Elusive crab

I've been described by a good number of people as elusive. Never really considered myself to be, till I realized how much I duck in and out of people's lives. One moment I could be around you all the time but, just as quickly as I had appeared, I disappear. Only to come back, at maximum 2 or 3 months later. I'm not like this with people I date. But even my closest of friends, I'll take "time off". Best example, my aqua fem. best friend. We hung out nearly every day over the summer but after a month of constantly seeing her I ducked out. Not that I found her annoying or couldn't stand to be around her, my focus just shifted elsewhere. It's been so bad that my other best friend, a cap, told me he felt he was boring me and that's why I wasn't around. Wasn't the case at all, I felt really bad. Even with family I can be incredibly distant at times. Any other cancers like this?

For a lot longer than 3 months, though.

People are suspicious when you don't talk to them for a long time, too. That's why people don't stay in my life very long. I'll decide when I want to see someone, not rules of friendship or such.

I do the same, sometimes more than, sometimes a year or so, and yes I'm not close to anyone either. If I'm needed, I'll stay, but if not, there's really no need to stay.

I just returned from a 3 week *silent period*. This one was relatively short and I received minimal slack for the disappearance. Well... almost.

There are always consequences for these MIA sessions. Hurt feelings, misunderstandings and the like so it's not like we can just get away with it. The Piper must be paid.

Posted by shellshocker
I just returned from a 3 week *silent period*. This one was relatively short and I received minimal slack for the disappearance. Well... almost.

There are always consequences for these MIA sessions. Hurt feelings, misunderstandings and the like so it's not like we can just get away with it. The Piper must be paid.

Yeah, I'm definitely trying now to be a bit more aware of the fact that I could be hurting someones feelings. Even if that's not the intention.

The other thing too, is that I always expect the other person to not be effected whatsoever by it.