Cancer Woman Ignoring Me

I'm currently being ignored by a cancer woman and don't really know what to do about the situation. I find myself trying to guess what is going on in her mind and how she is feeling. She recently came back into my life after disappearing for a few months. I can't really say why she disappeared the first time since things were going smoothly then she just decided we had nothing in common after saying we had everything in common. Recently she told me that she had to work out a lot of emotional issues before she could be in a relationship with me and told me something personal that I know was very hard for her to say. I'm the only person who knows what she told me. I was very supportive and didn't judge her. Now she stated that I don't ever want to do things with her but when I suggest things she always have something else to do or say she isn't feeling well. Then out of nowhere she tries to do something but I'm unavailable. It's like when I try to plan something with her she turns it down but then decides to pop up and gets upset if I'm busy. I care about her a lot and just don't understand what is going on with her. She tells me she wants to start a family with me and marry me one day but now she's been ignoring me for 2 weeks. I'm seriously confused and not sure where to go from here and if I should just move on. I'm also wondering if maybe she's seeing someone else. Anytime I don't contact her right after she text me she gets upset so I don't see how she feels it's okay to ignore me for weeks.

Cappie

She sounds like a control freak, wants things her way or no way. She's acting this way 'cause you're letting her get away with it. If you feel you're being disrespected and not being treated properly then you need to speak up instead of putting up with it for fear she will walk away. If you keep doing this she'll continue treating you like a doormat. I don't know if this is a trait of all Cancers but I have a tendency to be dominant if the man will let me but secretly I want them to be the dominant ones and not take any of my shit or I lose respect for them.

What I would do send her a text, voicemail it even a handwritten letter expressing in detail on how you feel for her and how she's making you feel. There is no room for riddles or vagueness. Be brutally honest. Then wait or move on. Don't contact her period. She will contact you eventually. It could just be something as simple as to much on her plate to concentrate on you. We like to cling on to the ones we love and give them our everything. But If other things are preventing it . We would rather settle those issues first to not distract us from our goal. We generally (or at least me) want to give all or nothing. There is no in-between.

Posted by Acrab
you were her phsyciatrist. also people pull this stuff if they never really liked you in the first place or their cheating on you.. not a cancer thing

True, she's not that into you. If she was she would be stuck to you like glue.

I must have of missed the psychotherapist part. But I want to give you hope but, this is a dstinct cancer trait. And it's. One :f our biggest traits. Like I said give all or nothing . We cancers stand by that we do it and expect the same. We hate being ignored. We hate when answers are vague or in riddles. We hate anything that isn't real. Notice I used the word hate. We are either extremely happy or extremely sad/pissed. Never in between. We know what we want and like a sniper its 1 thing at a time. So Like the ladies said its mostly. Likely over. I just wanted to give you hope because we are a very understanding and forgiving sign. We prefer having the last word in everything so you can count on at the very least some closure. Closure is big for us

Posted by ChildOftheMoon

Posted by Acrab
you were her phsyciatrist. also people pull this stuff if they never really liked you in the first place or their cheating on you.. not a cancer thing

True, she's not that into you. If she was she would be stuck to you like glue.

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Thanks for the advice. I just feel if it's over between us then why wont she say it instead of ignoring me. I also like closure so I can move on. I will just keep it moving but something tells me she'll be back and act like she did nothing wrong.

Posted by noonie1801
Thanks for the advice. I just feel if it's over between us then why wont she say it instead of ignoring me. I also like closure so I can move on. I will just keep it moving but something tells me she'll be back and act like she did nothing wrong.

I have a hard time ending things, I don't know if this is a Cancer thing or just my relationship style but I usually start acting up or ignoring/neglecting the other person so that they'll break up with me instead of me breaking up with them. I know it's not fair but I have a tendency to avoid unpleasant situations.

Posted by shantidiva
Well I disagree with comments saying that she's not that into you. I would also suggest that people are a bit more thoughtful of their responses, these are peoples lives we're talking about. My cancer boyfriend of 4.5yrs has broken up with me several times during our relationship but he always comes back, I would suggest that you don't make any contact with her and concentrate on yourself for a while, if it's meant to be then she will be in touch. Usually I would ignore my cancers first attempts to get back in touch, this will allow you to consider what you want and drive your cancer crazy. If she's anything like my cancer, she'll be moody and often need her own space/go back into their shell.

