Do they become domineering when they lke you?

So i have been dating this Cancerian man and he was all cancer charming in the beginning but over a period of time the more time he spent with me the more dominating he became. he also speaks to me in a rather brisk maner sometimes. is this cos he knows i like him? they are so weird and hurtful.

Everyone wears a mask during the early stages of dating.

That's why it's critical that you know a person for years on end before marrying them.

Only after several years of companionship will you get that mask off and truly know who you are dealing with.

Crabs like to be in control. They don't like being told what to do and are a bit rebel, from my observation. I dont mind if he wants to "lead", Im laid back, besides I generally get what I want becauseif you ask them nicely, they will comply. But if you order them about or push them, they will refuse. It is a quetion of tactics and gentleness. Of course he shoulnt hurt you or be rude to you...not if you are nice to him.
My crab has been hurtful only when I was hurtful to him before. But he never hurts me even if he is moody, if I dont hurt him first. He reacts wonderfully to good ways. Even when very very moody and crabby he softens if I treat him well. Be sweet to him, and patient because as Scuba said, everybody tests people at the beginning...

Thanks people, he is definitely testing. He is one of the most suspicious people i'v met. It feels like i'm guilty till proven innocent.Lots of hoops. He has had a really bad relationship in the past. And I feel like i'm paying the price of what that woman did to him. But i'm not leaving as i really like this man.

Dear Cappie girl...
Im in the same boat

my Crab is waiting for my stab in the back all the time !!!
he is very very very suspicious and he told me he used to be sick sick jealous in the past, to the point of checking emails, cell phones and even how the girl came out dressed. Fortunately he is working on that and he never did that with me, he never checked my phone or asked me to show him mails or anything. But he has had such bad relationships and now I guess Im the guinea Pig for his firts MATURE relationship (he has told me so)
So be patient...if you like him so much, there must be good reasons.
We come here to vent but we all have good reasons to stay with these strange crabbie creatures, dont we—?

Posted by PiscesArgie
Dear Cappie girl...
Im in the same boat

my Crab is waiting for my stab in the back all the time !!!
he is very very very suspicious and he told me he used to be sick sick jealous in the past, to the point of checking emails, cell phones and even how the girl came out dressed. Fortunately he is working on that and he never did that with me, he never checked my phone or asked me to show him mails or anything. But he has had such bad relationships and now I guess Im the guinea Pig for his firts MATURE relationship (he has told me so)
So be patient...if you like him so much, there must be good reasons.
We come here to vent but we all have good reasons to stay with these strange crabbie creatures, dont we—?

I know a Cancer guy that is a lot like your guy PArgie. Especially the part about being 'sick' with jealousy. We have mutual friends and one of them has told me that the cancer seems to be very jealous and obsessed with her and she thinks he's even stalked her on a few occasions. They have never been in a relationship or anything so I am baffled at why he would even be this jealous of her. No offense to the other cancer men on here, but he seems to be jealous and obsessed in a bitchy girly way.

I Do believe he is testing you. You need to just say "Hey, get in my face again and i am gonna snap you like a twig MR!" I For one, actually like to be dominated. BUT If i feel my partner cant be, i will be, and i hate that! Its the natural order of things. One of us has to do it...

Mine got weird on me for about a month right before we made things officially serious. He seemed to be somewhat irritated and also spoke to me in a curt tone at times. It happened not because he was testing me but because he was caught up in a whirlwind of strong emotions over us. It was obvious we were heading into serious commitment territory and he hasn't been in that situation since his marriage dissolved years ago. He hadn't loved anyone like that since. So, basically, he got scared. Real scared. He told me about it afterward but luckily I stuck it out because I was starting to grow impatient at the end!

When we finally made the decision all of that nonsense stopped. Immediately. Anyway, don't use astrology as a safety blanket for any red flag behavior that he exhibits. If he's starting to become domineering watch that it doesn't turn into controlling you.

Ninjamu, i cannot but acknowledge the cancer- cap control issues. He hada hard time with me being uber independent. We have reached a point in our interaction where we have to talk about the relationship. so far he has done quite a few shelling activities. The thing that i have on my side is that i have never got mad or questioned him about it. I am not even mad. I actually don't mind as it gives me time to hang out with my friends and take time out for myself. We have never spoken about relationships cos he does not like to talk about his past. His friends have told me that he had been hurt in a previous relationship and had taken a few years to get over the girl. I'm not sure if he wants to talk about any topic regarding relationships as it may overwhelm him. But i cannot move forward and pretend nothing is happening. he does the sideways crawl and makes group plans to hang out and then we spend alone time together when the rest of the group has left. In the past few weeks he has been short and irritated with me. And i don't have a freakin clue as to why. But i am patient and am not going anywhere. But, i'm not going to initiate contact and may not meet up with the 'Group'. what do you all think?