aniketsabarad
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Cancer Woman cheating on me!
Yay.. The other version of my cancer man. 😆
You - as a cancer man. Yes you are just like that saying impulsive things then get depressed and angry because the woman breaking your heart.
Yes my man admit that before he was texting other girls when I first called him a*s*s*h*o*l*e and broke up with him ( we were new that time and he kept apologising, yes we're back)
Yes the cancer man blamed their woman when they are in troubles at work or any thing ( just like mine. why is that? 😆
well, I am not a cancer woman. I think you can understand her better because you both have the same qualities.
I suggest to see her and apologise. However, I don't think cancer women are loyal as cancer men.
I find cancer men crazy.. saying things and regret later.. what the heck. Keep your temper under control. Tame up your tongue.
My cancer man saying heavy things to me, how rude. how s*h*i*t*t*y but I am glad it didn't pissed me off. I kept teasing him. lol
and asking him if he wants to add more s*h*i*t*t*y 😆 😆 😆 because I am fine and he knows the exit door.
Now you damage a lot on that relationship. Well, You know what to do, I bet. Have courage to say bad words. Have courage to say nice words.
Good luck.
You - as a cancer man. Yes you are just like that saying impulsive things then get depressed and angry because the woman breaking your heart.
Yes my man admit that before he was texting other girls when I first called him a*s*s*h*o*l*e and broke up with him ( we were new that time and he kept apologising, yes we're back)
Yes the cancer man blamed their woman when they are in troubles at work or any thing ( just like mine. why is that? 😆
well, I am not a cancer woman. I think you can understand her better because you both have the same qualities.
I suggest to see her and apologise. However, I don't think cancer women are loyal as cancer men.
I find cancer men crazy.. saying things and regret later.. what the heck. Keep your temper under control. Tame up your tongue.
My cancer man saying heavy things to me, how rude. how s*h*i*t*t*y but I am glad it didn't pissed me off. I kept teasing him. lol
and asking him if he wants to add more s*h*i*t*t*y 😆 😆 😆 because I am fine and he knows the exit door.
Now you damage a lot on that relationship. Well, You know what to do, I bet. Have courage to say bad words. Have courage to say nice words.
Good luck.
As a cancer girl, we like hard to get, so I will suggest you stop contacting her and keep her wondering if you still want her, we like to chase but not to be chased. Give it about 2 weeks without no contacts, then send her a very sincere and heartfelt letter, we are also soft-hearted so as long as the letter is genuine, we will very easily forgive and forget.
At least you trying to get her back. I'm not sure if I should take my cancer man's telling me he doesn't want a relationship after 8 months and telling me he loves me as the same mold thing and it probably is the end. Let this be a lesson learned that you will drive the best people out your lives cancer men when you push them Away with your so called moods. Females need to be needed and there is plenty of men willing to do the job. I hope however that your bond is strong because I hate to see broken hearts cause it hurts like hell.
How do I have a heart to heart discussion with her? Do i have to confront her about she cheating on me? If I do tell her that I have found out that she is cheating on me, she might probably get pissed even more and she would also deny it that she has nothing of that sort and would not even bother to talk to me.
Posted by pip_spud@pip_spud: Despite cheating on me, she text messages me every day and talks for a while. I have been pretending to be normal as if I know nothing of the cheating. How can I stop contacting her when I'm texting her on whatsapp because she could see me online but not replying to her messages. So she would know that I'm doing it on purpose.
As a cancer girl, we like hard to get, so I will suggest you stop contacting her and keep her wondering if you still want her, we like to chase but not to be chased. Give it about 2 weeks without no contacts, then send her a very sincere and heartfelt letter, we are also soft-hearted so as long as the letter is genuine, we will very easily forgive and forget.
Posted by BlackMambaIf I address it, she will only get mad at me and would probably even stop talking to me. She would not even accept the fact that she did cheat on me which I'm willing to find out under what circumstances she did those and also forgive her and accept her back. But she might just get even more pissed when I bring that topic and might just completely refrain from having any sort of communication with me.Posted by aniketsabaradok then why be with her...look dude, she cheated on you, you know, you need to address it. now.
How do I have a heart to heart discussion with her? Do i have to confront her about she cheating on me? If I do tell her that I have found out that she is cheating on me, she might probably get pissed even more and she would also deny it that she has nothing of that sort and would not even bother to talk to me.click to expand
Posted by aniketsabaradHow did she cheat on you exactly when she put the relationship on hold because you told her to marry someone else? and you're messaging other women?
