MsImpala66
@MsImpala66
13 Years
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Confused by a Cancer
wow!
This man is a basketcase
run honey dont even take the time to find your shoes and coat.
This man is a basketcase
run honey dont even take the time to find your shoes and coat.
hey there MsImpala -
ick. what a pickle. let's think about the most important thing here and that is YOU. how do you feel? do you feel rejected? because if you do, this shouldn't even be a question. i've experienced this as well as done it myself (yes, i am a shit for that). there are a few scenarios:
1) he's lonely
2) he's on the fence and obvs feels something, but doesn't know what to do so he wants to try again. there was a connection and he wants to see if he can get it back
3) he was testing you and you didn't respond and say NOOOO!!!!! and still wants to try
ick. what a pickle. let's think about the most important thing here and that is YOU. how do you feel? do you feel rejected? because if you do, this shouldn't even be a question. i've experienced this as well as done it myself (yes, i am a shit for that). there are a few scenarios:
1) he's lonely
2) he's on the fence and obvs feels something, but doesn't know what to do so he wants to try again. there was a connection and he wants to see if he can get it back
3) he was testing you and you didn't respond and say NOOOO!!!!! and still wants to try
Posted by wineauxisback
hey there MsImpala -
ick. what a pickle. let's think about the most important thing here and that is YOU. how do you feel? do you feel rejected? because if you do, this shouldn't even be a question. i've experienced this as well as done it myself (yes, i am a shit for that). there are a few scenarios:
1) he's lonely
2) he's on the fence and obvs feels something, but doesn't know what to do so he wants to try again. there was a connection and he wants to see if he can get it back
3) he was testing you and you didn't respond and say NOOOO!!!!! and still wants to try
Don't allow him to confuse you.
He's saying and doing whatever and you are allowing it. His mind and emotions sound to be all over the place.
The next time he makes contact answer it and tell him that whatever he's doing, you aren't going to do it with him.
Then take no other correspondence from him.
Give him a reality check. HE'S the one with all the confusion not you. You know what you want he doesn't.
He's saying and doing whatever and you are allowing it. His mind and emotions sound to be all over the place.
The next time he makes contact answer it and tell him that whatever he's doing, you aren't going to do it with him.
Then take no other correspondence from him.
Give him a reality check. HE'S the one with all the confusion not you. You know what you want he doesn't.
Nope.
Lunar Maiden is sooooo right.
If he's pulling this at 47 there's no hope. Retarded: He wants you because he thought you lost interest and as soon as you show him you care and give a 2nd chance he's out.
Then he wants a 3rd chance, truest form of jackass.
It will be easier to start fresh with someone new now than let this guy damage you for a few years until you realize he will never be the way he was in the beginning.
Don't even regret giving your opinion about the room because if it wasn't that one sentence it would've been the next one. Someone so flip floppy will never get better
I've seen my friend's aunt go through something similar (not a cancer but a man who rushed in too quick then pushed and pulled for ages) just forget it.
PS Now she is happily married to someone who loves and respects her.
Lunar Maiden is sooooo right.
If he's pulling this at 47 there's no hope. Retarded: He wants you because he thought you lost interest and as soon as you show him you care and give a 2nd chance he's out.
Then he wants a 3rd chance, truest form of jackass.
It will be easier to start fresh with someone new now than let this guy damage you for a few years until you realize he will never be the way he was in the beginning.
Don't even regret giving your opinion about the room because if it wasn't that one sentence it would've been the next one. Someone so flip floppy will never get better
I've seen my friend's aunt go through something similar (not a cancer but a man who rushed in too quick then pushed and pulled for ages) just forget it.
PS Now she is happily married to someone who loves and respects her.
Thanks everyone I appreciate all the input. I know I should run but I love a challenge, but I think this challenge just might make me exhausted. And to top it all off, when spent our romantic weekend together he was unable to preform so I am not losing out on anything. I want to run but I think maybe just maybe I am the one that couls show him its ok to trust......
Okay@U crabby Anti-postists - I understand.
also "he is only living there to help them financially but sleeps on a mattress on the floor?? The man cant afford his own bed but he's "helping out"
right...
come on..I am naive and liable to believe a lot of malarky but that takes the cake.. 47 year old men dont sleep on mattresses on the floor unless there is something really fucked up going on..
right...
come on..I am naive and liable to believe a lot of malarky but that takes the cake.. 47 year old men dont sleep on mattresses on the floor unless there is something really fucked up going on..
"Once we left eachother I didn't hear from him until a few days later I get a text that says Sorry I didn't feel anything between us. "
Sweet Jeeezus! He's a Narcissistic nightmare, they love to devalue and discard their targets yet keep their hooks in your back by creating feelings of codependency through creating feelings of love but he's not in love at all--he said he didn't feel anything, TRUST AND BELIEVE HE MEANT IT. Don't be a fool, get out now, run!
Sweet Jeeezus! He's a Narcissistic nightmare, they love to devalue and discard their targets yet keep their hooks in your back by creating feelings of codependency through creating feelings of love but he's not in love at all--he said he didn't feel anything, TRUST AND BELIEVE HE MEANT IT. Don't be a fool, get out now, run!
lmao@ The man can't afford his own bed.
Anyway Tiki I guess these threads are lost causes:
TRUST AND BELIEVE SHE MEAN IT.
Anyway Tiki I guess these threads are lost causes:
Posted by MsImpala66
I want to run but I think maybe just maybe I am the one that couls show him its ok to trust......
TRUST AND BELIEVE SHE MEAN IT.
Posted by virgodreamz
lmao@ The man can't afford his own bed.
Anyway Tiki I guess these threads are lost causes:
Posted by MsImpala66
I want to run but I think maybe just maybe I am the one that couls show him its ok to trust......
TRUST AND BELIEVE SHE MEAN IT.
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@these threads are lost causes
Possibly true Virogdreamz
Can't teach a 47 year old man what love is, can't show a 47 year old man how to trust, he has a wife, kid, he know what love is, he know how to trust--he got married for goodness sake's and you have to trust to get married so there is no showing him anything that he hasn't experienced already.
I'm not sure what game he's running your way but you better wake up and run in the opposite direction...
wait he cant afford his own mattress or residence yet bought you, someone he just met, a ring? Hmmm... No offense but cmon..
"I get a text that says Sorry I didn't feel anything between us. I was shocked again....Now he wants to spend another weekend together. "
Um... Ew. Hes basically saying I dont feel anything for you but lets fuck ok? and youre basically allowing this behavior so dont come in here complaining when youve gotten too involved. Hes letting you know whats up. I say get over him and move on, youve only known the nutjob for a short period of time so kick his ass to the curb and find someone better before its too late
Um... Ew. Hes basically saying I dont feel anything for you but lets fuck ok? and youre basically allowing this behavior so dont come in here complaining when youve gotten too involved. Hes letting you know whats up. I say get over him and move on, youve only known the nutjob for a short period of time so kick his ass to the curb and find someone better before its too late
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