How do married crabs go in the shell?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by BriannaLeo on Friday, October 15, 2010 and has 2 replies.

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@BriannaLeo
15 Years

Do I need to be concerned that if I marry my cancer guy he won't reply or call me back-what if I need to speak with him about something important with the home or kids etc? Could he not come home some nights cause he needs to be in his shell?

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@PiscesArgie
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Brianna, I have asked this question myself so many times!
With their need for independence and space, I don't know how he will do that if we are together, and Im wondering this not only for him but for me as well, cos I have lived alone for so many years..I love my space!
I guess you can be together but doing each one your own thing...
What I ve learnt these months with my Crab is that he cant be forced to anything, if he doesnt want to talk about something , HE WONT. And this is worsened if you push him to do it...With these guys, it is all about adapting to their ways and not taking things personally....

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@BriannaLeo
15 Years

Posted by PiscesArgie
Im wondering this not only for him but for me as well, cos I have lived alone for so many years..I love my space!

I've lived alone for so long also. I'm so independent and need my space so I would really be ok if he needs his private time, I will too. Just worry because he takes it to extremes now because we don't live together.