But recently because of my reckless behavior and my lack of bestowing the care she needed, drove her away from me,
I asked her to marry some other guy and stuff like that(Which I didn't mean and was all said impulsively). So now, she has put our relationship on hold(we're kinda on a break)
She told me that she did not trust my behavior and cannot rely on me.
I would also like to admit that I have cheated on her(only flirting and not getting physical) over text messages with a few girls.
She's not cheating, she left you and is rubbing her decision to do so in your face
Posted by einrickpisces@einrickpisces: I cannot take a picture of her dude. Its just from my sources that I found that she was cheating on and I caught her lying to me. But I pretended that I know nothing. Since we are on a break, if I ever bring up the topic of either cheating or getting back, she gets pissed and she refrains from having any sort of conversation with me. I really don't know how to address it.Posted by aniketsabaradWhy care she's pissed ? she's the one who betray you, you're the who should be pissed man !
How do I have a heart to heart discussion with her? Do i have to confront her about she cheating on me? If I do tell her that I have found out that she is cheating on me, she might probably get pissed even more and she would also deny it that she has nothing of that sort and would not even bother to talk to me.
Just take a pict of her cheating, give that pict on her then let her explain "what is this ?" if she can't explain, ask again "is she serious about your relationship ?" if not then what can you do ? just leave herclick to expand
Posted by shellshocker@shellshocker: I found out about she cheating on me when she lied to me that she was at her place which she shares with her friends but she was not actually at her place, she was at the guy's place. Since the guy, my cancer woman and my cousin work at the same office, my cousin confirmed me that they both have not turned up to work. And in the meanwhile she tells me that she is not going to work and she is at her room. I checked with one of the girl who stays with her, she told me that she was not at her room since last night. So this confirms that she was at that guy's place. And if she was rubbing it in my face, then why bother putting me on hold, or texting and calling me. She could simply put an end to it and move on with him.Posted by aniketsabaradHow did she cheat on you exactly when she put the relationship on hold because you told her to marry someone else? and you're messaging other women?
But recently because of my reckless behavior and my lack of bestowing the care she needed, drove her away from me,
I asked her to marry some other guy and stuff like that(Which I didn't mean and was all said impulsively). So now, she has put our relationship on hold(we're kinda on a break)
She told me that she did not trust my behavior and cannot rely on me.
I would also like to admit that I have cheated on her(only flirting and not getting physical) over text messages with a few girls.
She's not cheating, she left you and is rubbing her decision to do so in your face
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Posted by BlackMambaYeah, I suspect that she is playing it safe with me and that other guy as well. She keeps lying to be about her whereabouts and tries to be nice and pretends that she has done no such deed of cheating.
anyways she's getting her cake and eating it too, she sounds manipulative.
Posted by BlackMambaWhat would happen if I never confront her about she cheating on me and just pretend as if I know nothing of it? Would she ever feel guilty and come to me?
That's exactly what i'd do if i wanted to mess with someone else, talk about taking a break, fake it, until i get my fill of the other' guys d...then go back to my waiting man....
i've never done it, but that's how i fantasized it, so kudos to the crab...sneaky little girl.
Posted by aniketsabaradIf you are on a break and she has put your relationship on hold doesn't that mean she can be with other people? What does hold/being on a break mean to you? She's lying to you and getting even (immature) but your relationship is ambiguous at best since it's in flux. Saying she's "cheating" is a stretch.Posted by shellshocker@shellshocker: I found out about she cheating on me when she lied to me that she was at her place which she shares with her friends but she was not actually at her place, she was at the guy's place. Since the guy, my cancer woman and my cousin work at the same office, my cousin confirmed me that they both have not turned up to work. And in the meanwhile she tells me that she is not going to work and she is at her room. I checked with one of the girl who stays with her, she told me that she was not at her room since last night. So this confirms that she was at that guy's place. And if she was rubbing it in my face, then why bother putting me on hold, or texting and calling me. She could simply put an end to it and move on with him.Posted by aniketsabaradHow did she cheat on you exactly when she put the relationship on hold because you told her to marry someone else? and you're messaging other women?
But recently because of my reckless behavior and my lack of bestowing the care she needed, drove her away from me,
I asked her to marry some other guy and stuff like that(Which I didn't mean and was all said impulsively). So now, she has put our relationship on hold(we're kinda on a break)
She told me that she did not trust my behavior and cannot rely on me.
I would also like to admit that I have cheated on her(only flirting and not getting physical) over text messages with a few girls.
She's not cheating, she left you and is rubbing her decision to do so in your face
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Anyway, she said she was trying to make you jealous or whatever. You'll have to face the confrontation at some point, she's looking for action on your part not just words.
