negative thumbs she still answering me.
When talking about giving space i don't know how long. Maybe 3 days enough?
truuuee, that's a positive! lol
hmm, i literally have no idea... for me it would be until i contact you, but as i said i'm not a cancer so i really don't know.
eeeep
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hahah optimist is my middle name. Even you are not a cancer your opinion still usefull. I don't even think there is sarcastic thumbs up lol. Even I'm a pisces eveytime i want to make a decision, i dig information as many as i can then analyze it all. Different with pisces description from internet who just rely on their instincts 😆. I hope i can still laughing with her one more time.
Posted by Gem_from_Venus
Hmm, I'm going to go against what the others are saying and say you should not give her space. You should also not bombard her, though. Cancers are very easily hurt, and you crossed a line. If she's going to forgive you, I would suspect she'll need gentle reassurance that you did not mean it and that you will never say something like that again. Words alone won't do that, but I think you'll need to apply some gentle words regularly, over time, maybe every other day or something...I dunno, it depends on how frequently you were talking before this happened. It will either work, and she'll soften, or it won't because you messed up too hard.
we talk a lot before and laugh a lot. Okay what good idea for this gentle approach? Telling i will not do that again?
Posted by Gem_from_Venus
Hmm, I'm going to go against what the others are saying and say you should not give her space. You should also not bombard her, though. Cancers are very easily hurt, and you crossed a line. If she's going to forgive you, I would suspect she'll need gentle reassurance that you did not mean it and that you will never say something like that again. Words alone won't do that, but I think you'll need to apply some gentle words regularly, over time, maybe every other day or something...I dunno, it depends on how frequently you were talking before this happened. It will either work, and she'll soften, or it won't because you messed up too hard.we talk a lot before and laugh a lot. Okay what good idea for this gentle approach? Telling i will not do that again?
Well, first you have to know why you said it and that you _can_ control yourself in the future. If you do it again, you'll be FUCKED. Tell her you only want to see her smile, and you never want to be the one to cause her pain. And mean that! And don't get mad at her if it takes a while before she breaks. I'm not sure how long it will be before you know for sure. I have Mercury in Cancer so I kind of get it, but I'm an impatient Gemini, so ask someone more watery for how long to try. 🙂
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well I think I can do that. Impatient for result is my bad side hahha. I'm just afraid make situation worse because I'm act without knowing anything. No Matter how long i will try. Thanx bro
Posted by Aurora8Luna
Admitting your mistake and apologising was good. Send her a msg telling her you're thinking about her and leave it at that. Let her come find you and if she doesn't don't take it too personally. She shouldn't stay mad forever over one mistake, it isn't a pattern.🙂
yes she is human not a stone 😆
Wait this was one on one in person hang out and jokes went too far or you were online having text communication?
Posted by Wanoel
@smidge lol that's what I'm afraid of, I can't read her facial expressions from messenger.from my experience, if you say something to somebody that usually requires a longer, more informative answer, and they send you the thumbs up... it's usually a negative thumbs up. :/
but maybe not in this case, either way i think giving space is the best reaction to that.
hahahah even thats negative thumbs she still answering me.
When talking about giving space i don't know how long. Maybe 3 days enough?
truuuee, that's a positive! lol
hmm, i literally have no idea... for me it would be until i contact you, but as i said i'm not a cancer so i really don't know.
eeeep
hahah optimist is my middle name. Even you are not a cancer your opinion still usefull. I don't even think there is sarcastic thumbs up lol. Even I'm a pisces eveytime i want to make a decision, i dig information as many as i can then analyze it all. Different with pisces description from internet who just rely on their instincts 😆. I hope i can still laughing with her one more time.
click to expandkeep on being optimistic, it's a good way to be. ^__^
i hope you are forgiven, and watch that mouth in future.
Posted by kissmygrits
Wait this was one on one in person hang out and jokes went too far or you were online having text communication?
Online text. She live in another country
Posted by kissmygrits
Wait this was one on one in person hang out and jokes went too far or you were online having text communication?Online text. She live in another country
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Yeah don't joke through messenger unless you put the KIDDING clause all around it. Text can be so misleading.
Posted by kissmygrits
Wait this was one on one in person hang out and jokes went too far or you were online having text communication?Online text. She live in another country
Yeah don't joke through messenger unless you put the KIDDING clause all around it. Text can be so misleading.
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My mood was bad today. I send that because she can't read the atmosphere.but I'm the one who regret it I'll be careful next time.
Posted by kissmygrits
Wait this was one on one in person hang out and jokes went too far or you were online having text communication?Online text. She live in another country
Yeah don't joke through messenger unless you put the KIDDING clause all around it. Text can be so misleading.
My mood was bad today. I send that because she can't read the atmosphere.but I'm the one who regret it I'll be careful next time.
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It's hard to read "atmospheres" online. I don't care who you are.
Posted by kissmygrits
Wait this was one on one in person hang out and jokes went too far or you were online having text communication?Online text. She live in another country
Yeah don't joke through messenger unless you put the KIDDING clause all around it. Text can be so misleading.
My mood was bad today. I send that because she can't read the atmosphere.but I'm the one who regret it I'll be careful next time.
It's hard to read "atmospheres" online. I don't care who you are.
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That's why i regret it ma'am 🙂
Posted by Wanoel
I accidentally said " I hate you now" to a cancer when i mad. I apologized and she ask me the reason why i said that. I tell her i lose control. Then she said "leave me alone, that is better".What should I do?
Give her space then apologize again
Or don't ever show my face again?
I don't mind to disappear if that needed to make her feel better. But will she sad if i act don't care at all?
I'm a pisces btw.
What is the best choice to make her feel better?
Losing control isn't an accident. If you own up to your actions she'll respect you more.
Case closed, she already forgive me. Thank you very much for your advice ^_^
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I contacted her from messenger. I apologized.
She don't say anything she just send thumbs emoji then leave. I reply with " i don't hate you". But she don't even read it.
I don't mind with any choice i'm just afraid if i ignore her that will be wrong move.