He came back to me, after we talked commitment!!!!

I am afraid of giving him my heart, but cannot keep from doing so...

He asked if I am avoiding him, and I said yes. 🙂

Has he returned because he is ready or—?

Sorry, you're gonna have to give up your heart there if you want a crab. Let it all out. Tell him everything in your heart. Be mushy, sweet, and sentimental. They fucking eat that stuff up! It'll feed his need for security and bring out his natural protective side to serve your sensitive nature. Don't act like a shrinking violet but if he can see that you have emotions that run deep (and for him!) then he'll want to preserve that.

Wineaux:

Indeed, it has been quite some time since we last spoke... June would be correct.

I sent Virgo to another state - he wanted to get married.

Ninjamu:

I would very much like to surrender, but am incredibly cautious because of this last stunt he pulled - after a beautiful evening that was meant to change things for us.

What stunt did he pull?

What stunt did he pull?

Shadows:

He disappeared after our little talk about commitment, which he initiated. 🙂 —

He started to act silly, be sweet, not syrupy, attempt to make me laugh, which I did, instead of owning up to his behavior, and yes, I was incredulous when he called - he heard me when I remarked it has been too long since we last saw one another!!!

When he disappeared did you let him go or did you continue contacting him to get him to talk to you so you could understand why he was pulling away?

Give your heart or leave him alone, unless you like to be inforced with crab pinches and rolling eyes—

I say be cautious. Hes given you no reason to feel safe.

I'm new here, but wanted to add my 2 cents about disappearing Crabs. Mine disappeared for 2 months recently. Said he needed time to "get himself together". During the disappearance, I kept contacting him..sending nice, sweet text messages, etc. Never did I act upset about his need for space, but I didn't want him to lose interest by using the "out of sight, out of mind" excuse. This seems to work with Crabs, as I'm one myself. He did come back after the 2 months, and appreciated the kind words I had sent.

Shadows:

When he disappeared the very first time, years ago, he asked me what it feels like to not be in contact. I told him, he gives me reason for pause - he replied, he feels the same when I make zero effort.

I have stubborn pride, which hinders me from pursuing the one I want so badly.

Cancerian:

Too funny. 🙂 I did, however make inroads, or so I thought, the last time we saw one another and he left, only to resurface!!! And how come he always asks about my whereabouts—

Moonchild:

I am too much of a cynic to go w my heart.

Hey, Wishbear...I'm alllll about pursuing the one you love. However, I would just caution you to only go as far as the 50 yard line. Make sure he puts in some effort too. Thats all I'm saying.

Shadows:

I am done w this fool!!! 🙂