Posted by shellshockerYes I agree, she put me on hold only a week ago, but she has been going on with him since a couple of months, Also, recently i found out a whatsapp chat in her mails where it clearly suggests that she had slept with a guy on 27th June. So she was actually cheating even before she put me on hold. And when she put me on hold, she shouldn't go about sleeping with ppl, she should know about the fact that she has put me on hold and sPosted by aniketsabaradIf you are on a break and she has put your relationship on hold doesn't that mean she can be with other people? What does hold/being on a break mean to you? She's lying to you and getting even (immature) but your relationship is ambiguous at best since it's in flux. Saying she's "cheating" is a stretch.Posted by shellshocker@shellshocker: I found out about she cheating on me when she lied to me that she was at her place which she shares with her friends but she was not actually at her place, she was at the guy's place. Since the guy, my cancer woman and my cousin work at the same office, my cousin confirmed me that they both have not turned up to work. And in the meanwhile she tells me that she is not going to work and she is at her room. I checked with one of the girl who stays with her, she told me that she was not at her room since last night. So this confirms that she was at that guy's place. And if she was rubbing it in my face, then why bother putting me on hold, or texting and calling me. She could simply put an end to it and move on with him.Posted by aniketsabaradHow did she cheat on you exactly when she put the relationship on hold because you told her to marry someone else? and you're messaging other women?
But recently because of my reckless behavior and my lack of bestowing the care she needed, drove her away from me,
I asked her to marry some other guy and stuff like that(Which I didn't mean and was all said impulsively). So now, she has put our relationship on hold(we're kinda on a break)
She told me that she did not trust my behavior and cannot rely on me.
I would also like to admit that I have cheated on her(only flirting and not getting physical) over text messages with a few girls.
She's not cheating, she left you and is rubbing her decision to do so in your face
Anyway, she said she was trying to make you jealous or whatever. You'll have to face the confrontation at some point, she's looking for action on your part not just words.click to expand
If you are on a break and she has put your relationship on hold doesn't that mean she can be with other people? What does hold/being on a break mean to you? She's lying to you and getting even (immature) but your relationship is ambiguous at best since it's in flux. Saying she's "cheating" is a stretch.
Anyway, she said she was trying to make you jealous or whatever. You'll have to face the confrontation at some point, she's looking for action on your part not just words.
Yes I agree, she put me on hold only a week ago, but she has been going on with him since a couple of months, Also, recently i found out a whatsapp chat in her mails where it clearly suggests that she had slept with a guy on 27th June. So she was actually cheating even before she put me on hold. And when she put me on hold, she shouldn't go about sleeping with ppl, she should know about the fact that she has put me on hold and she should decide on what to do with me and later she can go about seeing other ppl. And what exactly do you mean by action. What are the things I need to action and prove myself?
Anyway, she said she was trying to make you jealous or whatever. You'll have to face the confrontation at some point, she's looking for action on your part not just words.
Yes I agree, she put me on hold only a week ago, but she has been going on with him since a couple of months, Also, recently i found out a whatsapp chat in her mails where it clearly suggests that she had slept with a guy on 27th June. So she was actually cheating even before she put me on hold. And when she put me on hold, she shouldn't go about sleeping with ppl, she should know about the fact that she has put me on hold and she should decide on what to do with me and later she can go about seeing other ppl. And what exactly do you mean by action. What are the things I need to action and prove myself?
Posted by aniketsabarad
Yes I agree, she put me on hold only a week ago, but she has been going on with him since a couple of months, Also, recently i found out a whatsapp chat in her mails where it clearly suggests that she had slept with a guy on 27th June. So she was actually cheating even before she put me on hold. And when she put me on hold, she shouldn't go about sleeping with ppl, she should know about the fact that she has put me on hold and she should decide on what to do with me and later she can go about seeing other ppl. And what exactly do you mean by action. What are the things I need to action and prove myself?
Yuck.
Action as in take a stand. She's cake eating because she can.
Go cold on her, no contact.
If/when she breaks down your door, call her out on her behaviour and confront her with your suspicions. But then you have to make a decision. Get back together with an honest plan for the future or a clean break up. Action
@BlackMamba @shellshocker Thank you all for your valuable comments. But I'm just not able to get over her. I feel like giving her a chance if she confess her mistakes. Since even I was unfaithful, I feel guilty about the fact that I drove her away and that is why she started doing these things in the first place.
Posted by aniketsabaradyes crab we know. we know
@BlackMamba @shellshocker Thank you all for your valuable comments. But I'm just not able to get over her. I feel like giving her a chance if she confess her mistakes. Since even I was unfaithful, I feel guilty about the fact that I drove her away and that is why she started doing these things in the first place.