I was thinking the same about her coming back in my life and also not responding to her for awhile when she does. I'm not really sure if this is something I want to always have to go through with her. I will definitely just concentrate on myself and take it from there. I can definitely understand needing space and time being a capricorn but I wouldn't just ignore her. I would think of her feelings because I care for her. Thanks for your advice :-)

Is it possible you may have offended her?
For her to say one thing then change it up is a sign she may be getting hurt or turned off.
Or she could feel overwhelmed by your strong personality and needs space. This is hard to tell someone.

What did you argue about or discuss before she disappeared?
How did you say it and in what tone?

We like to avoid being the bad guy, however, we can also be very manipulative yes it is one of our bad traits maybe she is testing you to see how much you really love her, how much you will fight for her. If you act as if your not interested though she will start getting a bit peeved as she will feel she was right and that you not love her enough, you need to show her you care and are still around just don't go in all heavy about it just a simple text or call to let her know you are thinking about her will probably o the trick. Good luck.

Posted by daisey1507
We like to avoid being the bad guy, however, we can also be very manipulative yes it is one of our bad traits maybe she is testing you to see how much you really love her, how much you will fight for her. If you act as if your not interested though she will start getting a bit peeved as she will feel she was right and that you not love her enough, you need to show her you care and are still around just don't go in all heavy about it just a simple text or call to let her know you are thinking about her will probably o the trick. Good luck.

I don't test people like this. If I'm treating someone badly without reason and they're still all up in my butt then I lose respect for them. Stand up to me or distance yourself to show me that you won't take my shit.

My girlfriend broke up with me out of the blue! 15 days ago shes a cancer(July 14 1994) and I'm an Aquarius(February 3 1994). I miss her so much she broke up with me the day we were going to hang out. which was the first day of Spring break, I never really get to see her a lot, because of her busy life style so I was really excited to see her. So I waited for her to call or text me when she was ready so I can pick her up. She calls me and says I think we should break up, I asked her why and she says its just not working out she wouldn't give me a real reason! I said I only want whats best for you if you really want to break up with me I understand. I've been nothing but nice to her and we never got into a fight. We dated for 5 months but she said that she still wants to be friends with me, but we haven't talked ever since that night. My heart hurts so much its so— hard to heal 😢 my dad thinks she will call me back which I highly doubt. And the rest of my family just tells me to move on everyone gets dumped. But I never new it would hurt this bad. This is my first girlfriend I just want to know why she wanted to break up with me. But I'm not going to ask her I'm just going to give her her space, she told me when we were dating that her family and her always fight. She never gets along with her sister and she never see's her father because he's the commissioner of the building department and the chief of the fire department. I've just been trying to heal I,m trying to hang out with my friends more, ride my motorcycle on beautiful days to get my mind off her. And its kind of working 🙂 ever time I get a text I jump out of my seat thinking its her when its really just a friend or a family member. 😢 its hard to sit still and not think about her, Moving on is so hard I wonder if she still thinks of me?

I think she is testing me to see how much I love her, but I'm just going to try to move on.

OK I see your really sure that she dumped me to go be with some other guy. 😢 But it makes no sense, the night before she dumped me she said she loved me. She lied right to my face, and she was the one to ask me out I've always really liked her but never had the guts to say it to her. It was like a dream come true when she asked me out but I never new how mean Cancer women could be, and heartbreaking they could be. If I new about this earlier I would have never went out with her, I basically took my heart and threw it in a blender and pushed the button. I really liked her so much I feel that we never really saw each other enough because she was always busy so I tried to bend to her schedule, so she could let me know the days she could see me. But that's not my fault I tried to reach out to her, we always texted each other and when I texted her I always told her how much I loved her. And she always told me how much she loved me but if she calls me back for comfort I'm not going to be her punching bag and let her spill her feelings out all over me, and expect me to listen to her after what she did to me. I have feelings too, I'm going to tell her you really hurt me because you pretended to like me and care about me. I'm going to ask her the real reason why she didn't want to see me anymore and I'll see what she says. When we were going out I asked her how many boyfriends she's had in her life, and she said 2 some other guy and me. She said she went out with this other guy for only 2 months and she said nothing serious happened. She also said that's when she was 15 she's 17 now going on 18 in July. So now all of a sudden she's guy crazy it makes no sense, Cancer's are confusing and hard to understand if she doesn't call me back I wish the best for her and hope that she is happy with who ever she's with 🙂 and I hope that she finds a guy that loves her as much as I did.