@shellshocker: At least let me know how do make her come back to me so that we could talk about this. I'm really not sure how to do that. She never meets me and she only texts a few times in a day.
Posted by aniketsabaradSeveral Cancers already mentioned it. No contact for at least 2 weeks.
@shellshocker: At least let me know how do make her come back to me so that we could talk about this. I'm really not sure how to do that. She never meets me and she only texts a few times in a day.
She'll meet you after that, trust
@shellshocker: How do i do this no contact thing on whatsapp? I will be online and she will see me online and she will find out that I'm doing this deliberately! and are you sure this will work?
Posted by aniketsabaradI'm not saying to do this as a ploy, it is a way to take action and take steps towards honesty. I asked you before, what does break/on hold mean to you?
@shellshocker: How do i do this no contact thing on whatsapp? I will be online and she will see me online and she will find out that I'm doing this deliberately! and are you sure this will work?
Usually when someone says that, they want to keep the other on the back burner while they go do whatever they want. They don't have to be accountable for their actions because "we were on a break." They don't have to make any decisions because they are in limbo. It's bs but you seem to be taking it.
If she has decided you are on hold, hold off on communication. If you are on a break, break the contact so she has the space and time to figure out what she's doing and what she wants. Turn the break into something real, not just something she decided to say. Yes, you would be doing it deliberately and you should.
If she wants to talk about it, she'll meet up with you to discuss.
I have experience in cancer cancer relationships.. how I look at it...its pretty simple.... you fucked up.. big time..and now your paying the price.... lessen learned for next time.. you lost her... even if you guys get back together...(which i doubt) then there will be always the resentment of the cheating thing... for the both of you...
You should have included your girl into your pains and troubles... Cancer girls are beautiful creatures that are always willing to help and support.. specially the love in their life's.
You did the two cancer cardinal sins.. emotional detachment and emotional cheating by expressing emotions to other girls... a cancer girl wants security the most.. and to be loved unconditionally... marriage is for her the most important step into being that ultimately secure with a partner she made her world...that said... if you would say that you didn't want it now.. but later for sure... she whold understand... without leaving her wondering which you don't want to do...no.. you said she should marry someone else? that's crazy... well now shes now she found a new fish in the pond.. and might want to do just that.
🙂
You should have included your girl into your pains and troubles... Cancer girls are beautiful creatures that are always willing to help and support.. specially the love in their life's.
You did the two cancer cardinal sins.. emotional detachment and emotional cheating by expressing emotions to other girls... a cancer girl wants security the most.. and to be loved unconditionally... marriage is for her the most important step into being that ultimately secure with a partner she made her world...that said... if you would say that you didn't want it now.. but later for sure... she whold understand... without leaving her wondering which you don't want to do...no.. you said she should marry someone else? that's crazy... well now shes now she found a new fish in the pond.. and might want to do just that.
🙂
You are taking a break by your words, people have a right to move on.. and you also don't want the married life right now. So let her go and find someone you want a fling with..
Big red flag you gave her a choice...if you told me that too. Bye bye.
Big red flag you gave her a choice...if you told me that too. Bye bye.
Posted by aniketsabaradif you use whatsapp and she sees you online and you still don't reply, she will want you even more, gradually reduce your replies and response time, if she asks, just say you need some space and time for yourself. do that for 2 weeksPosted by pip_spud@pip_spud: Despite cheating on me, she text messages me every day and talks for a while. I have been pretending to be normal as if I know nothing of the cheating. How can I stop contacting her when I'm texting her on whatsapp because she could see me online but not replying to her messages. So she would know that I'm doing it on purpose.
As a cancer girl, we like hard to get, so I will suggest you stop contacting her and keep her wondering if you still want her, we like to chase but not to be chased. Give it about 2 weeks without no contacts, then send her a very sincere and heartfelt letter, we are also soft-hearted so as long as the letter is genuine, we will very easily forgive and forget.click to expand
Posted by shellshocker@shellshocker: that's some pretty up front advise. Thank you, and I started slowly ignoring her from today, delaying the reply of messages and cutting short the conversation. Although, I have doubt that if in case i ignore her then will it not drive her away even more towards that other guy thinking that I'm ignoring her and I don't deserve to be with her any which way?Posted by aniketsabaradI'm not saying to do this as a ploy, it is a way to take action and take steps towards honesty. I asked you before, what does break/on hold mean to you?
@shellshocker: How do i do this no contact thing on whatsapp? I will be online and she will see me online and she will find out that I'm doing this deliberately! and are you sure this will work?
Usually when someone says that, they want to keep the other on the back burner while they go do whatever they want. They don't have to be accountable for their actions because "we were on a break." They don't have to make any decisions because they are in limbo. It's bs but you seem to be taking it.
If she has decided you are on hold, hold off on communication. If you are on a break, break the contact so she has the space and time to figure out what she's doing and what she wants. Turn the break into something real, not just something she decided to say. Yes, you would be doing it deliberately and you should.
If she wants to talk about it, she'll meet up with you to discuss.
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Posted by pip_spud@pip_spud: that's some pretty up front advise. Thank you, and I started slowly ignoring her from today, delaying the reply of messages and cutting short the conversation. Although, I have doubt that if in case i ignore her then will it not drive her away even more towards that other guy thinking that I'm ignoring her and I don't deserve to be with her any which way?Posted by aniketsabaradif you use whatsapp and she sees you online and you still don't reply, she will want you even more, gradually reduce your replies and response time, if she asks, just say you need some space and time for yourself. do that for 2 weeksPosted by pip_spud@pip_spud: Despite cheating on me, she text messages me every day and talks for a while. I have been pretending to be normal as if I know nothing of the cheating. How can I stop contacting her when I'm texting her on whatsapp because she could see me online but not replying to her messages. So she would know that I'm doing it on purpose.
As a cancer girl, we like hard to get, so I will suggest you stop contacting her and keep her wondering if you still want her, we like to chase but not to be chased. Give it about 2 weeks without no contacts, then send her a very sincere and heartfelt letter, we are also soft-hearted so as long as the letter is genuine, we will very easily forgive and forget.click to expand
Posted by aniketsabaradPosted by shellshockerPosted by aniketsabaradI'm not saying to do this as a ploy, it is a way to take action and take steps towards honesty. I asked you before, what does break/on hold mean to you?
@shellshocker: How do i do this no contact thing on whatsapp? I will be online and she will see me online and she will find out that I'm doing this deliberately! and are you sure this will work?
Usually when someone says that, they want to keep the other on the back burner while they go do whatever they want. They don't have to be accountable for their actions because "we were on a break." They don't have to make any decisions because they are in limbo. It's bs but you seem to be taking it.
If she has decided you are on hold, hold off on communication. If you are on a break, break the contact so she has the space and time to figure out what she's doing and what she wants. Turn the break into something real, not just something she decided to say. Yes, you would be doing it deliberately and you should.
If she wants to talk about it, she'll meet up with you to discuss.
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@shellshocker: that's some pretty up front advise. Thank you, and I started slowly ignoring her from today, delaying the reply of messages and cutting the conversation short. And she seemed to somehow keep the conversation going. She told me that quoting "I'm weak, feeble and tired of tying and its tiring and nerve wrecking at times and exhausting. And she is being honest and no hard feelings" to which I replied "I exactly know what you're going through, and I'm terribly sorry to put you through that, I really am, you didn't deserve it at all, let me show you what you deserve and we had the greatest of times. If you could remember. We had that great understanding, bonding, care, affection and chemistry which I miss. And you won't regret it, I still can see it in your hazel eyes how your eyes are lit up just to see me smile. And I'm willing to give it all to just to see the glimpse of it again." After that she said "but.." and when i asked "but what". She never answered, she said its nothing. Although, I have doubt that if in case i ignore her then will it not drive her away even more towards that other guy thinking that I'm ignoring her and I don't deserve to be with her any which way? And also what would I say to her if she asks me why am I not replying to her messages? And its so disappointing to find out that despite all the efforts she still spends time with her co-worker.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Yes, agreed that I didn't want it and because of my circumstances. My job, and surgery of my mother was also in the way. I did tell her this. But now I'm ready to do whatever it takes.
You are taking a break by your words, people have a right to move on.. and you also don't want the married life right now. So let her go and find someone you want a fling with..
Big red flag you gave her a choice...if you told me that too. Bye bye.
Posted by signofthecrabAgreed that I treetrunked up, but I never said I didn't want marriage with her. And I impulsively asked her to go marry someone else, I didn't mean it, she should've understood about it. And she started cheating on me while we were on break and also well before. So even if I'm not emotionally detached, that doesn't mean that she should become unstable and go about sleeping with ppl. She should've conveyed me me if I'd failed to understand her subtlety. Not grieve about it in silence.
I have experience in cancer cancer relationships.. how I look at it...its pretty simple.... you fucked up.. big time..and now your paying the price.... lessen learned for next time.. you lost her... even if you guys get back together...(which i doubt) then there will be always the resentment of the cheating thing... for the both of you...