Posted by airsofting12kid
OK I see your really sure that she dumped me to go be with some other guy. 😢 But it makes no sense, the night before she dumped me she said she loved me. She lied right to my face, and she was the one to ask me out I've always really liked her but never had the guts to say it to her. It was like a dream come true when she asked me out but I never new how mean Cancer women could be, and heartbreaking they could be. If I new about this earlier I would have never went out with her, I basically took my heart and threw it in a blender and pushed the button. I really liked her so much I feel that we never really saw each other enough because she was always busy so I tried to bend to her schedule, so she could let me know the days she could see me. But that's not my fault I tried to reach out to her, we always texted each other and when I texted her I always told her how much I loved her. And she always told me how much she loved me but if she calls me back for comfort I'm not going to be her punching bag and let her spill her feelings out all over me, and expect me to listen to her after what she did to me. I have feelings too, I'm going to tell her you really hurt me because you pretended to like me and care about me. I'm going to ask her the real reason why she didn't want to see me anymore and I'll see what she says. When we were going out I asked her how many boyfriends she's had in her life, and she said 2 some other guy and me. She said she went out with this other guy for only 2 months and she said nothing serious happened. She also said that's when she was 15 she's 17 now going on 18 in July. So now all of a sudden she's guy crazy it makes no sense, Cancer's are confusing and hard to understand if she doesn't call me back I wish the best for her and hope that she is happy with who ever she's with 🙂 and I hope that she finds a guy that loves her as much as I did.

Don't jump to conclusions, you don't know for a fact that she may be interested in another guy. Most likely she just got bored, you sound like a nice guy but it seems that you were too available to her - you were not a challenge. Also the feelings of infatuation usually fade after the 5 or 6 month mark, people either get bored or develop stronger feelings for each other. And you're very young, the first break up sucks but after a while you know what to expect. She's not the last gir

Hey I just want to say thank you guys for helping me figure out my problem, where I went wrong with my Cancer girl and for teaching me more about Cancer's, and their feelings I really appreciate it. 🙂 I feel a lot better from hearing what you guys had to say, and where it went wrong in the relationship I had. I understand now that she wont be coming back to me ever again, or fall in love with me again any time soon and I except that. I just want whats best for her and what makes her Happy. My heart still hurts but I feel I'm almost healed just from hearing from you guys, and by doing things that I love in life. I Just want to say an extra special thank you to ChildOftheMoon for being so honest with me, and for giving me hope that I will find that wonderful special girl out there some day. Keep doing what your doing You Guys are really great people!! 🙂


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Posted by truecancer
I must have of missed the psychotherapist part. But I want to give you hope but, this is a dstinct cancer trait. And it's. One :f our biggest traits. Like I said give all or nothing . We cancers stand by that we do it and expect the same. We hate being ignored. We hate when answers are vague or in riddles. We hate anything that isn't real. Notice I used the word hate. We are either extremely happy or extremely sad/pissed. Never in between. We know what we want and like a sniper its 1 thing at a time. So Like the ladies said its mostly. Likely over. I just wanted to give you hope because we are a very understanding and forgiving sign. We prefer having the last word in everything so you can count on at the very least some closure. Closure is big for us

Good summation. This sounds like a good description of both male and female Cancer feelings toward someone they are/were in a relationship with.

....And it's true. Most of the time, Crabs are either red hot or ice cold. It's something that Pisces has to maintain flexibility with.