You should have included your girl into your pains and troubles... Cancer girls are beautiful creatures that are always willing to help and support.. specially the love in their life's.
You did the two cancer cardinal sins.. emotional detachment and emotional cheating by expressing emotions to other girls... a cancer girl wants security the most.. and to be loved unconditionally... marriage is for her the most important step into being that ultimately secure with a partner she made her world...that said... if you would say that you didn't want it now.. but later for sure... she whold understand... without leaving her wondering which you don't want to do...no.. you said she should marry someone else? that's crazy... well now shes now she found a new fish in the pond.. and might want to do just that.
🙂
Posted by aniketsabaradI'm giving you this advise, because I'm a cancer girl who had similar experience with a Virgo guy, we both decided we'd better be friends (he basically told me i didnt meet his check list that I wasn't good enough), sometime later, he told me he was in love with me then but I already started seeing someone else so as he seeing someone else. He cut short his whatsapp messages and response time, later completely ceased communication, only got me to want him more instead of driving me towards the other guy, i still have completely got over him.Posted by pip_spud@pip_spud: that's some pretty up front advise. Thank you, and I started slowly ignoring her from today, delaying the reply of messages and cutting short the conversation. Although, I have doubt that if in case i ignore her then will it not drive her away even more towards that other guy thinking that I'm ignoring her and I don't deserve to be with her any which way?Posted by aniketsabaradif you use whatsapp and she sees you online and you still don't reply, she will want you even more, gradually reduce your replies and response time, if she asks, just say you need some space and time for yourself. do that for 2 weeksPosted by pip_spud@pip_spud: Despite cheating on me, she text messages me every day and talks for a while. I have been pretending to be normal as if I know nothing of the cheating. How can I stop contacting her when I'm texting her on whatsapp because she could see me online but not replying to her messages. So she would know that I'm doing it on purpose.
As a cancer girl, we like hard to get, so I will suggest you stop contacting her and keep her wondering if you still want her, we like to chase but not to be chased. Give it about 2 weeks without no contacts, then send her a very sincere and heartfelt letter, we are also soft-hearted so as long as the letter is genuine, we will very easily forgive and forget.click to expand
I'm giving you this advise, because I'm a cancer girl who had similar experience with a Virgo guy, we both decided we'd better be friends (he basically told me i didnt meet his check list that I wasn't good enough), sometime later, he told me he was in love with me then but I already started seeing someone else so as he seeing someone else. He cut short his whatsapp messages and response time, later completely ceased communication, only got me to want him more instead of driving me towards the other guy, i still have completely got over him.
@pip_spud: So if you got over him, then would my girl as well get over me by this? And how will I ever confront her about she cheating on me? Would she ever confess about she cheating on me if I ask her about it? And how should I ask her about she cheating on me without she getting defensive about it and not denying or lying about it?
Posted by aniketsabaradI'm giving you this advise, because I'm a cancer girl who had similar experience with a Virgo guy, we both decided we'd better be friends (he basically told me i didnt meet his check list that I wasn't good enough), sometime later, he told me he was in love with me then but I already started seeing someone else so as he seeing someone else. He cut short his whatsapp messages and response time, later completely ceased communication, only got me to want him more instead of driving me towards the other guy, i still have completely got over him.
@pip_spud: So if you got over him, then would my girl as well get over me by this? And how will I ever confront her about she cheating on me? Would she ever confess about she cheating on me if I ask her about it? And how should I ask her about she cheating on me without she getting defensive about it and not denying or lying about it?
sorry, typo; i still have NOT completely got over him
i dont know if its the best approach to confront your girl to be honest, if she did cheat on you , will you still take her back, if your answer is yes, what's the point to to confront her? if your answer is no, then wait around for 2 weeks, until she comes around and wanna talk to you, you can confront her. right now, she doesnt even give you a chance to do so and you need to create such a chance. Iif she doesnt come around to you, why do you still wanna be with someone who doesnt want you?
Posted by pip_spud@pip_spud: So if you got over him, then would my girl as well get over me by this? And how will I ever confront her about she cheating on me? Would she ever confess about she cheating on me if I ask her about it? And how should I ask her about she cheating on me without she getting defensive about it and not denying or lying about it?Posted by aniketsabaradI'm giving you this advise, because I'm a cancer girl who had similar experience with a Virgo guy, we both decided we'd better be friends (he basically told me i didnt meet his check list that I wasn't good enough), sometime later, he told me he was in love with me then but I already started seeing someone else so as he seeing someone else. He cut short his whatsapp messages and response time, later completely ceased communication, only got me to want him more instead of driving me towards the other guy, i still have completely got over him.
sorry, typo; i still have NOT completely got over him
i dont know if its the best approach to confront your girl to be honest, if she did cheat on you , will you still take her back, if your answer is yes, what's the point to to confront her? if your answer is no, then wait around for 2 weeks, until she comes around and wanna talk to you, you can confront her. right now, she doesnt even give you a chance to do so and you need to create such a chance. Iif she doesnt come around to you, why do you still wanna be with someone who doesnt want you?
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My answer to that question is yes, I do want to take her back, but only if she comes back and when I confront her about it, I would want her to confess the truth of what she did. And then I want to start afresh. For that to happen, I want her to be honest and truthful with me and not lie to me about things and how she has been doing now. And even I would confess whatever that I did (which I already have confessed to her) and then we can have a fresh start where we start trusting each other a bit by bit. But if she doesn't confess and keep lying to me about it just like how she has been doing now, then it makes no sense to continue even if she comes back.
Posted by aniketsabaradsorry, typo; i still have NOT completely got over himPosted by pip_spud@pip_spud: So if you got over him, then would my girl as well get over me by this? And how will I ever confront her about she cheating on me? Would she ever confess about she cheating on me if I ask her about it? And how should I ask her about she cheating on me without she getting defensive about it and not denying or lying about it?Posted by aniketsabaradI'm giving you this advise, because I'm a cancer girl who had similar experience with a Virgo guy, we both decided we'd better be friends (he basically told me i didnt meet his check list that I wasn't good enough), sometime later, he told me he was in love with me then but I already started seeing someone else so as he seeing someone else. He cut short his whatsapp messages and response time, later completely ceased communication, only got me to want him more instead of driving me towards the other guy, i still have completely got over him.
i dont know if its the best approach to confront your girl to be honest, if she did cheat on you , will you still take her back, if your answer is yes, what's the point to to confront her? if your answer is no, then wait around for 2 weeks, until she comes around and wanna talk to you, you can confront her. right now, she doesnt even give you a chance to do so and you need to create such a chance. Iif she doesnt come around to you, why do you still wanna be with someone who doesnt want you?
My answer to that question is yes, I do want to take her back, but only if she comes back and when I confront her about it, I would want her to confess the truth of what she did. And then I want to start afresh. For that to happen, I want her to be honest and truthful with me and not lie to me about things and how she has been doing now. And even I would confess whatever that I did (which I already have confessed to her) and then we can have a fresh start where we start trusting each other a bit by bit. But if she doesn't confess and keep lying to me about it just like how she has been doing now, then it makes no sense to continue even if she comes back.
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And she has been texting and calling a lil more, after I have delayed my response of messaging and have not been picking up her calls. But, despite that she still calls and talks to that other guy and hangs out with him often which really breaks my heart. I'm scared about the fact that she would only go towards that other guy(who happens to be an aries) has been showering her with attention when I ignore her.
Cancer girls don't work that way, she's now calling you more because she knows she's at risk of losing you. If she feels the other guy will always be there and shower her with attention, she won't work hard for him. Trust me. Cancers doesn't like to be chased but like to chase.
I must say I can't agree that confessing then making it work, once the trust is broken, it's over. I did that with a guy cheated on me, and I pushed him to confess, I could never trust him. I would rather never find out
I must say I can't agree that confessing then making it work, once the trust is broken, it's over. I did that with a guy cheated on me, and I pushed him to confess, I could never trust him. I would rather never find out
Posted by pip_spudSo in response to my post, since my cancer woman has already told me that I have broken her trust and hence she cannot trust me anymore and that is why she needs me to give her time and she has our relationship on hold. And since you said that once the trust is broken, you cannot trust someone, so even she wouldn't be able to trust me again then, isn't it? And if I can't get her to confess, how will I ever be assured that she won't do it again?
Cancer girls don't work that way, she's now calling you more because she knows she's at risk of losing you. If she feels the other guy will always be there and shower her with attention, she won't work hard for him. Trust me. Cancers doesn't like to be chased but like to chase.
I must say I can't agree that confessing then making it work, once the trust is broken, it's over. I did that with a guy cheated on me, and I pushed him to confess, I could never trust him. I would rather never find out
Hi guys, there have been some developments recently. As per my cousin who works at the same work place, she seems to be happy with the other guy while she spends time with him. She also have been spending a lot of time and staying over at the guys place. Like everybody in the forum advised that I ignore her for a few days. I have started doing that since the day before. She called thrice when I was ignoring her. I did not pick but later I could not control myself and hence I picked up the call in the evening. We spoke and then I told her I was busy with work and stuff. I casually asked her if she wanted to meet after work and we could spend some time. She said she didn't wanna meet and I asked what was the reason, she got pissed and furious and told me that she doesn't feel like meeting me(probably she had plans to meet the other guy) and hence we got into an argument. Finally, i told her that lets give each other some space and hence she agreed. So she neither texted nor called the entire night as I suspect she was spending time with him at his place. This morning, she texted saying that she was was missing me and she has been thinking about me last night. I was shocked, I asked how, she told me that she had dream about me and she started missing me. To this I replied that I just need my time and space. She also told me that she wept at night and she punished herself it seems. I asked why didn't she call or text when she was missing and weeping. She told me that is how she punished herself by not calling or texting me(which I don't think is true as she was with the other guy). To this, I did not react much and just said okay. All of a sudden she started texting in a sweet and cute way. I didn't say anything and have been ignoring her since. But she is acting all cool about my ignoring and my cousin at her work place told me that she isn't bothered about me or my ignorance and she has been happy and spending quite a time a with the other guy. Please advise guys. I'm in real pain, Don't know what to do. @pip_spud, @shellshocker
She still loves you (maybe) but she is also grinding the ax of you being a derp earlier. I wouldn't say she didn't want to meet because of the other guy (who might not be feeding her bs and comforting her after your weirdo emo roller coaster break up) she is still raw from the break. A break to me is over. I am trying to move on. I'm surprised she contacted you beside telling you off.
Posted by kissmygritsif she is still in love with me then why is she spending time with the other guy and that too staying over at his place almost everyday?
She still loves you (maybe) but she is also grinding the ax of you being a derp earlier. I wouldn't say she didn't want to meet because of the other guy (who might not be feeding her bs and comforting her after your weirdo emo roller coaster break up) she is still raw from the break. A break to me is over. I am trying to move on. I'm surprised she contacted you beside telling you off.
It's still early here so scuze the typos.
Keep ignoring. Work on you. Snuggle with some fluffy puppies, rescue old ladies from burning buildings, feed some homeless, go read to the elderly.
Keep busy. Sorry you're hurting. We've all been there. Even when at fault of the pain. We're pains in the ass. 🙂
Keep ignoring. Work on you. Snuggle with some fluffy puppies, rescue old ladies from burning buildings, feed some homeless, go read to the elderly.
Keep busy. Sorry you're hurting. We've all been there. Even when at fault of the pain. We're pains in the ass. 🙂
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I hid it because I cnt typ vury gewd riot naw and I need cooffee. LOL
Posted by MissGemmi@MissGemmi: The way she said it felt that her feeling was very shallow. And if I was on her mind, why doesn't she call me and talk to me instead of spending time with the guy at the work place? And she has been sleeping with the guy at his apartment while putting me on hold. And she doesn't know about the fact that my cousin knows about us dating, so hence I doubt that she has been acting.Posted by aniketsabaradYou're a cancer you should know why 🙂 How she felt when texting you that morning, that is the truth. Maybe she was with the guy, but obviously it didn't feel right and she had you on her mind all the time. Acting like that with the cousin is a way to make you jealous. She knows your cousin will tell you everything. The guy is not something serious. She loves you and somehow, even though you've messed up, she wants you to suffer before she ever comes close to you again. She contacts you multiple times and comes back, it seems she is still very much connected to you.Posted by kissmygritsif she is still in love with me then why is she spending time with the other guy and that too staying over at his place almost everyday?
She still loves you (maybe) but she is also grinding the ax of you being a derp earlier. I wouldn't say she didn't want to meet because of the other guy (who might not be feeding her bs and comforting her after your weirdo emo roller coaster break up) she is still raw from the break. A break to me is over. I am trying to move on. I'm surprised she contacted you beside telling you off.
I know this, because you can say, I played the part of the 'other' 'guy'. The other 'guy' has no chance. Be patient and play it cool, but try to keep her close. One thing, have you apologized already? They need genuine apologies, not just because you want her back in your life.click to expand
And yes, I have apologized with all honesty and have also told her that I would take good care of her and treat her the way she deserves, but I hardly think that she is gonna come back leaving the new guy because she seems way happy with him it seems as told by my cousin.
@pip_spud, @shellshocker : Can you guys please provide me your suggestions/advise.
All the cancerian women, can you all please go through the post and let me know what is that I should do?
All the cancerian women, can you all please go through the post and let me know what is that I should do?
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